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Jim Lantz, PhD, is a Professor at The Ohio State University College of Social
Work, 1947 College Road, Columbus, OH 43210, and Director, The Midwest Existential
Psychotherapy Institute, Worthington, OH.
Contemporary Family Therapy 23(1), March 2001
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ily treatment. In the Hubbard family, the daughter also performed the
family system role of being “mother’s emotional helper” in reaction to
the distant relationship between the parents.
On test number one, the daughter scored 71 (extreme depression),
the mother scored 56 (mild depression) and the father scored 47
(normal). Test number two was given during family session twelve
after the daughter had begun to have some success moving away from
her pathogenic role. On test two, the daughter scored 34 (normal),
the mother scored 66 (moderate depression) and the father scored 83
(marked depression) on the depression inventory. There was a decrease
of 38 in adolescent depression and an increase of 46 in parental depres-
sion on test number two. Termination occurred after 22 sessions. On
test number three the father scored 43 (normal), the mother scored
48 (normal) and the daughter scored 38 (normal). Again, the Hubbard
family demonstrated an initial increase in parental depression follow-
ing a decrease in adolescent depression. The level of parental depres-
sion then decreased following an improvement in their marital relation-
ship.
Mr. and Mrs. Sampson requested clinical services after the death
of their son from an AIDS-related illness. Mr. Sampson indicated that
he was having problems sleeping “because my conscience is bothering
me.” Mrs. Sampson stated she was worried about her husband. Mr.
Sampson explained, “I kicked my son out of the house three years ago
when he told me he was gay. Knowing my son was gay was a big shock.
I didn’t handle it well.” Mrs. Sampson reported that she, her husband,
and the son had eventually reconciled and that the son had lived at
home for “the last three months of his life.”
Mr. and Mrs. Sampson both said they felt proud they had “been
there” for their son when he was dying. The couple also reported that
they were “fools” to have “kicked him out of the house,” and that they
would always feel guilty about their “ignorance.” They stated they had
“lost a year and a half” with their son because of their “ignorance,” and
now that the son was dead they would “give anything to get that time
back.” Mr. Sampson reported that he could not sleep at night because
he kept thinking about his “mistake.”
In this situation the existential family therapist initially encour-
aged the couple to talk about their tragedy and their feelings about it.
The therapist was very careful not to give advice and simply listened
to the couple until they felt comfortable that the therapist had some
understanding of their feelings. It was only after the therapist was
assured that the couple had perceived him to be an empathic person
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who had worked hard to understand them that the therapist was willing
to give the couple a suggestion.
When empathic trust had been developed, the therapist asked the
couple how they might feel about giving talks about “the mistake” to
other parents—those who had recently discovered their son or daughter
to be lesbian or gay. They initially felt uncomfortable with this idea,
but as time went on, decided it was a “really good idea.” The couple
felt this suggestion gave them a way to “help others” and “help turn a
mistake into something useful.” Mr. and Mrs. Sampson were linked
with a gay rights organization for volunteer work and were also pro-
vided with support and training in their public speaking activities. By
the time this article was written, they had shared their experience and
“mistake” in over 50 speeches. Also, Mr. Sampson no longer experiences
difficulty sleeping.
Mr. Jabco had retired one year prior to his wife’s death only to
discover that his first year of retirement would be spent helping his
wife deal with her deadly disease. Mr. Jabco had never suffered with
depression before, and there was no history of depression in his family
of origin. Both the son and daughter reported that they were “frantic”
because Mr. Jabco had said he was thinking about killing himself. The
son and daughter did not want to face the death of both parents. Both
the client and his children reported that Mr. Jabco had not been de-
pressed while his wife had been alive.
In spite of the fact that Mr. Jabco exhibited some of the classical
symptoms of a biological depression (energy loss, suicidal thinking,
crying spells, and sleep disturbance), he was not suffering from merely
biological (“must” level) depression. In this clinical situation, Mr. Jabco
was also suffering from an existential vacuum. Mr. Jabco and his chil-
dren had suffered a tragedy. When Mr. Jabco was provided an opportu-
nity to discuss, explore, and challenge the meaning vacuum he was
experiencing reactive to the family tragedy, Mr. Jabco was able to
overcome his depression. His children were also able to overcome their
feelings of anxiety.
Mr. Jabco and his adult children were seen together by a family
therapist in a conjoint family interview at the request of Mr. Jabco’s
psychiatrist. During the initial family interview, Mr. Jabco reported
that he and his wife had been looking forward to his retirement with
great expectations of having fun through both travel and cultural activi-
ties. Mr. Jabco reported that for him retirement was now “empty” and,
as far as he could see, so was the rest of his life. He indicated that he
wanted to die so that he could again see his wife “in heaven.” Mr. Jabco
believed in an afterlife and felt that life on earth could not be meaningful
without his wife. He was not aware of what life might be calling him
to do on the “ought” level of existence.
The family therapist asked Mr. Jabco exactly what he and his wife
had planned to do and see after his retirement. Mr. Jabco explained in
great detail the plans he and his wife had made and the cultural activities
they had hoped to experience. Mr. Jabco reported that his wife had always
wanted to visit her relatives in Italy. He sobbed as he explained how
unfair it was that his wife would not get to have this visit.
At this point, the family therapist asked Mr. Jabco, “Do you think
your wife will be disappointed in not getting to hear about your trip
to visit her relatives in Italy or your experience of the other activities
you and she had planned?” Mr. Jabco immediately stopped sobbing.
He remained silent for a few minutes and stared directly at the family
therapist. He then laughed and stated, “I always did want to be a
reporter.” He also told the family therapist, “That is the kind of question
that shocks you into seeing a good reason to keep on living.”
At the next family interview, Mr. Jabco reported that he had
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stopped having crying “attacks,” that his food tasted better, that he
was sleeping well, and was getting his energy back. He added, “Killing
myself seems like a very bad idea now; I want to get out of this hospital
as soon as possible so I can get on with my retirement.”
Both adult children reported that they felt much better and be-
lieved that the family therapist had performed “magic.” The family
therapist thanked the son and daughter for the compliment, but said
there is no magic in helping an individual remember that their relation-
ship with someone they love can still be meaningful after death.
The existential questions used in this clinical illustration were
based upon the beliefs and values of the family. Mr. Jabco and his
children believed that Mr. Jabco would see his wife again after his
death. They also believed that action and behavior are only meaningful
if done in a transcendent way for the benefit of those one loves.
The “Existenzanalyse” question used by the family therapist
helped Mr. Jabco to see that he could go on living and enjoy his retire-
ment in a way that was giving to his wife and compatible with the
beliefs and values of the family. It allowed him and his children to see a
meaning potential in retirement that they had not been able to perceive
previously on a conscious level of awareness. Mr. Jabco is presently
enjoying his retirement, visiting his children on a frequent basis, and
has had no recurrences of depression.
CONCLUSIONS
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