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It’s hard
K nowledge
Dale Carnegie example
B ehavior
Knowledge Pitfall
Among industrialized countries, America
is the most overweight, workaholic in the
world
High risk HIV candidates
Seat belts
Recycling
Speeding
D.A.R.E.
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Knowledge is a
necessary, but
insufficient
condition
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Enhancing Knowledge
A round of applause for camps
Involve counselors in learning
Keep it playful and moving
Respect and utilize their knowledge
Cover a ton of material in short order
One tweak -- 7 + / - 2
(more in handout)
1. Behavior is code. If a child can’t tell you, s/he will show you
2. Learn to get good information. Use what instead of why.
Comment on feelings.
3. State what you expect in simple, positive terms. Don’t tell them
what not to do.
4. Be clear about what you expect and remain consistent
5. Learn to channel a child’s energy. Use diversions and be creative
about assigning activities.
6. Reward acceptable behavior. Punishing is not very effective.
Encourage rather than try and extinguish.
7. Rule of replacement – not this, that
8. Target no more than 3 behaviors at a time. Sometimes, one is
enough.
9. Select a target behavior that the child is most likely to be successful
with
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More lists that won’t be
remembered
15 ways to improve self-esteem
20 immutable laws of parenting
10 alternatives to punishment
“Part of the problem” &
“Part of the solution”
12 things to remember when disciplining a child
Acronym - I E.S.C.A.P.E
7 +/-2
Working memory
Does not apply to reference material or
habits
Workarounds
What is an attitude?
Along a Continuum
WEAK STRONG
Sweep
Gardening
dining hall
Waiter /
Bed Making
Waitress
Responsibility
Camp Group
decision-
making
Responsibility
for own
behavior
Termites
Majority rules
Small group situation
Entire camp scale
Critical mass / 100th Monkey / Synergy
Role plays
Final caveats
Historical norm
Basis of how camp helps children
Option A Option B
Self-study Modeling
School of hard knocks Scaffolding
Bootstrapping (coaching)
Caution
Modeling is essential, but it is
(A) slow and
(B) almost always insufficient in and of itself.
Modeling is not mastering
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Scaffolding (1 of 5)
“Coaching” by helping
Goal is independence
Reemphasize:
Vast majority of counselors are dedicated
novices & modeling alone won’t cut it
Evidence:
97 Outward Bound type programs
37 camps and self-esteem
1 camp doubled effectiveness in one year
Common sense examples under D.N.
Attitude is crucial
But difficult to obtain to a sufficient degree
Methods of improving attitude
Behavior
Knowledge + Attitude = Dedicated Novice
Role plays
Modeling
Scaffolding
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Take it from . . .
Fortune 500
D.A.R.E.
P.E.T.
Outward Bound
Daniel Goleman and EQ best practice
Ditter
Brandwein
1 camp doubled effectiveness
Or me
Attitude
#24 – 29 = 8 points
Behavior
Modeling 40 – 41
Scaffolding 43, 44, 46, 47
Much more in handout
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Valuable
framework
anytime anyone is
conveying
anything
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Thank you !