Professional Documents
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Table of Contents
Special Thanks and acknowledgements
About Me
Preface
Conclusion
To Wrap Up
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Special thanks and
acknowledgements:
I’d like to first of all thank the people that have been
influential in the development of my own “Game”.
These people have been influential and have taught me
many of these principles.
Special thanks to my teachers, influences and
colleagues who have interacted with me, field tested
material with me and helped me to form and solidify
my own “Game”:
Ross Jeffries ‐ a personal teacher and friend who has
taught me so much about women and life, Josh
“Swinggcat” S.,
Neil “Style” Strauss, Erik “Mystery” von Markovik,
Daniel “Badboy” , Tyler Durden, Chris Odom.
Websites to visit:
www.seduction.com
www.RealWorldSeduction.com
www.MysteryMethod.com
www.RealSocialDynamics.com
About Me
Iʹm a guy who could be considered VERY successful with women. It wasnʹt
always so.
I remember always being interested in women... even in Kindergarden. I
remember there was the REALLY cute girl named Laura. Now EVERY guy in the
class LOVED her... and this was in KINDERGARDEN. She had these cute little
brown locks and she would wear those little ruffles tights.
I even remember one day, we were all sitting cross legged on the floor, and she
was in front of me and she stood up... I couldnʹt resist the urge to flip up her
dress! ‐ I got busted by the teachers aid for that ‐ I guess it all started early for
me.
Then in 3rd grade I remember sitting under a desk watching a movie in the class
with the lights turned off and there was a cute girl sitting under there with me.
That was my first kiss!
And it went on... in 6th grade I dated GROUPS of girls and their friends,
switching from one girl to the next each week. It was still all innocent back then...
Now, in college I was pretty successful with women. I hung out with a group of
guys that were ʺNaturalsʺ and we would frequent places that chicks hung out
and always have a good share of women around.
Now it was during college that I actually started to formally study this stuff. I
learned all kinds of different ʺsystemʺ and read all kinds of pop psychology
books on relationships.
After college, I got even MORE into studying Hypnosis, Persuasion, NLP,
Psychology, Negotiation, Sales... you name it. ‐Anything that I could apply to
Seduction. And my results started getting more and more consistent. Iʹve spent
HOURS upon HOURS learning this stuff and actually DOING IT.
Whatʹs more is that I found a group of friends that also had the same interest in
this stuff and we all learned and taught each other. Iʹve listed these guys in the
special thanks section.
So what I want to do is to give you not only my insights but offer you both a
MINDSET and a SKILLSET that you can now use to be EXTREMELY successful
with women
Preface
This book is about Charisma ‐ among other
things. It’s about skillful human interaction and
most of all, about “Game”.
So what is this thing called “Game”?
Well, have you ever interacted with someone
that you were just drawn to? Maybe you felt an
underlying sense of trust and comfort, and
maybe there was certain “smoothness” in the
way that they interacted with people and the
way that conversation just “flowed”? And
people were just drawn to this person –
naturally. And the more time that you spend
with this person, the more you feel a connection
– like both of you are coming from the same
place… where time just seems to stop and you’re
completely wrapped up in the moment –
engaged and captivated.
Having “Game” is about being able to create
these kinds of connections wherever you go –
with whoever you meet. Now how would you
like to have more Game?
The underlying principles discussed in this book
can be used in virtually any social context – from
dating, to the job, to social interactions with
friends.
Now “Game” can be further divided into “Inner
game” and “Outer game”. I’ve done extensive
modeling of people who have Game and you can
think of Game in terms of process and product.
Products are the surface level expressions of
deeper intangible processes. It’s like when you
see ripples on the surface of a pond, and you
realize that there are deeper undercurrents
which are causing those ripples. Processes are
those deeper undercurrents.
I first of all present a Mindset. “Inner” game –
these are the internal beliefs, attitudes, and
values that naturally flow from a sense of who
you are, your identity, and your sense of self
meaning. “Outer” game skills flow naturally
from a good “Inner” game.
I next present a Skillset. “Outer” game – these
are the capabilities, behaviors, skills, and
strategies that create results. Outer game can
feedback into Inner game as well – so that
whether you focus on Inner game or Outer game
first, realize that the two are tied into each other
and that your focus is what’s important.
Whenever you see someone who’s doing
something that works, look deeper. Look for
process as well and you may just find something
useful. It’s kind of interesting to notice that
although the “outer game” may vary among
those who are successful, the “Inner game” is
often very similar.
Now who is this book for? This book is for
anyone who wants to improve their “Game”. If
you’re a Salesman, Marketer, Actor, Entertainer,
Politician, Lawyer, Doctor, Public Speaker,
Teacher – then your people skills are vital – read
on. If you’re in the “Dating Game”, then you can
use this book to take it to a whole new level –
read on. If you want to form a deep connection
with someone, or with groups of people then
read on.
As humans, we need human interaction to not
only satisfy our needs for connection, but to help
us define who we are and to make meaning out
of our lives. We are continually connecting and
finding similarities and differences between
ourselves and others. Connection is what makes
us human. Improving your “Game” can take this
to whole new level.
Mindsets, Identity, Beliefs,
Values
How to start getting
consistent results with
women
Have your results with women ever been ʺHit or
Missʺ? Or sometimes it was like you just didnʹt
FEEL like getting AWESOME results with
women was possible for you? Or maybe you felt
like getting GORGEOUS women may be
possible, but if you did it would just be LUCK!?
Hey man, weʹve all been there and itʹs not a fun
place to be. Iʹm here to get you over that once
and for all. In this book we going to cover alot of
ground ‐ and work from the INSIDE OUT,
from MINDSET to SKILLSET.
Back in my College days, I had a friend that
ALWAYS seemed to have a woman ‐ in fact,
SEVERAL women that he could call on virtually
every day of the week. He was one of those
ʺFraternityʺ type of guys although I donʹt think
that was his secret. He wasnʹt particularly good
looking and he wasnʹt rich either. It wasnʹt until
after I started learning this stuff that it began to
make sense.
Now was this guy just a Nymphomaniac or was
he a Nymphomaniac that I could actually learn
something from!?
One day I was asked him, ʺSo tell me man, how
is it that you seem to always have a woman
available for you and not just one, but several?ʺ
He told me, ʺHow could you NOT?! When I
donʹt have a woman, I feel like crap. I guess I
know what I want and I know what I need... I
couldnʹt imagine having it any other way.ʺ
This guy LOVED women and he knew it!
Needless to say, this is a guy that GOT IT.
So now that I think back on it, one of the reasons
he had consistent results is that he was CLEAR
on what he wanted. He knew that when he
didnʹt have a woman, he felt like crap and
having a woman was the best thing in the world.
He was avoiding PAIN and pursuing
PLEASURE. ‐Talk about a powerful motivational
driver! I later found out that this was called a
ʺPropulsion Mechanismʺ ‐ when your motivated
by the PUSH of avoiding pain and the PULL of
pursuing pleasure.
Now, I didnʹt necessarily want to become a
Nymphomaniac, but there was some powerful
motivation there going on ‐ and I could learn
from it.
Now if I could just come up with a way to use
that ʺPropulsion Systemʺ to motivate not only
MYSELF, but the WOMEN I wanted to be with
me, I knew that I would be on to something BIG‐
and thatʹs exactly what Iʹve done!
Hereʹs the diagram ‐ and thereʹs alot going on
here at many different levels. In the coming
chapters and as you finish the book ‐ my plan is
that you WILL GET IT.
Now Iʹm going to talk a little about the concept
of Inner Game ‐ why? Because itʹs SO Important.
Now Iʹve known many guys that were
ʺNaturalsʺ at seducing women. Guys that have
GAME. Now, I had always been pretty good
with women but my results back then were
inconsistent. I would hang out with guys in
college and watch what they were doing. Iʹd
focus on their strategies, their skills and
behaviors ‐ basically focusing on their OUTER
GAME.
Now the thing was, I started trying some of the
things that they were doing ‐ their tactics and
tricks, but I found that there was something
DEEPER going on. These guys had a certain level
of CONFIDENCE in their skills with women.
Not only that, but they had things pretty well
together in other aspects of their lives as well.
Now as I tried their tactics and behaviors, I did
start to get more consistent results ‐ but ONLY in
proportion to how tight my INNER GAME was!
You can take the TIGHTEST skills and tactics
and teach them to someone and their results may
be hit or miss until they get their INNER GAME
built up.
The 3 steps to LOCK IN
Seduction mastery
Now how do you LOCK IN the motivation that
will get you results with women? ‐Here is my 3
step process:
1) FOCUS... on what you lack FIRST
2) Focus on what you can have NEXT
3) Let the momentum of that propel you forward
as you focus on being in the MOMENT
As you begin to notice a change in your focus,
youʹll start to notice a change in not just your
MOTIVATION, but in your RESULTS.
And this has become my model for seduction as
well!
1) I want a woman to FOCUS on what she lacks
first,
2) FOCUS on what she can have with me NEXT,
‐
3) And then let the momentum of that propel the
seduction forward as she focuses on being in the
MOMENT
The ROSETTA STONE of
SEDUCTION
Your going to get sick of seeing this diagram but
this is IT! This is the ROSETTA STONE OF
SEDUCTION ‐ This is the KEY!
One Secret to having
SEDUCTION
CONFIDENCE!
So now that I look back on my college days, I
realize what it was that was REALLY at work. It
all came back to INNER GAME. When I really
started to get results ‐ something happened. I
realized that the more success I had with
women, the more successful I would BE with
women! It all feeds back into INNER GAME.
Not just that, but the more natural confidence
that I had in other areas of my life, the more that
confidence would spill over into my GAME.
I remember in College, there was this girl that I
was head over heals for. She was 18 years old,
blond hair, tight body to die for, and she was in
her ʺadventurousʺ mode ‐ if you know what I
mean!
I wouldʹve done almost anything for her. I even
made out with her while she had
CHICKENPOX! Eewwww!!!
Now, this girl knew how to play me. At the time
she me CALLING her all the time, talking on the
phone with her for HOURS, putting off my
studies to be with her... she was basically
TOOLING me! She turned me into a WOMAN!
(not literally of course!)
Have you been there too? Sucks doesnʹt it!
Now at the time, I was in a local Rock band and
not just that, but I was in full control of it...
Creatively, and otherwise. And I was VERY
confident about my direction as well as my
Musicianship. Now this friend of mine that was
SO good with women would sit in and play
guitar with us on occasion ‐ even though his
musical skills werenʹt all that great.
Well after practice one day, I was telling him
about my woes with this 18 year chick and he
said, ʺYou know man, hereʹs what you need to
do... You need to have the same kind of
confidence that you have in this Rock Band, with
this Girl.ʺ
And I thought to myself, ʺHeʹs right!ʺ
Itʹs a part of HAVING VALUE, and the natural
confidence that you have in other areas SPILLS
OVER into your GAME.
Now Iʹm going to make this simple.
With Inner Game, ‐ You get what you focus on.
The things that you notice, the things you think
are possible for you, what you think you
deserve, the things that you are willing to take
action on... it all comes from what you focus on.
You get the right focus by asking yourself the
right questions. And for that matter, you can get
the kinds of results that you want from others by
asking them the right questions that cause them
to change their focus... it is this shift that makes
the difference.
The brain will find the answer to basically any
question that you ask... even if the answers aren’t
based in reality. Your brain will find the
answers.
I did something awhile back that changed my
GAME dramatically and started giving me
consistent results. It basically helped to BUILD
up my ʺSeduction Confidenceʺ .
I started asking myself questions like, “What is it
about me that makes me so successful with
[Women/life/work etc.]?” “Why am I so
magnetic and charismatic?” “How do I make
people feel so good about me and about
themselves?” “What is it about me that makes
me so irresistible to women?”
And you know what? ‐ I started noticing things
that I was doing that WORKED and it just
started to FEEDBACK into my INNER GAME ‐
and then my results started getting consistent...
and AMAZING by any standards that I
wouldʹve had before!
[Notice that all of these questions presuppose your
success with women. When you ask yourself
questions like these, and really allow yourself to
go inside and find all the answers to these
questions... notice how your focus shifts... notice
how you begin to see and feel all the things that
work for you... and say that as your state shifts,
you will begin to notice that your focus has
changed... and now your brain is proving all the
things that you have asked yourself to be true...]
The Secret to Being 100%
Successful 100% of the
time
Now how do you know that things are true for
you? This is where beliefs and rules come in. For
instance if you believed that being successful
with women was about learning something
about every interaction and improving your
game... then you could never fail... then you
would focus on success and that would lead to
more success.
A MENTAL SHIFT that
will get you the BEST
RESULTS with Women
If you were you were to believe that success with
women meant that you had to get laid by every
single woman you met... then guess what... Your
result may be hit or miss at best... and you’d be
focused on failure and that would lead to more
failure. What failure really is, is not being able to
feel any pleasure no matter how good your
results were. Don’t set your criteria for success
too high.
For example, think about the baseball player
Sammy Sosa. He may not be able to control
whether he can hit a home run every time. The
ball may spin a certain way, hit a jet stream, or
an outfielder may climb the wall and catch it.
There are an infinite number of variables which
he can’t control. He can focus on the ʺprocessʺ:
putting a pure, sweet swing on the ball.
Thinking in terms of putting leverage on the ball
and maintaining the power of the swing gives
him more of an advantage. If he thinks in terms
of ʺhomersʺ he actually loses power and leverage
by over swinging and lunging at bad pitches.
A Detailed look at
LOCKING IN Seduction
Mastery
1) In the center box, we see where you may be
presently. This is your current situational
context. You may have some Game already, you
may have aspects of your Outer Game or Inner
Game in place or not, or any combination of
those. This is also the context of your
environment. Do you have an environment that
is conducive to seduction?
2) In the first box, we see what you want more of or
lack in your life. And by the way, this model of
motivational change applies not only to
Seduction, but to any area of your life. These are
the “Reasons” – the drives that PUSH you and
the needs that motivate you. As you gain a
PHYSICAL awareness of these “lacks”, a
Dissatisfaction with where youʹre at now
BUILDS. The motivation here is primarily
PHYSICAL. This has the effect of PUSHING you
forward.
• Getting a solid Kinesthetic sense of what you
lack ‐ How does it FEEL to not have what you
want? FEEL it
3) In the last box, we see what is possible. These are
the “Results” – the drives that PULL you from
your present context into what is possible for
you. The motivation here is primarily created
through VERBAL/VISUAL/MENTAL
stimulation. As you do this, the anticipation
BUILDS. Some of the Verbal/Mental/Visual
techniques that create this anticipation include:
• Self Value Elicitation – which amplifies your
motivation for change and puts you on the right
track
• Talking about sex (Affirmations, Presuppositions
‐ Talking ʺas ifʺ youʹve already achieved your
results...)
• Thinking about and associating yourself into
your results ‐ experience it ʺas ifʺ now, write out
and diagram your goals and results to lock them
in
• Be around people who have achieved what you
want to achieve (Model what they do, get to the
root of their beliefs about what they do and who
they are, and how they relate to others and their
environment
4) Both Dissatisfaction and Anticipation create the
Tension that propels to the Results. This is both
Pushing and Pulling at the same time through
both Physical and Verbal/Mental/Visual
processes.
So ask yourself the right questions, then notice
the shift in your focus then notice how your state
changes and how your results skyrocket!
The DRIVING FORCE
behind Seduction
I realized that there were several things that I
was doing to create Sexual Tension in women.
First I focused on building the Sexual
Anticipation.
I do this by having women focus on why they
like sex. And do this by asking “So what is it
about sex that you really enjoy?” ‐ and as they
start to describe it, the tension for it within them
starts to build. Then I ask, “So what would it be
like to do this?” ...and the anticipation builds as
they imagine it.
The other thing that I do is to create physical
DISSATISFACTION with where their at now. In
other words, I tease them physically and make
them VERY HOT.
These 2 things together; The PULL of the Sexual
Anticipation and the PUSH of the Sexual
Dissatisfaction are what make up the Sexual
Tension that DRIVES the Seduction.
The HIDDEN FORMULA
for creating the Driving
Force in a Seduction
So in using this principle within yourself, find all
the reasons that you want what you want... let
the dissatisfaction with where you’re at now
build, anticipate your results ‐ and let it literally
pull you to where you want to be.
How to avoid stagnation:
In Yourself and in a
Relationship:
OK, first of all... get your mind out of the Gutter!
Although there may some truth to that
perspective as well we wont talk about that for
now!
Now, it’s pressure that turns a rock into a
diamond right?
But you want to avoid what I call ʺThe Success
Trapʺ. Satisfaction saps motivation for
improving yourself and saps the fire in a
relationship.
So how do you avoid stagnation: both in yourself
and in a relationship? Keep up the Tension KEEP
IT UP!
Thatʹs right, it can NEVER end because once it
does ‐ youʹll stop growing as a person, or in a
relationship, things will stale out.
So it’s Focusing on the reasons for what we want
and Focusing on what is possible for us that
creates the Tension (Dissatisfaction + Anticipation)
within us that motivates us ‐
In when youʹre with a woman it works the same
way. You create this tension by making her as
unsatisfied sexually as you can (Teasing, playing
hot/cold physically etc.) until she has to openly
want it more than you do! These are the
REASONS.
And then you also guide her imagination and let
her visualize and imagine the Seduction. These
are the RESULTS.
This creates the Anticipation and Dissatisfaction
‐ THE SEXUAL TENSION ‐ that builds the
pressure until her buying temperature is about
ready to explode!
The ONE THING that it
would all come down to...
A few years back, a good friend of mine Josh
“Swinggcat” (check out his web site and ebook at
www.realworldseduction.com) and I were
talking about distilling the core beliefs of guys
that were successful with women.
Of course there were many qualities that we
came up with from Flexibility, to Calibration
skills, but one of the most important principles
that came up was “Being the Prize”.
So what does it mean to “Be the Prize”? Well, the
CHICK equivalent to this concept is ʺBE A
CREATURE UNLIKE ANY OTHERʺ ‐ Iʹm those
of you that have read that ʺRULEʺ book
recognize this.
I would say that being the Prize means that you
know at a deep level that you are a catch – that
any woman would be lucky to be with you. You
have Value.
Now hereʹs an assignment:
1) I’d like you to make a list of all the things
that you are good at and all the positive qualities
that you have.
Everyone has these qualities and everyone is
different. If you have any difficulty, have a
female friend help you list out these qualities
and abilities so that you have actual confirmation
from a female. If you don’t have a female
available get an outside opinion from a friend.
2) Now, as you write out all these positive
traits and qualities, take a ʺ2nd personʺ
perspective and start to form a mental picture of
how someone would see you having all these
traits and qualities.
3) Now I want you to physically STEP IN,
thatʹs right ‐ get off your butt and STEP IN to
where you see yourself
Now, you know you’re great and you can have
the quiet self confidence that if someone really
knew you, they would think the same thing. If
you get a response from a women that could’ve
been viewed as negative before, from now on
you know that it’s either because they just don’t
know you yet or it’s just their automatic
behavior. The question is, do they deserve to be
with you?
4) Cultivate yourself
Find the things you are good at, develop your
interests, excel at what you choose as your
interests, and live your life passionately. This is
why women are attracted to men who are good
at what they do and when a man excels in her
presence. It has to do with demonstrating value
to her
The 3 questions that
enable you to QUALIFY a
woman
Does this really seem like a NOVEL CONCEPT!?
You know, as basic as it seems, there are too
many guys willing to throw their standards to
the wind at the mere CHANCE of having a
beautiful woman.
That’s right… you need to actually have
standards and if a woman fails to meet those
standards then you need to be able to walk
away. It’s not worth your time. And you know
what? – Women have a sixth sense and alot more
attraction for a guy with standards who’s willing
to walk away!
Here are the 3 questions:
1) What Quality do you want in a woman? (ʺXʺ)
2) How do you know you have this Quality in a
woman? (ʺYʺ)
3) What do you get from having this quality in a
woman ‐ in just the way that you want it? (ʺZʺ)
Now after youʹve done this for 3 separate qualities,
hereʹs what I want you to do:
1) Rank these three in order of importance to you
2) Look at this list. Now you know that this is what
you are really after in your interactions with
women – anything else is just a momentary
distraction. If a woman can’t fulfill these
qualities in the way that you want them to be
fulfilled, or if she doesn’t even want to try – then
you’re wasting your time with her – move on.
3) When you interact with women from now on,
ask yourself, “Can she meet my values in a
woman?” And then you can challenge her if you
think she may be able to. Women respond to a
challenge.
4) For example if you want someone that’s
adventurous and open‐minded you may say, “I
don’t know about you… it may not work out
between us because you seem a little old
fashioned and I’m looking for someone with a bit
more of an edge.” – If she has any edge to her at
all, she’ll be more than happy to go out of her
way to make sure you see that side of her!
If you don't have this, you
don't have anything
I was watching a TV show with a girl and
Donald Trump came on and she said to me, ʺHe
is sooo hot!ʺ I looked at her and said, ʺSo what is
it about him thatʹs hot?ʺ She said, ʺWell heʹs a
billionaire for one thing... and I donʹt know... heʹs
just hot!ʺ And I thought about that. Then I asked
her, ʺSo what would be more attractive to you ‐
someone who was born into money where they
inherited a fortune, or someone that was the
kind of person who had the skills and abilities
that actually went out there and made their
billion dollars? She said, ʺThe guy who had the
skills of course!ʺ
Women seem to have built in ʺwinner/loserʺ
detectors for sensing guys that either have
something going for them vs. guys that donʹt. Itʹs
probably some kind of unconscious evolutionary
based mechanism for finding a suitable mate...
And no matter how tight someoneʹs ʺOuter
gameʺ is, if they donʹt have anything else going
for them (ʺInner gameʺ)‐ then women will know
it and be out of there.
So if you look at the diagram below, you see that
Outer Value and Inner Value are interrelated.
Outer Value is the PRODUCT of the PROCESS of
Inner Value. So what comes first, the chicken or
the egg? ‐ Well in this case, they come
TOGETHER ‐ they are BOTH reflections of each
other ‐ as a matter of perspective.
So itʹs not necessarily JUST about the ʺOuterʺ
signs of success, but ALSO about the ʺInnerʺ
qualities ‐ being the kind of person who is
successful. And if you think about it, after
everything in life is said and done, the only thing
any of us will have left is the kind of person that
we are.
How to make a woman
play in YOUR court
Have you ever noticed that when a woman
chases you FIRST ‐ you have SO much more
power in the relationship?
Just think about it... when she chooses you, you
have the power, she is in your territory... she
enters into your frame. You are the
prize. The King of Spain is all powerful in Spain.
He has no power in Japan. Thatʹs why itʹs so
important to be chosen. If you appear to
be the one choosing her, then you give away
your power... Bad. Donʹt waste your time on a
woman who doesnʹt choose you...
it will only drain you.
I first got turned on to this realization by the
book, ʺThe Pimp Gameʺ by Mickey Royal, a
former Pimp. This book is truly a FREAK SHOW
and makes for some great reading!
So how do you get a woman to chose you?
1) First of all, it starts with your frame. You are
the prize.
This is Identity level stuff. Your game has to be
tight. In all areas of your life... from career,
home,
lifestyle... You have to represent what women
want. ʺAlphaʺ characteristics apply here.
In the book, ʺThe Evolution of Desire ‐ Strategies
of human matingʺ David Buss talks about
womenʹs preferences. He states that when
seeking a permanent mate, women not only seek
men with resources, but with qualities that lead
to the accumulation of resources ‐
like ambition, status, intelligence, age, health...
2) Realize that all women want something.
Whether it be excitement, adventure, security,
love, respect... whatever it is, you need to find
out what it is that
makes her happy and what makes her smile.
Find out her ʺcriteriaʺ for being happy. A Value
Elicitation could do this easily and
give you her ʺcriteriaʺ (ʺHow do you know when
you have X?ʺ and ʺWhat is it like when you have
X?ʺ).
A woman will choose a man that seems to be
able to deliver. She has to know that you can
deliver, and what is it that you are
delivering really? ‐ FEELINGS.
Many women have an underlying feeling that
they are held captive by their work, life, bills,
REALITY... Why do you think that
women go to ʺchick flickʺ movies, read romance
novels, watch soap operaʹs? Itʹs because they
have needs that arenʹt being met and
they are trying their best (unconsciously) to meet
them. Work, home, bills, etc. ‐ all things that
TAKE... and you are the one
thing that seems to be able to GIVE. How can she
resist?
3) Most women are never satisfied
In all areas... from sexuality to self‐esteem to
career, to LIFE. There are many women that
want to live in a ʺTV worldʺ where nothing is
mundane... where there is danger and
spontaneity... adventure... the need to be
rescued. Many women will create this drama
because they
want it so much.
TENSION at work!
Hereʹs something that I got turned on to by
David DeAngelo (
www.DoubleYourDating.com ):
What she SAYS = What she THINKS (Which
may be just social and cultural programming),
What she DOES = What she FEELS.
THIS is important. This is why if you donʹt know
this little fact, women can SEEM so confusing...
saying one thing and doing another.
Appearing to change their mind at a moments
notice. Iʹd say that 99.99% of men donʹt know
this little fact and if they did... well then it
would be a different world out there.
This is what is being spoken underneath what is
actually spoken.
7 Principles that can
change your LIFE
Ok, this is the ʺDeepʺ side of me coming out.
Time to PREACH!
Now let me tell you a little about an ancient
Philosophy called Huna. Now Huna was around
for thousands of years in Hawaii and Polynesia.
There is wisdom in these 7 Principle that will
carry over into all aspects of your life.
Now Iʹm not saying to go out a become a
KAHUNA, or to start getting crazy with the
RITUALS, but just use these principles as they
come up in your life. Your life will be better for
it. Remember, itʹs not ALL about Seduction...
well, maybe a little bit isnʹt!
Awareness
ʺThe World is what you think it isʺ
(everything is a dream, all systems are arbitrary)
Freedom
ʺThere are no Limitsʺ
(everything is connected, separation is a useful
illusion)
Concentration
ʺEnergy Flows where attention goesʺ
(everything is energy)
Persistence
ʺNow is the moment of powerʺ
(everything is relative, power increases with
sensory attention)
Love
ʺTo love is to be happy withʺ
(Love increases as judgment decreases,
Everything is alive, aware, and responsive)
Confidence
ʺAll Power comes from withinʺ
(everything has power, power comes from
authority)
Wisdom
ʺEffectiveness is the measure of truthʺ
(there is always another way to do anything,
the means determines the end)
Skillsets, Strategies, Techniques, and
Tactics
The Blake Richards Propulsion
System of Seduction
Now lets look at what’s going on here:
1) In the center box, we see where a woman is
presently. This is her current situational context.
She may be ready to hook up, she may need to
be motivated, she may not be in the mood yet…
This is also the context of the environment.
Where is she right now? Is this an atmosphere
that’s conducive to seduction?
2) In the first box, we see what a woman wants
more of or lacks in her life. These are the
“Reasons” – the drives that PUSH her and the
needs that motivate her. As she gains a
PHYSICAL awareness of these “lacks”, a Sexual
Dissatisfaction with where she is at now
BUILDS. The motivation here is primarily
PHYSICAL. This has the effect of PUSHING her
forward. Some of the physical techniques that
create this dissatisfaction include:
• Being physically HOT and then COLD – Turn
her on physically, then STOP, then turn her on
physically, then STOP
• Do this with teasing flirtatious touching and
caressing, like massaging her neck, brushing her
neck with your lips, nibbling on her ears,
stroking the insides of her arms…
• Make sure not to cross the line into sexual touch,
don’t full on kiss her yet or touch her
breasts/genital area yet – you want to build the
tension FIRST and make her physically aware of
what she LACKS.
3) In the last box, we see what is possible. These are
the “Results” – the drives that PULL her from
her present context into Seduction. The
motivation here is primarily created through
VERBAL/VISUAL/MENTAL stimulation. As she
is stimulated, the anticipation BUILDS and amps
up her buying temperature. Some of the
Verbal/Mental/Visual techniques that create this
anticipation include:
• Sexual Value Elicitation – which elicits a sexual
state
• Talking about sex (Describing how an orgasm
feels, how different positions feel…)
• Thinking about sex
• Visualizing sex (Can be visualized in manuals,
books, movies, etc.)
4) Both Sexual Dissatisfaction and Sexual
Anticipation create the Sexual Tension that
propels to the Seduction. This is both Pushing
and Pulling at the same time through both
Physical and Verbal/Mental/Visual stimulation
So what is OUTER GAME? Quite simply, it’s the
SKILLSETS, strategies, techniques and tactics
that EVOLVE from an interplay between Inner
Game and whatever context you happen to be in.
Think of it like this: These are the surface ripples
on the pond and translate into what is
OBSERVABLE in what you do and in your
results. Depending on the context of a situation,
different skillsets may evolve and as well as
different strategies. The law of requisite variety
states that the person with the most options and
choices in a given situation will be the most
successful. So learn as many skillsets as you can
and try them out in varying contexts. You have
to find what fits best for you and what most of
all brings out your own natural qualities.
Seduction takes place IN THE MOMENT. Now,
this concept is one of the KEYS to seduction!
Think about this... this means that a woman has
to be “ASSOCIATED” into the experience. She
can’t be “DISASSOCIATED” from the experience
with you and thinking logically or thinking
about the dishes or any other worries of the day.
In the coming chapters, I’ll tell you my method
for getting a woman fully associated into the
experience and FEELING – remember that
throughout all the discussions about this
technique or that, your PRIMARY goal is to get
her feeling ‐ because feeling leads to action.
This is what seduction is about.
You can also break down Seduction Sequentially:
My friend Erik ʺMysteryʺ Von Markovik has a
GREAT format for doing that.
Check out his site at www.MysteryMethod.com
1) Early Game ‐ Attraction stage
This is where you open, your approach, your
walk‐up. There are many different ideas about
this stage, but most of all you need to be
interesting and convey value. The spark of
attraction occurs within the first 30 seconds of
when a woman’s attention is on you – It’s either
there or it isn’t. But all you need is that spark and
what you do in the next stage can amp up the
attraction.
2) Mid Game ‐ Comfort and Rapport stage
Most of the material presented here is for Mid‐
Game. The goal of the stage is to get a woman
comfortable. Now you aren’t trying to be a
“friend” because at the same time you want to
keep the attraction going and to cycle back and
forth between the attraction and comfort stages
until the momentum of these propels you to the
End Game.
3) End Game ‐ Sexual stage
This is it. This is the stage where you are alone
with a woman and the vibe is right. The comfort
is there and you’ve amped up the sexual
attraction. The environment is perfect. I present a
few of my methods for gaining momentum in
this stage as well as overcoming resistance.
How to communicate with
a woman in a way that will
BLOW her MIND!
Do you want to BLOW a womanʹs mind with the
way that you communicate with her? I donʹt care
HOW good looking you are, if you canʹt
communicate with her ‐ then itʹll be over, ... or
sheʹll just tell you to shut up and get down to
business if youʹre good looking enough and if
sheʹs horny! Good looks may be how a woman
decides to talk to you, but how you
communicate with her is how youʹll get LAID!
Now, communication is what it’s all about. This
is how we interact with each other and you can’t
NOT communicate. Everything that you do, say,
don’t do, don’t say… the way you look, what
you wear, what you don’t wear… it all says
something about you.
So the question is... what are you communicating
to people?
Early on as I was learning about various
ʺseduction systemsʺ I had a friend who Iʹd go
hang out with and Iʹd watch him approach
women and watch their responses.
Now not to make him sound bad, but the guy
didnʹt comb his hair, he had bad acne, he looked
somewhat disheveled most of the time, he had
his eyebrows in a permanent ʺscowlʺ... his breath
smelled, his shirt was untucked... I mean Geez!...
You get the picture.
Heʹd just WALK UP to a woman and sheʹd look
at him and suddenly her face would go into
PANIC MODE!
Now we tried to help him with those things but ‐
that was just him... he didnʹt really GET IT.
Now what was he communicating to women
before he even opened his MOUTH!? I have to
give it to the guy though... he was an
APPROACH MACHINE... kind of like a boxer
that just WONT FALL DOWN after getting beat
and beat and beat...!
Anyway, You GET IT!
So now, letʹs look at the ways that we
communicate and Iʹll give you some of my
insight into these ways:
1) Words ‐ “WHAT” is said
Alot of guys will memorize certain things to say
like “patterns” thinking that they have to get the
words perfect and that they have to say the
words in a certain order. A lot of times it just
ends up sounding unnatural – like a “sales
pitch”.
Even their OWN EYES gloss over when they
start into their SCHPIEL!!!
You can always tell when someone is talking AT
you vs. talking WITH you.
Now, donʹt get me wrong though... If you talk
with the right tonality and have the right body
language, it often doesn’t matter WHAT you say,
so much as HOW you say it.
Now get ready to blow their minds because the
next levels will get you doing just THAT. This is
when you talk to them on THE deeper levels.
2) Tonality and Body Language ‐ “HOW”
things are said
Tonality and body language both give power to
the words that we use and can amplify the
meaning of what we say. Like I said before,
sometimes it doesn’t even matter WHAT you
say, so much as HOW you say it..
3) Meaning ‐ “WHY” things are said and the
interpreting the context in which things are said
Have you ever been talking to a woman and she
goes ON and ON and starts sounding like those
little characters from that SIMS computer game?
BLAH blah blah blah.... blah BLAH ? blah
blah...! ohhhh... Blah...!
And youʹre thinking, what the Hell is she telling
me this for!?
Weʹve all been there... but the REASON that she
keeps going ON an ON is because she has a
NEED. and sheʹll KEEP going on and ON until
ONE, either you put your hand over her mouth,
or TWO, you address THAT NEED and let her
know you HEAR HER NEED.
Now, most women just GET THIS level
NATURALLY.
Theyʹre ALWAYS reading between the lines and
INTERPRETING what is said. Theyʹre like little
detectives who have to try to figure everything
out!
So when a woman starts talking to you just step
back and say to yourself, “Why are they telling
me this? What does this mean?”
The secret way to talk her
her LIKE HER
GIRLFRIENDS do
4) The Need –what need does this person
have?
Now, take it a step further...
If you can recognize this level, then you are far
ahead of the game. In order to recognize this
level, I’ve talked to women and just stepped
back and said to myself first, “Why are they
telling me this? ‐ and then – “What NEED do
they have?ʺ
And if you thought ʺThe need to get laid!ʺ Youʹd
probably be right!
But anyway, when a woman can recognize that
you KNOW what she needs, then she’ll feel like
youʹre a guy who can talk to her THE WAY HER
GIRLFRIENDS DO.
For example ‐ a girlfriend of mine was telling
me about how much she wanted to see me, how
she thought about me all day long, how she
missed me throughout the day.
I asked myself, “What does this mean? Why is she
telling me this?” (It means that she wants to see
me and be with me.)
Then I asked myself, “What need does she have
right now?” (She needs to feel connection ‐ She
may be lonely ‐ She may be insecure)
The 6 Magic words that
will make her feel
INCREDIBLE
5) The process for the need – The magic words,
“So what would have to happen…?”
But I donʹt stop there!
If I identify someone’s need as needing to feel a
sense of “connection” or “trust” or “comfort” or
some other need ‐ then thats a PRIME
OPPORTUNITY to follow up and get her
FEELING GOOD!
To continue the example above, I would say,
“You’re sounding like you need to feel close to
me...” then “So what would have to happen for
you to feel close to me right now?”
Now you’ve not only heard their need, but
you’ve found out WHAT NEEDS TO HAPPEN
for her need to be fulfilled!
And the great thing is, IT ALL COMES FROM
HER!
Using these skills, just about every woman you
talk to will not only fascinated by you, but will
think that you’re AMAZING ‐ WAY better than a
GIRLFRIEND ‐ because you have ʺequipmentʺ of
course ‐ and youʹll be like no other guy that
they’ve talked to before!
The 2 SIMPLE questions
that can get her to FEEL
ANYTHING
Now, thereʹs just a certain way that I talk. And if
you do this too.. and women will feel like youʹre
LISTENING TO THEM.
Even if youʹre just saying the WORDS Iʹm going
to tell you. In other words, you can PRETEND,
and GET AWAY WITH IT!
Seriously though, Deep communication is what
gives you insight into their world, into their view
of life, their perspective, and most of all is how I
elicit a ʺRomanticʺ or any other state.
Here’s an example that illustrates the difference
between ʺDeepʺ and ʺSuperficial
Communication”.
Now on to the WORDS TO SAY: ʺSO WHAT IS
IT ABOUT...?ʺ and ʺSO WHAT IS IT LIKE...?ʺ
Now first what NOT to do ‐
Question: What do you enjoy?
Superficial ‐ (This is what you want to avoid ‐
itʹs fine early on, but as you build rapport, go
for DEEPER communication)
Example ‐ She says Dancing:
Guy ʺSo where do you dance?ʺ
Girl: At such and such club.
Guy: ʺSo what kind of dancing do you do?ʺ
Girl: Oh techno type
Guy: ʺSo how long have you been dancing?ʺ
Girl: My whole life.
See where this goes... NOWHERE. But the thing
is that MOST GUYS communicate like this!
Now contrast this to ʺDeep Communicationʺ ‐
(ʺXʺ and ʺYʺ just represent her specific responses
that you can fill the blanks in with)
Me: ʺWhat do you really enjoy?ʺ
Her: Dancing:
Me: ʺSO WHAT IS IT ABOUT dancing that you
really enjoy?
Her: I really enjoy X and doing this type of thing.
Me: ʺSo when youʹre doing X, and youʹre really
starting to get into it, what is this like?ʺ (You are
EVOKING THE FEELING NOW)
Her: Itʹs like ʺYʺ
Me: ʺYou know when Iʹve danced before itʹs
almost like your experience where you can do
X.... and feel Y... itʹs just amazingʺ (And adding
YOUR perspective using HER words!) ‐By now
sheʹs going glassy eyed because sheʹs FEELING
so GOOD.
Hereʹs another example: She says ʺMusicʺ
Iʹd want to avoid ʺSuperficialʺ responses like
ʺWhat kind of musicʺ ʺWhat groups do you
like?ʺ etc.
GO with Deep communication:
Me: ʺSO WHAT IS IT ABOUT music that you
enjoy?ʺ or you could say, ʺSO WHAT DO YOU
REALLY ENJOY ABOUT music?ʺ
Her: She says ʺI feel Xʺ or if she says I like ʺXʺ.
Then Iʹd say ʺSo how does ʺXʺ make you feel?ʺ
Me: So when youʹre listening to music and really
feeling it... WHAT IS IT LIKE for you?ʺ
Her: She says ʺYʺ
Me: ʺI like that... You know, I know for me when
I listen to music itʹs almost like your experience
also where you can feel X and you start to Y....
itʹs amazingʺ
Again... Glassy eyed!
NOW whatʹs MORE is that you can use this to
get a woman into a SEXUAL MODE:
Me: ʺSO WHAT IS IT ABOUT sex that you
enjoy?ʺ
Her: I like ʺXʺ
Me: ʺSo when you have ʺXʺ and youʹre really
enjoying it, WHAT IS IT LIKE?ʺ
And Booom... she goes RIGHT INTO THE
FEELING! ‐ her mind has gone SEXUAL, you
can BET that sheʹll be not only FEELING IT
PHYSICALLY ‐ but that now sheʹll be much
more receptive to SEX.
How to know how far to
go with a woman
Let me tell you about some guys Iʹve known.
They study Seduction, they know all the
ʺtacticsʺ, they may even be able to go out and get
10 phone numbers at the drop of a hat. But
THATʹS usually where it ends.
Now you can have some SKILLS, and you can
know all kinds of theories... but when it comes
down to interacting with people on a
PERSONAL level ‐ your rapport and END
GAME closing success will be proportional to
two things: Your INNER GAME and your ability
to CALIBRATE and be FLEXIBLE.
Iʹve seen guys that go up to a girl and theyʹll be
talking about something totally irrelevant to the
conversation, or theyʹll skip from topic to topic ‐
without any kind of natural transitions. And
they just doesnʹt GET that other people are
thinking ʺWhat the HELL is he telling me that
for!?ʺ ‐ and it just comes off as BIZARRE.
Part of it has to do with being able to truly
CONNECT with people ‐ without any GAMES
or FRAMES... when it just comes down to ONE
PERSON connecting with ANOTHER in the
moment.
Women pick up on ʺFakenessʺ real quick and
while it may be fun at FIRST to play and
roleplay, , at some point you have to be a REAL
PERSON and you have to see the REAL
PERSON right in front of you.
Now the first step in truly connecting is being
able to step outside your own FILTERS and not
just seeing the other persons perspective ‐ but
sharing it.
Now, shocking as it may be ‐ there are alot of
people who actually have trouble with this!
Thereʹs a book on ʺEmotional Intelligenceʺ by
Daniel Goleman. You may even want to check
this book out if youʹd like to have better
connections with people.
Emotional Intelligence is being able to
understand oneself as well as others, being able
to control emotions (or not), and being able to
have the right degree of emotion at the right time
for the right reason for the right duration.
Now this guy Goleman talks about how
Emotional Intelligence can apply to the broader
context of living, stating that oneʹs emotional
intelligence (The ʺEQʺ) is even more important
than ʺIQʺ when you look at things like being
ʹsuccessfulʹ in many parts of life ‐ from personal
relationships to professional relationships, self‐
satisfaction and self‐growth.
So what is a major tool that you can use to see if
what youʹre doing is working? CALIBRATION ‐
notice a womanʹs responses.
Calibration is feedback. Would you want to
drive a car without the feedback of seeing the
road, or without feeling the steering wheel?
Calibration tells you when you can turn it on full
blast or when you have to tone it down. It’s
about getting outside of your own head and into
the interaction.
So what do you do with the information that
calibrating gives you? You USE IT and have the
FLEXIBILITY to change what youʹre doing and
either TURN IT UP or TURN IT DOWN
A surefire method of
getting a woman
INTRIGUED
What if I were to tell you that I KNOW what women REALLY
want… would you believe me?
The approach I use for this is to be INDIRECTLY
DIRECT. Now what does that mean?
Well, many times I’m INDIRECT with what I
say, but DIRECT with what I do. This is part of
what creates “tension” and attraction with the
people that I interact with. It’s a dichotomy and
seemingly incongruent ‐ which is why it is like a
splinter in the person’s mind.
Many people have it the other way around. They
are direct with what they say but indirect with
what they do. In other words, they come across
as “needy” (Just like everyone else) but having
no guts to follow up on it. ‐Bad combination.
Of course the worst combination is the person
who is indirect with what he says and indirect
with what he does. That’s my definition of a
spineless “wuss”.
Now how about being DIRECT in what you say
and DIRECT in what you do? ‐Generally this
isnʹt a good idea, itʹs kind of jolting but Iʹve know
guys that actually pull this off by knowing how
to IMMEDIATELY turn it down and play
Hot/Cold with a Woman.
How to totally WRAP UP
a woman into your world
Have you ever known a woman who was SO
into a guy and who had devoted so much time
and energy to him that he could do virtually
ANYTHING and she would still cling to him? ‐ I
know, itʹs unhealthy ‐ but it happens. She was
fully ENGAGED into him.
Hereʹs another scenario: Youʹre with a woman
and youʹre having the most interesting and
stimulating conversation... the VIBE is there and
you can both FEEL it. Nothing else exists ‐ You
were both ENGAGED into each other.
Engagement is when a woman invests herself
into the interaction. Remember that engagement
also amps up her willingness to take action as
well as her willingness to stay committed to you
in the long term. This is a take on the
“Commitment and Consistency” principle but
here’s how it specifically applies to seduction
and relationships. Here are several ways that a
woman can be engaged.
1) Physical engagement
If you are the first man that a woman has been
with then more likely than not, she will have
given a huge amount of “engagement” energy to
you. She will never forget you as her first. Now if
you use this concept, she will be extremely
devoted to you just because of this.
Other examples of physical engagement include
making a woman do things for you like favors,
working for you… etc. One analogy is that you
are like a “bank” and the more “money” (work,
energy, physically engagement) that she puts in,
the more invested in you she will be.
One MAJOR KEY to
getting a woman to
VALUE you
Give a woman the gift
of working for you.
She’ll value you more
for it.
2) Emotional engagement
You can get a woman emotionally engaged by
opening up her emotional side and sharing it
with her. Share her hopes, dreams for the future,
and values.
In addition, you can talk to her about the
FUTURE and build a picture of it with you both
together if she brings it up first ‐ Now do this
only if you MEAN it ‐ Otherwise youʹd be
PLAYING with her heart and thatʹs bad Karma.
Take your time, and calibrate her. You can also
let her dream about you and your future
together without you having to bring it up. This
will cause her to invest a lot of emotional energy
in you and in her hopes for the relationship.
3) Time engagement
The more TIME that a woman spends with you,
the more TIME ENGAGED she will become. She
will be a lot more devoted to someone that she
has been with for years than a stranger. Also the
more time she spends “winning you over”, the
more valuable you will be to her. People tend to
place a higher value on what they have to work
hard for and what they have to pay more for.
4) Social engagement
The more SOCIAL TIES the both of you share,
the higher the value of the relationship to her.
When you’ve met her family, friends, coworkers
and you share common friends, and she’s met
and shares yours, sheʹll value you MORE.
How to associate yourself
into a woman's WORLD
Hereʹs a SECRET about the way that the MIND
WORKS and how you can USE THIS for
seduction!
The mind keeps FILE SYSTEMS and organizes
thoughts, feelings and states in file systems. In
his book, ʺThe Secrets of Communicationʺ, Peter
Thomson talk about this concept.
To illustrate, what is the first thing that you think
about when I say think about a big 4 legged
animal that begins with the letter ʺEʺ.
Youʹd probably say ʺElephantʺ. Thatʹs at the top
of most people file systems.
Hereʹs how I USE THIS for seduction.
To induce a state of ʺAttractionʺ, I want a
woman to open her FILE SYSTEM for
attraction... and more specifically to put me in it.
I also want to be put into the ʺIdeal Loverʺ file as
well as the ʺPerfect Guyʺ file if at all possible.
I will do this by Asking questions that cause her
to go inside and OPEN these files. (So tell me
about your perfect guy... how would you know
that this guy was perfect for you... how do you
know that youʹre attracted to this guy...)
It really doesnʹt matter at ALL what her answers
are. In fact, each woman has not only different
ʺEnd Valuesʺ (The quality that they are after) for
what they want in a perfect guy, they also have
different ʺMeans Valuesʺ (How they know).
Do I care if I donʹt satisfy her values fully? No...
in fact all I care about is that I have opened her
ʺFileʺ and that I am in it.
Now how do I put myself in those files? Many
different ways, from actually demonstrating
value, to telling stories about how in the past you
met those values, to using ʺlinkageʺ words like
ʺTHISʺ person (vs. THAT person) and ʺTHESEʺ
things (vs. THOSE things) that associate her into
the experience.
On a more subtle Neuro‐linguistic level, people
will LOOK to certain places and use certain
gestures and say certain words when they open
their particular ʺfilesʺ. Noticing these is what
calibrating is about.
I notice these things and mirror them back. These
are so called ʺAnchorsʺ that link external to
internal reality. Like Pavlovʹs Dog.
Itʹs better to use someone’s own anchor than
trying to create a new one
The 2 purposes of the
Phone Call
Phone game is a form of Isolation because in
order to talk to you she has to engage. So use this
to your advantage. Remember, there are
primarily 2 goals of the phone game:
1) Comfort building ‐ The phone is another
comfort building “location”
If I decide that I want to comfort build with a gal,
then I’ll use some of my comfort building themes
on the phone. But you have to keep in mind that
there is a fine line between talking too much and
talking too little on the phone. If you talk too
much, they may get stuck in fantasy land. You
don’t want to stall there. Find that “spot” and
keep it moving to the next goal ‐ Setting up a
meeting.
2) To set up a meet
If you’re following up on a phone number that
you’ve gotten, it’s imperative that you take it to
the next level on that first phone call. If you
don’t, you risk stalling... which could land you in
“lets just be friends” land. So keep the momentum
from the initial attraction going.
If both the comfort and attraction are already
there and you’ve gotten good signals of interest
from her indicating both, then keep the phone
call short and sweet. The primary goal should be
to set up a meeting.
The 3 EASY questions
that will make her LOVE
you
Value elicitation achieves rapport through
conveying understanding, elicits feelings, and
links you via “file systems” theory. Here’s the
format:
X = End Value, Y = Means to the End Value, Z =
The Feeling
You: “So when you’re with a guy, what quality
would you want to have in the relationship?”
Her: “X” quality (honesty, closeness,
passion…etc.)
You: “So how do you know when you have X
quality?”
Her: “I have Yʺ/ʺI do Yʺ/ʺI feel Y”
You: ʺSo how do you feel when you have X, and
you’re doing Y?ʺ
Her: “Z” (fulfillment, awesome, peaceful…etc.)
You: So “Z” is what you’re really after… It’s all
about feeling “Z”.
You can repeat for 3 values.
One technique that will get
a woman HOT
One of the things that I do early on is to give a
woman a sense that there is “something more”.
I may start off as being overly confident and
tease her just like a good seducer would ‐ but
then I’ll let her “discover” that I keep a journal...
or drop a line about some random act of
kindness that I just did... or mention something
that I did for my mom recently (“I took my mom
out for dinner last Valentines day”)... a “soft”
side.
And I just leave it at that... a one sentence hint
about what I did or do, and then move on to the
next topic as if I don’t really want to talk about it.
If they don’t ask about it, you can bet they’re
thinking about it and will bring it up later.
If they do ask about it ‐ I may mention a little
more and then say, “It’s not really a big deal...
it’s just me.” And then she begins to find out
what a great guy you are... and humble to
because you don’t talk about it much.
I call this technique of mine “Baiting”. Because
it’s what you offer to hook them in.
You put on your bedroom eyes and sexual smile,
and stares into her eyes. She looks up
occasionally and smiles at you nervously. You’re
leaning forward on your elbows, head in hands.
You reach slowly to her neck and pull her
necklace from between her cleavage.
Can you feel the vibe here?
I know there’s been times I’ve felt it too and I’ve
tried to put my finger on what it is that makes
this possible. Now keep in mind that a major
portion of seduction is psychological, but there is
also a physical element.
Part of what makes Sexual Rapport possible is a
basic unspoken understanding. The
understanding is that Sex is going to happen and
that it is inevitable. Now a man can project this
sexual rapport so convincingly that it draws a
woman in.
Now how do you know that Sexual Rapport is
present? Well, that’s like trying to describe the
wind or the ripples on the surface of a pond. All
you can do is describe the effects and signs that
the wind is there or describe the ripples on the
surface of the pond knowing that the deeper
currents are creating them. The underlying
processes are driven by the unspoken
understanding, the assumption, and the “vibe”
when you know that it’s on.
There are also environmental cues to accelerate
the “vibe”. These include soft music, flickering
candlelight, the sound of flowing water, dim
lights, and food.
Here are some of the physical cues that show
that this Rapport is present and also be aware
that this Sexual Rapport can be modeled as well.
In other words, imagine that the ripples on the
surface of a pond actually create the deeper
currents. Mind blowing huh? But in the realm of
Rapport and human interaction, this is how it
can work.
Early Game
• Body posture: stretched out, laying back relaxed,
stretching arms, taking up a lot of space
• Eyebrow flash combined with a smile “coy
glance,” an expression combining a half‐smile
and lowered eyes
• Signs from a woman: neck presentation. The
woman’s head tilted sideways Occasionally the
woman may stroke her exposed neck area with
her fingers
• Smiling
Mid‐Game
• face to face, eyebrow flash, whisper
• Some body contact, hand hold (brief)
• Sometimes “playing with” an object, called
object caress. For example, keys or rings are
often fondled., caress (face/hair)
• Stroking the thigh and inner leg, caress (leg)
caress (arm), caress (torso), and caress (back)
• Body posture‐ Lean forward/back
• ”accidental” breast touch/brush occurred when
brief body contact (less than 5 seconds)
• Knee touch the legs may be brought into contact
with the man’s legs so that the knees touch, one
another while seated
• Thigh touch, seated side by side
• Foot to foot may result in the woman moving her
foot so that it rests on top of the man’s foot
• Gestures‐ shoulder hug: partially flexed arm was
draped on and around another person’s shoulder
• Lateral body contact may be similar to shoulder
hug except that the woman moves under the
man’s arm so that his arm is draped around her
shoulders rather than vice versa
• Frontal body contact occurs when the chest and
thighs of the woman rests against the chest and
thighs of the man
• Play, these behaviors consist of one pinching the
other, tickling, sticking out their tongue, of
approaching from behind covering the eyes
• Women may sit on the man’s lap
• Whole body movement: Parade consists of the
woman walking across the room, perhaps on her
way to the bar or the restroom. Yet rather than
maintaining a relaxed attitude, the woman
exaggerates the swaying motion of her hips. Her
stomach is held in and her back is arched so that
her breasts are pushed out; her head is held high
• Dancing behavior is one of the most frequently
seen signals. It’s called the solitary dance
because, while seated or standing, the woman
moves her body in time to the music.
End Game
• In this stage, body contact predominates
including massage, caressing, stroking hair, lips
• Voices are low and subdued, talking slows and
may stop altogether
• Eyes may close and kinesthetic stimulation may
predominate
So how can it be useful to know where you’re at
in the “Courtship stages”? First of all, I don’t
believe that every woman will fit into these
patterns, but it helps to know the patterns that
most women will generally fall into, so that you
know how to adjust your approach and have a
general idea of where you’re at in the process.
According to Evolutionary Psychology, women
give certain signals and “sexual cues” to men
that invite an approach. In fact according to
social scientist Givens there are four phases of
courtship. And he indicates that it is often the
female who controls interaction in these early
phases. Early Game is based on Attraction, Mid
Game is based on Comfort and Rapport, and
End Game is based on Sexual arousal.
1) Attention phase‐attraction
The essence is of this phase is ambivalence.
Female behaviors during this stage may include
primping, object caressing, and glancing at and
then away from the male.
2) Recognition phase‐attraction
Female behaviors may include head cocking,
pouting, primping, eyebrow flashing and
smiling.
3) Interaction stage‐comfort and rapport
In this stage, conversation is initiated and the
female may appear highly animated, excited,
laughing, smiling, with frequent gesturing.
4) Sexual arousal phase
Touching gestures are exchanged. Couples may
hold hands, caress, hug, or kiss.
In addition, there are certain “steps” that are
commonly predictable in a male/female sexual
interaction. A social scientist named Morris
suggested that there were 12 steps that couples
in Western culture go through from initial
contact through intimacy. He indicated that the
steps have an order that usually is followed in
female/male relationships. The steps are as
follows:
1) eye to body
2) eye to eye
3) voice to voice,
4) hand to hand
5) arm to shoulder,
6) arm to waist
7) mouth to mouth
8) hand to head
9) hand to body
10) mouth to breast
11) hand to genitals
12) genitals to genitals or mouth to genitals
Now if you skips steps or fail to respond to a
step you could be seen as fast or slow. But also
keep in mind that not every woman follows this
rule. For example, some women have hang‐ups
in certain areas like kissing. Don’t let a block in a
certain part of this sequence stop you from
progressing to or at least testing the next one.
You may even find your own “bridging
techniques” to move from one step to the next.
The point is to realize what sequence works for
you and to be able to flow from one step to the
next. Also, have the flexibility to take what a
woman offers you and to use that to gain the
momentum to take it to the next step.
The little known principle
that will make her obey
you completely
Have you ever noticed how lovers talk to each
other and how they act around each other?
During college, I was watching a roommate of
mine and his girlfriend interact one day and this
occurred to me. They were sitting there on the
couch cuddling, holding each other and talking
“baby” talk to each other. He would even call her
“baby” and you should’ve seen how they acted
when they thought no one was looking. I was
actually kind of embarrassed for him. He was
this big macho guy and she was normally a
strong willed confident woman – but around
each other when they thought no one was
paying attention, they both became “baby” like –
they both regressed. I’m sure you know exactly
what I’m talking about. You may have even been
there before.
So what is regression and how does it play into
Seduction? Quite simply, regression is a return to
a previous stage of psychological development.
Some philosophers would say that “love” itself is
a regression of sorts, and that the desire for love
is actually motivated by a parental bond that
developed during infancy and childhood. You
can actually accelerate the seduction process by
“regressing” your target by using some of the
following techniques and concepts.
1) Comfort and trust are a prerequisite to
regression
Remember Erickson’s stages of development in
Psychology 101? The first stage during infancy is
Trust vs. Mistrust. Trust and comfort are the
keys that lead back to this stage.
2) Teasing
So why does teasing work so well for regression?
Women love to feel like teenagers for one thing.
Of course they would never admit to this ‐ and it
was during this time when they were
discovering their sexuality and when they were
having “first crushes”. It was also during this
time that they were out chasing boys more
actively, before the boys started chasing them.
You can tease a woman verbally and also you
can do things that tease her physically – like
snapping a bra strap, giving her a “raspberry”,
or even a “nuggie”. Although they may say they
hate it, many women actually love this kind of
thing.
3) Being the “Therapist”
Although this approach can be controversial, it
actually can cause a regression quite effectively ‐
maybe even dangerously so. Psychoanalysts
have called this regression effect “transference”
because as the person talks about their childhood
and past memories, they transfer their parental
father figure “bond” to their therapist. Freud
actually used this method in Psychotherapy and
he ended up with a number of his patients
obsessed and falling in love with him.
So how would you use this? Get the woman to
talk about her childhood. Have her describe her
first memories with you, what she was like as a
little girl, if she had a safe place or a favorite
place that she would go to play. Also have her
describe her first crush and her first kiss… what
it was like and all the details about it.
4) You can regress her or you can regress with her
Regressing a woman is like having the “father
figure” dynamic. Some women want this at an
unconscious level actually – and you’ll recognize
these women by the demands that they make on
you. They are looking for someone to take care of
them – emotionally, physically, mentally. But it
can be very draining – unless this is the dynamic
that you know as well.
Regressing along with a woman is much easier –
I don’t need to say much about this, although
don’t be like my college roommate. Keep some
shred of your masculinity intact! One day she
may wake up from her “trance” and think “What
a wuss!” Being tender and sweet at times is
enough – but only when she goes first and when
she’s earned it!
5) More on Non‐Verbal regression
• Cuddling
• Feeding her (your hands to her mouth)
• Letting her suck on things (your fingers, candy,
etc.)
• Protective touch: (your arm around her in a
crowd…)
• Spanking
• Playful touch: (light ʺroughhousingʺ…)
Secrets to BUILDING
your dream woman
This is probably one of the most powerful
strategies that one can use in everything from
Seduction, Persuasion, Cold‐Reading and in
guiding someone in HOW TO ACT when theyʹre
with you.
So what is this exactly? Basically, the concept of
ʺPartsʺ is a metaphorical way of talking about
independent programs and strategies of
behavior. Programs or ʺpartsʺ will often develop
a persona that becomes one of their identifying
features.
In Seduction for instance, we create this ʺpartʺ of
a woman by first Cold‐reading her (that is,
accurately Pacing her current reality), and then
giving her a self‐concept and self‐image to live
up to. (Leading). Actually giving this new ʺpartʺ
a persona and a Name is a blatant way of doing
this.
How do I specifically bring out ʺPartsʺ in
someone?
1) I presuppose that I am interacting with that
specific part. (Identity)
2) By doing this I give them a self‐image to live
up to and support them in this
3) I break down resistance by getting them to
Meta‐state, and then talking to the ʺPart of themʺ
that is beneficial to my intent.
Example:
Her: I havenʹt ever done X because Iʹm Y.
Me: ...and even though youʹve never done X,
there is still a part of you that wonders what it
would be like... hold that thought... because
maybe there’s even a part of you that really
wants to do it and would really enjoy it.
Her: I donʹt know... maybe.
Me: So if you were to step into this part of
yourself... and imagine what would it be like...
what kinds of things would you enjoy about
this... what kinds of things would you find
yourself really wanting to do this...
A New Identity (A new ʺPartʺ)
The classic example is the ʺDancerʺ name.
1) Once youʹve Cold‐read her and you have
paced her current reality, you begin to introduce
the Self‐Image. The ʺDancerʺ self image.
2) You NOTICE all the things about her, her
behavior, and her environment, that validate this
self image and you Support this all by
commenting on it, having her ratify it, describe
it, reframe it... etc.
Bringing out a Part of them that has been
Repressed
The classic example of this is the ʺShadowʺ
concept. In this concept, you talk about the part
of people that is repressed... the part of them that
corresponds to Freudʹs concept of the Id. This is
like the instinctual, biological human urge that
we as a society have learned to repress.
...Of course that which is repressed gets
expressed. Often in ways that we arenʹt aware of
and in ways that we canʹt control. (Youʹve all
heard of the term ʺFreudian Slipʺ. Well, this is
just a small example.)
Carl Jung was a Psychiatrist and Psychoanalyst
that studied with Freud. He took the repression
idea even further and brought into the
repression concept, the notion of the ʺShadowʺ.
Of course talking about something makes it more
real and invests it with mental energy. Carl
Jungʹs philosophy was to achieve a balance
between light and dark... the part of you that you
show to the world and the part of you that is
hidden (maybe even from yourself).
Giving the ʺShadowʺ itʹs own Persona, Identity
and itʹs own ʺVoiceʺ can be very powerful... be
careful though!
How Time forms an Onion skin of ʺPartsʺ
In this idea, as time passes we layer on new
ʺPartsʺ just like the layers of an onion. For
example, under the metaphorical onion skin of
parts, there is the part of a person that is still a
child.
People often have a Past self‐concept (ʺPartʺ) that
is MORE REAL to them than their Current self‐
concept. This is especially true in people that
have many limitations. (They cant ʺMeta‐stateʺ
and see the distinction between their Past self,
their Current self, and their Future self. A limited
Past then becomes both a limited present and a
limited future... a self fulfilling prophesy.)
A key here is that sometimes you can age regress
someone just by presupposing that you are
talking to the ʺCHILD partʺ. Talk to them as if
they were a child, View them as a child, treat
them like a child, and they will live up to your
self image.
They can’t argue with this presupposition
because by nature presuppositions are unstated
underlying beliefs from which we speak and act.
They are what needs to be true in order for a
statement to make sense. And more often than
not, you can’t argue with something that isnʹt
stated explicitly.
Realize also that people have a Future Self
Concept as well. Much of seduction is based on
embedding yourself with this Future Self‐
Concept.
The ʺPartʺ of them that is Others
This is an interesting concept. Inside of us, we all
carry around the ʺPartʺ of us that is our parents,
the ʺPartʺ of us that is our friends... etc. What
really sucks is when people bring a ʺpartʺ of
them that is their parent from when they were a
small child into Present reality. And then they
act as if this representation of their parent was
current reality. External and Internal
representations may totally be different.
One of the things in NLP and Gestalt Psychology
is that you must have someone resolve a conflict
internally with the ʺPartʺ of them that is their
parent (or any other conflicting part), before any
external resolving with the actual person can
occur.
How would you use this
in Persuasion/Influence/Seduction?
Get them to Meta‐state.
Once they realize that their resistance is not
really themselves, but others influences... other
ʺPartsʺ that are trying to tell them what to do,
they can then make a Conscious choice based on
what THEY actually want.
One principle that will get
you IN with a woman
every time
The will to survive is not the strongest instinct in
humans. The strongest instinct is to do what is
familiar – Virginia Satir
People may be attracted to what is different but
they feel comfortable with what is familiar. The
key to seduction is finding the balance between
both.
When talking with a woman, focus on
commonalities. Find more and more things that
you have in common so that you start to stack
these similarities. You can always return to these
if the conversation stalls.
Once you have enough commonalities in place,
you can begin to shift the perspective from “You
and I” to “Us and Them”. It is now about you
and her both together looking out into the world.
This is a great way to accelerate comfort and
rapport in the Mid‐Game.
The Principle that will
change her MIND and
BODY
The Physiology Principle is further distilled from
the Physical/Emotional distinctions.
Now here is the twist. If you want to influence
someone (Emotionally/Mentally) and they are
ʺstuckʺ in whatever their position is, just have
them physically move.
In other words, if you canʹt change their
mind/emotions immediately, change their body,
and their mind will then much more easily
follow.
How to make her
resistance seem ridiculous
In this method, if you propose something to
someone and they give you resistance, you take
the resistance that they give you and you project
it to extremes into the future until they see how
silly their resistance is or they ʺlaugh it inʺ.
Example:
At a Club:
A girl says to you, ʺI donʹt meet guys in bars.ʺ
You: ʺI can see that, because if you did, next
thing you know, you would be meeting new
people, having new experiences, maybe having
alot of fun, living life to the fullest, and of course
that just wouldnʹt be good, because it would be
unlike anything that you know now and might
just break your model of whatʹs possible for
you...ʺ
You: ʺI can see that, because if you did, next
thing you know, youʹd be knocked up by some
guy, youʹd be barefoot and pregnant the rest of
your life, living in a trailer park, and then youʹd
have all these little rugrats running around
saying ʺmama, mamaʺ...ʺ
How to seduce HER into
seducing YOU
This principle puts the “burden of proof” onto
your target as well as offers a challenge.
I’ll say ʺTell me all the reasons I should be with
youʺ and ʺYou have to give me a reason to want
to be with you, either by what you do or what
you say... I donʹt just go for anyone, Iʹm pretty
selective... you have to show me that I want to be
with you.ʺ There’s no better way to eliminate
resistance then seducing a woman into seducing
you.
I remember the first time I did a cold read. I had
met a woman at a coffee shop and a friend of
mine had been chatting her up and trying to get
a good level of rapport with her. I happened to
walk by and I said to her,
“Yeah… I know about you… on the outside you come
across as totally uninhibited and wild, and you’re
really outgoing and the life of the party… but
underneath all of that you’re just someone who’s
really kind of shy, and you want someone who can see
you for who you really are… where you don’t have to
put on an act… and you can just relax and be
yourself. In fact this kind of connection is really what
you want most of all… and you’re somewhat of an
emotional type… where you experience the world
through your emotions…”
She said… “Take me, I’ll go anywhere with you right
now!”
So what is cold reading exactly? Well some
people actually get impressions about people. Can
this be developed? Sure… It’s a people reading
skill and it just requires some attention.
But you can achieve the same affect by speaking
in generalities and “hedging” your languaging…
as well as knowing when you have a “hit” or
positive response.
If given with enough authority, you can be very
convincing.
Cold reading is probably one of the best ways to
build Rapport with a woman. I use Cold reading
in Mid Game primarily.
Cold reading does many of the things conducive
to seduction. Here are a few:
• Conveys understanding of her world
• Demonstrates value
• Gets her intrigued
• Builds rapport through understanding
• Tells her how to ACT around you
My suggestions for learning this skill are:
1) Familiarize yourself with basic personality
“types”. I’ve included the two general types of
women (Physically and Emotionally sexual
female)
2) You can use a tool like “The Cube”. The book
“Secrets of the Cube” by Annie Gottleib is
excellent. Other tools could be palmistry or
handwriting analysis, although a thorough
knowledge of these isn’t what’s important.
What’s important is conveying authority and
being convincing. Focus on the interaction… be
in the moment.
3) Know certain categorizations: Inner vs. Outer –
For example “Inner health” is much different
than “Outer” health. Outer wealth is much
different than Inner wealth. Outer relationships
are much different than Inner relationships.
4) Use what they give you. Watch their responses
One understanding that
will bring out the VIXEN
in her
Now, I KNOW this profile well. When Iʹm with a
woman who is PHYSICAL in any way ‐ like she
may be into working out, running, sports ‐ I start
to paint this picture of HERSELF for her.
Now WHY do I do this ‐ well this is what COLD
READING is about and I do this so sheʹll know
HOW TO ACT with me!
Ok, so when I say a woman is PHYSICALLY
sexual, it does not mean that she doesnʹt feel
emotions, but that she places her physical body
ʹIN FRONTʹ of her to protect her emotions, and
therefore requires a great deal of physical
attention. She experiences the world through her
body. Now hereʹs the material you can use for
COLD READING with PHYSICAL females:
• A female can become physically sexual at a
very early age if she receives a lot of
physical attention from her father or if she
is emotionally rejected.
• If a female is involved with an emotionally
sexual male as an adult and he rejects her,
she will become more physical.
• If a physical female is deprived of physical
attention she’ll become even more
physical
• A Physical female wants to be the image of
the perfect partner
• She is strongly influenced by how others see
her, and is very eye‐minded herself, so her
dress and overall appearance become very
important to her
• She spends a lot of time keeping up her
appearance
• She tends to have more confidence in her
attractiveness than the emotional female,
and is more able to see her body as being
satisfactory
• The physical female wants to please her
partner, and is deeply hurt if he criticizes
the actions that she has taken to please
him.
• In every respect the extreme physical female
attempts to embody femininity, and the
specific considerations detailed below can
all be viewed in light of this attempt
• She thrives on sex and looks at men sexually
• She may perform sexually once a day or as
much as five times a day
• She can be somewhat vain and tends to
exaggerate her need to prove she is
feminine
• Generally, she may lack confidence in any
situation where a deep emotional
involvement is present
• She has a tendency to be immature at times,
and is usually extremely possessive
• If the physical female is with a male who is
withdrawn or undemonstrative, or who
does not compliment her, she will feel
rejected and become hurt or angry
• She finds herself catering to her mate and
can be easily hurt and controlled in a
relationship because of her need and
desire to be accepted
• Usually she feels that she puts more energy
into making a relationship work than her
partner does.
• She needs plenty of personal attention and
affection, such as having her hand held,
doors opened for her, etc.
• If she is accepted sexually and feels sexual
gratification, she interprets this as
emotional acceptance.
• The physical female functions on physical
feelings, and as a rule is very intuitive.
She can therefore sometimes be irrational
and it may be difficult to explain any
logical idea or to discuss things with her
when she is upset
• She may like rough sex and heavily physical
stimulation
One understanding that
will bring out her SOFT
side
Now, the EMOTIONAL female is altogether
DIFFERENT. You can tell these types by the
SPACEY look in their eyes! Go to a NEW AGE
convention and youʹll find that most of these
chicks are EMOTIONAL.
Now, the emotionally sexual female uses her
emotions to defend her physical feelings. She has
an inward emotional need that she feels must be
satisfied and she therefore covers her physical
need by exhibiting the OPPOSITE behavior and
WITHDRAWING INTO herself.
Hereʹs some of the material that you can use for
COLD READING Emotional women:
• She usually has trouble expressing herself
and tends to feel her emotions more
deeply than she expresses them
• She tends to be deeply devoted to work and
career, and may even be into women’s
liberation groups
• She is more likely to have female friends
than the physical female (who considers
other women a threat) and also openly
admires other women’s bodies
• She looks for attractive points in other
female bodies because she is never totally
satisfied with her own
• She dresses more conservatively than the
physical type
• The emotionally sexual female has sexual
cycles, meaning that she usually feels the
desire for sexual stimulation once every
three to seven days, and sometimes only
once a month.
• In the beginnings of a relationship, she
wants sex often, but as the relationship
goes on, her sex drive wanes.
• Immediately after sex she doesn’t want to be
touched
• She cannot become aroused if she feels
overly possessed or if arguments precede
sex
• Sexual stimulation starts with her mind, not
in her body, so her mind has to be relaxed
before she can enjoy sex
• A 100% emotionally sexual female will have
little or no arousal from kissing or heavy
physical stimulation and may even be
irritated by it
• The Emotionally sexual female doesn’t want
to be expected to have sex. If she feels that
her partner is coming home expecting sex,
and if this feels like habit, she’ll start to
dread it and will begin to think of ways to
avoid sex
• She may start to make up excuses not to
have sex. And stay up late after her
partner goes to sleep. She may fake a
headache or actually develop one. If she
works, she may say that she is too tired.
• The more she is pushed sexually, the more
she backs up into her shell
Now this stuff is kind of technical and kind of
ADVANCED, so until you get really good at
COLD READING, you may want to skip this
section and come back to it later to further
enhance your cold reads.
Now these are called “Meta‐programs” which
are patterns of behavior that people often repeat
without realizing. These are the DEEP
STRUCTURES behind the SURFACE
STRUCTURES of behavior.
1) Focus of Interest
∙ People Oriented
∙ Activity Oriented
∙ Things Oriented
∙ Place Oriented
∙ Data Oriented
2) Match vs. Mismatch
∙ Matcher
You looks for sameness
You see what’s happening now as similar to
what happened in the past
You look for what is there
You tend to look for things in terms of what they
have in common with
You tend to look for how things fit together
You Match what people say with what you
already know
∙ Mismatcher
You tend to Looks at how things are different
You can see how things don’t fit together
You can find what is not there that people often
miss
You may sort for what is missing
You more often look for what is not present
You may look more at how things are different
3) Necessity vs. Possibility
∙ Necessity
You are mostly motivated by need, obligation,
responsibility, pressures
You may be motivated to do something because
you must rather than because you want to
You have a tendency to take what comes and
accept it
You are more interested in what is known than
what is not known
Your actions tend to be planned
You give the impression that you have to do
things
You may have the sense that you either really
don’t have choice or maybe that you have
trouble making choices
You look for proven ways, ʺhow toʺ, and ʺstep
by stepʺ ways, what has worked
∙ Possibility
You have a desire to learn
You can look at things and see what is possible
You are motivated to look for new options and
new challenges
You are very interested in potential
You can be good at developing new ways to do
things
You are always looking to expands your
horizons
4) Toward vs. Away
∙ Toward
You move toward your goals, Moves toward
outcomes
You move toward what you want
You May have a tendency to have difficulty
seeing what needs to be avoided
You sometimes may minimize negative
consequences
∙ Away
You move away from what you don’t want
You are good at identifying problems
At times you may have a tendency to focus on
problems
May have trouble defining or articulating their
goals or what you do want
You may become easily distracted by negative
consequences
5) Specific vs. Global
∙ Specific
You can have a tendency to perceive things in
terms of its parts
You’re good at breaking down tasks and things
into smaller parts
You’re very detail oriented, You want details
first
You can sometimes get caught up in the details,
and miss the overall goal
You feel like you need to have the details in
sequence, what to do, where and how to begin,
and what to do next
You need to know how each step contributes to
overall goal
You need to have concrete examples
∙ Global
You talk and think in terms of generalities
You’re very Big Picture oriented
You concentrate more on the overall direction of
a project or task, rather than each step of the way
You want to see the Big Picture first then the
details
You can tend to summarize things using general
terms and abstract examples
You may have difficulty following step by step
procedures
You often talk about overviews, leaving out
specific details
You may talk about events without attention to
sequences
6) Associated vs. Dissociated
∙ Associated
You tend to see time as a series of events and
related episodes
Can go back to a memory and relive it vividly
You tend to be less aware of how time passes
when you’re into something
You can easily get caught up in the now
You tend to make decisions quite quickly
You have a high drive to complete something in
the short‐run, but in the
long‐run, you can have trouble completing
things
You are more related to a feeler rather than a
detached thinker
You are more in touch with your feelings
∙ Dissociated
Tendency to see events as a series of related
episodes
Time can be linear, long at times
Aware of the duration of time
You can tend to go through a long process when
you make decisions
You are able to detach yourself from emotions
and be objective
You have a tendency to be on time and impatient
with anyone that is late
You’re more likely to review a situation, rather
than to relive it
More related to analytical, thinker rather than
feeler
7) Focus of attention: Self vs. Others
∙ Self
You basically perceive interactions in terms of
what is in it for you
You attend to your own thoughts and feelings
You can be compelled to respond to your own
inner world needs
You can ʺbe insideʺ a lot and sometimes can have
a difficult time connecting with others thoughts
and needs
You evaluate your feelings about others
primarily by what is going on and how you feel
∙ Others
You basically perceive interactions in terms of
what you can do for other people
Others are the focus of your attention
You focus on the outside world and pay
attention to people
You primarily respond to others thoughts and
feelings primarily by what responses you are
getting from others
You organize situations to please people
You try to anticipate others responses and needs
Taken to extremes, can be co‐dependent
8) External vs. Internal locus of control
∙ Internal
Your validation and source of authority comes
from within
You rely on your own criteria, evaluations, and
judgments
You evaluate things on the basis of what you
think is appropriate
You use your own feelings to know when you’ve
done a good job
You may also be your own harshest critic
You are convinced by things that you already
know to be true by your own experience
You resist when someone else tries to decide
what is right for you
You have to know for yourself that something is
right for you
∙ External
Validation is sought from outside of yourself
You rely on others evaluations, judgments, and
feedback to develop your own opinions
You require direction from others
You can draw conclusions based on others
reactions
You often have to ask others what they think
about things
You may tend to conform to other peoples
standards
You rely on external sources for knowing things
are true
You respond to the external world
9) Power vs. Achievement vs. Affiliation
∙ Power
You look for being in control, making choices for
yourself and maybe for other people
∙ Achievement
You are interested in the goals you can
accomplish, the results you can get
∙ Affiliation
You are interested in the people that you can be
with, who you are seen with and affiliated with
10) Beginning process or Completion
∙ Beginning process
You enjoy starting new projects, ideas,
beginnings
∙ Completion
You enjoy finishing things, seeing what you can
mark off your list
11) Positive vs. Negative
∙ Positive
You are optimistic, ʺThe glass is half fullʺ
You’re the kind of person that can take adversity
and begin to see the good, the silver lining in the
darkness
You can see the benefit of how experiences may
work together for the good in your life
∙ Negative
You tend to be more realistic rather than overly
optimistic about things
12) Sequential vs. Random
∙ Sequential
Your thought patterns tends to be more
sequential, and linear at times, organized from
point a to point b, very linear as well
∙ Random
Your thoughts tend to seem unorganized
although you may talk around a topic and may
run off on tangents at times
You can get distracted sometimes from what you
were originally talking about
You sometimes get caught up in the tangents
13) Independent vs. Proximity vs. Cooperative
∙ Independent
You like to work alone
∙ Proximity
You’re fine taking responsibility for task, but you
like to be around other people when you work
∙ Cooperative
You enjoy sharing work as a team and working
with others in a group
14) Convincer filters: Number of times vs.
Length of time
∙ Number of times
You are convinced by something by the number
of times that you experience results and how
many times you get these results
∙ Length of time
You are convinced by something by how
constant the results are for you over a period of
time
∙ Consistent
You need to be convinced every single time and
are never really ever fully convinced
One of the BEST WAYS
to TRIGGER a woman's
EMOTIONS
Hereʹs ANOTHER POWERFUL WAY of getting
a woman to FEEL. This is the ʺFILE SYSTEMʺ at
work again.
Talk about a PLACE that sheʹs attached an
EMOTION to. Now there are some UNIVERSAL
places ‐ like take the BEACH for example.
I first got turned on to this idea when I was
talking to a CHICK one day and she was talking
about when she was a little girl. She said, ʺWhen
I was little, there was this swing in the back of
the house, and there was this little running brook
there... and you could hear the sound of running
water... and I used to go there for hours and just
look up at the stars sometimes... Iʹd go there
whenever I got upset or needed to be alone... I
felt totally SAFE thereʺ
I said to her, ʺYou know you can STILL go
there... whenever you feel upset or stressed... just
close your eyes and see the swing... look up at
the stars... hear the running brook... itʹs like
youʹre there now...ʺ
And she looked at me and said, ʺYOU make me
feel totally SAFE!ʺ
So as I further fleshed this concept out I worked
out some basic principles:
1) Meet a woman WHERE SHEʹS AT ‐ mentally,
emotionally, and physically. From here you can
lead them into other places... or create new ones.
2) Find her LINKS between INTERNAL places
and EXTERNAL places
Now this gets kind of DEEP so unless youʹre in
the mood then just skip this part... but if you
really want to learn some GREAT underlying
principles then READ ON.
There is a differentiation between Internal reality
and External reality, although without
consciously thinking about it we experience the
world as one Integrated reality. In fact, because
we experience reality as this ʺIntegrationʺ of
Internal/External factors, there is no ʺreal timeʺ
distinction (without stepping ) between the two...
hence my definition of an ʺanchorʺ is a ʺlinkʺ
between the External and the Internal world. In
other words, physically cueing the External
world creates Internal cues through this link...
There are Internal Places (emotions/states) and
External Places... and the two are often linked
(anchored to each other). This brings me to
elicitation/evoking emotions as a place... and
importantly ʺplaces as emotionsʺ.
Iʹll ask a woman, ʺWhat is your favorite place in
the world?... tell me about it...ʺ or ʺIf you could
be anywhere right now, where would you be?...ʺ
or ʺWhat was your favorite place when you were
growing up?...ʺ and as they describe the place...
the FEELINGS start to come back.
How to LOCK IN your
position with a woman
Sometimes Iʹll say to a chick, ʺYouʹre a bad girl
arenʹt you...?ʺ TOTALLY a rhetorical question
because she knows she is!
Then Iʹll say, ʺBut youʹre BAD in a GOOD way
right?ʺ ANOTHER rhetorical question...
Then Iʹll say, ʺAnd youʹre GOOD in a BAD way
too huh?...ʺ
You get the idea. These are questions that LEAD.
These kinds of questions donʹt really have an
answer... they just LEAD a woman to where you
want her to go!
Think of all the things that have to be true about
a womanʹs reality. Turn these statements into
Rhetorical questions. Think of where you want
things to go... THEN make the DOT to DOT
connections between the Rhetorical questions
and the RESULTS that youʹre going for.
The Principle that
hopelessly draws her to
you
White is only as white as black is black.
Let me illustrate. Have you ever seen a chick that
would go for BAD boy jerks... one after the other
and then get tired of it and gor for a teddy bear
NICE GUY, and when she tired of that sheʹd go
for the BAD boy jerks again. Weʹll sheʹs one that
needs CONTRAST.
One is only as good as the other is BAD... but
then again, sometimes BAD can be GOOD!
Weʹre always COMPARING and
CONTRASTING. Like it or not, a woman is
instantly comparing you to every boyfriend sheʹs
ever had... So donʹt you hate those guys that
break the BELL CURVE!?
Well, now you can BE one of those guys...
So how does this apply to Seduction? Give her
the best of BOTH... never be predictable... this
HOT/COLD technique can create an underlying
TENSION that will keep her HOOKED!
Another application is the ʺBaitingʺ technique
where you may show an outward ʺStrongʺ side
with a hint of inner ʺSensitivityʺ. This is also
CONTRAST.
How to get a woman to do
ANYTHING
Thereʹs the story of the frog that is put into the
pot of water as the heat is turned up slowly...
and the frog doesnʹt jump out because the
change is so slow that it is unrecognized.
You can get a woman to do virtually
ANYTHING using this principle and given
enough time and patience. But in order for it to
work BEST, you have to BREAK UP the tension ‐
turn it on, turn it off, turn it on more, turn it off...
Just think of it as continually testing and
CONDITIONING for RESPONSIVENESS. When
women decide to have SEX, itʹs because they are
Responsive... men on the other hand are
Persistent
One surefire way to
overcome resistance
Do you ever wish that you had a CROWBAR to
break down a chicks resistance and open up her
responsiveness?
The ʺcrowbar methodʺ does just this...
Hereʹs an example: Letʹs say you are talking to
someone that you want to do ʺXʺ.
You say, ʺThink of a number from 1 to 10 and if I
can tell you what it is, then you have to do ʺXʺ,
OK?ʺ
Now if she says OK... then youʹre IN! Youʹve
taken her from a categorical NO to a MAYBE...
Then they think of the number and you follow
up saying some random number (if you do
Mentalism even better...)
This technique is PERFECT for that ʺtoken anti‐
slutʺ resistance!
Blake Richard's Deep
Rapport Builder
This theme is a rapport builder as well as an
opportunity for anchoring for those of you that
do this. In addition, it really shows that you
get it, when it comes to ʺrelationshipsʺ, when a
woman brings it up.
I’ve had to come up with a good response on the
fly when women have asked me what I’m
looking for in a ʺrelationshipʺ. I normally donʹt
like to bring up the ʺRʺ word, but when a gal
brings it up, you have to have a good reply... one
that will show them that you are intelligent,
that you have it together, that you are
sophisticated, and that there is more to you than
meets the eye.
Now the context of using this is that I have only
used it with gals in a casual environment, (a
bookstore, coffee shops, restaurant). This is for
when you are alone, having one of those one on
one, deep rapport conversations, as a prelude to
(a few steps before) the full close.
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“I have a new theory about all relationships and what
makes up the ideal one.
First of all you need Passion. This is where you have
a physical chemistry with this person, where you feel
drawn to this person that you’re with,
you may even feel a warm feeling right here in your
stomach and maybe it spreads all over your body
when your with this person… where you can
lose track of time and give yourself completely to this
experience…
Next you need Intimacy. This is where you feel an
emotional connection with this person, like you’ve
known them before, and like you were always
meant to know this person… like this was meant to be
and where you feel completely comfortable and close…
and you may feel it right here
in your heart…
Then you need Commitment. Philosophers have
called this a sense of “duty”… where you feel secure,
knowing that this is someone that is
here for you, that we both choose to be together… and
this is someone that you can see yourself with now
and in the future…
Now, all relationships are based on varying degrees of
each one of these elements.
For example if you have just passion, but no intimacy
or commitment, then that would be like just physical
infatuation. Like a one night stand or
something… nothing more, nothing less…
If you have just intimacy, but no passion or
commitment, then that would be just friendship. And
we all have those…
If you have just commitment, but no passion or
intimacy, then that would be an empty relationship.
Like a lot of married people out there… so sad.
Then you can have passion and intimacy, but no
commitment. This is like a “Romantic affair”… and
maybe the knowledge that it is something thatʹs
now or never… or that you have no guarantees about,
makes the passion and intimacy even more intense…
And you can have passion and commitment, but no
intimacy. That is like people who stay together
because they really like the sex.
And you can have intimacy and commitment but no
passion. That would be like grandma and grandpa
who are together for companionship, but
cant remember the last time they did it.
And of course the ideal, as with all things… is about
balance, where you can have just the right amount of
passion, just the right amount of intimacy,
and just the right amount of commitment… well…
now that I think about it, an extra little bit more
passion would be nice… what do you think?”
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One of the BEST WAYS
to make a woman feel
comfortable
and to BUILD RAPPORT
Telling stories is one of the best ways to Build
Comfort and Rapport in the Mid Game. It gets a
chick ENGAGED and when everyoneʹs
attention is on you, it says all the RIGHT
THINGS!
Here are a couple of tips about the way that I tell
stories.
Get to the point where you can improvise your
stories based on themes… NEVER memorize
stories ʺword for wordʺ... and be sure
to throw in little details that the person that
youʹre talking to can identify with – details in
your story that have some similar characteristics
with the situation or the gal you’re talking to.
One thing that I do is to link the woman Iʹm with
to a character in my story. And that character is
in a similar situation and of course the
character does exactly what you what the girl to
do. – also keep in mind that you can use this
same tactic as a tease if the story is about
a “dorky” girl that she ʺremindsʺ you of.
For example, hereʹs one that I use... If there is a
girl that you are with that is kind of sexually
inhibited you may say,
ʺYou know, you kind of remind me of this girl
that I know... Actually you look a lot like her...
My friend Jen, and I remember she was
telling me about how she was with this guy
once, and she was totally turned on... theyʹre like
over at her place on her couch, alone,
late at night... the mood was perfect... candles
were on, they had the wine out... and theyʹre
here totally making out, and getting
all into it... but you know what she told me was
that she had been kind of shy when it came to
sex... (Iʹm Pacing her here) but she totally
wanted it. But you know, it kind of took her
awhile, and it was just like a reflex to keep
pushing her boyfriend away... (more pacing)
I guess it was just like a pattern that she got into,
and she really just kept doing it out if reflex, not
even really thinking about it.
So anyway, at the end of the night, her boyfriend
had been pushed away so much that he just
stops everything... no kissing, no
touching, nothing... and he gets up and says kind
of in a matter of fact tone, ʺIʹm going home...
goodnightʺ And he starts walking
toward the door.
And then Jen tells me she didnʹt know what got
into her... (leading now) she just jumps up and
starts ripping his clothes off, her clothes off,
pulls him to her bedroom and she said that it
was just an incredible night... they totally went at
it... she said it was like everything
that she had always really wanted to do, she
did... totally uninhibited. She said it was just
awesome... so now, what do you think?ʺ
And ending this with a question, I get to
calibrate her even more, and of course sheʹs
ʺidentifiedʺ with the character in my story (Jen).
So she gets to ʺbeʺ Jen for the duration of my
story... and so that when that moment comes for
us where we’re the ones making out on
the couch, sheʹll have already gone through both
the resistance and then giving up the resistance in
her mind through ʺJenʺ.
Iʹve also use stories about a ʺfriendʺ that a gal
reminds me of, to do things like bring out
bisexual qualities, bring out the ʺnaughty sideʺ,
open up a gal to the ʺfriends plusʺ frame, getting
gals to role play (being a ho/stripper), getting
gals to experiment and more...
One of the best ways to accelerate rapport in the
Mid Game is venue changing.
Iʹve gone from coffee shop inside to coffee shop
outside (to get ʺfresh airʺ)... to outside in their car
(because ʺitʹs coldʺ to ... :) to their car.
Remember also that one important principle in
persuasion is that if someone is stuck
emotionally, get them moving physically.
This is using the mind/body connection.
The more venues a woman feels comfortable
with you in, the more her overall comfort level
is.
One other key that needs to be mentioned ‐
Isolation. If you have isolation first ‐ then why
change venues?
To give you an example, the day before
yesterday (Wednesday afternoon), I went to pick
up a 28 year old blond with a tight body and
long legs from her house.
When I called her on the phone that day she
asked, ʺSo do you want to meet somewhere or
do you just want to pick me up?ʺ
Well ‐ if a woman gives you an opportunity to
isolate... take it!
We had met at a coffee shop last week and talked
briefly and I was just following up on it.
Well I went to pick her up and as we sat on her
couch, I thought to myself, ʺShe enough into me
that we donʹt have to go out!ʺ
So I built sexual attraction and comfort (using
some of my Sexual Rapport material) ‐ and
BAM... we were off to her bedroom within
30 minutes ‐ no venue changes... just isolation.
Blake Richards Top 10 End Game Mistakes
First of all, let me tell you what End Game is. All successful
seductions have an End Game phase. This is where you have built up the
attraction and comfort and you are alone with the woman. So it’s at
THIS stage that the results of the Seduction are playing out. This is
where so many guys screw up… and it’s often focused on the least
in seduction because to tell you the truth, not many guys get there.
There off getting phone numbers – and that’s IT. Believe me – the
focus of this book, “GAME” is about how to get PAST that point and
on to the Seduction.
Ok, now to the top 10 End Game mistakes that most guys make
and what you can do to avoid these mistakes:
1) Bad Logistics
One guy I used to know would go out and say, “I’m going to get laid
tonight!” And then we’d get to the club and he’d go home to his parents
house – no lay. I told him, “Now exactly where are you going to do
this? And do you have condoms – ON you, and if a woman were to
walk up to you right now and want to have sex with you, would
you be ready?” – Hmmm? was his answer.
The point is, if you WANT success, you have to be READY for it.
Now, when I want to get laid, I have a framework of how I want it to happen.
Sure‐ it can be spontaneous and I have to have some flexibility built
in, but one of the keys to End Game is Isolation and not just that, but
logistics ALREADY in place for every Isolation scenario that you
could come up with.
For example, I have condoms in my CAR… Now did they come in
handy? – Well last WEEK they did when I was out with a chick at a
DRIVE IN. Same day close with her…
2) They trigger her automatic responses
Now all chicks have an automatic response for a guy getting
physical with them – It’s just something that’s BUILT IN – through
evolution to protect their productive resources. And when you think
about it, they HAVE to have this in place because
then they would end up a being a HO or be pregnant their whole
lives!
So what are the typical triggers? I’ll list a couple:
When a guy gets too sexual too fast
When a guy stops “talking” and just goes into LUST mode
before she does
When she get the feeling that a guy just wants her for SEX or just
sees her as an object
When a guy goes straight for the crotch –most of the time at least
When a guy seems too eager to get down her pants
When a guy seems sneaky and dishonest
You get the point. The key is to go slow, keep talking to her, be
suggestive without being overtly sexual, and wait until SHE goes first
with being physically sexual.
3) They engage her logical mind
Just imagine this: you’re on the couch with a chick, maybe watching
a movie or talking, and you start to notice the VIBE as the sexual
tension is building. You know that it COULD be GAME ON if you
play your cards right… Now what do a lot of guys do? They get all
nervous at this point and start talking about GUY stuff… LOGICAL
stuff like work, school, analyzing this and that… BIG mistake!
You want her logical mind OFF at this point. Don’t say or DO
anything that could engage her logical mind. You don’t want her solving
MATH while you’re trying to get her in bed!
The focus should be on the FEELINGS. Get her arousal AMPED UP.
Build the sexual tension. In my book, I go into depth on how to
build this using a PROPULSION mechanism – and for those of you
that don’t know what that is, it’s a motivational system where you
have both PUSH from avoiding pain and PULL from pursuing
pleasure.
4) They don’t build up the comfort enough
A chick will RARELY get physical with a guy that she’s not
comfortable with. You need to build up the comfort and rapport before
you go into END GAME. When you hear a chick say, “But I hardly
know you!” – Then you know you need more comfort building!
In my book I extensively cover MID GAME which focuses on
Comfort building and Rapport – so Check it out!
5) They take the first sign of resistance as failure
Now not all chick will go to bed with you the first time you make
your move. Most of the times, chicks need REPEATED attempts
where you FLIRT with her comfort zone. You know, every chick has
a comfort zone – a line where things go from being Rated “R”
to being rated “X”. And if you push that line too much, it may shut
her down – so FLIRT with that line. When she offers resistance,
PULL BACK. And I’m talking ANY resistance – and I pull WAY
back and go back into comfort building (MID GAME).
Then as I approach that line again, I can come that much CLOSER to
that line until I have to pull back again. As this may be repeated
several times, you get that much closer and closer to her comfort
zone line until before she knows it, you’re INSIDE her!
(I talk about this in my book in the chapter on the Gradient
Principle)
6) They follow THEIR OWN automatic responses and don’t make
the bold move
You know that ONE POINT in the date, where you know it could go
one way or the other. And you know that what you do at that point
could MAKE or BREAK the seduction? Have you guys been there? I
have – too many times, but I’ve learned something.
Too many times before I would just GO WITH THE FLOW… and to
tell you the truth – that’s just not conducive to seduction!
How many times have you been over at a chick’s house… it’s late at
night and you can tell that it could be “Game On”, and then
she tells you, “It’s getting late… I should go to bed” and you say,
“Ok… well I enjoyed hanging out with you… and I’ll talk to you later…”
Then as you hear the door shut you’re wondering where you went
wrong… you could be in BED with her right NOW!
So how do you get over this? Well first of all, be AWARE of your
automatic responses and hers as well. And know that you can use
whatever a woman gives you. Like in the example above, what if
you were to say… “Go to bed?! But I hardly know you! I’m not that
easy… but I could be if you gave me a massage!”
So you see how you need to interrupt the auto‐response! And humor
works best followed up with a suggestive comment.
7) They don’t focus on the moment
At this phase in the Game, a lot of guys are in their own heads and
not focusing on the moment. They may be thinking of the last
pattern to use or what to say next… but to tell you the truth – at this
stage in the game, you need to throw those out and focus on
getting her to FEEL in the MOMENT. This is where seduction
happens!
And you want to get her associated into the moment as well by
getting her to FEEL (including body feelings). The thing about
FEELINGS is that they draw a person into the moment. Like when
someone is angry for instance – and they can’t think about
anything else… or when someone feels pain – that’s VERY real in
the moment. The same goes for feeling pleasure and for
feeling AROUSED sexually.
8) They think that the woman will lead them by the hand
At this stage in the game, even women that seem sexually aggressive
will want the MAN to take action first. One chick that
I was with said she wanted a guy that was “Confident”. I asked her,
“So how do you know when a guy is confident?” She said,
“When he’s able to do with me what I really want him to do without
me telling him how to do it.”
When you get certain “buying signals” from a woman, you need to
close QUICKLY. Now not all buying signals are equal. For
example, a suggestive flirtatious smile when you offer to massage
her is much different then when she pulls her pants down and
bends over! Let your buying signals tell you how quickly to move…
9) They’re attached too much to the outcome
One thing that women have radar for is “Neediness”. In fact a guy
who’s willing to walk AWAY from her has more power
than she does in the “negotiation”.
Instead of focusing on the outcome (the home run), focus a little on
the process – but mostly be in the MOMENT.
If a woman does a take away from you and you don’t respond… it
tells her that YOUR in control and it communicates
that YOU have CHOICE. – After all, how many guy would actually
decline an offer of sex from an attractive woman?
And if she senses that you would – then you’ve upped your value in
her eyes… as well as made yourself a challenge for her!
10) They go too fast and out of her “sequence” without amping up
the desire enough
Remember, building desire is about building the sexual tension.
Take time to let her get her buying temperature up. Tease her,
play hot/cold, FLIRT with her comfort line (the line where things go
from being rated R to being rated X) until SHE crosses it.
And go the typical “physical” sequence unless she gives you
resistance – in which case you pull back to Mid Game, then as you go
back into End Game, you test again at the NEXT higher level.
I call these “Courtship Stages” and I talk way more in depth about
them in my book. These are the typical physical steps in a
seduction. Now the order doesn’t always apply, but for the most
part they do. For example, if you go straight from “hand to hand”
to “Hand to Genitals”, most chicks will resist. So know this natural
sequence.
Here’s an abbreviated version:
hand to hand => arm to waist => mouth to mouth => hand to head =>
hand to body => mouth to breast => hand to genitals =>
genitals to genitals or mouth to genitals
To wrap up, well there you have it guys, my top 10 End Game
Mistakes and how to overcome them!
The 3 AMAZING
questions that will cause a
woman to JUMP you!
Now, would you like to learn 3 AMAZING
questions that will get a woman to JUMP YOU!?
Well, READ ON.
First of all, before even attempting this, there
must be rapport. I make sure to only do this
when I have her in a place where I can
logistically close her... (i.e. you and her alone in a
locked room (or private place) with little chance
of interruption , whether that
be at your place or hers or any other setup)...
This is also done as part of the ʺImpulse Closeʺ to
build up the chemistry and sexual tension where
there is a phase shift into a sexual state.
1) The Sexual Value: X
ʺWHAT ABOUT SEX REALLY TURNS YOU
ON?ʺ
The quality itself that a gal enjoys about sex and
wants more of. (i.e. Romantic sex, Nasty sex,
Bondage sex, taboo sex...)
2) The Rule: Y
ʺHOW DO YOU KNOW THAT YOU HAVE X?ʺ
This is the way that she knows that she has that
quality... What she/he does. i.e. Her process.
ʺHow do you know when youʹre having really
_______ sex or youʹre feeling really _______? What
kindʹs of things do you do, or does
the other person do?ʺ ʺHow do you know that you
have this sense of _______ when youʹre with this
person thatʹs closest to you...ʺ
3) Interaction between the Value and the Rule: Z
ʺSO WHAT IS IT LIKE TO HAVE X WHERE
YOUʹRE DOING Y?ʺ
and BOOM! ‐ she goes into Sexual FEELING
mode!
4) Repeat back X, Y, Z
(Value) = X, (Rule) = Y, (Interaction) = Z
ʺSo when youʹre with this person where youʹre
having the most X sex, where youʹre/theyʹre doing Y,
and you feel this sense of Z …
This is what you really enjoy about it, isnʹt it...ʺ
Now another Example:
1) ʺWhat is it about SEX that you really enjoy?ʺ
She may respond with ʺfeeling skin on skinʺ…
(This is really Y... what they do…
the rule… i.e. how they know)
Focus back on the quality:
ʺSo what does feeling skin on skin give you?ʺ
Then they may respond with something like
ʺClosenessʺ. NOW, Closeness (X) is the quality
that you are after.
2) ʺClosenessʺ (X Quality) … ʺSkin on skinʺ (Y
Rule) to the Interaction between the two (Z)
ʺSO WHAT IS IT LIKE when you have a sense of
closeness with this person, where you can feel skin on
skin... ?ʺ
3) ʺIt feels COMPLETEʺ (Z Interaction between
quality and rule… i.e. WHAT IT GIVES THEM)
4) You then repeat it all back to them as you
anchor the state.
ʺSo say that youʹre with this person who is closest to
you, where you feel this closeness, this feeling of skin
on skin… where you feel this sense of
completion… where this is something that you really
enjoy and something that you want, isnʹt it…ʺ
7 ways to accelerate the
CLOSE
There are many many sexual ʺstoriesʺ out there.
And there are many ways to introduce sexual
ʺthemesʺ and from there itʹs a hop, skip
and a jump to the full close provided the locale is
appropriate.
When I tell a sexual ʺstoryʺ or introduce a sexual
theme, I may approach it as follows:
1) A story about a friendʹs experience
2) A sexual JOKE
3) A story that I just make up that seems to pace
the current situation between her and I
4) A story that I want her opinion on and that
can give me ʺinsightʺ into the ʺway that women
thinkʺ
5) You can pick up any womans magazine like
Cosmopolitan etc. and find many articles on sex
(from attitudes, beliefs, techniques,
shouldʹs/shouldnʹts, to tabooʹs, how toʹs, etc.)
This provides an endless supply of material and
themes to ʺask her aboutʺ.
6) As part of a Cold Reading... if she seems
overtly like a ʺPhysical typeʺ Iʹll include a
reading about her Sexuality.
7) As part of an analysis like ʺThe Cubeʺ: Which
includes a Sexual analysis (The Horse)
8) Indirectly/Covertly: by using sexual metaphor
(phalic/feminine intercourse symbology) ‐ and
language words like: Penetrating you, wet,
hard, sliding in deep, feel it deep inside, filling
you up, coming etc. If they ever call me on it, I
just play innocent and say, ʺYou donʹt
want to think about sex all the time, DO you?
Youʹre kind of perverted! I better be careful
around you.ʺ ‐ Reverses the frame)
The goal during all this talk is to get her
FEELING the sensations IN HER BODY. When
telling a story, go into the sensual details...
explicitly,
telling it as if she were ʺin the first person modeʺ
experiencing it herself. When asking her
ʺopinionsʺ, and about what she likes,
you could ʺNormalizeʺ it by at first making it not
about her, but what most women like, then get her
to go into detail about how
she feels it in her body, where, what comes first...
then next, etc.
Women get so turned on and ready to go just by
having them describe what a female orgasm feels
like... step by step, what they do,
how they know itʹs coming, how they feel it...
what itʹs like when they get to that moment...
One Closing technique
that makes her lose control
The IMPULSE CLOSE occurs Impulsively. You
want to overwhelm any defense all at once, not
ever having given them a chance to build
up their defenses, and do it at a moment when it
is the most advantageous to do so.
How do you apply this to the Close?
This is the Breakdown of my Impulse Close
method:
Until I extract them to a private place;
1) Vague and Ambiguous or “Indirectly Direct”:
I will use lots of sexual metaphor, sexual stories
and themes…
2) Open up the Sexual talk early on: I will talk a
little about sexual talk so that I have a lead in for
later when we are alone (ʺYou know
you were telling me about X... I just remembered
one more thing...ʺ)
3) Create Doubt: I want them to not be sure if
there really is anything... even if they give me
signs of interest, I will play hard to
get and maybe respond minimally if they
outright get physical.
4) Create Safety: I want them to feel safe and
comfortable about being alone with me.
5) Early Light Touching: There is a difference
between touching that sends the ʺIʹm interestedʺ
message, and touching that gets them
comfortable with you touching them. I do the
latter... which may confuse them more because I
donʹt outright cross that line at first.
And because I donʹt get outright physical with
them, they feel OK about going back to my place
to ʺWatch a videoʺ or ʺHang outʺ for a while.
(Iʹve had many gals tell me that they werenʹt sure
if I liked them or if I didnʹt until we were alone)
When Alone:
6) Recapitulate/Repeat Sexual themes: Then
when alone, I bring up the sexual themes/sexual
value elicitation combined with:
7) Heavy touching to Close: I pour on sexual
rapport touching at the same time, look for green
lights, and if all lights are green, I donʹt
stop until the Close.
How to Understand a
woman's CODE
Hereʹs a concept that a friend of mine Tyler
Durden turned me on to. (Check out the site
www.RealSocialDynamics.com ) and
David DeAngeloʹs site (
www.DoubleYourDating.com ).
There are ʺSub‐communicationsʺ being
communicated on many different levels. Sure
ʺValueʺ is one of those levels and
of course it is very important to seduction.
Keep in mind that from an evolutionary
standpoint, women are hard‐wired to respond to
men that convey value ‐this means the
guy with the money, resources, social proof,
status, prestige, etc... and yes this is just one of the
sub‐communications that we
communicate and that others communicate to us.
Now how can we better understand these sub
communications? I think some of the answers
can be found in Evolutionary Psychology ‐
Human Mating Strategies.
This has to do with how weʹve been hard‐wired
by evolution to select, compete for, and attract
mates. Just think, all of us are the
products of reproductive success.
This means that we all have it hard‐wired in us
to know naturally what to do to get laid! Itʹs just
a matter of being able to adjust
to today’s contexts and situations. Those who
donʹt get selected out. (i.e. they donʹt get laid)
Here are some of the categories and these arenʹt
necessarily what we think of consciously ‐ much
of it is unconscious and just kind
of forms a ʺgestaltʺ and an impression. In other
words, this is what the unconscious animal part of
us thinks ‐ the part of us that has
been selected for by Evolution.
1) Value ‐ The sub‐communication is ʺWhat will I
get out of being with this person?ʺ ‐ This is based
on the perception of status,
social proof, resources...
For men ‐ either having or having the potential
for the accumulation of resources (having
characteristics like ambition, intelligence,
industriousness etc.)
For women ‐ the physical characteristics of
beauty, health, sexual capacity etc. as well as
status, etc. that confer a societal value
2) Physical ‐ The sub‐communication is ʺDo they
have good genes?ʺ and ʺCan they protect me?ʺ
I think this is a little different than the sexual
communication. For a man interacting with a
woman, physical communication is
about beauty, youth, health and in evolutionary
terms how well she would be able to bear
offspring as well as have healthy ʺgenesʺ ‐
In other words a womanʹs reproductive capacity.
Other than reproductive capacity, an attractive
woman also has a positive influence
on the social status of a man.
For women interacting with men this type of
communication has to do with the ability to
protect resources and is a part of security.
The reason why physically strong men are more
desirable than weak men is because strength
communicates ʺfitnessʺ and ʺgood genesʺ
as well as the ability to protect accumulated
resources.
3) Sexual ‐ The sub communication is ʺIs this
person able to pass the genes down?ʺ ‐ This level
of communication I think has to do
with the ability to be fertile and to bear offspring.
For men interacting with women, it has to do
with the perception that sheʹll be a good lover,
sexual attractiveness which is more likely to
lead to orgasm.
For women interacting with men, this has to do
with his virility... if he is able to both have and
give her an orgasm ‐thus increasing her
chances of conception.
4) The availability of resources ‐ The sub
communication is ʺIs this person likely to share
their resources and commit them to only me?ʺ
For women evaluating men this has to do with
the likelihood of commitment of resources to her
and her offspring. Traits like generosity,
kindness, and love make this more likely. Also
commitment is important because it equates to
security about access to his resources and
not having to share them with other potential (or
past) mates and offspring. This sub
communication is also about trust.
For men evaluating women this has to do with
her fidelity, and the likelihood that she will only
mate with him, thus increasing his chances
of having offspring with her. A promiscuous
woman is less attractive to a man as a long term
mate, because it means the possibility of
allocating resources to offspring that arenʹt his,
as well as having to compete for her resources
(sex/sexual reproduction).
Now regarding Sexual Communication, some
would say that appearing to ʺGet itʺ is enough...
however itʹs not enough for me.
Understanding ʺSexual communicationʺ is not
enough... you have to actually be able to USE IT!
and USE IT WELL!
And this is just one of the sub communication
levels that are always present. This is just one
aspect of ʺThe Codeʺ.
So to bring this from abstract to concrete levels:
1) Be aware of, demonstrate, understand, and
communicate the code on a:
‐ Sexual level
‐ Value level
‐ Physical level
‐ Trust level
The Shadow and the Rising Sun
Theme
“You know, I was thinking about something the other
day...about polarities... about the whole concept of the
Yin and Yang...about hot and cold...black and
white...light and darkness. And how opposites are
really the same thing...just varying degrees on the
same spectrum...of possibilities...and how one is
defined in relation to the other...and how there are no
absolutes.
And then I remembered something that a
Psychologist friend of mine said once...She said, “I
have to go feed my shadow”...and I wasn’t quite sure
what she meant at the time until I read something by
Jung. He said that everyone has a Shadow...a dark
side...a place of forbidden desires. This is that part of
you that you hide from the rest of the
world...maybe even from yourself... where you can
experience and imagine those... thoughts...the
things that you wouldn’t want anyone to ever find
out that you long for and dream about...where you
want to experience all the excitement of this
moment...to let go of all the things that had been
holding you back before...to just let go...
and enjoy all that life has to offer... The Shadow is a
good thing, he believed...because it brings a sense of
balance.
Now, this sense of balance is very important because
the concept that whatever you repress grows and
begins to spill over into other parts of your life. If
your shadow is repressed it grows and
grows...until it just takes you over completely.
Jung said it was like the Rising Sun... because in the
morning, as the Sun rises in the sky......
it gets higher and higher... closer and closer to the
highest point in its path (midlife) ...until at mid‐day it
changes polarity completely... and everything that
was once
true has now changed...and now the opposite is
true... and the sun goes down. This was the concept
behind mid‐life crisis. (I usually anchor the path of the
rising sun with my hand)
It’s like the more you try to deny your shadow, the
more intense your shadow becomes...and the more
intense your shadow becomes the more you feel that
underlying tension growing within you for it to just
come out ...until one day it just takes over
completely.
So balance then is a good thing.
Now what if you were to step into your shadow right
now, and see the world through the eyes of your
shadow…. What would that say about the person that
you are
now vs. who you were before. What is it… that this
shadow most wants and desires right now? What do
you deserve to enjoy now”
How to TRIGGER the
Vixen in the Virgin
Have you ever experienced a situation where
someone told you not to do something – and in
fact they actually prevented you from doing it.
And the more tension that built up, and the more
that you tried not to do it and the more that they
prevented you from doing it – the more you
wanted to do it.
Until – suddenly you were let loose and then
BOOM! you did it right then and there.
Well you experienced “The pendulum effect”.
This is similar to “The Shadow” concept. The
more extreme you go to one side of behavior, the
more extreme the opposite behavior will be
when the “Pendulum swings”.
In fact, if you notice extremes of any kind of
behavior in the people that you interact with,
then realize that at some point or in some way,
they will be swinging back to the opposite side –
and it will be just as extreme.
How to TAILOR your
seduction
specifically to the woman
Everyone needs something. This is the key to
Victim Theory. Find what your WOMAN needs
or wants more of and then appear to be able to
give it to them.
They will tell you too, either directly through
words or actions ‐ or indirectly through looking
at their past relationships. It may be adventure,
attention, romance, a naughty experience, mental
or physical stimulation. Once you identify what
it is that they lack, you can be the one to give it to
them. Learn to see the reality behind the
appearance.
Nobody in this world feels whole and complete.
When you see the people around you, also notice
whatʹs MISSING in their lives. Itʹs been said that
someone who doesnʹt NEED anything CANʹT be
seduced. So if they donʹt seem to have that
NEED, CREATE one!
Victim type
1) The Reformed “Party Girl”
About her: She is a “physical type. This type of
woman is one who used to have nights when she
would go out with the girls, flirt with the guys,
maybe even had one night stands. She may be in
a long term relationship now or may have settled
down due to her age, responsibilities and stage
in life. Yet there is still a part of her that yearns
for those “wild days” and remembers how good
they were. Maybe she was quite the seductress
and could get any guy into her.
What she needs: A taste of the wild side.
How to seduce her: Cross her path and offer her
the chance to experience even just one night of
her “wild days”. Talk about her old party days,
what she used to do, what she enjoyed about it.
Then go DO it. Go out on the town, to her old
spots, do some of the things she used to do,
party it up and their old ways will come back.
What to remember: Make her think she is the
one corrupting you, and seducing you and
introducing you to the “wild side”.
2) The Hopeless Romantic
About her: This type of woman is one who has a
rich inner world of fantasy and dreams. She
imagines one day meeting the man of her
dreams who will sweep her off her feet and take
her away from life’s day to day concerns. She
longs to live in the world of Love, Romance, and
rich emotions – and she does this through the
Romance novels that she reads, the Soap operas,
when she goes to that Romantic comedy at the
movies. They may have had to settle for an
“ordinary guy” at some point but a part of them
still yearns to be swept away. They may
suppress their passion in life and it may come
out in their home furnishings, the pictures they
put on their walls, and their love for art and
music.
What she needs: Romance, the illusion of the
ideal lover, scarcity and mystery.
How to seduce her: Give her just a part of what
she wants, like a touch of Romance – and
mystery. Let her imagine the rest. In this type of
woman, for seduction purposes, less is more.
Her inner world of fantasy is far richer than what
you could create with your words. Talk with her
about her ideas of the ideal man, the ideal
romance, the ideal relationship. Open up this
world within her, show a few romantic gestures
and then make yourself scarce – yet balancing
and at the same time acting out that scarceness
with romantic gestures that show you’re
thinking about her.
What to remember: Never let reality break the
“Romantic” illusion.
3) The Daddy’s Girl
About her: This type of woman was spoiled as a
child. She was given everything her heart
desired as a child and as she grew older, she
became bored and now continually looks for
variety, switching from person to person and
place to place before boredom sets in
What she needs: Variety, to be pampered, a
daddy figure.
How to seduce her: The key is to offer Variety.
Provide a lot of distraction – new places to go,
new things to do, new things to discover.
Maintain a certain mystery to your character as
well so that she is continually discovering new
things about you. Once they get hooked, they
can grow dependent on you, just as she would a
daddy figure.
What to remember: Never offer a long term
relationship to these types, instead focus on
spoiling them and offering new and exciting
things and as they grow dependent on you, they
will be the ones to initiate a long term
relationship. Focus on variety. They are looking
for the one person – the parental figure, who can
give them the spoiling that they crave.
4) The Conservative Girl
About her: This type of girl is ultra concerned
with appearances and what is “proper”. These
are girls who have their “Rules” and they are
afraid of looking like a slut. Since they are so
concerned with what is “proper” the opposite is
secretly true as well. They are fascinated by the
improper, and deep down are intrigued by dark
sinful passions. They sense this and run The
other way. Remember the “Shadow” theory –
that we all have both a side we show the world
and a shadow. The more extreme the character
trait, the more extreme the shadow is.
What she needs: To be awakened to their
shadow.
How to seduce her: Make her aware of her
shadow. Draw her in to the “helping you
reform” mode. Give them opportunities to let go
of their self control and to let their shadow out.
Synesthesia demos work well with this type of
girl, allowing her passion to come out in the
form of a symbol/color and then symbolically
amplifying it and fractionating it… spreading it
throughout her body.
What to remember: Don’t pay attention to what
they say, pay attention to what they do. Get
them to open up their shadow side by talking
about it and doing things that would get them to
imagine it and then let it out.
5) The Innocent Virgin
About her: This type of girl is inexperienced. She
is intensely curious about the ways of the world
and about sex. She is still idealistic and wants
romance. Most of her ideas of what sex and
romance is like come from the media and from
movies and romance novels. She is secretly
intrigued by the wild side of sex and wants to
experience all the things she’s heard about.
What she needs: To be corrupted, romanced,
swept away and shown the ways of the world by
someone with experience
How to seduce her: Talk about all the things that
she is intrigued by, about sexuality and the kinds
of things that people do sexually. Give her the
hint that you are very experienced sexually and
take on the frame that you are opening up a new
world to her… a touch of romance with a touch
of corruption.
What to remember: Don’t go overboard with the
corruption, she may get scared away. Keep it
romantic and idealistic. Get her to fantasize and
lead her imagination down the path of fantasy.
Then give her opportunities to open up slowly to
this sexuality. Make it corrupt as well at times,
talking dirty to her during sex, experimenting
with every kind of sexual kink that you know of
or have experience with.
6) The Drama Queen
About her: This type of woman always has some
drama going on and without it gets bored very
easily. Since the pain of drama is actually a
source of pleasure for her, she is attracted to the
“jerk” type of guy and unconsciously craves to
be mistreated. She may have grown up in a
family where dad was verbally or physically
abusive and this has set up her patterns for what
she is comfortable with and what she has known
all her life. They despise “Nice guys” and see
them as wussies. They confuse meanness with
confidence and arrogance with assertiveness.
They love to complain to their girlfriends about
how badly you mistreat her.
What she needs: Drama and someone to be a
jerk to her
How to seduce her: Give her what she wants.
Draw her in first and then push her away. Go
Hot and then Cold. Ignore her some days. Make
comments about how hot other chicks are and
never compliment her. She needs to make the
connection that her giving you pleasure equals
you being nice at first and then mean to her.
They unconsciously love the drama and love to
be treated like shit once in a while.
What to remember: Only be nice after you’ve
mistreated her, never before. If you are nice to
her before you’ve been mean, then you run the
risk of her flipping the roles and creating an
argument with you so that she can start the
drama cycle which will lead to the nice make up
feelings afterwards. The only time you give her
nice treatment is when you are making up for
how mean you’ve been to her. “Make up”
niceness is the only kind of niceness that is seen
as real to them.
7) The Codependent
About her: This type of girl probably grew up in
a dysfunctional family where the burden of
“fixing” things fell on her. She is attracted to
people with problems because when they can
“help” someone who has problems it secretly
gives them a sense of superiority. These type of
girls are good listeners and will try to get you to
spill your guts about any issues. They will be
supportive and mothering.
What she needs: To feel like she is “saving” you.
How to seduce her: Let her get the sense that
you have had to deal with a lot of issues and that
you are troubled. That you’ve done bad things in
the past and that you feel guilty as well as being
sad about never finding someone to feel
connection with. You have problems and you
draw her in by talking about your feelings to her,
talking to her about issues (whether real or made
up). Be troubled, sad and vulnerable. You can
also be the sexually troubled man with
uncontrollable addictions that she needs to help
you with.
What to remember: Always be the under dog,
the one who gets the short end of the stick, the
raw deal. Let her share your loss and to give you
encouragement and feel like she’s supporting
you.
8) The Immature Mature Woman (MILF or Sugar
Mama)
About her: This type of woman wants to hold on
to her youth. She is older and has a high sex
drive. She may not have done all the things that
she wanted to do when she was young so is now
trying to recapture her desirability. She may
have been attractive and had guys all over her
when she was younger but now that she has
gotten older, she craves the attention that she
once had.
What she needs: Attention from a young stud.
How to seduce her: Give her the attention that
she once had. Make her feel desirable and sexy.
She wants to feel young again and she’s looking
for a boy toy. Let her feel like she is corrupting
you as well and showing you new sexual
pleasures and opening up new worlds of
experience to you. Be immature and crazy and
act like teenagers together. She wants to do
things like make out in a movie theatre and go
have sex in the back of the car afterwards. She
wants to go to a hill overlooking the city lights
and make out like a teenager.
What to remember: Don’t forget that she wants
to be both the sugar mama and the teenager at
the same time. Act immature and bring out the
immature behavior in her. Do sexually
adventurous things with her. Spontaneous sex
and sex in public places apply.
9) The “10”
About her: This type of woman has always been
lusted after for her looks. Guys will either be
intimidated by her or will flock around her to
feed their lust. She may have only have
developed her appearance and may be lacking in
depth of character or knowledge – but not
always. She is most insecure about her looks
because it is often the only thing that sets her
apart and makes her special. Because she is
always pursued by men, she secretly wants a
man that she will have to work hard to get. She
longs to be valued for her personality,
intelligence, and character. Thus she often feels
alone – alienated by both women and men who
never see past her appearance to who she is as a
person.
What she needs: Someone to see her as a person,
to stimulate her mind and value her for her
personality, character and intelligence.
How to seduce her: Treat her like a normal
person. She has to choose you. Don’t focus on
her appearance yet don’t ignore it altogether
because of her insecurities. Draw her in and then
play Hot and Cold with her so she can feel like
she needs to work to get you. Demonstrate
value.
What to remember: Steal her frame of being the
object of desire. See past her appearance and
make her earn your affection.
10) The ʺNovelʺ girl
About her: This type of girl goes for all things
that are exotic and different. For example this is
the white chick who loves ethnic guys. They may
also be intrigued by different world religions
and into ʺNew Ageʺ and yoga or they may be a
Rebel punk rocker, or a girl from a small town
who wants to see the big city. In any case their
Identity is tied up in being different and unique.
They really loathe their own culture and
themselves at a deep level and look to the exotic
to give them temporary escape.
What she needs: A touch of the exotic, escape
from normality
How to seduce her: Play up what makes you
different, Peacock ‐ the more extreme the better,
vary it up often because what is exotic and novel
now will soon become mundane and ordinary.
Same with sex. These women LOVE doing kinky
things and pushing the limits of sexuality. These
are the types that end up having group sex and
doing kinky shit with animals.
What to remember: Give them escape from the
ordinary. But as much as you can offer the exotic
to them, nothing will really offer permanent
escape from themselves.
How to completely
DESTROY a woman's
resistance
and amp up her
Responsiveness
We’ve all been there. It’s late in the evening and
the sexual tension is amped up. You’re sitting on
the couch with a woman and just making out.
You know that you need to get her sexual
arousal level amped up and then you go for the
bold move. She resists...
Itʹs not that sheʹs not into it... she may just not be
READY! This just means you havenʹt gotten her
buying temperature up high enough yet. You
need to continue to SOFTEN HER UP and focus
on getting her FEELING and more RECEPTIVE.
Or here’s another situation. You want a woman
to do something for you and she objects.
Well, here are a some objection destroyers that
Iʹve been using. Keep in mind that some of these
use ʺRewardʺ and some use ʺPunishmentʺ
motivation. A good propulsion mechanism uses
both together at the same time... So these can be
used in combination with each other.
1) She asks ʺWhy?ʺ objection destroyer
The Objection: I had an 18 year old amateur
adult film actress (She was beautiful ‐ long light
brown hair ‐ killer body) – She was moving away
so I told her, ʺWe need to get together and have
some fun before you go.ʺ She said, ʺWhy?ʺ (as if
saying what’s the point?)
The Response:
So I said to her, ʺActually, the better question is...
WHY NOT?ʺ
2) The Crowbar Mentalism objection destroyer
The Objection: Iʹve had several women that
have been firm about certain things like not
coming over to my place on like the first or
second times that weʹve met. And so Iʹll say,
ʺOk... thatʹs fine, but why donʹt we do this...
Guess a number between 1 and 10 and if I can
tell you what this number is, THEN you have to
come over OK...ʺ
[Side comment:] Now what this does is take her
from her ʺSolidʺ position and move her to the
more flexible position of possibility of ʺWell if he
gets the number right ‐ which I doubt he will,
THEN Iʹll goʺ ‐ This is also known as the
ʺCrowbarʺ method in sales and persuasion.
The Response: ‐ I have her guess the number,
get out my Palm pilot and open the program
where you can draw on the screen.
‐ Then she thinks of a number and I act as if I am
writing it with my palm stylus. you really donʹt
write anything at all.
‐ Then I say, ʺOk, tell me the numberʺ
‐ If she objects just say, ʺItʹs ok... just tell me the
number and Iʹll show what I wrote down.ʺ
‐ She tells me her number and Iʹm holding the
stylus with my other hand and my palm pilot in
the other, with the screen facing down.
‐ I have the NOTE program open on the Palm
Pilot and with my THUMB I write the number
that she tells me ‐ as she tells it to me so that it
takes only a split second... you have to practice
this to get it smooth.
‐ I then show her the number that I ʺWrote
downʺ and say, ʺLetʹs goʺ ‐ always works!
3) The ʺWHAT IFʺ objection destroyer
The Objection: Iʹve had some women hold back,
resist, test me constantly, sometimes just being
all around bitchy. In addition to calling them on
it after going through one test after another (And
hot young women are especially good at giving
“shit tests” ‐ some are just one big constant shit
test until theyʹre moaning in pleasure in your
bed!)
The Response:
ʺYou know, youʹre kind of mean... are you like
this to everyone?
... Just what if by some miracle you could look
into the future and see that I was the perfect
person for you where youʹre totally happy...
where you have everything that youʹve always
wanted in some one... the future of your
dreams... just what if... and looking back to now ‐
knowing this, How does this change the way
that youʹre acting toward me?ʺ
4) The Polarity ʺSelf Imageʺ Objection
Destroyer
The Objection:
She doesnʹt want to do something and sheʹs a
ʺpolarity responder/mis‐matcherʺ. (Her sorting
strategy is that she has to make up her OWN
mind about things, if someone tells her
something, she looks at all the reasons NOT to
do it first, and what is NOT true about what is
said first.)
The Response:
ʺYes... actually you seem too NORMAL to do
that... and maybe too old fashioned. You donʹt
seem like the type of person who can just do this
and have a great time... No, you SHOULDNʹT
do this, and you shouldnʹt be enjoying this, and
you definitely SHOULDN’T just let yourself go
with it!ʺ Then do a take away and ACT
uninterested.
5) Good old Guilt Objection destroyer
The Objection:
She doesnʹt want to do something.
The Response:
ʺItʹs ok then... you donʹt have to do this... even
though it would be really nice of you... even
though it would totally make my day... even
though it would be totally special for me...
maybe you just arenʹt that way... thatʹs fine...ʺ
Then do a take away.
6) The ʺTradeʺ Objection destroyer
The Objection:
She doesnʹt want to do something.
The Response:
ʺOK, Iʹll tell you what... letʹs make a trade then...
What would I need to do for you, for you to do
this for me?ʺ ‐ Then listen and agree.
Another variation is the ʺTake turnsʺ approach
where you say,ʺOk, you do this this time and
next time it will be my turn.ʺ
7) The ʺWhat would need to happenʺ Objection
Destroyer
The Objection:
She doesnʹt want to do something
The Response:
ʺSo what would need to happen then for you to
do this?ʺ
One method that will have
her screaming for more
Blake Richard's Orgasm
Technique
First of all, a few words to the conservative ones
out there. Sex is NATURAL. Itʹs how we GOT
here and the ʺEnergyʺ from sexual drives
have been redirected and ʺsublimatedʺ and have
shaped our modern day society. Now of course
Iʹm not openly advocating casual sex...
Sex in a committed relationship can be a
beautiful thing! And of course, be responsible
and safe...
Ok guys, now to the DIRT!
Here it is... my own special technique that has
been perfected through trial and error. This
technique ROCKS and is the
best thing I can assure you that most women will
experience in their LIVES!
Here it is. Step by step.
1) Of course the mood has to be right. She has to
be ready to go physically.
2) Once you are making out with her, go down,
kiss her neck, then her breasts, then her stomach,
then the insides of her thighs...
3) Then go back up to her mouth, then kiss her
neck again, then her stomach, then the insides of
her thighs again... and you may even
want to ʺbiteʺ softly her ass cheek on either side...
then start sucking on the insides of her thighs...
closer and closer to her pussy...
take your sweet time...
4) By this time she should literally be DRIPPING
wet. You should be able to SEE the milky juices
flowing down
5) Then go right in and lick right up the middle
all the way to the top of her clit in one sweep.
watch her reaction...
6) Then put you fingers inside her. (2 if possible)
I will usually put the index and middle fingers of
my right hand inside) and put
them ALL the way in to touch the spot deep in
the upper vaginal wall right on the upper rim of
her cervix.
7) Keep your fingers STRAIGHT as you reach
back for that spot then pull your fingers toward
the front in a gentle sweeping motion.
Go DEEP, back and forth and do this slowly and
rhythmically. Keep it steady and keep it slow at
first.
Then bring you other hand to rest your palm on
top of her pubic mound and press IN with your
palm as if you were trying to gently touch your
fingers inside her
with the palm of your other hand from the
outside.
9) Continue to do this rhythmically... slowly...
deliberately and gently... letting her pleasure
build.
10) Add your tongue on her clit so that each time
you massage ʺUpʺ on her mound with you palm
hand you are lifting and exposing
her clit to your tongue.
11) Do this all slowly and deliberately and as she
gets more and more aroused and closer to
orgasm, you go faster and faster...
building your strokes until she has the most
intense orgasm of her life!
12) If she is too aroused or has multiple orgasms,
you can break it up by just going to straight oral
with your tongue every now and
then... in LONG strokes with your tongue right
up her slit... over and over... alternating that with
sucking and short tongue strokes on
her clit... then go back into the orgasm
technique...
One more note on technique just to be clear...
when you bring your fingers inside forward, you
are keeping upward pressure of your
finger tips on the upper part of her vaginal wall.
and then you go back to that spot, then bring
your fingers forward keeping upward
pressure on the top part of her vaginal wall...
And to this you add the other hands palm on her
mound from the outside massaging inward and
add your tongue to her clit as well.
Now when you have sex with her after this, she
will be so exquisitely sensitive, wet and aroused
that it will also be the best SEX she
has ever had!
How to CLOSE the deal
One thing does get you the girl in the End Game
‐ The way she FEELS.
There are many ways to get to this ‐ from
demonstrating higher value, challenging her,
fulfilling her needs, cocky and funny, social
proof, eliciting states (my personal favorite) ‐ yet
all of these lead to just one thing...
The way she FEELS.
A woman doesnʹt fall in love with you, neither
does she decide consciously to need you, and its
not too often that a woman will just ʺdecideʺ on
an intellectual level to have sex with you...
She falls in love with the way you make her feel.
She has sex with a man based on the way he
makes her feel and what she gets from the
interaction ‐ and even if she says sheʹd rather
give than receive pleasure, most of the time
thatʹs just something that sounds nice because
even if it were true, sheʹs usually getting
something (like emotional pleasure) out of
giving physical pleasure as well.
So you have to keep doing the things that
amplify her feeling.
So what are these things that amplify feeling and
how do you do them?
‐ Here are some of my favorite ways to amplify a
feeling in the End Game. I will do many things at
times, like:
1) FRACTIONATE
Fractionation is actually a hypnotic deepening
technique. In the book, “Hypnosis and
Hypnotherapy”, Gerald F. Kein and Calvin
Banyan describe this technique where the subject
is partially emerged from hypnosis and then
guided back in to hypnosis. When the subject re‐
enters hypnosis, there is a natural tendency to go
even deeper. So you can imagine what this
method does to a sexual state.
Now the way you use this is when you have
elicited a sexual state, at just the moment where
the tension builds, you suddenly change the topic
and talk about ʺThe weatherʺ or some other
superficial topic. After awhile, you bring up the
sexual topic again and start to build the state and
elicit it within them – and they go in even deeper
this time ‐ and at just the moment where the
sexual tension feels so hot, you break the state
and talk about something superficial like what
you did that day. And you repeat and repeat…
You can also physically fractionate the seduction.
This is where you may touch her leg briefly or sit
close to her or touch her in some way ‐ then you
just suddenly stop... and after awhile you touch
her again, this time on areas that are more
sensitive like her neck/face/inner thigh/inner arm
‐ then you just stop... and on and on.
Fractionation creates a vacuum for a woman to get
sucked into. As the fractionation goes on it gets
more and more intimate until she is the one that
is initiating the seduction and it is less about you
seducing her and more about her seducing you.
Imagine that with a powerful fractionation
technique, youʹve sucked her into a vacuum and
the momentum of that “pull” makes her take
action.
2) Using OPEN LOOPS
Thereʹs a lot to say about open loops. Part of this
has to do with creating interest in what youʹre
saying because she feels like she is always
ʺHangingʺ when you do things like tell her a
story without telling the endings, or when you
have multiple open loops (threads) going at the
same time, and have several unfinished stories it
tends to have a hypnotic effect. But be careful not
to over do it. You may come off as having a
slight case of Attention Deficit Disorder.
3) Using AMBIGUITY
This is about talking in a way that lets their
imagination fill in the blanks.
For example, since women are always trying to
interpret things rather than just taking them at
face value, why not use that to your advantage.
For example when coming back from dinner on a
first meeting with a woman, I may say
something like, ʺYou know, I love talking with
you ‐ I canʹt stay up late, but lets take this upstairs
for a little while and see what happens, of course
we would just be talking! ‐ (said with a
mischievous grin) ‐Notice that I also put in a
false time constraint to build her comfort level.
In general the approach that I use for ambiguity
is that I will say things that on the surface seem
innocent (and if called on, thatʹs of course the
way that I meant them! ) but that can be
suggestive as well if seen from a sexual
perspective.
4) Eliciting sexual states and Building sexual
rapport
See the section on Eliciting Sexual Values. This is
one of the best ways to get a woman in a sexual
state. Also check out the section on Building
Sexual Rapport.
And check out the section on the ʺPendulum
affectʺ as well.
5) Using Contrast
This consists of Physically ʺmoving towardʺ while
verbally ʺmoving away fromʺ and switching back
and forth between that and verbal ʺmoving
towardʺ with physical ʺmoving away fromʺ ‐
For example I may say, ʺYou know, I donʹt know
if it would ever work out between us... weʹre too
differentʺ while at the same time touching her or
physically seducing her as if we were already
sleeping together. And continue doing the same
thing for awhile.
Then I would withdraw physically/stop touching
her but say, ʺI love talking to you ‐ youʹre not like
any other woman that Iʹve talked to.ʺ And
continue doing the same thing for awhile.
This is more than just HOT/COLD and more than
just PUSH/PULL. It is both all at the same time.
In other words I am purposefully incongruent
with my words and my actions toward her. This
not only throws them for a loop, but offers a
challenge and they not only find this interesting,
but also builds the attraction and sexual
TENSION.
6) PHYSICAL seduction: (Massage, Using body
language, gestures, and actions that assume that
we are already sleeping together
‐ This includes the way I look at them and eye
contact, the way I touch them, and even doing
little things that assume sexual rapport as I
mentioned before: like ʺFeeding themʺ, sharing
their drink glass at dinner, sharing dessert,
touching their face/neck/lips ‐if even to ʺbrush
off some lintʺ. See the section on Sexual Rapport.
7) Give them a way to ACT around you
Often I do this through ʺCold reading them ‐ and
build up a self image for them as a ʺPhysical
Typeʺ of woman who is very much at home in
her own body, who knows that she is cared for
through touch and by expressing it through
physical affection, who is active, spontaneous,
and would rather do it than just ʺthink about
doing itʺ. See my section on Cold Reading.
So again, these are just some of my favorite ways
to amplify a feeling in the End Game. And it’s
also important to have ʺSolid Gameʺ, where
youʹve built the attraction, youʹve build the
comfort level, to the degree to which a woman
will seduce you as well in the end and be happy
about it afterward.
The End Game is built on and gains itʹs
momentum from everything that comes before it.
Remember in your progress that the first stage of
mastery is unconscious incompetence – this is
where you don’t even know how you’re
screwing up. Many of us have been there and
through trial and error we’ve overcome. But
there’s a better way – model what works. All of
this material has been extensively field tested
and in the right contexts, does work.
The next step of mastery is conscious
incompetence. As you go out and try this
material, start to become away of what works for
you and what you’re doing that needs more
work. It’s all just feedback for success.
The next step is conscious competence. This is
where you start to see what is working for you.
You’re starting to incorporate techniques and
skillsets into your game and you inner game is
coming together.
The final step is unconscious competence as you
go with the flow. You’ve incorporated what
works for you into your game and most of your
focus is on inner game. This is where your
skillset and mindset become one and align with
eachother congruently. You can’t help but be
successful – And this is where you deserve to be!