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See Desertion
Courts once used adultery, once the sole ground for divorce in some
jurisdictions, to punish the guilty. Today courts are more interested in the
economic impact of adultery, if any, on the marital estate. How much
money was spent on the mistress' Think of judges as accountants who want
full disclosure and financial accounting for improperly spent funds.
Be careful that you have personal knowledge of all matters asserted, or else
it 'can and will be used against you in a court of law.' If there is any doubt
whatsoever, but you still believe something is true, say 'Based on
information and belief....'
Generally not referred to as a 'divorce agreement' since only the court can
grant a divorce. If the parties fail to reach an agreement, the case goes to
trial, and the court's decision and judgment is substituted. Court's judgments
are modifiable based on a 'material change in circumstances.' An agreement
may be either modifiable or unmodifiable ('surviving'). Typically, these
agreements settle issues relating to:
Historically, the aggrieved spouse could bring an action against the third
party wrongdoer, without filing for divorce. These suits are now rare,
however, and are prohibited in some states. Today courts will entertain fault
divorces making the co-respondent a defendant in the action, but such
defendants are generally not liable financially for their adultery.
Alimony Trust. A trust fund established to pay alimony; rarely used; extremely
expensive means of paying alimony involving complex gift and income tax
analyses.
Alternate Payee. Party who will be paid pension benefits in the alternative, not
the employee. See www.dol.gov/ebsa/faqs/faq_qdro.html
Annulment. The court's judgment that a so-called 'marriage' was never legally
valid or became invalid after the marriage.
Where a marriage was never legally consummated, for instance if one party
was already married, the marriage is said to be 'void,' or a 'nullity,' i.e., it
never existed. In contrast, a 'voidable' marriage is valid unless, or until,
annulled. Grounds for annulling a 'voidable' marriage include serious fraud
or a party's legal incompetence at the time of marriage. Most annulments
are obtained for religious reasons through a religious tribunal.
Appeal. Review of a trial court's decision and judgment by a higher court. The
appeals court can review the trial court's 'finding of fact' and 'conclusions of law.'
See Decision and Judgment.
Appeals courts analyze the trial court's decision and judgment for
substantive errors in its 'conclusions of the law.' In exceptional cases the
trial court's 'finding of facts' are also reviewed. Most findings of facts are
extremely difficult to challenge because appeals courts defer to the trial
court's ability to weigh evidence. Unless the trial court's findings of fact
cannot possibly be supported by the evidence, such appeals will fail. Judges
have discretion to believe or disbelieve all evidence presented, and appeals
courts will not second guess the trial court on its finding of facts.
Your lawyer must file an appearance with the court. All pleadings and
notices are then sent to her address which constitutes proper service on you.
If you appear without counsel, you are said to appear pro se.
Once counsel files her appearance, she cannot withdraw her appearance
without your permission or leave of court, usually by motion. Sometimes
courts will not allow counsel to withdraw unless a new lawyer ('successor
counsel'), or the party herself, files an appearance. If no successor
appearance is filed, courts frequently deny this request, even if the client
fails to pay attorney's fees. Counsel then becomes your involuntary servant,
but don't expect zealous advocacy from a slave. You may get what you pay
for. Obviously, divorce lawyers view this problem as justification for large
retainers.
Unlike mediation, neither party can unilaterally terminate the process, and
both parties are bound by the arbitrator's decision, as if a judge acted in her
official capacity. In some states, judges refer certain cases or aspects of
cases for arbitration.
Arrearages. The deficiency between the amount, if any, paid and the amount
required under court order. If payments are made voluntarily on a de facto basis,
i.e., not under court order, any reduction in the amount of such payments is not
considered an arrearage.
Attachment Theory. Concept developed in the late 1960’s by John Bowlby and
Mary Ainsworth that led to the conclusion that infants and young children should
never spend more than a few hours away from their primary caregiver or they
might not develop the ability to form an appropriate attachment and trust in
another person. See Attachment Disorder. Often cited in child custody cases in the
latter part of the twentieth century to prevent infants from leaving the care of their
mothers for more than a few hours, never for an overnight visit with the
noncustodial father. Later research points to children’s ability to form attachments
to more than one caregiver.
The lawyer's role is not clearly defined when representing very young
children. In these cases, lawyers must substitute their own judgment on
obvious matters such as protecting a child's bank account from an
untrustworthy parent. Bankrupt; Bankruptcy. The inability of a person to
pay his bills as they become due. Also, a person's legal status in federal
bankruptcy court. Alimony and child support are generally not affected, but
property divisions, including the marital home, are unprotected from third
party creditors.
Automatic Restraining Order. Refers to a court order freezing assets; goes into
effect automatically upon certain events like the filing of a complaint for divorce.
If a party violates an automatic restraining order by transferring assets without
prior leave of court or permission of the other party, that party could be found in
contempt of court, subject to incarceration and/or financial penalties, including
payment of the winner’s legal fees. Compare Trustee Process and Attachment.
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Battered Immigrant. Abused spouses and minor children living in the United
States with abusive citizens or lawful permanent residents. US abusers may refuse
to file relative petitions on behalf of victimized spouses or minor children because
victims are less likely to report abuse or leave, fearing deportation. See
http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/vawo/laws/insvawa.htm.
Batterer. Person who uses violence and/or threats of physical, sexual or emotional
violence against a member of the same household or romantic partner in a dating
relationship. Blames the victim, accepts no responsibility for own behavior. See
Batterer Profile and Cycle of Violence.
Batterer Intervention Program. Program designed for people who use violence
against a member of the same household or romantic partner in a dating
relationship; usually for people arrested for domestic violence, including classes or
group therapy, and possibly psychological evaluation, individual counseling, or
case management. Eighty percent of batterers are referred by the criminal justice
system. See http://www.ncjrs.org/pdffiles/168638.pdf
Batterer Profile. Controlling individual with poor impulse control who probably
witnessed abuse or was abused as a child; suffers from low self-esteem, but can be
extremely charming and seductive early in a relationship, and then for no apparent
reason turns angrily and explosively on a member of the household or romantic
partner in a dating relationship. Batterers are more likely than the general
population to abuse drugs and alcohol; suffer from poor communication skills,
frequently in denial, refuses to accept responsibility for own actions, and blames
others. Emotionally dependent on partners and easily threatened by the possibility
of their departure. Excessively jealous and possessive. Usually male, suffering
from feelings of failure to live up to male paradigm.
Best interest of the child. The legal standard or doctrine for making child-related
decisions.
Bifurcation; Bifurcated Trial. In some states, the grounds for divorce, and all
property rights/support obligations, are tried separately.
Binomial or Lattice Model. Developed in 1979 by Cox, Ross and Rubinstein.
Used to value or price options. Considered more flexible than Black-Scholes
Method because more variables are considered, including vesting periods, changes
in price, interest and dividends, forfeiture and early exercise. See Valuation.
Compare Black-Scholes Model.
Biological Mother. Female who provides genetic material for a child, not
necessarily the gestational carrier. See Gestational Carrier.
Bomber. A old term to describe an unethical divorce lawyer who sleeps with his
clients.
If your lawyer tries this on you, politely tell him 'no,' then immediately
report him to the state bar. Sleeping with a divorce client is a serious ethics
violation -- besides, lovers make bad lawyers.
Buccal Swab. Used to collect DNA samples from subject’s inside cheek. Buccal,
relating to the cheek. See www.paternitynet.com
Burden of Proof. The party asserting a claim must prove such claim is true.
In divorce, each party making a claim for a fault divorce must prove such
fault.
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Capias. A civil arrest warrant ordering the sheriff or other officer to take a person
into custody and deliver him to court. This procedure is used when a party refuses
to appear in court.
The federal government mandates that all states establish guidelines for
child support. The battle ground in many cases is the definition of 'income,'
especially 'in-kind' compensation such as a company car. Contact your
state's child support enforcement office as set forth in the State-by-State
Resrouce Center.
Civil Union. A legally recognized relationship between two women or two men,
but not a marriage, established in Vermont and Connecticut, with the same
benefits as marriage. Politically more acceptable than same sex marriage in 2005.
The Union may be certified or performed by a member of the clergy or state
official.
Clear and Convincing Evidence. See Burden of Proof. One standard of proof in
a civil case, meaning the degree of difficulty facing a litigant in proving his or her
case. A high standard, but not as high as the burden the prosecution must meet in a
criminal case by proving guilt beyond a reasonable doubt. Compare
Preponderance of the Evidence.
COBRA covers ex-spouses even after one party remarries, for a fixed time
period. For instance, if you become ineligible by virtue of your spouses'
remarriage, you may continue on his policy for approximately 18 months. It
can be expensive, sometimes up to $600 per month. Make sure all health
insurance matters are covered in your separation agreement, including
current and future medical insurance and uninsured medical expenses.
Complaints are not accepted for filing unless they comply with court rules
regarding form and substance and are accompanied with the filing fee.
Complaint (Petition) for Divorce. A complaint for divorce initiates the divorce
proceeding by identifying the parties; stating the grounds for divorce; stating all
claims against the defendant; and requesting the court to grant a divorce, grant
custody, divide property, and order support. All complaints must be filed with the
court and served along with a summons.
If you interview a divorce lawyer and decide not to retain him, that lawyer
is barred from representing your spouse. If there is a certain lawyer that you
don't want your spouse to use, consider paying for an appointment and
sharing confidential information. Whether you use that lawyer or not, he is
barred from representing your spouse.
Conjugal; Conjugal Rights. The right of married persons to enjoy each other's
physical comfort.
If you interview a lawyer who wants a contingency fee, say 'have a nice
day' and report him to the state bar. Such fees in divorce cases are
prohibited by the Cannons of Ethics in most states. While the term 'legal
ethics' appears to be an oxymoron, state regulators take these charges
seriously.
When adultery was the sole ground for divorce, this awkward procedure
was commonplace. Today few divorces involve named third- party
defendants. Question your lawyer whether the potential benefits are worth
the time, expense, and hard feelings. Do not allow your emotions to control
this decision.
Counsel Fees Pendente Lite, Motion for. 'Pendente Lite' means during the
litigation. Generally, a motion is filed by the wife requesting sufficient funds from
the husband, or from the marital estate, to prosecute or defend the divorce action.
Many courts routinely grant fees in order to 'level the playing field.' If you
don't have access to liquid assets, consider having your lawyer filing this
motion. If your spouse is overly litigious, ask the court for him to pay your
fees out of his portion of the marital estate.
Court Arbitrator. See Family Service Officer; Court Service Officer; Court
Mediator; Court Arbitrator
Court Docket. The formal court record of proceedings before it. Notations of all
pleadings, orders, and judgments are entered into a docket book.
In divorce court the first entry is the complaint or petition for divorce. The
final entry is the judgment of divorce. If the case resurfaces because of a
complaint for modification or a complaint for contempt, the docket is
reopened and continued.
If you are concerned that your spouse is about to file for divorce, visit the
court to examine the docket. Ask how long a new filing takes to show up on
the docket.
Court Mediator. See Family Service Officer; Court Service Officer; Court
Mediator; Court Arbitrator
Court Services Officer. See Family Service Officer; Court Service Officer; Court
Mediator; Court Arbitrator
Courtroom Etiquette:
1) Treat the judge respectfully. Never interrupt or be argumentative,
always ask permission to speak. In An Officer and a Gentleman, drill
sergeant Lou Gossett reprimands recruit Richard Gere for referring to the
sergeant as 'you.' Gossett points out that a 'ewe' is a female sheep. Always
address the judge as 'your honor,' 'judge,' or 'the court' -- but never refer to
the judge as 'you.' Finally, you may feel the judge is biased, disrespectful,
insensitive, or just plain dumb. You have a right to these feelings, but
never, ever, treat the court disrespectfully, especially if you want respect.
2) Treat opposing counsel respectfully. Wait your turn to speak and don't
interrupt or make faces and gesticulate when opposing counsel is speaking.
Great self-control is necessary, especially when opposing counsel
intentionally lies or inadvertently makes misrepresentations to the court
based on his client's misrepresentations to him. You'll get your turn.
This term is used when establishing the value of property acquired during
the term of the marriage, i.e., coverture. For instance, pensions are often
appraised based on coverture; only those contributions during the term of
the marriage are taken into account.
Cruel and Abusive Treatment. Ground for divorce in a fault divorce, wherein
the plaintiff must prove physical or emotional harm to her or himself.
Ask your lawyer for the legal definition in your state. If you forego this
claim, you always retain the right at trial to enter into evidence 'the
behavior of the parties during the marriage.' See Fault and no-fault Divorce.
Failure to assert abuse in the complaint simply precludes the court from
granting a divorce on this ground, but the court is free to consider evidence
of spousal abuse in making its decision.
Custodial Parent. Usually refers to the parent with whom the child(ren) reside(s),
i.e., the parent with Physical Custody or Primary Physical Custody.
Custody--Physical. Relates to the physical location of the child. The adult with
whom the child resides is said to have physical custody. Such terms as 'sole,'
'primary,' 'shared,' and 'joint' are used to describe various parenting and visitation
plans.
Most custody fights are fought over physical custody since there is usually
a strong presumption of joint legal custody. Studies demonstrate that
protracted custody fights have devastating effects on the mental health of
children. Years later as adults, these victims still suffer.
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Death. Event causing the legal dissolution of the marriage when a spouse dies.
Compare Divorce and Annulment.
Judges have great discretion to interpret the facts and draw inferences
therefrom. See Appeal.
De Facto Parent. A person who has been found by the court to fulfill the role of
parent, providing the child’s physical and psychological needs, for a substantial
period of time.
Desertion. One of several grounds for a fault divorce. Most states require the
plaintiff to prove several of the following factors: 1) the defendant left the marital
home for over one year; 2) the parties failed to agree to such departure; 3) the
party who left failed to pay support; and 4) the reason for the departure was not
caused by the plaintiff.
Ask you lawyer which factors apply in your state. This claim is
cumbersome and may not be worth the trouble.
9. Request to enter upon land A party can use the discovery to inspect real
estate, often relating to valuation.
State laws prohibit spouses from disinheriting each other. The surviving
spouse is usually entitled to at least one third, no matter what is contained
in the will. See Dower and Curtesy. Also see Inheritance; Inheritance
Rights; Inheritance Expectancies.
DOMA. Defense of Marriage Act of 1996. Federal law that provides for the
nonrecognition of same sex marriage.
Domestic Violence Hotline, National. created and funded under the Violence
against Women Act of 1994 and reauthorized and funded under the Violence
against Women Act of 2000. See
http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/vawo/laws/vawa_summary2.htm
Domicile. A person's 'legal' home, i.e., where the person spends most of his time,
or intends to return if currently living elsewhere.
Domicile, Compare Residence. A party has one domicile, but may have several
residences. Key term for deciding where divorce should be filed or which state’s
law applies to a case. See also UIFSA, UCCJEA and Hague Convention.
Dower. The wife's common law right to inherit from her husband.
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Each state's divorce laws set forth mandatory 'factors' judges must consider
before making an equitable property division or awarding alimony. Some
states also have 'discretionary' factors courts may consider. Here are some
mandatory 'factors' incorporated into most state laws. Ask you lawyer for a
copy of your state's statute.
Equity; Courts of Equity. Equity is a body of law that concerns itself more with
fairness than with the strict, and sometimes harsh, application of common law.
Historically, there were separate 'courts of equity,' but today, most courts
have 'equity jurisdiction,' i.e., they can apply 'equitable principles' to cases,
including divorce. One commentator called these courts 'anti-law' courts
because they were able to circumvent unfair laws. But do not expect your
judge to ignore statutes and established common law.
Estate. Assets and property interests owned by a party, often referred to in divorce
cases as "the marital estate", meaning assets subject to division between husband
and wife. May exclude assets owned before marriage; assets covered by a
prenuptial agreement; or assets acquired by gift or inheritance. Check state law.
Ethics; Legal Ethics. A code of conduct, also known as the Code of Professional
Responsibility, imposed on attorneys. Violations may subject the attorney to
disciplinary proceedings and malpractice claims. See Cannons of (Legal) Ethics.
Expert Witness. In divorce cases, most experts are called to testify as to the value
of the marital home, pensions, and privately-held businesses. In child related
disputes, mental health professionals are often called to testify.
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Fair and Reasonable. The judicial standard for approving marital agreements.
Note that in non-divorce areas of the law, there are no standards of fairness;
winner takes all, and the lawyers fight to the death. In divorce, lawyers'
zealous advocacy must be tempered by justice, however, divorce lawyers
often act as if they represent the plaintiff in a personal injury case, trying to
win at all costs without consideration of the consequences. Avoid these
zealots.
Fair Market Value. The price a willing buyer pays a willing seller; not a fire sale
price or a sale between family members for less than full price. A price paid after
an arm’s length negotiation, not a transaction between parties paying more or less
than what a reasonable buyer would pay. Compare Replacement Value.
Fault and No-fault Divorces. In fault divorces, the complaint for divorce must
state grounds for divorce. They include cruel and abusive treatment, adultery,
abandonment, and other types of misconduct.
Since the 1970s most states have allowed no-fault divorces. No-fault
divorces are contested or uncontested. Where the parties present an
agreement for the court's approval, their divorce is said to be uncontested. If
the parties can't negotiate an agreement, their divorce is contested and goes
to trial. Fault and Punishment. Divorce judges seek fair results, not
retribution.
Many parties believe judges punish fault by penalizing the guilty. Judges
are not grand inquisitors reigning terror on unfaithful spouses. Behavior
must be outrageous, and we mean totally shocking, before most judges will
punish the guilty.
Fee Agreement; Retainer Agreement. The written contract between you and
your lawyer.
The Fee Agreement should provide for monthly invoices; hourly billing
(including the rates of the attorney, associates, and paralegals); the amount
of retainer, if any; how the retainer is replenished if depleted; and the
disposition of any funds not used. If the Fee Agreement allows the lawyer
to keep any unused portion of the retainer, think of your local supermarket
cashier saying, 'it is our policy not to give change.' Never say, 'keep the
change,' when thousands of dollars are involved. Avoid these crooks.
See Contingency Fee Agreement and Success Fee Agreement for ethical
problems with these types of Fee Agreements.
File; Filing. Any document submitted to and officially received, i.e., 'docketed'
by, the court.
Final Judgment. After a court enters a final judgment, you may remarry. See also
Interlocutory Judgment; Interlocutory Decree; Judgment Nisi.
Financial Statement. Each party must complete, file, and serve a court-furnished
financial statement, often printed on colored paper so it can be easily identified
'sealed,' i.e., kept out of records available for public inspection.
Perhaps the most important divorce document, but often neglected by many
lawyers, it is a major trap for the unwary. Honest mistakes 'can and will be
used against you in a court of law.' For example, monthly finances can't be
converted into weekly numbers by dividing by 4, as there are 4.33 weeks in
a month. We see excellent lawyers on big-money cases blunder. Make sure
your lawyer focuses on details. It is worth the additional expense in legal
fees. If counsel wants to wing it, get a new lawyer, especially if the case is
headed for trial. See Discovery.
Find; Findings. After considering the evidence presented, a court or jury
interprets the evidence and sets forth what it believes, i.e., finds, are the actual
facts. Courts have great latitude in weighing evidence and in believing or
disbelieving witnesses. The court's findings, along with its 'conclusions of law,'
form the basis for the court's decision. See Decision and Judgment.
Most fraud claims in divorce relate to fraud in the inducement to marry (see
Annulment), separation agreements, and the introduction of evidence at
trial. In order to upset an earlier judgment, the fraud must be material, and
the plaintiff (victim) must prove that 1) she suffered substantial harm as a
result, and 2) she could not have detected the fraud at the time it occurred
by using reasonable care.
Frye Test. Frye v. United States, decided in 1923. Relative to the Rules of
Evidence, a test applied by a judge to determine whether so-called scientific
evidence should be admitted because the science is “generally accepted” in the
scientific community. An earlier test. Compare Daubert Test. See
http://www.law.harvard.edu/publications/evidenceiii/cases/frye.htm
Full Faith and Credit. A term found in the United States Constitution (Art IV,
Sec. 1) requiring each state to honor the legal judgments of other states.
Such judgments must comply with the United States Constitution in all
other respects. If a court did not have jurisdiction over a party (for instance,
the person never set foot in the state), then a judgment affecting that person
might violate the 'due process' clause of the Constitution.
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Most states favor attachment for support payments. It avoids late or missed
payments and saves court time. Fewer contempt of court actions are filed.
A 'contingent' or 'suspended' wage assignment requires the completion of
appropriate forms, and does not become active unless, and until, payments
are missed. This is a strong inducement for your spouse to stay current on
his payments.
Gestational Carrier. Woman who carries and delivers a child, but may have no
biological connection to the child. Surrogate mother. Compare Gamete Provider.
Ground(s) for Divorce. Each state's divorce statutes set forth certain improper or
troublesome behavior that constitutes a 'legal reason' for the court to grant a
divorce.
1. Adultery
3. Utter desertion
4. Long-term incarceration
6. Non-support 7. Impotency
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Habitual Residence. Term used in the Hague Convention. Refers to where the
child last lived when a court deals with child abduction, but does not define how
long or with whom. Compare with Home State as used by the UCCJEA and
PKKPA.
Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction. See
Parental Kidnapping.
Head of Household. A filing status under federal tax rules. You may be able to
file as head of household if you meet all the following requirements. You are
unmarried or “considered unmarried” on the last day of the year. You paid more
than half the cost of keeping up a home for the year. A “qualifying person” lived
with you in the home for more than half the year (except for temporary absences,
such as living at school). A dependent parent does not have to live with you. See
www.irs.gov/faqs/faq-kw96.html
Hearing on the Merits. See Trial; Hearing on the Merits; Evidentiary Hearing
Most health care providers were required to comply by April 2003. All
were required to comply by April 2004. Exceptions are made for records
requested as part of a court proceeding. State law may provide even more
stringent protection for patients, requiring a judge to decide whether certain
records should be produced for an opponent’s inspection and possible use at
trial.
If your spouse agrees to indemnify you, he will defend any actions against
you including paying your attorney fees, court costs, and damages against
you, if any are awarded.
Home State. See UCCJEA and PKPA. The State where a child lived with a parent
or a person acting as parent for at lest six consecutive months immediately before
the commencement of child custody proceedings. If a child is less than six months
old, then the State where the child lived from birth. A period of temporary absence
is included.
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Impeach; Impeachment of Testimony. Discrediting a witness by proving lies,
inconsistencies in stories told, and untrustworthiness. The witness may be
impeached during cross-examination or by the direct testimony or evidence of
another witness. See Direct and Cross Examination.
Imputed Income. Concept applied when a party claims he or she cannot work, or
no longer makes as much money as the party did before the commencement of the
lawsuit. The opposing party argues income should be attributed to the party
because he or she is trained, educated, experienced and/or capable of earning
income, but is voluntarily unemployed or underemployed. Often used when
calculating child support. May be applied to one or both parents.
Infant. A person who has not reached legal majority, usually 18 years of age.
Also, referred to as a 'minor,' or unemancipated child.
Note that most inheritance 'rights' are mere expectancies, i.e., they are not
vested since you may be disinherited. As a practical matter, even if the
court takes into account expectancies, they are generally not given much
weight, especially if one's parents are healthy. Courts avoid placing an
economic value on assets of uncertain worth that may or may not be
received upon some uncertain future date.
INS. Immigration and Naturalization Service, former agency under the U.S.
Department of Justice (DOJ). Handled immigration. Tasks now handled by other
agencies established under the Department of Homeland Security (DHS) with the
exception of immigration court system, still under DOJ. DHS overseas USCIS
(United States Citizenship and Immigration Services); USICE (United States
Immigraiton and Customs Enforcement; and USCBP (United States Customs and
Border Patrol). Immigration laws may impact adoption, marriage and divorce. See
http://uscis.gov/graphics/index.htm
Intact Family. A family that has not experienced a separation and/or divorce,
hence, is not broken, but intact.
Despite your judgment of divorce nisi or interlocutory decree, you are still
legally married and cannot remarry until the judgment becomes 'final' or
'absolute.' Also, during the interlocutory or nisi period, your spouse has the
right to inherit from you unless a separation agreement waiving such rights
was executed. Check with counsel if you are feeling mortal.
Intestate; Laws of Intestacy. A person who dies without a will is said to die
intestate.
Unlike the Guardian ad Litem, the investigator does not 'stand in the shoes'
of the minor child(ren).
Irretrievable Breakdown. The legal grounds for no fault divorce in most states.
The court must be convinced, i.e., find, that the marriage has 'irretrievably
broken down' and that there is no chance of reconciliation. If your case is
uncontested you may have to sign an affidavit stating that the marriage is
'irretrievably broken down.' It is filed along with your joint petition and
separation agreement before an uncontested, no-fault divorce is granted..
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Joint Petition. When both parties want the court to do the same thing, such as
'dissolve a marriage' due to an irretrievable breakdown (no-fault) and approve a
separation agreement (uncontested), the parties jointly request (by joint petition)
the court to grant the divorce.
Joint Property. Property held in the name of both spouses. Except in Mississippi,
legal title is usually not relevant in dividing property. Basically, one spouse can't
say, 'honey, the property is in my name, so you don't get any.'
Jurisdiction. The court's legal authority to hear your case and issue legally
enforceable orders and judgments. Usually, the court in the county where you last
lived together has jurisdiction over the divorce. If one party permanently leaves
the state, both states may have jurisdiction. Ask you lawyer about this tricky area
of jurisprudence.
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Lord Mansfield’s Rule. The legal presumption that any child born to a woman
during her marriage is the child of her husband; possible exception. if the husband
did not have access to the wife during the probable time of conception. A rule
enunciated by Lord Mansfield in 18th century England. The same rule followed to
some degree in American courts. In the latter part of the 20th century, the rule lost
favor in the U.S. and will continue fading because of genetic testing.
Lump Sum, Lump Sum Settlement. One time payment as opposed to a series of
payments over time or an installment or structured settlement. The lump sum may
be less than all of the payments made over time because the so-called time value
of money is taken into account, thus creating a discount. In divorce cases a lump
sum payment may be used to pay off all of the alimony obligations or may be used
to secure a discount for a spouse’s share of future income such as rents or
proceeds from an installment sale to a third party. See Structured Settlement.
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Mandatory Factors (to be Considered by the Court). The factors a court must
consider before making a final decision relating to property division and alimony.
Some states also have 'discretionary factors' a court may consider. See Equitable
Distribution.
Marriage Certificate. The official certification (with raised seal) of your marriage
issued by a public entity.
Make sure you have an official copy with a raised seal; religious certificates
are generally unacceptable. Contact the city or town where you were
married or your state.
Market Analysis. With respect to real property, the study conducted by a real
estate broker, not an appraiser, showing value or price of a particular piece of real
estate with an analysis of similar or comparable real estate recently sold. A broker
who hopes to be engaged by the owner to list the property for sale may do the
analysis at no charge. Compare Valuation and Appraisal.
Maternal Preference. Concept used by 20th century courts when deciding child
custody cases in favor of mothers. See Tender Years Presumption.
Mediators are not marriage counselors, but may help you develop a
parenting plan. We advise our clients to go this route where appropriate, but
mediation is not suitable for everyone. Interestingly, more men are satisfied
with the result than women who tend to believe that they would have done
better before a judge.
Motion. A written request asking or 'moving' the court to grant a temporary order,
or rule on a legal matter.
Motions are either 'contested' or, if the parties stipulate to the matter,
'uncontested.' Motions are usually heard at a special motion or ex parte
'session' of the court. Legal fees for contested motions are expensive and
the outcome is rarely certain. Therefore, when possible, you should enter
into a written stipulation to be submitted for the court's approval. The
stipulation then becomes part of the court's temporary order.
Motion for Counsel Fees Pendente Lite. See Counsel Fees Pendente Lite,
Motion for
Motion to Vacate the Marital Home. See Vacate the Marital Home, Motion to.
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Necessaries. The common law doctrine that if a person who owes another person
the duty of support and fails to support such person, he becomes liable to third
parties who provide necessaries such as the grocer and utility company to person
owed a duty of support..
The dollar amounts are limited and vary from state to state. The better
practice is to get a temporary order of support.
Notice; Legal Notice. The procedure for informing a party that a legal action or
motion is pending before a court.
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Order; Court Order; Order of the Court. A written instruction from the court
carrying the weight of law, i.e., the knowing violation of which constitutes
contempt of court.
Ordinary Expenses. Costs and expenses for necessities such as food, clothing and
shelter, but not including luxury items; those expenses that are typical of the
family prior to separation and divorce; may include higher priced items for certain
families accustomed to spending more on luxury items or purchasing higher priced
goods and services.
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Parenting Classes. A recent requirement in many states for divorcing parties with
minor children. Classes are designed to prevent undue hardship on the children by
teaching parents to love their children more than they hate one another.
Parental Kidnapping. The act of one parent illegally taking a child in violation of
court order.
Parenting Schedule or Parenting Plan. See also Custody and Visitation. Terms
used by courts and lawyers since the mid-1990’s when referring to parents’ time
with minor children or sharing of custodial rights and responsibilities. Deemed
less emotionally charged than terms "custody" and "visitation."
Paternity. The relationship between a male parent and a child. Usually means the
biological ties, but can mean the legal relationship imposed by a court on a man
who has no biological ties to a child. See Parentage and Lord Mansfield’s Rule.
Compare De Facto Parent. See www.paternitynet.com
Paternity, Establishment. The determination by a court or voluntary
acknowledgment, usually by a signed declaration of paternity, that a man is the
father of a child. See www.paternitynet.com
Pendente Lite. Latin for 'during the litigation.' See Counsel Fees Pendente Lite,
Motion for
Perjury may run rampant in divorce trials. Criminal prosecution for perjury
in a civil cases is virtually non-existent. One Massachusetts Family Court
judge sent cases to the district attorney ( who failed to prosecute). No one
likes being lied to, especially judges. The 'jerk' factor often decides cases.
Which party is the bigger jerk' Judges are human. They often like one side
more than the other. Point out your spouse's perjury at trial, and he'll
assume 'jerk' status.
Personal Liberty. Living and fully enjoying life, free from fear or violence
caused unnecessarily and unreasonably; free of unwarranted control by another.
Personal Property. Not real estate, houses, buildings or land. Includes, among
other things, cash, savings accounts, checking accounts, stocks, bonds, intellectual
property, jewelry, art, antiques, collectibles, and pets.
Prayer; Prayer for Relief. The request made to the court, usually at the end of a
pleading, asking for the relief sought, such as granting a divorce or ordering
financial support. For instance, you might say 'the plaintiff respectfully requests
this Honorable Court to....'
Prejudice; With and Without Prejudice. The concept that what happens in court
or by stipulation of the parties will affect future proceedings. Generally, pretrial
orders are said to be without prejudice, which means that the parties have a right to
a trial on all matters, including those decided by temporary orders. In contrast,
with prejudice means that even at trial the earlier order determines the outcome.
Preliminary Hearing. Any court proceeding that occurs prior to trial.
Premarital Assets. Assets acquired before marriage. These assets usually are part
of the marital estate in equitable distribution states and are excluded from, and
constitute separate property in, community property states.
Such agreements must be 'fair and reasonable' at the time entered, and 'fair
and reasonable' at the time of enforcement. The longer a marriage, the less
enforceable they become. The parties financial statements should be
attached since full disclosure is required.
Pretrial Conference. A meeting of all parties and counsel with the trial judge,
sometimes held in the judge's chambers.
Parties are often surprised by how close they are to settling. Often the only
thing keeping them apart is their attorneys' failure to communicate with
their clients and with each other. Some lawyers never really understand
their own cases until a judge, with 5-10 minutes of preparation, explains it
to them. They are highly focused on a few trees when the forest is on fire.
Under the rules of evidence, matters are excluded, no matter how relevant
to the case, if obtained through these confidential relationships. The rules
are technical and vary state to state. Consult your lawyer.
In many states, family court is part of, or under the jurisdiction of, the
probate court.
Professional Responsibility (Code of). See Ethics, Legal Ethics and Cannons of
(Legal) Ethics
Pro Se; Pro Se Appearance. When a party handles her own case, i.e., represents
herself, she is said to appear 'pro se.'
Parties are entitled to appear pro se, but counsel is recommended, especially
if you have significant assets or serious child-related issues. Remember,
even a lawyer who represents himself has a fool for a client.
Psychological Testing. Includes tests like the Rorschach Ink Blot Test and
Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory – 2. Conducted by psychologists,
usually in family law cases to help determine child custody.
Public Records. any books, papers, maps, photographs, electronic storage media,
computer files, digitally stored material or any other information regardless of
form, which is made or received by employees of public agencies.
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QDROs often are used when one party, usually the husband, has a large
pension or 401K and when liquid assets are insufficient to 'even up,' i.e.,
pay cash to the party without or with smaller pension benefits. While
judicial policy is to avoid long-term entanglements, sometimes there is no
choice but to approve a QDRO.
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Recapture, Alimony. A federal tax rule that penalizes the party who pays
alimony, if payments are “front loaded”, meaning excess amount is paid during the
first three years. If the alimony paid in the third year decreases by more than
$15,000 from the second year or the alimony paid in the second and third years
decreases significantly from the alimony paid in the first year, the paying spouse
must include in income in the third year part of the alimony payments previously
deducted. In other words, the paying spouse’s tax bill increases and the recipient’s
decreases because he or she can deduct in the third year part of the alimony
payments he or she previously included in income.
If you believe that a judge cannot give your case a fair hearing, counsel can
file a motion asking the judge to 'recuse' himself. Unless the judge has a
personal or business relationship with your spouse, this motion will
probably fail, and can even backfire. Judges do not want to be told that they
cannot act fairly.
Removal (of a minor child). The legal proceeding, usually brought by complaint
or petition, by the custodial parent to remove (move) the minor child(ren) from the
state.
The recent trend is to allow the custodial parent more flexibility in moving
out of state when there are 'real advantages' (known as the 'real advantage'
test) to the custodial parent. The theory is what's good for the parent
(usually the mother) is good for the child, i.e., in the child's best interest.
Fathers' rights groups have lobbied against this trend. Not all states use the
'real advantage' test. We have come full circle from Victorian times when
children were the personal property of their fathers. Now children are the
personal property of their mothers. Many courts are unlikely to allow
removal if the child has a close relationship with the non-custodial parent.
Consult your attorney.
In divorce, the two most encountered rules relate to hearsay ('he said, she
said),' and the marital privilege ('my husband told me...'). Clients are often
frustrated when important evidence is barred from trial. Lawyers spend
considerable time figuring out 'how to get it in.' Try not to get too angry at
the system, there is a valid reason for each rule.
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Safe Havens for Children. a federal program to make grants to states, units of
local government, and Indian tribal governments to work with nonprofit entities to
provide supervised visitation and safe visitation exchange of children in domestic
violence, child abuse, sexual assault, or stalking cases. See
http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/vawo/laws/vawa_summary2.htm
Same Sex Marriage. The legally recognized marriage of two women or two men,
now recognized in Massachusetts, but not by the federal government and other
states. Available to residents of Massachusetts since May 2004. Pending
legislation (April 2005) in Massachusetts may allow out-of-state same sex couples
to marry in Massachusetts. See also Civil Union.
Sanctions. Under the Rules of Procedure, courts may penalize or sanction a party
or counsel for improper behavior, such as making frivolous claims.
Usually such awards are paid to the opposing party, but don't hold your
breath. Courts are reluctant to punish obstructionist lawyering or
uncooperative parties. The divorce bar has created a lucrative cottage
industry out of obstructing justice.
Self Incrimination; the right against. The right of the accused not to admit
criminal wrongdoing.
Most wrongful behavior is not criminal in divorce, so the right against self
incrimination cannot be asserted. Certain acts, however, such as adultery,
are still considered crimes in most states. Domestic violence and tax
cheating are also crimes. The right may be asserted in these limited
instances, but unlike criminal proceedings, the judge may draw a negative
inference from a party asserting the right against self incrimination. In other
words, the judge can assume your guilt from your assertion of the right. In
criminal cases, drawing such inferences is strictly forbidden.
Service; Service of Process. The legal process of informing, i.e., 'giving notice,'
that a complaint or motion is pending.
Stalking. Behavior of a rejected partner after a break-up who cannot accept the
end of the relationship. May include incessant calls through the day and night,
unwanted letters and email and other conduct aimed at maintaining contact the
stalker hopes will effectuate a reconciliation. The stalker’s behavior may be
annoying and intrusive, and can cause fear and lead to harm to the departing
partner. Many states have anti-stalking statutes. See
http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/ovc/publications/bulletins/legalseries/bulletin1/welcome
.html
State. As used in PKPA, meaning the 50 states, District of Columbia, Puerto Rico
and the Territories of the United States.
State Court. In the United States, courts established and governed by States and
operating under state law. Not established by Congress. Family law cases are
usually reserved for state court, but increasingly, the federal courts have been used
to decide child abduction cases, that is, whether the child should be returned to the
country of habitual residence (see Habitual Residence), but not to decide which
party wins custody. See Hague Convention.
Status Conference. A meeting before trial with the judge assigned to a case for
the purpose of updating the court on any progress the parties may have made in
resolving any issues. Often used as an opportunity for the judge to comment
informally on the parties’ positions. Judicial feedback at the status conference can
lead to partial or complete settlement.
Generally, stays are granted by appeals courts, but appeals are rare in
divorce cases.
Courts like and usually approve reasonable stipulations. They save judicial
time. Parties can stipulate to almost anything related to the case. In fact, a
separation agreement is nothing more than a comprehensive stipulation. If
the parties agree on some matters, but disagree on others, they can stipulate
to those issues and have the court decide outstanding issues.
Strike; Motion to Strike. Upon motion of a party, a court may remove certain
pleadings and evidence from the docket upon finding such material totally
irrelevant, scandalous, or without proper notice.
Subpoena; Subpoena Duces Tecum. A court order (or order of a notary public in
some states) to attend a legal proceeding such as a trial or deposition. If documents
also are requested, the subpoena is called a subpoena duces tecum, Latin for 'bring
with you.' See also Discovery; Pretrial Discovery.
Success Fee. Legal fees added to hourly billings if, in the lawyer's opinion, he
deserves a bonus based on his performance.
Obviously, outside the practice of law, you are unlikely to find an employee
or consultant unilaterally deciding his own compensation. Even chairmen
of large corporations don't set their own compensation levels. Think of your
local supermarket cashier: 'Well, today the produce is exceptionally fresh
and you didn't have to wait, so that's an extra $10.00.' If your lawyer wants
a success fee, see if he'll give you a 'failure discount.' Ask whether he'll
agree to reduce his fee if in your sole opinion his performance was
unsatisfactory.
Summons. The court's official notice to the defendant that he must respond to the
attached complaint or petition.
The complaint must be served with the summons for the defendant to know
the particulars of the claim against him. A sheriff or other party authorized
to serve process completes a 'proof of service' or 'return of service' that is
filed with the court.
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Upon motion, courts may issue temporary orders at any time from the
initial filing of a case to time of trial. Temporary restraining orders (TROs)
are issued to preserve marital assets, such as restricting borrowing and
spending. They also are used to restrain parties, usually the husband, from
returning to the marital home (see Vacate; Motion to Vacate the Marital
Home) or harassing the spouse.
Tender Years Presumption. Concept used by courts from early 20th century
until 1970’s when deciding child custody cases. Presumption favored mothers as
custodial parents of young children or children of tender years, not adolescents.
Compare Best Interests of the Child.
Time Standards. Court rules establishing deadlines after suit is filed for the
completion or occurrence of certain phases of litigation such as discovery (see
Discovery), pretrial conferences (see Pretrial Conferences), and trials. See
www.mass.gov/courts/courtsandjudges/
courts/probateandfamilycourt/timestandards.pdf and
www.ncsconline.org/D_Research/ TCPS/Measures/me
Tort; Marital Tort; Domestic Tort. A tort is any wrongful act which creates
legal liability against the defendant or 'tortfeaser.'
Trafficking. Trafficking of persons, especially into the sex trade, slavery, and
slavery-like conditions.
In effect, the third party becomes your trustee. He is responsible to you and
the court for the safekeeping of certain property, such as money or the
contents of a safe deposit box. A 'writ of trustee process' is issued by the
court in response to a motion and an affidavit of 'irreparable harm' filed in
support of the motion.
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Uniform Parentage Act of 2000. Integrates the Uniform Parentage Act (1973), as
revised by this version, along with provisions covered by the Uniform Putative
and Unknown Fathers Act (1988), and the Uniform Status of Children of Assisted
Conception Act (1988), into a single Act of the National Conference of
Commissioners on Uniform State Laws. See National Conference of
Commissioners on Uniform State Laws (NCCUSL).
Unvested Interest. Relative to stock options, for example, meaning the employee
spouse does not yet own, but has the right to “earn” the options, usually by
remaining with the company for a certain period of time. Relative to a trust,
meaning there is no present or future interest guaranteed. Compare Vested
Interest.
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VAWA. See Violence against Women Act of 1994 and Violence against Women
Act of 2000.
Vacate the Marital Home, Motion to. A request to the court made by motion
asking that one party, usually the husband, be forced to vacate the marital home.
Unless you are under the threat of violence, this is a radical request that sets
the stage for a contentious divorce. While your spouse may well deserve
shabby treatment, you deserve to get what's yours with the least effort.
Don't complicate things unnecessarily.
Usually, the county court in the county where the parties last lived together
is the proper venue.
Vested Interest. Relative to stock options, for example, meaning the employee
spouse now owns and is entitled to exercise or purchase. Relative to a trust,
meaning the beneficiary has a guaranteed present or future interest. A vested
interest, even if a future interest, not presently owned, may affect the court’s
decision on alimony and a division of assets in some states. Compare Unexercised
Interest.
Viatical Value. As applied to term life insurance, the value or sale price of term
life insurance to a third party. What the owner of term life insurance policy
receives as a percentage of the death benefit upon sale to a third party. In general,
the younger the insured, the lower the value.
Violence against Women Act of 1994 and Violence against Women Act of
2000. Federal legislation and funding of programs to prevent violence against
women and to prosecute abusers. See
http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/vawo/regulations.htm and
http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/vawo/laws/vawa_summary2.htm.
Take out your calendar and think it through. The schedule should be
flexible, but consistent enough so you can make plans.
Visitation Center. A location where parent and child visit under supervised
conditions, sometimes for a fee paid by the visiting parent who may be accused of
sexual or other abusive behavior toward the child.
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Welfare. See Aid to Families with Dependent Children (AFDC) and Temporary
Assistance for Needy Families (TANF).
With and Without Prejudice. See Prejudice; With and Without Prejudice