201 + Islamic Marriage Questions to ask:

For Sisters….

Table of Contents for a Guide For

Sisters

Introduction: How to Use This Book & Disclaimer

Is All This A Bit Much? - Dowry and Financial Advice
The Necessity For Guardianship in Marriage
The Life of The Prophet (S.A.W.S) with Aisha (R.A.)
To Do List: Before You Look For A Spouse
Checking Out The Brother's Islam
Biographical Information: The Resume
About His Family & Misc.
Behavior
Personal Hygiene & Medical History
Financial Status
Children
The Wife &/or Co-Wife
The Home
Bidah (Innovation) in Marriage Arrangements
What The Quran Says About Marriage
Fiqh Rulings Concerning Marriage
Hadith Concerning Marriage
*Final Warnings- Strong Advisory
Bibliography

The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is one who
has excellent behavior; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives.
However if you end up with mistreating your wife. Allah will deal with you, rest assure on that and
Allah will reward and compensate your wife for your suffering. Treat women with fairness and
kindness and with respect as the Prophet treated his wives. Do not subject them to verbal and or
physical abuse, that is not your right to do that as a husband.

Lastly, one speaker said, if you can't be good to your family , then stay single. You don't have the
right to marry if you will mistreat your wife.

Introduction

How to Use this Book (Important: See Disclaimer)

This book contains a number of questions that you may or may not need to ask the brother. Keep
in mind that not all questions are appropriate depending upon each situation. You should use your
judgment in this area. Some questions are strange because they take the approach of the
worse case scenario.
Make dua for a good spouse and educate yourself fully on your right of women and men in
marriage.. Then read all the questions and mark off the questions that you feel that you want ask
the brother. Reword the questions to fit your particular situation. Also keep in mind that some
questions are of a very sensitive nature, and therefore will require a delicate approach such as
asking the brother for an AIDS test if that is what you want. Please be aware that asking the
questions does not guarantee that the brother is telling the truth or that he is answering from his
heart. Others have the best of intentions but never follow through. The book was developed
because many sisters have gotten shafted from brothers wo have conveniently left out important
information or who were not honest, or who were not willing to work out problems that arose in the
marriage. On the other hand, no one is perfect and therefore will not be able to give the best
answers to these questions in some cases. However you must judge which things you can live with
and help him change and what things you cannot live with.
It is advised that you tape the question and answer session with the brother's knowledge or write
the responses that the brother gives. This is important because many times a brother agrees to
allow his wife to visit her friends twice a week, and then a few months down the line he may have
forgotten this. In another case a brother may say that he will start attending Fajr prayer, and a year
later, has not made any attempt in doing so. Therefore, you can refer back to your answer sheet or
tape and remind him that he answered these question in front of your Wali and that he needs to
keep his word.
If the brother is hesitant in answering the questions, sometimes this is a sign that the brother is
hiding something. Never think that your needs are to unimportant, because that could be the first
mistake you make! Lastly, you must make sure that you get the dowry that you asked for. Don't be
foolish and ask for nothing (unless you truly don't want anything) in a dower, keeping in mind that if
the marriage. Many times sisters don't specifically ask for anything from the husband and the
husband never gives the wife anything, yet quickly reminds the wife of her bedroom duties if she
acts hesitant. Also, before signing the marriage contract make sure that he knows what to expect
from you as a wife (things you are willing to tolerate and give up or what you are not willing to
tolerate or give up). Make sure that you know what to expect from him as a husband (Don't expect
new clothes every two months if you know that he is poor, or don't complain about not being able to
visit the sisters constantly and excessively if he has already told you that he rather that you stay at
home sometimes). Some people hang out so much with friends until they neglectful toward the
husband and other duties. And, don't expect people to change. When you marry the person,
remember that you (in most cases) are marrying them AS IS. If you find that a brother is pushy and
acts hastily, then this is part of his character, and will most likely be something that stays with him.
If he is not doing some Sunnah acts, your encouragement could possibly get him to change and
start doing those acts.
Lastly, a word on compromise. Often women compromise their Islamic rights so much so that
by the time they decide to end a bad marriage, they want to list 201 things the brother has done.
Don't let it get that far. If you do that is your fault. Nip things in the bud early on. Approach your
marriage guardian , give the brother time to change. If that doesn't work, return to the marriage
guardian and if results aren't happening, in a reasonable time, then you have to decided to either
live with it, or seek divorce in the worst case scenario. Don't allow yourself to be perpetual victim
either. The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is
one who has excellent behavior; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their
wives. However if you end up with a bad brother who fails to practice this, don't use this as an
excuse to leave Islam or leave your practice. Allah will deal with him, rest assure on that and Allah
will reward and compensate you for your suffering.

Acknowledgments

All praise is due to Allah. We praise Him, seek His help for you and for me and for all the Muslims, I
seek His forgiveness and we seek refuge in Him from the evil of our souls and the sins of our
deeds. Whoever Allah guides will not be misled by anyone, and whoever He sends astray will not
be guided. I bear witness that there is no God except Allah, the One, who has no partner; and I
bear witness that Muhammad sallallahu alayhe wa sallam is His servant and the seal of all the
Prophets. May the blessings of Allah and His peace be upon His slave and messenger
Muhammad and upon his family and his companions and all of his followers until the Day of
Judgment, Amen.

Disclaimer

This book is NOT written by or with any Islamic Shaykh or person of scholarly knowledge. This
book is merely a collection of questions that I have come across through the years. This book
should never be used as a substituted for your Wali (marriage guardian) nor as a substitute for dua
(asking Allah to give you a spouse who is honest and spiritually committed to their deen while
displaying good character with their family.) This book in NO way guarantees successful marriage
if the questions are asked. It is merely designed so that you will ask the appropriate questions so
that you won't be shocked or disappointed later in the marriage. It is also not a substitute for your
gut instinct or common scense. If someone answers questions perfectly, but your gut tells you
something is amiss, go with your gut. This book is for gathering information purposes only and is
not a substitute for marriage guardianship and from seeking guidance from scholarly sources. This
book is not attempting to make any fatwas.

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Is All of This a Bit Much?

About 100 years ago, and of course during the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam and
the tabien, tabi-tabien,tabi-tabi-tabien (later generations) Muslims were different then they are
today. One hundred years ago, you were hard pressed to find a woman without proper Islamic
attire or an Arab who did not have the entire Quran memorized (hafiz Quran). These days it is
common for the woman to have failed in proper Islamic dress attire and many Arabs and other life
time , or long time Muslims that have not memorized more than 10-20 small Surah from the Quran.
Additionally Islamic character amongst many of the Muslims is poor at best. Muslims are not as
religious and forthright as they were in the past. It is because of this that many movements have
started that are trying to bring people back or at least make them conscious of the style of the
Companions, and later generations which still held fast to religion and religious character. and . In
the days of old, a few questions could be asked, and you could be confident that the brother would
be pious and upright. Currently with some much bidah, deviant groups and concepts, and
increased use of inauthentic materials and blind madhhab following there is no telling what you
could get yourself into when marrying a brother who has not been check out. Which is why this
book was designed, to try to get the information out of the brother so that you are not shock later.

The Best Dowry

Aisha narrated in Sahih Muslim #3318 AbuSalamah ibn AbdurRahman reported: I asked Aisha, the
wife of Allah's Messenger (SAWS): What is the amount of dower of Allah's Messenger (SAWS)?
She said: It was twelve uqiyahs and one nash. She said: Do you know what is an-nash? I said: No.
She said: It is half of uqiyah, and it amounts to five hundred dirhams (approximately $30.00) and
that was the dower given by Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhe wa sallam to his wives.

However, the woman can ask for what ever she wishes, but the best dowry is also the easiest
dowry. If you ask for a good sum of money it would be a good idea to save this money in case of a
divorce or sudden death of the husband, so that you have some means to support yourself.

Also, because death, illness or divorce can happen unexpectedly, a husband should make sure,
and a wife should make sure that she has the means to feed and house herself and her children
during that transitional time. During a divorce a wife stays in her husband's home until the divorce
is finalized. After that she must support and maintain herself, so she must plan for that. Before a
woman marries it is good financial advice iif she has 2 +months of living expenses saved in case of
a divorce so that she has some cushion time to find a job. Unfortunately the divorce rate is getting
to the 50% failure rate and above and so it would be wise to have a back up plan. However, if the
husband dies unexpectedly or some other tragedy occurs, one should have some savings as best
as one can arrange, to have a few months of living expenses. Again, unfortunately, Muslim
communities may not be able to support a woman and her family if she looses her husband
suddenly and therefore you need to make ends meet during this time so that you can pay your rent
and have food and unities. In order to save, people may have to temporarily cut off luxury items
(junk food and drinks, entertainment) or try other money saving techniques until you have a small
nest egg for living expenses for 2--3 months minimum. Lastly, even if you have money saved in a
bank account, if that bank account only has your husband's name on it, and he dies, you can not
get that money right away as his legal spouse recognized by the state. So make sure that savings
is accessible in a joint account or other secure means or in your own account .

The Necessity For Guardianship in Marriage

It is important to know that no matter how many questions you ask a brother, or how much you
think you know him, or how sure you think you are that he is a great guy, YOU MUST HAVE A
MARRIAGE GUARDIAN! Many time sisters end up so sorry because they were cheated out of
their dowry or mislead some how. In some cases she found out things after the marriage that
proved devastating all because she did not have a marriage guardian to investigate the brother she
was interested in marrying.
The first thing that you must do, before you start looking for a husband is to find a marriage
guardian. Without the marriage guardian your marriage is not valid. In a sound Hadeeth it is
recorded that The Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam , said: "A woman shall not marry off
another woman nor shall a woman marry herself off." (Ibn Majah and Darul-Qutni) Another sound
Hadeeth states "Any woman who marries without the sanction of her guardian, then her marriage
is invalid; and if he has already consummated the marriage with her, then the dowry is hers to keep
for what he has enjoyed of her; and if they dispute, then the ruler is the guardian for the one who
has none." (Ibn Majah and others) A Muslim should be getting married for the completion of their
religion, and leaving out the marriage guardian is violating Allah's laws. When one violates Allah's
laws and transgresses the limits He sets, it is of no benefit to the parties involved. So don't deiced
that you have everything under control or that no one in your community is of interest to you to
pick to be your Wali. Be selective, pick a member of the community (unless your family is Muslim
and you can select one from there) who is religious and knows what his job would be as a marriage
guardian. Don't just pick any body out of a hat, because this guardian will be your protector, before
and during the marriage.
The marriage guardian is there for your protection. Leaving him out is like walking into a potential
dangerous zone without a hard hat. He will help to make sure that the person you are considering
is a good practicing Muslim who is able to provide for you. He is there to make sure that your
dowry is given to you up front. He is also there to insure that secret meetings don't occur or secret
marriages, abuse or unlawful sex.
If you have chosen a marriage guardian who is not doing all that he should, approach him in a nice
manner and remind him of what duties he is lacking. Your marriage guardian is the one that
should handle all calls that a brother makes in inquiring about you. He is to handle investigation of
the brother. (He should be the one asking these questions on your behalf, but if he does not and
you want them answered, ask your marriage guardian to set up a supervised meeting so that you
can ask these questions) He is to handle your dowry (making sure that it is given in full and that
whatever the brother is promising to give to you, that he is capable of doing so).
Don't rush into any thing you are not ready for. Take your time, and make sure that you are happy
with the marriage prospect before agreeing to marriage. Even if you feel pressured, don't do it until
you are ready. Many times people rush through things and end up sorry later because they did not
take the time to get the brother investigated. Lastly, don't' be gullible or naive. So many women
entering into a marriage with an idealistic fantasy that any brother properly dressed, or that seems
nice will be to best husband one could expect. Wake up from that fantasy. Very few men in this day
and age make the effort to be as devout as they claim and as nice and considerate as they should
be. Truly, there are some brothers out there, that are good or excellent in character and piety, but
they are far and few between. Therefore be mindful of red flags during your interview process.
Also, always have a back up plan if the marriage doesn't work out. Have some money saved as a
safety net and don't let anyone strong arm it away from you.
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The Life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam with Aisha (Radallahuanha)

Below you will find a few hadeeth which give a very brief description on how the Prophet sallallahu
alayhe wa sallam spent time with his wives. This is important so that you will know what to ask the
brother. Is he going to be affectionate and playful with you as the Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa
sallam did with his wives?
Aisha narrated in Sahih Muslim #0986 One night I missed Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhe wa
sallam from the bed, and when I sought him my hand touched the soles of his feet while he was in
the state of prostration; they (feet) were raised and he was saying: "O Allah, I seek refuge in Thy
pleasure from Thy anger, and in Thy forgiveness from thy punishment, and I seek refuge in Thee
from Thee (Thy anger). I cannot reckon Thy praise. Thou art as Thou hast lauded Thyself."
Aisha narrated in Sahih Al-Bukari #1.296 The Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam used to lean on
my lap and recite Qur'an while I was in menses.
Aisha narrated in Sahih Al-Bukari #3.150 Allah's Apostle sallallahu alayhe wa sallam used to kiss
some of his wives while he was fasting, and then she smiled.
Aisha narrated in Sahih Al-Bukari #1.492 I used to sleep in front of Allah's Apostle sallallahu alayhe
wa sallam with my legs opposite his Qiblah (facing him); and whenever he prostrated, he pushed
my feet and I withdrew them and whenever he stood, I stretched them. Aisha added, "In those days
there were no lamps in the house."
Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin narrated in Abu Dawud #2572 while she was on a journey along with the
Apostle of Allah sallallahu alayhe wa sallam : I had a race with him (the Prophet) and I outstripped
him on my feet. When I became fleshy, (again) I had a race with him (the Prophet) and he
outstripped me. He said: This is for that outstripping.
Uqbah ibn Amir narrated in Mishkat Al-Masabih #3872 Uqbah heard Allah's Messenger sallallahu
alayhe wa sallam say, "Allah most high will cause three people to enter Paradise for one arrow: the
maker when he has a good motive in making it, the one who shoots it, and the one who hands it;
so shoot and ride, but your shooting is more appreciated by me than your riding. Everything with
which a man amuses himself is vain, except his shooting with his bow, his training of his horse,
and his playing with his wife, for they pertain to what is right." Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah transmitted
it, and AbuDawud and Darimi added, "If anyone abandons archery after becoming an adept
through distaste for it, it is a blessing he has abandoned," or he said "for which he has been
ungrateful."

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and Excellent Social Conduct Talks regarding how to the treat wife kindly by Menk

YIELD! :TO DO LIST BEFORE LOOKING FOR A SPOUSE

Questions To Ask Yourself Before You Look For A Spouse

Before you start looking for a spouse you must first get your objectives in order. Use this first part
as a check off list, so that you know what things you are looking for in a husband. You should even
inform your Wali (marriage guardian) of your answers so that he may effectively aid you in your
search for a husband, as every Muslim woman must have a marriage guardian whether she is
virgin, divorced, or widowed.
1. What religious aspects are you looking for? What level of religion are you willing to accept. Are
you looking for someone who is actively making an effort to practice Islam, are you looking for
someone who has watered down Islam, are you looking for some one who is knowledgeable in
general? What ever you are looking for, it is always a bad idea to go for the brother who has
watered down Islam. Since the man will be giving direction in the home it could be detrimental to
be married to an individual who wants to take shorts cuts in his Islam, as this can be a quick route
to the hell fire and sometimes divorce.
2.What physical aspects are you looking for? Do you prefer for someone from a particular
nationality, or are you open to any practicing Muslim brother? If you are a tall girl are you looking
for someone who is the same height or is this inconsequential? Make a list of what you are looking
for but remember two things, great looks in a brother does not guarantee that he is a good
practicing Muslim and vice versa. Lastly, don't make your list so stringent that you weed 99% of the
men out.
3.What type of financial situation are you looking for? The man is required to support his wife. But
are you looking for someone who is very well off and would be able to provide lavish arrangements
for you? Are you willing to settle for a low wage earner who can provide you with the basics or
some one who has moderate income and will provided moderate living arrangement? You should
also be concerned with the type of work a brother does. If he has a job that requires him to do
things which are not allowed in Islam such are bartending, being alone with women etc. you will
need to look for a brother that has a halaal source of income as your priority. Additionally, don't be
gullible regarding a person's earning potential. If you know that the brother is not educated in a
career that brings a lot of money, if you know that he is currently poor and you accept that. Don't
wait 5 years and then start complaining about your poverty, when kids have entered the picture
and stretched your means. Be mindful of the income bracket you marry into and be prepared for
that not to change much. If it improves, alhamduillah, but don't have unreasonable expectations.
4.Where are you willing to live? Regardless of the nationality of the person, it is possible that
the person you marry will want to either move back home. He may want make hijra to a country
that has a larger majority of visibly practicing Muslims? Regardless of where you live , what type
of living arrangements are you willing to accept. Must you have your own apartment or home, or
are you willing to live with a mother in law or step children? (Some women end up in a living
arrangement in which the brother in law is present, scholars says that this should be avoided,
because the brother in law is not maharim for you. An authentic hadeeth says that the brother in
law is death.
5. Are you looking for someone who is divorced, never married, widowed, virgin etc.?
7. What age group are you interested in?

Things About Yourself

You need to consider the things which a prospective spouse will ask of you. In many cases the
following questions a brother may ask your Wali could determine whether

he will want to arrange a meeting with you and your Wali. It is also wise that you tell your Wali the
answers you have made to these questions so that he will know what to tell prospective spouse
during an inquiry.
1. Are you willing to wear proper Islamic attire. The bare minimum that some scholars accept is
that the hair and neck is covered and that the outer garment is loose and doesn't describe the
woman's shape. (However, keep in mind that Islamic attire for some scholars understanding goes
beyond hijab, some scholars feel there is authentic proof requiring or highly recommending the
wearing of abayah/jilbab, and or gloves and face veil . Some brothers may only be interested in a
spouse who will were abayah/jilbab, etc.) Concerning Islamic attire Khalid ibn Durak claimed that
Aisha, said "Asma, daughter of AbuBakr, entered upon the Apostle of Allah sallallahu alayhe wa
sallam wearing thin clothes. The Apostle of Allah sallallahu alayhe wa sallam turned his attention
from her. He said: O Asma', when a woman reaches the age of menstruation, it does not suit her
that she displays her parts of body except this and this, and he pointed to her face and hands. Abu
Dawud states that" "This is a mursal tradition (i.e. the narrator who transmitted it from Aisha is
missing) the narrator did not meet Aisha, therefore he could not have transmitted the hadeeth
from her.Dawud #4029 . This hadeeth is unauthentic and unauthentic hadeeth cannot be used to
support Islamic rulings. There are a number of Tafseers on the topic of covering some of which
are listed here.In The Interpretation of the Meaning of the Noble Quran p.657 Khan, Hilali (Ibn
Kathir, Tabari and Al-Qurtubi Sura An-Nur: 31 And tell the believing women to lower their gaze
(from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.) and
not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like palms of hands or one eye
or both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer dress like veils, gloves, head-cover, apron, etc.),
and draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies faces, necks and bosoms Sura Al-Azabh
:59 :O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their
cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e. screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to
see the way).[This is a commandment for all women, not just the wives of the Prophet SAWS) That
will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so not to be annoyed. And
Allah is Ever Oftforgiving Most Merciful. Safiya bint Shaiba:narrated in Bukari #6.282 Aisha used
to say: When (the verse): They should draw their veils over their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms,
was reveled, (the ladies) cut their waste sheets at the edges and covered their faces with the cut
pieces. Tafseer by Usmani states the following concerning 33:59 "it means together with covering
the body they should also draw some part of the sheet (chadar) over the face. It is given in the
Traditions that at the revelation of this verse the Muslim women, hiding their bodies and faces,
went out in such a way that only the eyes were left open to see. From this and other evidences it is
proven (in the opinion of many mufasareen [scholars who explain Quran] and other reputable
scholars) that a woman should hide her face". p1861 (The Noble Quran- Tafseer E-Usmani)
Mawdudi holds the same opinion. For a more detailed study see AL-Basheer Magazine Vol.8 #2-3
And Allah knows best.
Always keep in mind that a new Muslim (and others) may not be able to practice to this
level and they should be advised and not forced but educated about it and encouraged
toward it. However, the hair and cloak covering is a protection and honor for the woman. It
is also a sign of purity and modesty that she does not want to be lusted after by men.
Additionally, a dayuth, is a man who has no jealousy that men lust after his wife (and female
family members) due to her beauty and the scholars give evidences that the dayuth does
not go to paradise. This issue is a big deal and can not be taken lightly or delayed in
addressing. Men are the protectors of women and if a man is being a man, then he tries to
protect his wife and family from the eyes of other men.

Checking out the Brothers of Islam

1. Make sure the brother has the correct understanding of Tawheed. (see the Fundamentals
of Tawheed by Bilalal Philips)
2. Make sure the brother believes and understands in the five pillars and the six articles of
faith?
3. When the brother comes to meet with you check to see if he is correctly Islamicly
dressed (loose fitting clothing) and that he has a beard which is sunnah.
4.If he is a follower of any groups that have deviant practices or if he is following a group
whose practices put them OUT of Islam you may rethink marrying him. Some of these
groups are Nation of Islam, Some Shia, Ahmadiayah, Rashad Khalifa followers, Qadianis,
5% Nation, 12ers , and other unnamed groups.
5. Ask him if he understands blind following of the Madhhabs
(See Blind Following of Madhhabs by Shaykh Muhammad Sultan al-Ma'soomee al
Khajnadee). Some people will take the opinion of a school of through and reject the
authentic sunnah, and this is why this is a problem.
6. Some "scholars" have a modernistic slant, ask him which scholars he regularly refers to
for Islamic materials and /or answers.
7. Do you try to lower your gaze when looking at other women? Do you needlessly chat
with women?
9. Will he expect his wife to be in the company of non-maharim men in your home or
while visiting others, including his brothers which is not advisable?
10. Do you pray all the prayers on time, all 5, and the Sunnah prayers?
11. Do you fast all of Ramadan?
12. Do you engage in voluntary fasting?
13. Do you read Quran everyday or the translation of the meanings?
14. Do you remember to say your duas at certain times, like before eating, after eating, at
time of sleep, when traveling, leaving the home, getting into your car, etc.?
15. Do you try to refrain from backbiting and slander?
16. Do you try refrain from idle talk?
17. Are you careful to check your grocery products for haraam ingredients?
18. Are you able to divide your time reasonably between work and Islamic activities and
your family?
 19. Have you performed Hajj and/or Umrah? If not when do you think you will be able to
take yourself and your family.
20.Many scholars consider Music and photography (still and moving pictures, 1,2 and 3 D
included) Islamicly unacceptable due to the authetnic hadeeth. See searchable database
at http://www.islamqa.com/en Ask him if he partakes in these activities. Bukari# 7.110
Narrated by 'Aisha: " I bought a cushion having on it pictures (of animals). When Allah's
Apostle saw it, he stood at the door and did not enter. I noticed the sign of disapproval on
his face and said, "O Allah's Apostle! I repent to Allah and His Apostle. What sin have I
committed?' Allah's Apostle said. "What is this cushion?" I said, "I have bought it for you so
that you may sit on it and recline on it." Allah's Apostle said, "The makers of these pictures
will be punished on the Day of Resurrection, and it will be said to them, 'Give life to what
you have created (i.e., these pictures).' " The Prophet added, "The Angels of (Mercy) do
not enter a house in which there are pictures (of animate objects)."Hadeeth 7.494B
Narrated Abu 'Amir or Abu Malik Al-Ash'ari that he heard the Prophet saying, "From among
my followers there will be some people who will consider

brought it for you to sit and recline on." Allah's Apostle said, "The makers of these pictures will be
punished on the Day of Resurrection, and it will be said to them, 'Give life to what you have created
(i.e., these pictures). " The Prophet added, "The Angels of (Mercy) do not enter a house in which
there are pictures (of animate objects)."Bukari 7.494B Narrated by Abu 'Amir he heard the Prophet
saying, "From among my followers there will be some people who will consider illegal sexual
intercourse, the wearing of silk, the drinking of alcoholic drinks and the use of musical instruments,
as lawful. And there will be some people who will stay near the side of a mountain and in the
evening their shepherd will come to them with their sheep and ask them for something, but they will
say to him, 'Return to us tomorrow.' Allah will destroy them during the night and will let the
mountain fall on them, and He will transform the rest of them into monkeys and pigs and they will
remain so till the Day of Resurrection." Hudda Magazine has done articles on photography and
music in past issues.
21. If your wife's parent(s) were to die, would you consider allowing her orphaned family to live with
you?
22. Do you subscribe to any Islamic publications?
23. What is your understanding about the wife's position in Islam and her responsibilities toward
the husband and what is your understanding of how a wife should obey her husband?
The Quran states in Surah An-Nisa 4.34 "The righteous woman are devoutly obedient, and
guardian in (the husband's) absence what God would have them guard. As to those women on
whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first),(next) tap them (lightly); but if
they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance): For God is Most High,
great (above you all). Blind following of the husband is not acceptable when it goes against Allah's
rules. Aisha and Asma narrated in Sahih Al-Bukari 7.133 & 7.818 respectively "An Ansari woman
gave her daughter in marriage and the hair of the latter started falling out. The Ansar woman came
to the Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam and mentioned that to him and said "her (my daughter's)
husband suggested that I should let her wear false hair." (because of her hair loss her husband
does not like her) The Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam said, "No, (don't do that) for Allah
sends His curses upon such ladies who lengthen their hair artificially." Some scholars have stated
that when a women obeys her husband instead of Allah Allah (subhana wa tala) and His
Messenger sallallahu alayhe wa sallam she is committing a form of Shirk (making partners with
God in worship).
 In an article which appeared in the Contemporary Jurisprudence Research Journal 27th
Education 7th year from Saudi Arabia, Oct.Nov. Dec. 1995 they wrote the following concerning a
woman's rights to her property, "A husband is not allowed to hold up his wife's property and his
hold will be regarded as an extortion and a violence to the property of his wife and this is prohibited
unanimously, and if he oversteps her he actually over steps the right allotted by Allah" p.69
In a book called Islam: A way of Life and A Movement Brother Jamal Zarabozo wrote a number of
points, and they are as follows "Some husbands get upset when their wives refuse to do this or that
around the house. This

has subjected many wives to physical mistreatment. But the following incident from a book of Fiqh
clearly shows that is not the duty of the wife to tend after the house; and therefore, it can in no way
justify any sort of retort on the part of the husband. In fact, the following quote (from Muhammad
Abdul Rauf's book) would make it seem that many women nowadays should be the ones
complaining as they are forced to do work that they are not responsible for" The following passage
is from Marriage in Islam: A Manual p. 48 by Abdul-Rauf . It is reported that a man once came to
'Umar, the second Caliph, with the intention of bringing to his notice certain complaints he had
against his wife. When he reached the door of Umar's house, he heard the Caliph's wife railing
against him. Hearing this, he went back as he thought that the Caliph himself was in the same
predicament and could, therefore, be hardly expected to set matters right for him. "Umar, coming
out of his house, saw the person going back. So he called him out and inquired as to the purpose
which had brought him to his house. He said that he had come to him with some complaints
against his wife, but turned back on finding that the Caliph himself was subject to the same
treatment from his wife. "Umar said to him that he patiently bore the excesses of his wife because
she had certain rights over him. "Is is not true that she cooks my food, washes my clothes and
suckles my children, thus reliving me of the necessity of employing a cook, a washerman and a
nurse although she is not in the slighted degree responsible for this? Not only that, I enjoy peace of
mind on account of her and I am protected from committing the sin of adultery. In view of these
advantages, I put up with her excesses. You should also do the same."
Zarabozo then adds "Thus we see that the husband is not only responsible for the maintenance
of the wife, but is also responsible for the cooking and the cleaning, and general maintenance of
the house by either hiring a servant, doing the work himself or by being lucky enough to have a
wife who is willing to do it out of her own free will. If the wife refuses to help out in these areas, she
is not to be hold responsible and cannot be reprimanded. In summary there is the following
Hadeeth from the Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam the rights of a wife. Mu'awiyah al-Qushayri
narrates in Abu Dawud #2137 Mu'awiyah asked: Apostle of Allah, what is the right of the wife of
one of us over him? He replied: That you should give her food when you eat, clothe her when you
clothe yourself, do not strike her on the face, do not revile her or separate yourself from her except
in the house". "Another point that should be taken into consideration is education. Finally Zarabozo
writes "In conclusion, we feel that the wife has certain duties and responsibilities and in these
duties she must completely obey her husband. These are in the matters of sex, staying within the
house, and not allowing people into her home her husband does not like. We have seen that she
can only be beaten in the case of nushuz, which refers to the aspect in which she must be
completely obedient to her husband, and that too only after she has been admonished and she has
been separated from the husbands bed. A great scholar, such as Imam Shafi has practically
prohibited beating. Furthermore, we have seen that she is not responsible for taking care of the
house or even of her own self and needs. In fact, Imam Shaibani has said that even a poor man is
responsible for getting a servant for his wife or taking care of her affairs himself. Also education is
incumbent upon Muslim women and it seems to fall within the responsibilities of the husband to
make sure that she is educated properly. Thus, we see that the position of the Muslims is a far cry
from the existing situation among many of the Muslim people of today. This should be of no
surprise as the Muslim have strayed very far from the Islam in almost every aspect of their lives!"
24. Do you play with magic (i.e. "weegee" boards), jinns, listen to astrologers or reading your
horoscope? If so this is haraam.
25. Do you practice or participate in any of the following Islamicly incorrect things such as
celebrating the Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam birthday, participating or congratulating the
kufar on their holiday, etc.?
26.Will you be able to take your wife on Umrah and hajj (is required for those who have the
means)?
27. How much time do you spend studying Islam, not counting the Khutbah at Jumah prayer?
28. Do you attend Jumah prayer? Do you, at least pray Fajr and Isha prayers in the mosque? If not
why? If it is because of distance would you seriously consider moving closer to the mosque? If it is
for some other reason, could changes be made to enable you to do so?
29. Do you always get up for Salatul Fajr? Do you pray other prayers other than Jumah at the
mosque?
30.Do you engage in thiker and the daily dua's on a regular basis?
31.Do you intend to live by the Quran and Sunnah the way the companions did without
modernistic interpretation?
32. How are going to handle matters that have different Islamic conclusions? Would you make the
effort to find out if the particular matter had a culture only basis, bidah basis, inauthentic
information by way of misinterpretation of Quran or inauthentic hadeeth)
33. If you have any cultural practices which interfere with Islam, are you willing to give them up.
(i.e. mixing between the sexes, improper Islamic attire etc.?)
34. Are you actively participating in da'wah, if not will you start?
35. How many surahs have you memorized?
36. What method do you use to find out if a particular matter is halaal or haraam etc. (i.e. consult
Shaikh, knowledgeable individual, come to your conclusion.)
37. Do you expect your wife to serve male guests in the home? See Fatawah
38. Have you learned any Arabic? If not what are your plans toward this goal that will help you
maximize your understanding of the Quran you recite in your prayers and the hadeeth you read
and all other Islamic talks, even when given mostly in English. There are lists of several online
programs at http://daleelsahih.tripod.com/
39. How are you educating yourself Islamicly, besides, audio and periodicals. Do you have any
plans to attend regular courses at the masjid or Islamic online school. What kind of provisions are
you able to make so that your wife is also educated in Arabic and Islam on an ongoing basis.
40.Where do you purchase your meats? Although there is a difference of opinion among the
scholars concerning eating the meat in American the view which clears one of delving into doubtful
matters is to purchase meat from stores that offer halaal meat in light of a few points. An in-depth
study can be done by reading Al-Dhabh; Slaying Animals the Islamic Way by Ghuylam Mustafa
Khan. #1 News specials have been done concerning that fact that some grocers add 5% pork to
their ground beef mixtures regardless of what the meat packing says. #2 Islamicly we are not
allowed to eat dead meat. Some Muslims have visited slaughterhouses in which they witnessed
dead meat (meat which was shot , and died before cutting the throat of the animal in the Islamic
manner) being prepared for sale. The USDA allows animals which are to be sold to the public to be
shot, given a violent blow to the head, or electrocuted and left for dead before the animals throat is
cut. #3 The Interpretation of the Meanings of The Noble Qur'an of At-Tabari, Al-Qurtubi and Ibn
Kathir says (Surah Al-An'am :121" Eat not (O Believers of that (meat) on which Allah's Name has
not been pronounced (at the time of the slaughtering of the animals), for it is Fisq (a sin and
disobedience of Allah). And certainly the devils do inspire their friends (from mankind) to dispute
with you, and if you obey them [by making Al-Maytat (a dead animal) legal by eating it], then you
would indeed be Mushrikun (polytheists): [because they (devils and their friends )make lawful to
you to eat what Allah has made unlawful to eat and you obey them by considering it lawful to eat,
and by doing so you worship them, and to worship other besides Allah is polytheism]." Although the
Quran states that we may eat meat from the People of the Book, today's Christians are not
slaughtering as a religious practice any longer therefore it is void of its religious requirements.
Asking any Western slaughterhouse worker or management if there is any religious mandates
practiced while slaughtering the meat, you will not get an answer in the affirmative. The people of
the book don't do or say anything religious while slaughtering the animal, that we know. And lastly,
contrary to popular belief, it is not sufficient to just say Bismillah before eating the meat. Saying
this does not make the meat halaal no more than saying it over pork would make pork halaal. Do
your own investigation, by talking with the people of knowledge to come to the conclusion that
clears you of wrong doing, as the points stated above are not always the case everywhere.
Naturally there are scholars who hold the opinion that the meat in America is halaal, And Allah
knows best in these matters.

Biographical Information: The Resume

1. Do you have any other wives including any currently in idah? How many times have you
been married and how many times have you been divorced? This is a critical question
because some brother's are "serial divorcers". They marry a lady for a few weeks and then
divorce for no reason or a frivolous one. So if a brother has a history of this it may be that
he is only marrying you for a short time and will divorce you quickly, or it may mean that he
was not mindful and through in picking spouses she he got a few raw deals himself.
2. Do you have any children? Are any of them Muslim?
3. What is your status in this country if you are not American? Have you ever been in jail
or have had brushes with the law or are you recently out of jail, or on parole? If so, please
explain the situation.
4. What are your hobbies?
5. Concerning your line of work, exactly what do you do, and does it require you to leave
on over night trips or our of the country?
6. If you don't have citizenship in the U.S., is it your goal to marry for the purpose of
obtaining it?
7. Are you a legal citizen in this country? If not would you be willing to wait a year or more
before I helped you to apply for citizenship to make sure the marriage is working out first?
8. Are you a student in one of the schools here? If so what is your major, when will you
graduate and what do you intend to do with your degree?
9. Are you fluent in Arabic or any other languages?
10. What type of Muslim do you consider yourself?- Level of practice.
11.Do you feel you make a good effort in practicing and living your Islam?
12.Have you ever or do you currently smoke (cigarettes, or other drugs), drink alcoholic
beverages or involved with illegal drugs?
13.What are your general short and long term goals in life and how would these goals
 affect your wife? (Plan to move out of the country, etc.)
14. Have you ever had a girlfriend or sexual experiences (including homosexuality)? If so
would you be willing to take a test for AIDS and or test for venereal diseases?
15. If you are divorced, why did the marriage dissolve? (if the brother was married to a
Christian or Jew while he was Muslim and if he says that there was a divorce because she
would not become Muslim, ask him why did he choose to marry a Christian girl if he
wanted a Muslim wife? Did she lead him to believe that she would convert after the
marriage, and did he tell her that he would expect her to become Muslim before the
marriage) This question is important because sometimes it shows unrealistic planning on
the part of the brother?
16. Who do you take as your close friends (Muslim or Kufar ( kufar include people of the
book because they disbelieve in Islamic Monotheism)
17. Have you ever considered marrying a non-Muslim? If so why?
18. Do you consider yourself a tidy person? Do you clean up after yourself?
19. Before you were Muslim or activity practicing did you ever attend bars, discos or dance
halls?
20. Do you like to have frequent visitors? This is so a lady may prepare herself to be
agreeable to cooking for many guests if she doesn't have a maid.
21. How do you get your hair cut? (by women or men)
22. .Do you have any military obligations? If so, how would this affect our life?

About His Family & Misc.

24.How would your family feel about you marrying an American (or what ever nationality you are)?
25. Are you interested in more than one wife?
26. Sometimes family members can unfairly interfere in a couples marital life, how will you handle
this matter should it arise?
27. Would you follow your parents requests if they were Islamicly incorrect?
28. If your parents are Muslim, are they practicing?
29. Do you have a good relationship with your parents?
30. If you have ever been in the process of divorce, is the divorce Islamicly (the iddah of the wife
that is being divorced is over) and legally over (divorce decree processed and completed by a court
judge) ?
31. How often do you visit your family and how often do they visit you?
32. Are any of your family members that are Muslim involved in regular unIslamic behavior such as
improper dress, use of cigarettes or alcohol, mixing with other sexes, failing to prayer, etc.
33.Do any members in your immediate family such as your father or brother have more than one
wife?
34. Will I be expected to sit, live among, etc. with your brothers who are above the age of puberty?
This is a cultural and unIslamic practice. Uqbah ibn Amir narrated in Bukari #7.159 Allah's Apostle
sallallahu alayhe wa sallam said, "Beware of entering upon the ladies." A man from the Ansar said,
"Allah's Apostle! What about al-Hamu the in-laws of the wife (the brothers of her husband or his
nephews, etc.)? The Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam replied: "The in-laws of the wife are death
itself." See mingling fatawah.
35. If your family is not Muslim, how do they feel about Islam, and if it is negative what are you
 trying to do to change that?
36. How old are you?
37. Where are you from?
38. Do you feel a love for the Allah subhana watallah and the Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam
and the companions?
39. Do you have any animals? If so what are they (cat,etc.) Dogs are not permitted in the home as
the authentic hadeeth state, but you can have guard dogs outside the home for protection
purposes.
40. If you have a car Is it in good condition?

Behavior

1. Do you like to argue and fight?

2. Do you believe in saying "I love you" and showing affection toward the wife and children,
which the Prophet did to his wife and children?
3. Are you willing to spend quality time with your wife and children, for learning and
recreation?
4..Are you willing to change bad habits that you or your wife may have?
5. When you are angry do you use curse words?
6. What is your definition of love in the marital sense?
7. Do you have any character references, if so when may my Wali obtain them?
8. Do you get angry easily? Do you have a temper? If so are you able to control your anger
or temper from getting to far out of hand? In an authentic hadith the Prophet (SAWS) said
"Don't get angry" three times.
9. If you are angered are you willing to talk out the problem or do you need time to simmer
down?
10. Do you have any past misguided deeds, that may affect your family now?
11. Do you feel that you are mature enough to enter into marriage?
12. What type of personality do you feel best describes you i.e. carefree, high strung,
humorous, combination, easy going, narcissistic or other please explain?
13. What type of things make you laugh or make you angry?
14. Are you a good listener?
15. Would your friends consider you to be honest and forthright?
16. Would you do what someone else wanted you to do despite your true feelings? What
would you do if someone requested something of you that was unIslamic? Are you easily
bullied and convinced or able to stand your ground.
17. Do you feel that you are a considerate individual?
18. Are you often moody, grumpy and irritable?
19. What is your understanding of physical and mental cruelty?
20. How do you feel about deadlines, do you procrastinate, how do you feel about
preparing ahead of time?
21. How many marriage prospects have you had, and why did you choose not to marry
them or why did they choose not to marry you?
Advice, there are people that have Type A personalities, narcissistic traits or they are
right brain thinkers (see online definitions for clarification). While everyone has flaws, these
 particular groups of people have trouble being fair and objective, taking responsibility for
their actions, treating people respectfully and they often lack good reasoning skills. Most
people are unaware that they experience such traits, but if they possess them they are
often difficult to deal with.

Check Out the Brothers Health, Mentality & Habits

The following questions are of a sensitive nature. You may feel to shy and decided not to ask
these questions, or you may even feel that these question are just a bit much. However, I feel that
these questions bear an importance because someone who had an aliment that may worsen, and
you may not want to take care of a person with that particular problem. You can select to write
these questions down and have the brother answer it on his own time or some other method that
does not put stress or shyness on the part of anyone.

1.Do you have any aliments, sicknesses or disease (diabetes, cancer, heart troubles, migraine
headaches, AIDS) (If the brother does not know, or is embarrassed, suggest the mail in AIDS Test
Kit from a private source $49.95 1-800-HIV-TEST). While many people hold a banner of
righteousness after they accept Islam, their lives before may have been immorally steeping in a
variety of actives including drug usage)

2. Do you have any mental disorders, including ADD, OCD?

3. Do you brush your teeth daily?

4. Do you follow the sunnah and clip your underarm hair and pubic hair regularly?

5. Do you have stress related aliments? Such as ulcers.

6. Do you wash your hands before leaving the bathroom?

7. Do you wash your private parts with water after using the bathroom?

8. Do you consider yourself tidy and clean in your appearance and your home.

9. Do you have any addictions to pain killers?

10. How often do you take a shower?

11. How often do you visit the doctor for a general exam? Any surgeries?

12. Do you snore or have sleeping disorders?

13. Do you handle problems by ignoring them, please explain?

14. Are you easily influenced by bad behavior?

15. Are you a jealous individual?

16. Is it common for you to be depressed or in a bad mood?

17. Do you consider yourself pleasant to be around?

18. Do your friends have similar Islamic behavior?

19. What do you feel needs to be worked on the most concerning your character and a personality
and Islamic behavior?

20. Are you involved in masjid scandals, if so explain?

21. Are you a prankster who likes to play jokes on people?

22. Do you consider yourself generous?

23. In light of your Islamic behavior and overall personality, if you had a daughter would marry your
daughter to someone like yourself?

24. Do you feel that you can handle constructive criticism in a reasonable manner, Islamic or
otherwise?

25. Are you a picky eater? If so explain.

26. Do you feel that you are bossy, demanding, controlling or overbearing? Are you a mental or
physical tyrant? Would you strike your wife or child which left bruises or marks?

27. Do you feel that you lack direction or self control?

28. Do you understand that I have the right to report you to my wali if you are mistreating me.

29. How would an ex wife describe your behavior?

30. Some brothers are sneaking, misleading and are dishonest and hide things from their families.
Are you like this? If so, this could be a cause for counseling or divorce.

Financial Status

The following excerpt is from The Muslim Creed Vol.4 #6. " Only true Muslims ask men how they
acquired their wealth through permissible or impermissible means. Therefore, every Muslim
woman who truly hopes to lead a happy married life must inquire about the source of her future
husband's wealth, because the honest man is the one who is most capable of building a home and
a family that lives in happiness. On the contrary, dishonest men who collect their money from
impermissible means will treat their wives the same way they treat their possessions. Their wives
will become a purchased commodity. Such commodities lose value with time. There will always
be new brands that such men will want to acquire. In poor societies ( or low wage earning families)
women have to work to help meet the needs of their families. This, indeed is one of the major
calamities and means of destruction that were exported to Muslims societies from the West. Such
working women have several difficult jobs; the hardship of pregnancy, the rearing of the children,
taking care of the house (if she does not have a servant) and they also carry the burden of working
to help their families. In light of this a woman should make sure that she is able to live with what
ever level of income the brother can provide, especially if the woman is use to more wealth than
the brother has. She must realize that if she chooses to to marry down that it could be somewhat
traumatic. She will not be able to purchase things that she is use to or live in the comfortable style
that she may have been accustom to.
1. Do you have any credit cards, loans, or other bills in which you are trying to elude the bill
collectors because you are in the land of the Kufar and do not feel that you have to repay the
loan? (This act is Not allowed.)
2.Do you have any interest bearing accounts? If so are you prepared to close them?
3. If the husband does not want the wife to work, will he pay any debts that she brings into the
marriage? (i.e. hospital bills, college tuition)
4. If you are unable to afford medical care or general living expenses will the wife have to be on
public assistance such as Food Stamps, Welfare, Medicaid or WIC . (Sisters! Keep in mind that it is
not permissible for you to collect public assistance if you have to lie by saying your not married,
and don't know who the fathers are. This happens when brothers take more than one wife and can
not afford them (which is a requirement in Islami to be able to afford the wife) and leads to
embarrassing you and the whole community. This is a grave thing. And if you are going to be a
second wife, you should not marry someone who can't afford you, that is your right.
5. How mindful of you of managing your money, are you careful not to be wasteful, are you
forgetful of paying bills on time, do you have a history of writing bad checks, or being harassed by
collection agencies?
6.If I have any of my own money regardless of the source, and I allow you to borrow it, do you
understand that you must pay it back if I request that in the beginning?
7. Are you willing to give your wife full access to your earnings?
8. Can you give your wife her own regular salary, if so how much?
9. How much income do you earn per month? Can you show a pay stub or tax return for
verification.
10. Do you feel that you are ready to take on the financial responsibility of a wife? Do you send
money to your family regularly to help them out?
11. Can you provide 1 years maintenance for your wife due to an unexpected loss of job or
untimely death? (i.e. savings)
12. Will you be able to purchase Islamic books for your wife? Have you already started your own
personal Islamic library?
13. Is there anything that you would be unwilling or unable to provide your wife with financially.
14. Are you currently involved in any forms of interest (riba) and or insurance? If so why? Do you
have any debts personal or otherwise?

Children
1. Are you able to have children?
2. How should children be disciplined?
3. What would you do if your wife were not able to have children?
4. Do you respect the fact that children have rights?( not to be bruised or mistreated in any way
etc.)
5. How many children would you like, if any?
6. What languages will you be able to teach your children to speak?
7. If a disagreement arises would you argue in front of the children? If so this is not healthy.
8. Would you lie to the children to get them to do something, such as promising a lollipop to get
them to stop whining if you really don't have a lollipop? If so this is not permissible
9. Would you tell your children "InshaAllah", if you really had no intention on giving or doing what
they asked you for?
10. Do you have patience with children?
12. How do you intend to educate your children Islamicly?
13. Is there an Islamic school for children where you live?
14. Does the mosque provided programs for the children where you live?
15. How important are male children to you?
16. Are you interested in using any forms of temporary or natural birth control? If so what type?
17. Do you it is not permissible to curse at or make negative dua on your children?
18. Do you know that Islamicly you may not smack the children in their faces or call them any type
of negative names?

Questions for those agreeing to be a co-wife

( in countries that will not jail you for this)

1. Do you have a clear understanding of my rights as a co-wife? (That you must be fair and not
show favoritism among other things) That I must be supported without public assistance programs.
2. Will I be expect to live in the same house with the other wife? If so I have the right to my own
residence.
3. How will you be able to divide your time up between us fairly?
4. If the other wife does not like me, how will you handle this situation?
5. How does the other wife feel about you adding another wife?
6. Why are you seeking to marry another wife?
7. Are you happy with your current marriage?
8. If you already have children will I be asked to help out with children that are not mine?
It is always a good thing that the other wife knows that her husband is seeking to take another
wife. Make sure you speak with the other wife before you marry, and ask her questions about her
husband, what is his true character? You also want to do this, because you may put yourself in the
middle of a war. One sister found out that her husband took another wife and became a loose
cannon and went ballistic. She threw things threw the windows of the home and wrecked the
house. Is that the type of person you want to have as a co wife? Some unstable ladies my come
to physically harm you or your property. Likewise, wouldn't you want a heads up if you were her?
At the very least this is a good idea, so that she knows about you and can try to mentally prepare
herself for your addition to the family she has established.
If a woman finds that her husband is seeking another wife, she should make dua and ask Allah to
help her accept this and remain in the marriage so long as he is following the rules and regulations
of Islam, step by step and has proper provisions and so forth, rather than break up the home.
However, if a lady feels that she simple is unable to handle such a transition, she should inform
her husband of this to make sure he knows her feelings. As a last resort, she has the option for
divorce. Not as a punishment toward the man for taking his rights, but if she feels she personally is
unable to mentally handle being in such a relationship. A man is allowed to have another wife, if he
is able to financially support his whole family without public assistance, and be fair. However,
although that is his right, a woman who does not feel able to deal with such an arrangement,
should not rage out, but to amicably seek a divorce so that she is free to marry someone else. It
may be better for the woman to leave the marriage, then to be subjected to a situation that is
something she doesn't wish to deal with as she may cause problems or find herself deeply hurt and
unhappy. Men have rights, but some woman are not able to tolerate accommodating a man in
such a right, while others are.
If you have any questions regarding marriage and divorce rights, interaction between men and
women and other issues see the searchable database at http://www.islamqa.com/en

Home

1. Where do you intend to live? (short term and long term thoughts)
2. What type of living arrangements will you provide (i.e. will anyone be living with us after the
marriage like your mother or brother or any children)
3. What is the status of your current living arrangement, i.e. do you live in rat, roach or ant
infestation or just a mild problem?
4. Where will we live apartment building or home, bad area, medium or good area of town?
5. Will my furniture be the main fixtures, or is what you have sufficient or will I be
getting new or use materials or will you expect me to get ride of what I have?
6. If I am unhappy with the place that we live in after the marriage, would you consider moving to
another place?
7. Do you move around a lot, of so, why?
Islamic home financing or sharia compliant home mortgages fail to meet many halal requirements.
Please see the audio CD's on this matter from Ghassan Al Barqawi. Buying a house through an
Islamic Bank And Zarabozo's information on mortgage.

Bidah (Innovations) in Marriage Arrangements

There are many matters in marriage which Americans, Arabs and others practice in their marriage
ceremonies which are innovations in the religion and should be stayed away from. Jabir Ibn
Abdullah narrated in SAHIH MUSLIM "The best speech is that embodied in the Book of Allah, and
the best guidance is the guidance given by Muhammad. The most evil affairs are their innovations;
and every innovation is an error." and in the hell fire. And we should not be like the kufar in their
ceremonies.
Some of these bidah (innovations not part of the Islamic wedding ceremony) included 1.
Bridesmaids or any similar positions, 2-Getting married in a church 3-Having a wedding with mixed
sexes in the same room 4- Playing musical instruments 8. Have the groom come in and dance
with the bride publicly. If there is any good in this book it is from Allah, and if there is any wrong in
it, is from myself and the Shayton.

What the Quran Says About Marriage

Nisaa 4.And give the women (on marriage) their dower as a free gift; but if they of their own good
pleasure remit any part of it to you take it and enjoy it with right good cheer.
Barakah 235. There is no blame on you if ye make an offer of betrothal or hold it in your hearts.
Allah knows that ye cherish them in your hearts: but do not make a secret contract with them
except in terms honorable nor resolve on the tie of marriage till the term prescribed is fulfilled. And
know that Allah knoweth what is in your hearts and take heed of Him; and know that Allah is Oft
Forgiving Most Forbearing
Furqan 54. It is He Who has created man from water: then has He established relationships of
lineage and marriage: for thy Lord has power (over all things)
Nisaa #3.If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans marry women of your
choice two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then
only one or (a captive) that your right hands possess. That will be more suitable to prevent you
from doing injustice.

Nur 32.Marry those among you who are single or the virtuous ones among your slaves male or
female: if they are in poverty Allah will give them means out of His grace: for Allah encompasseth
all and He knoweth all things.

AL-Barakah #2.22 They question thee (O Muhammad) concerning menstruation. Say: It is an

illness, so let women alone at such times and go not in unto them till they are cleansed. And when
they have purified themselves, then go in unto them as Allah hath enjoined upon you. Truly Allah
loveth those who turn unto Him, and loveth those who have a care for cleanness.
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Fiqh Rulings Concerning the Marriage

3196 Al-Hedaya Vol. I (Hanafi Manual) [Must be contracted in the presence of witnesses.]
MARRIAGE, where both the parties are Muslims, cannot be contracted but in the presence of two
male witnesses, or of one man and two women, who are sane, adult, and Muslims, whether they
be of established integrity of character or otherwise, or may ever have suffered punishment as
slanderers. The compiler of this work observes that evidence is an essential condition of marriage,
the Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam having declared "no marriage is good without evidence;"
and this precept is a proof against Malik, who maintains that in marriage notoriety only is a
condition, and not positive evidence.
Shafi Manual Sunnah aspects of the engagement is 1- to intend by ones marriage to fulfill the
Sunnah and protect one's religion, since one is only rewarded for it if one intends some form of
obedience to Allah, such as remaining chaste or having a pious son; 2- for the marriage contract to
be made in a mosque 3- and for it to take place on Jumah (Friday), at the first of the day, and in
the month of Shawaal. (p.511) (Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhe wa sallam contracted marriage
with me in Shawwal and took me to his house as a bride during Shawwal. And who among the
wives of Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhe wa sallam was dearer to him than I. Muslim)
Sunnah of the bride's marriage payment (mahr) (1) to name to name the amount of the marriage
payment in the marriage agreement (to prevent discord).
Concerning the Marriage Payment (mahr)
The bride possesses the marriage payment when it has been expressly stipulated and she may
dispose of it when she accepts it, and her ownership of it is finalized when the husband has sexual
intercourse with her (after which none of it is refundable), or when one of them dies before they
have had inter course. If payable immediately, the bride may refuse to have sexual intercourse
until her husband gives her the marriage payment, though if she allows him to have intercourse
with her before she accepts the amount, she may no longer refuse to have intercourse (N: but may
demand the amount) When a husband proves financially unable to give his wife the marriage
payment (if it has not been deferred) before the first time they have sexual intercourse, then the
bride may annul the marriage, though if he proves unable afterwards, she may not.
The wedding feast is a Sunnah (whose time never expires, though it is recommended to be after
intercourse). The Sunnah is for the meal to consist of a sheep or goat, though it is permissible to
serve whatever food is readily available
Relations between A Husband and Wives
It is obligatory for both husband and wife to treat each other well. Allah Most High says "Women
deserve the like of what they are obliged to give, in kindness (2:228)

Hadith Concerning Marriage

AbuMusa narrated in Abu Dawud #2080 The Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam said: There is no
marriage without the permission of a guardian.
Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin narrated in Abu Dawud #2078 The Apostle of Allah sallallahu alayhe wa
sallam said: The marriage of a woman who marries without the consent of her guardians is void.
(He said these words) three times. If there is cohabitation, she gets her dower for the intercourse
her husband has had. If there is a dispute, the sultan (man in authority) is the guardian of one who
has none.

Uqbah ibn Amir narrated in Sahih Al-Bukari #3.882 Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhe wa sallam
said, "From among all the conditions which you have to fulfill, the conditions which make it legal for
you to have sexual relations (i.e. the marriage contract) have the greatest right to be fulfilled."
AbuHurayrah narrated in Sahih Al-Bukari #7.67 The Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam said, "A
matron should not be given in marriage except after consulting her; and a virgin should not be
given in marriage except after her permission." The people asked, "O Allah's Apostle sallallahu
alayhe wa sallam How can we know her permission?" He said, "Her silence (indicates her
 permission)."
AbuHurayrah narrated in Sahih Muslim #3274 Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhe wa sallam said:
A man must not make proposal of marriage to a woman when his brother has done so already.
And he must not offer a price for a thing for which his brother has already offered a price; and a
woman must not be combined in marriage with her father's sister, nor with her mother's sister, and
a woman must not ask to have her sister divorced in order to deprive her of what belongs to her;
but she must marry, because she will have what Allah has decreed for her.
Ubayy ibn Ka'b narrated in Sahih Al-Bukari #1.292 I asked Allah's Apostle sallallahu alayhe wa
sallam about a man who engages in sexual intercourse with his wife but does not discharge. He
replied, "He should wash the parts which comes in contact with the private parts of the woman,
perform ablution and then pray." (AbuAbdullah said, "Taking a bath is safer and is the last order.")
Umm Sulaym narrated in Sahih Muslim #0608 Umm Sulaym asked the Apostle of Allah sallallahu
alayhe wa sallam about a woman who sees in a dream what a man sees (sexual dream). The
Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhe wa sallam said: In case a woman sees that, she must take a
bath. Umm Sulaym said: I was bashful on account of that and said: Does it happen? Upon this the
Apostle sallallahu alayhe wa sallam said: Yes (it does happen), otherwise how can ( a child)
resemble her? Man's discharge (i.e. sperm) is thick and white and the discharge of woman is thin
and yellow ; so the resemblance comes from the one whose genes prevail or dominate.
Sahih Al- Bukari #7.80 The Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam said to a man, "Marry, even with (a
Mahr equal to) an iron ring."
Sahih Al-Bukari # 3.882 Narrated Uqba bin Amir: Allah's Apostle said, "From among all the
conditions which you have to fulfill, the conditions which make it

Abdullah ibn Zam'ah narrated in Sahih Al-Bukari #8.68 The Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam
forbade laughing at a person who passed wind, and said, "How can any one of you beat his wife as
he beats the stallion camel and then embrace (sleep with) her?" And Hisham said, "As he beats his
slave."
Mu'awiyah ibn Haydah narrated in Abu Dawud #2138 I said: Apostle of Allah, how should we
approach our wives and how should we leave them? He replied: Approach your tilth when or how
you will, give her (your wife) food when you take food, clothe when you clothe yourself, do not
revile her face, and do not beat her.
AbuHurayrah narrates in Sahih Al-Bukari #34.460 Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhe wa sallam
said, "If a husband calls his wife to his bed (i.e. to have sexual relation) and she refuses and
causes him to sleep in anger, the angels will curse her till morning."
Jabir ibn Abdullah narrated in Sahih Al-Bukari #6.51 The Jews used to say: "If one has sexual
intercourse with his wife from the back, then she will deliver a squint-eyed child." So this Verse was
revealed:- 'Your wives are a tilth unto you; so go to your tilth when or how you will." (2:223) (This
Hadeeth is not allowing sexual intercourse through the anus)
AbuHurayrah narrated in Sahih Al-Bukari #7.82 The Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam said, "It is
not lawful for a woman (at the time of the wedding) to ask for the divorce of her sister (i.e. the other
wife of her would-be husband) in order to have everything for herself, for she will take only what
has been written for her."
Abdullah ibn Abbas narrated in Sahih Al-Bukari#7.94 The Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam
said, "If any one of you, when having sexual intercourse with his wife, says: In the Name of Allah.
O Allah, protect me from Shayton, and protect what you bestow on us (i.e. offspring) from Shayton,
and if it is destined that they should have a child, then Satan will never be able to harm him."
Anas ibn Malik narrated in Sahih Al-Bukari #7.141 It is the Prophet's sallallahu alayhe wa sallam
tradition that if someone marries a virgin and he has already a matron wife, then he should stay for
seven days with her (the virgin) and then by turns. And if someone marries a matron and he has
already a virgin wife, then he should stay with her (the matron) for three days and then by turns.
Asma' narrated in Sahih Al-Bukari #7.146 Some lady said, "O Allah's Apostle! sallallahu alayhe wa
sallam My husband has another wife, so is it sinful of me to claim that he has given me what he
has not given me (in order to tease her)?" Allah's Apostle sallallahu alayhe wa sallam said, "The
one who pretends that he has been given what he has not been given, is just like the (false) one
who wears two garments of falsehood."
Uqbah ibn Amir narrated in Sahih Al-Bukari #7.159 Allah's Apostle sallallahu alayhe wa sallam
said, "Beware of entering upon the ladies."
A man from the Ansar said, "Allah's Apostle! What about al-Hamu the in-laws of the wife (the
brothers of her husband or his nephews, etc.)? The Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam replied:
"The in-laws of the wife are death itself."

AbuHurayrah Sahih Al-Bukari #9.417 A Bedouin came to Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhe wa
sallam and said, "My wife has given birth to a black boy, and I suspect that he is not my child."
Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhe wa sallam said, "Have you got camels?" The Bedouin said,
"yes." The Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam said, "What color are they?" The Bedouin said,
"They are red." The Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam said, "Are any of them gray?" He said,
"There are gray ones among them." The Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam said, "Whence do
you think this color came to them?" The Bedouin said, "O Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhe wa
sallam! It resulted from heredity." The Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam said, "And this child has
inherited his color from his ancestors." The Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam did not allow him
to deny his paternity of the child.
Maymunah Sahih Muslim #0580 Kurayb, the freed slave of Ibn Abbas, reported: I heard it from
Maymunah, the wife of the Apostle of Allah sallallahu alayhe wa sallam The Messenger of Allah
sallallahu alayhe wa sallam used to lie with me when I menstruated, and there was a cloth between
me and him.
AbuSa'id al-Khudri narrated by Sahih Muslim #0605 The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhe wa
sallam said: When anyone amongst you has sexual intercourse with his wife and then he intends to
repeat it, he should perform ablution. In the Hadeeth transmitted by AbuBakr (the words are):
"Between the two (acts) there should be an ablution." or he (the narrator) said: "Then he intended
that it should be repeated."

Abdullah ibn Abbas narrated in Sahih Muslim #0631 Maymunah (the wife of the Prophet) reported
to Ibn Abbas that she and the Apostle of Allah sallallahu alayhe wa sallam took a bath from one
vessel.
Aisha narrated in Sahih Muslim#0685 A person asked the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhe wa
sallam about one who has sexual intercourse with his wife and parts away (without orgasm)
whether bathing is obligatory for him. Aisha was sitting by him. The Messenger of Allah sallallahu
alayhe wa sallam said: I and she (the Mother of the Faithful) do it and then take a bath.
Jabir ibn Abdullah narrated in Sahih Muslim#3240 Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhe wa sallam
saw a woman, and so he came to his wife, Zaynab, as she was tanning a leather and had sexual
intercourse with her. He then went to his Companions and told them: The woman advances and
returns in the shape of a devil, so when one of you sees a woman, he should come to his wife, for
that will repel what he feels in his heart.
Aisha narrated in Sahih Muslim #3318 AbuSalamah ibn AbdurRahman reported: I asked Aisha, the
wife of Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhe wa sallam: What is the amount of dower of Allah's
Messenger sallallahu alayhe wa sallam? She said: It was twelve uqiyahs and one nash. She said:
Do you know what is an-nash? I said: No. She said: It is half of uqiyah, and it amounts to five
hundred dirhams, and that was the dower given by Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhe wa sallam
to his wives.

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AbuSa'id al-Khudri narrated Sahih Muslim #3369 Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhe wa sallam
said: The most wicked among the people in the eye of Allah on the Day of Judgment is the man
who goes to his wife and she comes to him, and then he divulges her secret. (discussing what she
does in bed)
Jabir ibn Abdullah narrated in Sahih Muslim#5190 Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhe wa sallam
said: There should be a bedding for a man, a bedding for his wife and the third one for the guest,
and the fourth one is for the Satan.
Abdullah ibn Abbas narrated in Sahih Al-Bukari #6.103 He stated regarding the Divine Verse:- 'O
you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will, and you should not treat
them with harshness that you may take back part of the (Mahr) dower you have given them.' (4:19)
(Before this revelation) if a man died, his relatives used to have the right to inherit his wife. One of
them could marry her if he would, or they would give her in marriage if they wished, or, if they
wished, they would not give her in marriage at all. They would be more entitled to dispose of her
than her own relatives. So the above Verse was revealed in this connection.
AbuHurayrah narrated in Sahih Al-Bukari #7.27 The Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam said, "A
woman is married for four things, i.e. her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So
you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."
Uqbah ibn 'Aamir stated that the Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam said "The best marriage is
the simplest one." (This statement was made than the Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam
officiated a marriage, after asking the man and the woman if they wanted to marry the other,
without questioning about the dowry. (Collect by Abu Dawud #2112, authetnic in S.J.S #3300
AbuHurayrah narrated in Sahih Al-Bukari #7.113 Allah's Apostle sallallahu alayhe wa sallam said,
"The woman is like a rib; if you try to straighten her, she will break. So if you want to get benefit
from her, do so while she still has some crookedness."
The couple is encouraged to engage in foreplay before having intercourse. The Prophet sallallahu
alayhe wa sallam supposedly said: One of you should not fall upon his wife like the way an animal
does, let there be a merger between them.' He was asked: ' And what is the messenger? He said:
'Kissing and talking." -Related by Al-Daylami) This indicates that the man should seek to satisfy his
wife's desires as she satisfies his. (** the authenticity of this hadith is not known, and Allah knows
best)
Abdullah narrated in Sahih Al-Bukari #7.4 We were with the Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam
while we were young and had no wealth whatever. So Allah's Apostle sallallahu alayhe wa sallam
said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower
his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse
etc.) and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power."
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Sahih Al-Bukari #7.81 Narrated 'Uqba:The Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam said: "The
stipulations most entitled to be abided by are those with which you are given the right to enjoy the
(women's) private parts (i.e. the stipulations of the marriage contract)."
Sahih Al-Bukari #7.67 Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam said, "A
matron should not be given in marriage except after consulting her; and a virgin should not be
given in marriage except after her permission." The people asked, "O Allah's Apostle! How can we
know her permission?" He said, "Her silence (indicates her permission)."
Sahih Al-Bukari # 9.79 Narrated 'Aisha: I asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, "O Allah's
Apostle! Should the women be asked for their consent to their marriage?" He said, "Yes." I said, "A
virgin, if asked, feels shy and keeps quiet." He said, "Her silence means her consent."
Sahih Al-Bukari # 8.395 Narrated Anas: The Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam seeing a yellow
mark (of perfume) on the clothes of 'Abdur-Rahman bin 'Auf, said, "What about you?" 'Abdur-
Rahman replied, "I have married a woman with a Mahr of gold equal to a date-stone." The Prophet
said, "May Allah bestow His Blessing on you (in your marriage). Give a wedding banquet, (Walima)
even with one sheep."
Sahih Al-Bukari # 6.103 Narrated Ibn Abbas: regarding the Divine Verse: "O you who believe! You
are forbidden to inherit women against their will, and you should not treat them with harshness that
you may take back part of the (Mahr) dower you have given them." (4.19) (Before this revelation)
if a man died, his relatives used to have the right to inherit his wife, and one of them could marry
her if he would, or they would give her in marriage if they wished, or, if they wished, they would not
give her in marriage at all, and they would be more entitled to dispose her, than her own relatives.
So the above Verse was revealed in this connection.
Anas ibn Malik narrated in Sahih Al-Bukari #4.143 Then we reached Khaybar; and when Allah
enabled him to conquer the fort (of Khaybar), the beauty of Safiyyah bint Huyayy ibn Akhtab was
described to him. Her husband had been killed while she was a bride. So Allah's Messenger
sallallahu alayhe wa sallam selected her for himself and took her along with him until we reached a
place called Sad-As-Sahba', where her menses were over and he took her for his wife. Hays (a
kind of dish) was served on a small leather mat. Then Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhe wa
sallam told me to call those who were around me. So that was the marriage banquet of Allah's
Messenger sallallahu alayhe wa sallam and Safiyyah.

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Khuzaymah ibn Thabit narrated in Mishkat A-Masabih #3192

The Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam said, "Allah is not ashamed of the truth. Do not have
intercourse with women through the anus." Ahmad, Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah and Darimi transmitted it.
AbuHurayrah narrated in Mishkat Al-Masabih #0551 Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhe wa sallam
said, He who comes to a menstruating woman, or to a woman from her backside (for sexual
intercourse), or to a kahin (soothsayer), he disbelieved that which was revealed to Muhammad.
Transmitted by Tirmidhi. In Ibn Majah and Darimi's version it says: Kahin, believing what he says,
he committed Kufr.
AbuDharr said in Sahih Muslim#2198 Some of the people from among the companions of the
Apostle of Allah sallallahu alayhe wa sallam said to him: Messenger of Allah, the rich have taken
away (all the) reward. They observe prayer as we do, they keep the fasts as we keep them, and
they give sadaqah from their surplus riches. Upon this he (the Holy Prophet) said: Has Allah not
prescribed for you (a course) by following which you can (also) do sadaqah? In every declaration of
the glorification of Allah (i.e. saying SubhanAllah) there is a sadaqah, every Takbir (i.e. saying
AllahuAkbar) is a sadaqah, every praise of Him (saying Alhamdulillah) is a sadaqah, every
declaration that He is One (La ilaha illallah) is sadaqah, enjoining of good is a sadaqah, forbidding
of that which is evil is a Sadaqah, and in man's sexual intercourse (with his wife) there is a
Sadaqah. They (the companions) said: Messenger of Allah, is there reward for him who satisfies
his sexual passion among us? He said: Tell me, if he were to devote it to something forbidden,
would it not be a sin on his part? Similarly, if he were to devote it to something lawful, he should
have a reward.

Some final worst case scenario warnings.

#1 Don't allow yourself to be abused, degraded or subjected to cruelty.

#2 Don't allow anyone to deny you an Islamic education as a woman.
#3 Don't allow anyone to abuse your rights. And educate yourself on what your rights are in Islam.
Islam gives women an abundance of rights.
#4 Don't allow people to take advantage of you, don't be an enabler in your own abuse, don't be
someone's flunky and don't be a perpetual victim. Stand up for yourself, no matter what.
#5 Don't support a husband who is able to work but chooses not to.
#6 Don't give a man rights when he does not give you rights. Seek Islamic counsel.
All of these abuses and so forth are a violation of your Islamic rights and therefore you should not
allow yourself to be subjected to such treatment. Some men fail to follow Islamic guidelines for
treating their wives well.
Narrated on the authority of AbuHurayrah and collected in MISHKAT AL-MASABIH
0278 (r ) The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is
one who has excellent behavior; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their
wives. Transmitted by Tirmidhi saying this is hasan sahih tradition.
Also don't be such a victim that you turn into this Muslim woman- may Allah help her , guide her
and protect all Muslim woman from such circumstances.

Al Jumuah Vol. 20, Issue 8 P.20, 2008 - The woman writes, My husband confessed to infidelity
with multiple partners on a frequent basis...He would like to copulate with me, but my problem is
that on several occasions I contracted disease from him. She then asks if she has to listen (obey)
him and sleep with him and can she seek divorce.

One of the answers that she is given is, If he does not commit to salat, or his behavior is adversely
influences the children, or if you see no hope in guiding him back to the straight path, or IF YOU
CANNOT mentally and emotionally tolerate being with him any more, divorce was recommended.

One should not emotionally or mentally tolerate being subjected to one venereal disease after
another. Or even tolerate physical abuses or the like. And so a warning to you ladies, is, don't let it
get that far. Don't' allow yourself to become a victim contracting venereal diseases from your
husband multiple times. Because you can contract AIDS or herpes both of which people die from
or suffer in managing it.

This woman probably stayed because of having difficulty in leaving her husband due to financial
restraints. But learn from her example and let this be a warning in which you prepare yourself for
any bad situation with a back up plan.

No one should allow themselves to be subjected to a relationship that endangers their health,
embarrasses them with the medical doctor, and where they are being lied to and disrespected.
Have a back up plan, always put some money aside so that if you have no choice but to leave for
your own safety that you are able to. If all you can put away is a few dollars a month, then do that.
But always have a back up plan.
If you ever find yourself in a bad situation and you lack the resources to rescue yourself. Ask Allah
to provide you and guide you toward a safe means of escape and protection. Excellent Social
Conduct Talks regarding how to the treat wife kindly by Menk You can learn about your Rights to
good treatment with these talks.

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