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My name is Tony Teegarden and I believe you, myself and everyone else here on this big blue marble ying through the vastness of space, nds ourselves here for a reason. We have a reason for existing. You and I have a purpose for being here. We have gifts that can be and should be opened right now in the present time. Thats why its called The Present, because right now is the gift and its the only sure thing weve got to work on. When we discover it, we no longer require motivation. In some way, you and I are meant to make a difference in peoples lives. Part of that discovery process requires you and I to continually awaken ourselves to the vastness of being present and not only acknowledging this truth, but doing something with it. You see, today I realize life is more than just about improving ones status in life. Its even more than just about the quality of our health, wealth & relationships. Those are extremely important but theyre just a piece of the puzzle. Yes, you need to be successful in those areas of life but have you taken a moment to consider why? You need your health for the energy to serve, you need the wealth for the ability to create experiences for others and you need the relationships to complete the dynamic of contributing to something larger than just yourself. You see, you do need those pieces to be in alignment not only for self satisfaction, which is important but more importantly, the world needs you to be successful. In spite of all the struggle, strife and at times seemingly negative unappreciative circumstances...The world needs you to be successful physically, spiritually, nancially and in your relationships so you can contribute to those around you. This piece of work is dedicated to a space and time where I woke up to the fact that my everyday efforts were more than just about what I could do for Tony Teegarden to get more. Its about my journey of ultimately asking the question,How can I effectively give more?
I didnt know it at the time, but this was the question that was quietly calling out from within me. I just wasnt listening. I thought if I got more, Id feel more. I discovered that the choices I thought I had made up till that point in time, were really made by second hand values. What I mean is those choices werent really my choices at all. I woke up to the fact that I was actually the effect in my life and not the cause. The paddle is the cause. The ping pong ball is the effect. When I committed to becoming cause in my life, I realized it was my responsibility to do all I could to be the paddle. I no longer required motivation. I nd myself able to give more today by being the cause in my life and by causing better choices to occur. If the paddle represents cause in your life, self-efcacy would be the belief that you can hit the ball. So it behooves you to explore self-efcacy and what you can do to nurture it. This report is about me making this discovery and how you can begin to as well so you can feel more in control of your emotions, your work and your life. This work begins to explore why we struggle with motivation and self-efcacy. We will explore living through inspiration rather than seeking constant motivation. Because theres is a difference between the two and the world desperately needs you to know it. - Tony
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I looked at him while doing so. Have the total? Yes, of course I do, I said still confused. Now as you write that number down, add up... ...all of the combined number of years you have been here on earth ...all of the combined number of years of education youve acquired ...all of the combined number of years of training you have been through ...all of the years combined youve worked at a job, jobs or business ...and all of the
combined years of life experiences... I was writing numbers down, pausing only for a moment to look over at my wife to make eye contact and conrm her numbers Id written down. Added them all up? Um, yeah. The total is 53 years between my wife and I. Then he asked the question. Its the same question youre going to have you ask yourself but Ill warn you that there are risks in doing so. The risk is that you wont ever be able to go back to the way things were before. You wont see your life the same as you did. And you wont see yourself the same either. If youre anything like me, it may even keep you up at night. Heres the question:
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Take a moment and ask yourself, with 53 on this planet and nearly 23 years invested in all of these other areas of education and such....where are you nancially, physically and in what condition are your closest relationships today? He paused for a moment.
How do you feel deep down about them without comparing yourself to anyone or anything? I just sat there for a moment. All of a sudden, all of my choices up to that point and time in my life ashed before me.
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met my wife I was just as broke as anyone else just on a different nancial level. I was spending just as much, if not more, than I made and attempting to ll a void I felt. Oh and I had nearly died twice on drug overdoses about 4 years earlier. The truth met me in that moment. I couldnt compare my results to anyone else because of the way he framed the question and I realized somewhere I had
swayed from MY internal calling. I was just chasing money for the sake of it validating my self-worth. My underlying thoughts were, The more I made, the more I must be worth. The less I made, the less I must be worth. Sounds completely irrational I know, but when youre standing in your own stuff it can be difcult to see it.
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So when you ask yourself questions like: Do I have enough in savings and assets to sustain your current lifestyle for the next 5, 10, 20, or 40 years? Am I close? Do I have anything saved at all? Is my health in optimal shape or have I sacriced it because Im too busy trying to make a living or being there for everyone else? Have you decided youre just never going to be skinny instead of just focusing on solid healthy eating principles and drinking lots of water? Are your relationships everything you desire them to be or do you nd them in constant drama and chaos?
ask yourself: How many years of schooling youve had like trade schools, college, grade school? How many years youve worked at a job or jobs? How much training & education outside of that youve gone through? And ask yourself, Is what youve been doing all this time gotten you the results you are really looking for. Im talking about the kind of results that lend to your feelings of true satisfaction, fulllment and pride around your
accomplishments. Ask yourself, Ss where I am today in my health, wealth and relationships where I thought I would be 15 years ago? 10 years ago? Or even 5 years ago? Do you feel youre off track? On track? Or without tracks? Heres a bigger question, are you running on your tracks or on someone elses? Have you been trying to gure out why youre not motivated or juiced in life? Do you really know yourself well enough to understand what motivation is in relation to what inspires you? Have you done that kind of work?
THE ANSWERS JUST MAY SURPRISE YOU WHEN YOU ASK THE RIGHT QUESTIONS.
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as much time asking the questions and guring it out like I have. I made a few key, consistent errors. They were common errors that were caused by my mental hard-wiring and my inability as a human being to calculate the long term effects of my decisions I was making at the time.
live it with at least the possibility of living an inspired life. I call it living your life out loud. Will there be days that you seem to be up against all odds and want to quit, give up or swear like a sailor? You bet. Or at least I have. One of the biggest sources of our
Without doing the work and becoming conscious of them, I would have kept on making the same errors in judgement. When you discover these errors and you overcome them you can take control of your life and
suffering, and the biggest source of these errors I mention, is trying to live our life by other peoples value systems. You see our values are reected in our every day choices. The question is, how conscious are you of what you really value? Are you living your life based on your values? Or are you living it by other peoples values? These are what I call second hand values. When you invest the time to discover your values, do your best to live by them consciously, align those values with a bigger vision to help and serve others, you nd yourself driven to live your life from the inside out rather than requiring motivation to drive you from the outside in.
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Otherwise youll nd yourself looking for more and more outside motivation. Youll consciously set goals that are aligned with other peoples values systems but unconsciously continue to try and act upon your own hidden values. This is what we call a moral dilemma and it causes self sabotage and frustration. Youll begin to wonder if there is something wrong with you because youre not getting your desired outcomes and if you are you dont feel fullled once you do. You will fall into the
more trap where you think more stuff will ll the void. More Sex, more food & more toys. You may get it all but at what cost? The problem is many people attempt to live a life they think theyre supposed to. Social Idealism's are the source of human suffering. Idealism's that no one lives by but everyone attempts to live by that aren't realistic. This is the cause of much of our suffering and seeking out constant outside motivation. Ultimately if you dont grasp this concept, youll have less control of your life and will be at the mercy of those who understand these errors and concepts. Think of it like this, as long as you dont do the work, they will be the cause in your life and youll be the effect.
OR SAID ANOTHER WAY, THEY WILL BE THE PADDLE YOULL BE THE PING PONG BALL
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NO ONE IS GOING TO COME ALONG AND FIGURE THIS OUT FOR YOU...
You have 40 more days to celebrate your birth here Makes you realize just how precious the time you have left here doesnt it?
you were given? Or did you leave some on the table? Will you continue to struggle or just maintain the status quo? The vast majority of people will
Since you have 14,600 days, you need to decide what you're going to do with those 14,600 days. Will you keep doing what you're doing or will you gure out what you're going to do differently? At your current rate, if you were to look back on your life and those 14,600 days were over, would you say you did everything you could with everything
continue to struggle and very few will be able to even maintain. An even smaller fraction go on to explore their possibilities. You think its just because they are motivated? I dont think so.
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We didnt have any judgements or attachments of our own. We lived inspired lives doing what came naturally. That is until we began to hear the words and phrases such as: No Stop that You cant Be realistic Here is what you need to do You probably struggled with them and fought them about it but it was of no use.
They continued until you bent to their ways. The very same people who raised us, learned everything they believe to be true from the generation before them and so on, and so on. How did it keep happening?
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of propaganda that is meant to sway Zero. All of this news content was generated by a system that seems to have been designed to keep us preoccupied. How do you think your parents parents dinner talk sounded? Probably much the same. As long as there has been big media, there has been some form Weve been unknowingly force fed the notion by those before us and around us that were to follow a specic path in life because if we dont, were somehow going to fall behind the social norm. what we value most. It's the very same system that you you've continued to be inuenced by today because your parents were raised by it and their parents, and their parents as well. Almost everyone around us experiences it.
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Everyone has been eating at the worlds biggest dinner table and the dinner talk hasnt changed much at all. I would even suspect today gotten its even worse. How much good news do you really hear on your local TV station at 5:00?
My parents, your parents and their parents obviously arent bad people, they were just under the same impression you were. These are the tracks we must follow if we want to t in. Ask them why and they would tell you, Just because, thats how it is. Thats reality The truth is many people fear criticism and not belonging to their tribe. Its in those moments of deciding to not rock the boat, they abandon their childhood voice of inspiration without even knowing it. Just like they were taught to do as a child.
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clothes Drive a certain kind of car Hang out within certain clicks ...And when you do all this, then youll be accepted and found attractive by your piers. If you dont, youre wont be accepted. And so begins your journey to desire exterior validation and the birth of outside motivation.
At rst you wipe off what they write and begin writing for yourself. Youre told NO time after time and after much struggle and ghting against this process, you nally give up. You begin to act out in ways that are more from an approval seeking place than from what feels right or that is in natural alignment with who and what you really are. Only you know if what youre doing
As Dr. Phil says, As a child growing up we are these blank slates and those who think they know better than us write what they think is best on our slate.
with your life right now is in alignment with your natural talents and gifts. Only you. If so, youve broken free and have a much different journey in front of you right now. One of inspiration, where motivation isnt required.
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The Denition of motivation - to give reason, incentive, enthusiasm, or interest that causes a specic action or certain behavior. ...To give reason... or incentive..
You see were not lazy, were just acting on whats most important to us in the present moment. What that is, is probably what we hold most important in our hierarchy of values. You dont feel like making cold calls
To me this means it takes something outside of ourselves to make us do something. How often that something aligns with our highest values is whats in question.
to sell stuff? Guess what? Its because youre not acting on your highest values. You dont see it as truly valuable.
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Or youre just not linking up the act of making cold calls to how it will serve you temporarily as well as your highest values long term. Chances are youre forcing yourself to do something that internally you dont really see as highly valuable. If you did youd be inspired to do it and wouldnt need to seek motivation. Heres an example of what I mean: How many times did my parents yell at me as a kid for playing guitar instead of doing something else they thought was more important? They thought I just needed to be motivated to see it their way. They were projecting their values onto me. Attempting to force upon me what was important to them rather than communicating to me through my values and what was important to me. Instead they called me lazy, a dreamer and that I was destined to be a loser. Did that mean I really was lazy or going to be a loser? No! I didnt need any motivation to play guitar. I was inspired to do so for hours upon hours. I was following my inner most dominant passion. It eventually lead me to recording a album that is to this day still distributed all around the world. I also had my 21st birthday playing in front of 10,000 people in Poland while on tour with that band. That album has helped inspire thousands of people all over the world to follow their musical passions. I still receive acknowledgement nearly 20 years later from fans who friend me on Facebook.So you tell me, inspiration or motivation? Lets rst take a look at the birth of Inspiration and the difference between motivation and inspiration. www.TonyTeegarden.com
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2. Inspiration is when you take action on things that matter most to you. No one needs to tell you to do it or even how to do it. You just go after it. What we value most in life we act upon and requires no outside motivation. I believe it really is that simple. When you discover what inspires you from within you dont battle against procrastination. You either do it, delegate it or dump whatever is required to be done. Its just what needs
happen on the way to your destination. I have a good friend of mine who is physical trainer, is 50 years old and has the body of a 30 year old. He said something to me one time that always stuck. He said: Tony, there may be days I absolutely dread working out, (not many) but the result from doing it anyway such as how I feel about myself, the ability to be able to play with my kids and the energy it takes to run my business so I can contribute to my customers, all rely on my ability to choose the long term result over the short term pain of working out. You can see his values drive his everyday choices and more importantly hes conscious of them. Ask yourself, what do you think he values?
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The bad news is just because youve listened to motivational audios, read motivational material and been to motivational seminars, it doesnt mean youre still inspired to do or are doing what is in your highest values. Youre no more inspired by consuming motivational information any more than standing in a garage makes you a car. In a world where there is more information available to us than ever, why arent more people living lives they really desire? Why? Because people just dont know themselves. In an increasingly complex world, people want simplicity and its step-by-step framework so that, from the start, they can clearly see where theyre going in life, how all the pieces fall into place, and how easy it is to do. It takes work to create the framework for our lives and quite frankly many people arent willing to nd the pieces of that frame work and put it together. Why?
They value being accepted for something they arent More than being rejected for something they are.
In an increasingly complex world, people want simplicity and a stepby-step framework so that, from the start, they can clearly see where theyre going in life, how all the pieces fall into place, and how easy it is to do. It takes a lot of work to create this framework for our lives and quite frankly many people arent willing to look for the pieces of that frame work and put it together.
They are living lives that are completely opposite of what they deeply feel is their real identity. They see themselves one way but do something different. They arent expressing their true values. Not consciously anyway and its frustrating them. In many cases they are living their lives just seeking validation. They value being accepted for
They want someone to come along and just hand their lifes framework over to them. Its what I call the microwave mentality. The, I just want it now, syndrome.
something they arent more than being rejected for something that they are. I know because Ive done it.
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What if its because our hearts were held hostage at an early age?
Sure, you may look back and say to yourself, But Ive lived a good life. I provided for my family, I tithed my 10% to the church, I held a good job, I did my share. If thats you, thats noble and worthy. No question. I would ask you to look within and ask, was your share all that you were meant to do? Deep down do you feel theres more to give? Are you capable but arent using it?
Did you play it safe because you didnt want to feel rejected?
Was doing your part all that you were really able to do or more importantly was there more you really wanted to do but havent? Or deep down were you just doing what you had to do to get by?
projecting their values onto you and I. Theyve given up. Great things are meant for everybody, its just that not everybody realizes they are capable of great things because they compare themselves and say, oh, I could never be that kind of person. Theyve been lead to believe this and they have bought it hook line and sinker. Its not really them thinking or talking these thoughts though. Its the system talking. Thats other peoples values talking through them also known as 2nd hand values.
Were you given gifts that you didnt share with the world because you didnt want to look silly, foolish or come off as too outside the norm? Did you play it safe because you didnt want to be criticized? Did you play it safe because you didnt want to experience the taste of failure or defeat? There are those that believe, Not everybody is meant to do great things. Ask yourself as youre reading this, have you really done what juices you or have you just maintained the status quo? Im not here to judge, just spur the question. What if its because our hearts were held hostage at an early age and we left that tiny voice imprisoned deep down inside? What if the reason is because we just didnt know how important it was to the world for us to be successful?
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have been in. We hold the mask up that says, Were doing alright, were doing pretty good. Simple surface talk that doesnt say what we are really feeling deep down. Lets be truthful, we aspire to be, do, and contribute all that were able. I dont mean by getting more stuff in our life either.
distracted with thoughts, emotions and behaviors that dont serve our long term vision. We make the errors I began talking about. Your preferences, like everyones, lead you to do what's comfortable, safe and makes you feel good. That's what egoity and real suffering is. You follow the dictates of your own body mind and you may as well be a pig snorkeling around in the mud looking for trufes and pigging out. That's what our body minds what to do.- David Deida Its like sitting still on a bike with
I mean we truly crave to create When the truth is, they are wearing the same masks we are. and in many cases they are in the same boat we are in or value in some way. And on a deep core level we seek acknowledgement and contribution for it. Why? Because We Can't Help It! We are goal oriented forward directional beings. When we dont move in a forward direction with purpose, we have become
your feet on the pedals. What happens? You fall over. What happens when the very system that is broken, raises another generation, and that generation raises another generation? You guessed it, people are doing things because they are programmed to, not because they want to. They operate from their preferences. Its whats comfortable and safe. When you're trying to live what everyone else is doing, you're not living from you're own hierarchy of values.
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image. The values that have been migrated over from other peoples value systems will cause you more grief and youll sabotage any efforts at a life you really desire. Youll ask yourself why you arent motivated to do the things in life you know you want to do. Youll nd reasons, people and events to stop you from really doing them. You will hear in your language or from others: You should You need to You aught to
Youre supposed to These are all imperatives that are a sign of living through other peoples value systems. If youre using them when telling someone else what they should, need to or aught to do, your projecting your value system onto them. If someone is using them in a sentence speaking to you, they are projecting their value system onto you. Until you discover your own hierarchy of values you'll always struggle with money, health and relationships. Until you do this work, youll attempt to live your life through other peoples values and continue to miss out on the feelings of fulllment and a sense of deep gratication that comes from living through your own.
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Youll continue to be under the spell of more and think you need more of what doesnt fulll you. Just like eating junk food, its good in the moment but its vainer at best while being full of empty calories. Sure it tastes good in the moment, however its void of quality nutrients and in the long term causes disease, obesity and takes you farther away from the quality of life you really want. As long as you live in a fantasy, ignore these blind spots and dont do the work, you will continue to feed yourself the junk food of second hand values.
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1. ___________________ 1. ___________________ 2. ___________________ 3. ___________________ Notice anything particularly odd Picked them? Good. Now take a moment and ask yourself a few more questions while making a mental list: How do you spend the majority of your time during your day when youre not awake? How do you ll your space in your home? How do you spend your money? What do you nd yourself thinking about the vast majority of the time? Why arent they doing what they say Now pick out the top 3 categories you nd yourself focused on throughout the 16 hours a day that youre not sleeping. Because they cant help it. is most important to them? I see it all the time. People overeating when they say they want to lose weight. People smoking when they say they want to stop. People saying they want to be wealthy but they dont save a dime People in and out of relationships who dont really know themselves. about the lists? Is what you say is most important to you not what you ll your time up with what you DO? 2. ___________________ 3. ___________________
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This may sound contradicting but... Were programmed for immediate gratication. It comes from our deepest DNA. Its the ght or ight model. Consider this. If you nd yourself in the path of a wild meat eating creature, would you hang out and logically think about if its going to take a chunk out of you? Or would you just run for the safest place possible, as fast as you can? You may feel fear for a moment but right after that all you feel is your feet hitting the ground. Fear served its purpose, it got you to take action! This is where many of us nd ourselves as adults in life today. Everything is easier in 3rd grade and frankly they feel if they arent made to have to go into 4th, they wont. Its as if many people are stuck in 3rd grade because they dont have to move on to 4th. Its easier to consume more and discover less. Especially if youre not aware of the consequences.
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Its built into you genetically to do what works now, not think about what will happen later. They are asleep in the post modern sense of the word but its not their fault completely. They just dont know. Many people dont take the time to discover what their true core values are, what they aspire to do and how their gifts and natural talents can make an impact on the world.
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If you're trying to do something outside of your natural abilities and talents that arent attributed to your highest values, you're going to be miserable. Maybe not immediately, but give it some time. If you're an innovator, artist or creator and you're trying to be a broker or analyst, then it's an uphill battle inside and your results may very well prove it. Youll always feel you need outside motivation and wonder if theres something wrong with you. Youll feel you need status to feel whole Youll feel you need recognition to feel whole Youll feel you need acknowledgement to feel whole When you're working a job or building a business thats outside of your natural abilities and talents, and its not linked to your highest values, youll always do just good enough. If what youre doing isnt in your highest of values, youll never do whats necessary or itll be way harder than it needs to be. If its not that important you just wont follow through. The world needs you to be successful. There is a mission within you that you have yet to discover and the world needs you to nd it. We need you to discover it. Its safe to begin listening to it and not the noise outside. If you're reading this and you nd yourself broke in any of the 3 areas of life...the good news is, its not you thats broke. You can become integrated with your natural skills and talents. You can make them work for you. You can make a positive impact on the world and your little voice inside knows it. You know it.
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around discovering your purpose. 3) Finally youll want to re-train yourself to make decisions and take actions that go against what you would normally do - so that you can create space for your higher purpose to make itself self evident to you. Listen, youre not going to quit your job, lose all the weight or nd your soul mate tomorrow. (Well technically you could meet your soul mate) However what you will do is begin to link together things like maintaining your current job with a great attitude while holding a higher purpose and mission in mind will actually make you that much more effective in your present moments. If you dont do all of these thingsand I mean ALL of them - youre going to get the same results youve been getting all your life... and the same results that most people get in their life still today.
Will you keep doing what you're doing or take the actions necessary to gure out what you're going to do differently? How do you gure out what youre going to do differently? You cant cope with what you dont acknowledge so rst youre going to want to take inventory. Im going to share with you how you can begin.
"We're only a few habits a day away from changing our health, wealth and relationships."
ACKNOWLEDGEMENT W O R K S H E E T
There are two questions Id like you to ask yourself right now: 1. What would you like to see more of in your life? 2. What would you like to see less of in your life? Now, I want to share with you how you can begin taking the steps to accomplish both. In this exercise youre going to take a few minutes and list out a few things:
Step 1. Determine which things you denitely dont want in your life Step 2. Determine which things you denitely do want in your life Step 3. Dene what The Costs Vs Gains are when accomplishing your do wants
Its very important that you take at least 10-15 minutes on each of the next two exercises.
If you don't have the will and desire to gure it out and write down what you want, what makes you think you'll have the will and desire to go after it? -Rich Schefren
Lets get started:
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What I Do Want
Step 4. Write down all of the things you do want in your life: Hint: You can reverse engineer your Step 1. list by writing down the exact opposite of the items on that list. Also: Dont go for things or stuff in this list. Aim for experiences. If you want a nice home, talk about the experience the home is going to provide you not the home itself.
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Great Work! Now were going to really drill down into these in the next exercise:
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Step 5. Take your I Do Want answers and assign them to the category they best t within below: Health: [Can include Physical, mental & emotional]
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Conclusion
To bridge the gap of where you are to where you want to be, you have to rst acknowledge your current reality. Be honest with yourself! You cant cope with what youre not willing to acknowledge. You dont have the like the reality, you just have to respect it. Are you able to identify the values that are driving your current behaviors through these exercises? To see what you truly value, look at your life currently and see how you ll your time, space and energy and with who. Results can be harsh but are often fair. Based on the cost vs gain exercise, are your current daily decisions taking you closer to or farther away from you say you want?
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Heres the real question and the type of work I help you get into. On a deep level, how in tune are your wants with your true core values and how do discover what they are?
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inspires them but they wont. Its too scary. They fear change. It may just be too late for them but I like to believe not. If youre one of those on the fence types, you have to seriously consider what the implications of continuing down the road youre on will be. If you stay that course, it may not be pretty. If you decide to DO IT YOURSELF then I seriously consider you to read as much as you can, study as much as you can and learn as much as you can about self discovery, psychology and human behavior. The discoveries in neurosciences over the past decade are amazing and gives you great insights to how the human brain works and how it can inuence your choices. Do it yourself... ...or together we accelerate the process. In Light, Do nothing... The choice is yours: You have an opportunity to shift from thinking you need motivation to knowing youre living an inspired life doing what you were meant to do. Whether thats an online business or an off line venture. For those few who take action and succeed, they discover their lifes work and lead rich and rewarding lives with a legacy that lives far beyond their own time here on earth. They love the process, enjoy who they are, and who they become along the way. The nal option is to LET ME HELP YOU. To affect the world outside, we must change and inuence the world inside and that takes work, and introspection.
For those individuals, they are victims of not knowing and even worse if they do know they just dont have the will power to do anything about it. They could still make a choice to do something to discover what
An even smaller fraction will go on to explore and succeed in the discovery of themselves and their mission in life. True learning and discovery of yourself means changing your thoughts, emotions and behaviors.
Tony
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Remember you're a blessing always waiting to be bestowed on someones life. It's no accident youve experienced all that you have and all that you are. You're being prepared my friend. Remember this when times seem toughest. Do you best to be present today so you can be someone elses gift tomorrow. Tony Teegarden www.TonyTeegarden.com
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