Impossibility or simply complacency?

INTRODUCTION
Don`t we all come to this world as guests constantly striving to find the golden rule of a successful rapport with everybody and everything we come across? From birth to death a person`s success or failure is measured by the kind of relationship he/ she has had with elements of this world: people. Nature and beyond it all, with the spirit behind this "relative world". But striking the right chord in a relationship often proves a hard nut to crack. The world seems to constantly echo with a disconcerting chorus of voices, the result of frustrated relationships between parents and their children, husbands and wives, friends, siblings, in-laws, employees and colleaguesindividuals disillusioned with themselves for not being able to relate successfully to their environs. The most interesting aspect of this scenario is that, today there happens to be no dearth of methods to arrive at that elusive "success" in the act of relating. Couples The phenomenal flux of changes in every sphere of our lives since the last century has redefined the role of human relationships. Social revolutions such as the women`s lib, the cult of the individual, and even the human potential movement have repatterned the basic premises of relationships. A good relationship today is not one that just lasts but one that coexists with selfrespect, individuality and the need to grow. For it to thrive successfully, marriage counselors and psychologists, also, stress the need for this kind of "space" within a couple`s relationship. An individual in a marriage shouldn`t be a repository of one`s own needs and desires, in fact both the people involved should be totally committed to their relationship. They must be ready to take responsibility for themselves as well as the relationship. How to Make Relationships Work Don`t try too hard to convince the other person of your love. Love and trust yourself more. This will relax your love defenses and enable you to give yourself totally to relationship. Don`t question the other person`s love all the time. Feel the oneness of the universe. Step beyond the `me first` conflicts that mar relationships. This would help you be complete within yourself. Don`t use your relationships to fulfill your expectations. Know yourself. Analyze the cause of your reactions. Acknowledge the other person as an individual. Grow and let grow.

 In a conflicting relationship, check where you went wrong rather than where the other person failed. Listen to each other. Communication strengthens the foundation of a relationship. Take the first step in working out a relationship without worrying about who is in the right. Don`t depend on any person and don`t let the other person depend on you. Parenting One of life`s greatest achievement is to grow and let your seeds develope. Nothing in life is more fulfilling than watching your children blossom. More so when you have to nurture, educate and guide them towards a life most suitable to them. Millions of parents do it all the time some, with a lot of effort, some without a thought. So, what really is good parenting? Is it discipline, moral education, freedom to let your child be what he is? Or is it something more subtle, something that goes by the name of life`s lessons? But it might be a good thing to remember that, no matter how eager or ambitious we are in shaping our children`s lives, there is a limit to what we can accomplish. Swami Vivekananda, founder of Ramakrishna Mission, uses the analogy of growing a plant to drive home the point: "You cannot make a plant grow in soil unsuited to it. A child teaches itself. But you can help it to go forward in its own way. What you can do is not of the positive nature, but of the negative. You can take away the obstacles, but knowledge comes out of its own nature. Loosen the soil a little, so that it may come out easily. Put a hedge round it; see that it is not killed by anything, and there your work stops. You cannot do anything else. The rest is a manifestation from within its own nature." FRIENDS: A friend is someone who walks in when the whole world walks out. Our friends are equity shares we earn in life. We continue to reap dividends on them throughout our lives. Yet today how many of us have shoulders to lean on outside our immediate familial relationships? In a highly competitive and result oriented world, we seem to be drifting away from each other all the time. This is not to say that the world is short of amiable individuals, but rather that we have forgotten the art of maintaining positive camaraderie. In a mad rush to keep up with the fast changing pace of urban living, we fail to nurture and care for basic ties of love and warmth that binds us all together. In conclusion, we arrive to a disturbing question: Impossibility or simply complacency? What is crucial is that people do not notice the essencial circuit between these three concepts: it is impossible to form a couple without having friends near you, and becoming a parent requires the foundation of a couple. After all, the family is the most important agent of socialization for a numer of reasons. It provides the setting for primary socialization and is responsible for accomplishing that process. The family provides the earliest human contact for an infant and has the responsibility of giving the attention, love, and concern necessary for the child to thrive.