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Name: Nishan Singh Class English writing 905 Teacher: Anna

Experience of love with and without moral ethics Life is full of experiences, and every experience and event teaches us something in our lives. Experiences bring wisdom about the world beings, As per Rita Mae Brown, Good judgment comes from experience, and often experience comes from bad judgment. It is all true that we learn from our experiences, but some events bring big changes in peoples lives, and the impact of changes can be drastic that can change the entire life of people. No matter what changes come, changes always bring pains. The intensity of pain depends upon the type of changes. Changes are eminent and they the part of our life but we should not leave the values and ethics of life due to the fear of changes. The experience of love with and without ethics brought a big change in my life that I am sharing with you. I am basically born and brought up in a small village of northern India , I had lost my mom in early age of my life , my father raised me along with my other brother and sisters. He did not remarry just because of us. He did not ever go out from that isolated place just because of us. He gave his entire life to us. Whole day he was working hard in his farm, so he can raise us by his hardworking money. I have lived in that farming and totally isolated place from the outer world for at least 20 year of my life where my father had lived his whole life. I was living at isolated place, but I always had something simmering inside in me. I was missing something. I had envisioned to do something and wanted to be something, best of my knowledge, I planned everything to full fill my ambitions and I really was achieving step by steps

what I bubbled in my mind such as, I developed a very good physical personality, I completed my graduation with good marks and I got a class -1 job, but I failed in life just because I went unethical in my personal life and forgot the moral values of the life towards my family. Story starts when I went out from my village to attend a college and start living in modern city of India, Chandigarh, and A very beautiful and well organized city in the world. There, I met a girl name Vandna. She was a very pretty and athletic but totally lost. She was very outgoing girl, heavily using alcohol and smoking, also having many relations in her life that resulted her many abortions. .Vey soon we became friend and we were just good friend for more than 2 years. One day she asked me to talk something serious. On that day she was very was sad but still start uttering with sobbing, Nishan, people dont like me; no one loves me because I am a bad girl. I have very bad past but I want to be a good girl. Can you please give me a life and love? I will be a good girl! I love you Nishan. I heard it all but it was hard for me to answer her at that time because of her reputation in society. On other hand my family was a conservative family, they value morals and ethics at the cost of their live. I took a deep breath and toId her not to worry, things will be fine. I came back to my hostel and continue having her sobbing scene in my eyes, other hand I knew about scary past that can ruin my future, but I still decided to help her and give her a life if she really wants to be a good girl. First I talk to my friends about my decision and then my father other family friends, everyone told me not to marry her, dont even think of it. My father bluntly refused with shocking voice, my all friends, family and relative refused to help me and be the part of this marriage, but I accepted her at the cost of entire world, my friends family and rest of the

world. Later I fall in love with her and I loved her more than anything in my life. The Love that I have for her was beyond the limit of a common man. For an example, if God would have come asked me - Nishan I am here I want to take you to the haven, I would have asked him are you taking Vandna with me? If angle will say, NO Nishan, we are not taking Vandna to haven, she will be going to Hell, and I will say to angle, please take me to hell with her. This was my love and the way of doing my love. I married Vandna despite of total objection from family, friends and my teacher. All were saying, Not good Nishan, character means something. This all will go to your kids as well and the shape of your family generation will change. Values of your family will change. You will suffer and especially your father will suffer. He loves you too much and he gave his life to you all. I myself felt embarrassment when I saw my father was crying and having his folding hand in front of me requesting my son Nishan, please dont do that I can see a bad future of you, if you will be in pain, how can your father be happy who has envisioned all of his dream in his kids, especially in you. I was so rude and stoned at that time and did not want to leave Vandna at the cost of this whole world. I left behind every one crying , even my very young and without mother sister, she was only 9 years old at that time , and married to Vandna. For a while I was the happiest man of this planet. It was all honey and one of the beautiful worlds for me. I was very happy having Vandna in my life. Soon after my marriage, the strange things started happening in our life, I lost my family- my father brother sisters, and I lost my job. Just Struggle and only struggle around us. I and Vandna start working very low paying jobs. Hardly able to pull our food of the day, but we start living with high dreams. I have vision that I will work

hard and give all what she needed in life. She was an entire world for me. Everything to me, during this time we met some well to do people, they tried to help us financially. We did well in our business after struggling 3-4 years, I means very good, but one day it all went sore for me when I came to know through bad pictures of Vandna were presented to me to believe that Vandna secretly meeting one of the rich guy who helped us. When she came to know that it has all now known to me then her mange to come to America with the help of her father who is living in USA. She did not even tell me, she pretended to me that she is going to meet her aunt. I was still in illusion and did not even want believe that really had happened , I wanted to prove wrong myself and continue praying , God please make this news bad that she has relationship with that guy but it shocked me when I came to know that she has left the country and taken away my son. I was crying and crying no one was ready to listen me. No one was there; I was all alone in this world. Lost business of million of dollar. After a year, I too manage to come to America and I tried to meet her, but I was mistreated and humiliated. People shows sympathy and advised me not to lose self-respect and the respect to the love , it gave me moral support while I did not have work and have already spend all of my money. I start working with pain. I tried to forget her but not able to because she was the mother of my son. I did not lose hope and continue thinking, suddenly she calls me, I am coming back, Please forgive me. I did very bad to you and ruin your life, but I dont know why it all had happened. Being a good man or due to my extreme love, I forgave her and start over my life. She came back we worked hard day and night and became a rich family. We had two homes couple business and working as software engineer, getting very good salary. I sent her school; she also became the software engineer.

I was happy being the husband of Vandna, every business and every home at her name, every car at her name. Working day and night just dreaming, what else I needed in my life if I have Vandna! God gave me Vandna and good money. I am living in a luxury home and driving mercdeze Benz. In year 2004 I noticed the ignorance from Vandna and I complaint of it many times, she start coming late, and she start ignoring my desires. It reeked deep inside my soul. Meanwhile we had one more baby. Very young and cute. I use to keep them in my lap and about to take decision if I can dare to go out of this life, but always thought of my kids and changed my decision to remain be in family and continue bear what she was doing. In 2006, I came to know through her laptop that she was involved with an African American Guy. She has relation with many more. It broke me from inside. She calls the police. Police told me to go. I went out of home, my own home. Got unfair judgment from court. Lost every business and family. Lost kids as well. Came on road. Probably lost the desire of anything needed to live, but did not lost the hope of doing good after knowing the value of moral values and ethics in life. Now I know why this all had happened to me. I did not respect the love of my family and moral values of my life. I know I have lost a lot but I have very happy than living in immoral world. If I compare my past life with my present, I will always say, true love should not have compromised with ethic and moral values of life. I should have been stronger example for others but I did not which resulted a complete disaster of my life. I feel it was not a disaster, it was a lesson to me from God to find what I was looking for since last many births, contentment, salvation and happiness. Now I am following the right path with a very kind heart but with wisdom that I learned from this experience. I have decided to give my rest of the life to any noble cause. After

completing my education Ph.D. . . . I will be going back to India, where there is lots of poor and suppressed people live and they need me and I need their love. Despite having contentment in life , still I do miss home and family, especially my father and kids, but now I see this whole world as of my family and home since we all are in line to go from this world one day. We all always have ethical or unethical desired attached that is the reason of our unhappiness and grief in life. I wish I could have done a something good for my kids, I could have proved myself a very loving and responsible father. However I do believe in destiny as well. Love is the key of life and it should be a pure love, but not at the cost of social moral values. Nature and society teaches us these values, but I ignored them and selected a selfish node which resulted all of my sufferings. No matter what happened we must keep alive our moral values and ethics of all conducts for a better world of our coming generations. True or honest love will never leave the real things of life and never dies. Moral values are the gems of any relationship, it makes the relationship beautiful. It is every ones duty to protect them for the sustainability of a good society of human kind on mother planet. Thanks!

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