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Weve come up with a list of lusty moves that promise a big pleasure payoff.
BY COLLEEN OAKLEY
RBACK TO BASICS Pop in earplugs. It will enhance the sound of your breathing and block out the rest of the world so you can focus solely on your other four senses and enjoying one anothers bodies, says Claire Cavanah, co-author of Sex Toys 101. Assert yourself. Women are traditionally more submissive, so switching to a more dominant role can break you out of a sex rut, says Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First. You dont have to don leather and wield a whip; just doing something your partner doesnt expect of youlike initiating sex as soon as he walks in the doorwill make things hotter. Make out more. Take a trip back to junior high for an evening and restrict yourselves to 10 minutes of kissing and over-the-clothes touching only, says Leigh Anderson, author of Games for Grownups. Keeping things PG for a set time revs you both up for a more adult encounter, she says. Lock eyes. When aroused, your pupils will dilate, so you can track each others level of arousal, says Sharon Moalem, Ph.D., author of How Sex Works. It also creates a more intense connection during sex. Get specific. When you ask Does this feel good? your partner feels pressured to say yes to avoid killing the mood, says Steve Bodansky, coauthor of The Instant Orgasm. But if you ask more detailed questions (faster or slower? To the right or left?), they can give simple, one-word responses making sex better than just good. Turn on some tunes. According to researchers at Massachusetts General Hospital, listening to your favorite music stimulates the same areas of the brain as sex, enhancing your euphoria during the act. Go back to school. Women who have graduate degrees or higher have more orgasms, according to a recent Australian survey. Pick a fight. Healthy debate can be a huge turn-on, says Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D., WH sex advisor and the author of Touch Me There! A Hands-on Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots. When you argue, your body reacts as it would during sexual responseyour muscles tense, heart rate increases, breathing gets heavier. Part of what makes the sex afterward so hot is not only the release of the bodys heightened state but this feeling that youve conquered your opponent in some way. Nix the marathon. A survey of sex therapists concluded that the optimal amount of time for sexual intercourse was 3 to 13 minutesgood news,
Much as Tom Colicchio has perfected the art of cooking a steak to perfect mediumrare, youve mastered the basics of sex. You know where your G-spot is, your favorite sex toy is at the ready in your nightstand drawer, and you can engage in a heated debate with your girlfriends about the advantages of reverse cowgirl versus missionary. Now its time to kick things up a notch. Weve got 80 brandnew toys, tricks, and techniques to take sex from ordinary to jalapeo hot.
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considering the average Joe only lasts 7.8 minutes. So quit worrying about breaking a record, and spend more time on foreplay. Youll both enjoy it. RDOCTOR'S ORDERS Double-check your meds. A recent study from the University of California, San Diego found that many drugs, including those used to treat high cholesterol, depression, and anxiety, can reduce sexual pleasure. Talk to your doctor about switching meds or finding an alternative to popping pills. Use two forms of birth control. The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University found women who use a hormonal contraceptive plus condoms report higher overall sexual satisfaction. Researchers believe its because when women are less worried about pregnancy or STDs they can relax and enjoy the experience more. Hit the mat. A recent study in The Journal of Sexual Medicine found that yogis have better sex. Women in the study who began practicing yoga reported improvements in levels of arousal and desire, as well as better orgasms. Plus, the increased flexibility will come in handy. Get your Kundalini on. This type of yoga focuses on breathing techniques that can actually intensify your orgasm when employed during sex, says Sharon Moalem, Ph.D., author of How Sex Works. Practice the long deep breathing for two to five minutes daily: Sit cross-legged with your hands on your knees and inhale, filling your lungs but envisioning sending the air to your lower abdomen. Once your lungs are completely full, hold for a moment, press your shoulders back, and expand your chest so you can feel light pressure on your diaphragm. Then slowly let out all the air. Dont skip the gym. Your regular workout can be just as good for your sex life. A University of British Columbia study found that women who got just 20 minutes of exercise a day had better sex than women who didnt work out. Now thats a reason to break a sweat. Dont let him skip the gym. A recent study from the University of Utah found that obese men have lower levels of testosterone, but when they lose the weight, the hormone levels risealong with sex drive. Plus, another study from the University of California at Berkeley found that sniffing male sweat elevated the chemical that causes arousal in women for up to a full hour afterward.
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