Calistoga tribune

Friday, October 14, 2011

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Perspectives

Yo hice historia! 11 de Oct. 2011 Foro Comunitario LGBTQ Napa

And in English, that means: I made history! Oct. 11, 2011 Napa LGBTQ Community Forum. This is the rainbow-bright button that sits on my desk now, a colorful reminder of the Tuesday night meeting I had the honor to attend both as a member of the LGBTQ community, and as the only media representative invited. Ian Stanley, the organizer of the Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Queer Questioning forum asked me not because Im the greatest reporter in the valley he asked me because he trusted me to keep the identities and confidences of all of the attendees safe. Because the biggest concern for everyone was to create a safe place for all to come together to talk about what we could do to make Napa Valley a better place. First and foremost was to ensure that every participant could arrive in that room knowing that who we were on the outside could be left on the outside, if that was our was as if all 200 of them had just been sitting around waiting for that invitation. We came from every background, every group. There were dozens and dozens of young people, and seniors, and everyone in between. There was as much Spanish being spoken as English. Ive never seen anyone so successfully bring together Anglos and Latinos. It was a 50/50 split with men and women. There were folks from upvalley, down valley, Napans, Calistogans, those from American Canyon. We had spiked hair, long hair, shaved heads, pink hair, conservative business haircuts, pony tails. Some were queer. Some were straight allies. Some were politicians who came because we were constituents. All of us laughed, and talked, and brainstormed together, and enjoyed each others company. We were in a big multipurpose room at an elementary school, and it felt a like little vacation, like Gay Day at Great America, where you get to go on all the rides and hold your girlfriends hand without worrying about whether or not anybody is going to give you the stink eye. When I left San Francisco nine years ago and moved to Calistoga, I felt as if I had been dropped into the middle of the equivalent of an Alaskan wilderness. I remember feeling so isolated. I wanted to stand on my front porch and cup my hand around my mouth and call out, Hello! Are there any queer people out there? With time, of course, I met people. But it was not like the city. Its more difficult here. There is no network. There is no place to meet. No community center, no dance clubs, not a strong enough concentration of LGBTQ people for there to be a hub of activity. Thats what the forum was designed to address. What can we do? What can we create? And also, what about problems, like harassment, and bullying in schools? Or challenges in accessing appropriate services in nonprofit agencies and medical clinics? And simple awareness issues those too, must be addressed. On one level, the forum was simply a huge celebration of finding each other. Being 200 strong in one room was incredibly empowering for all of us. But it was more than that. We were there to talk about issues that concern us, and things we want to do, places we want to build, dreams we want to help create. Ian Stanley did something amazing this week. He helped bring together a community that for too long has been split apart from itself. Lets keep the momentum going. Call Ian, Napa LGBTQ program director, at (707) 2519432 to get involved.

Wingin it
by Michelle Wing

choice. And coming out in the forum didnt have to mean coming out to the entire valley. Thats the tricky part about organizing in the LGBTQ community. At least, that could be the tricky part. But you should have seen that room full of people. It