Rev. Paul J.

Bucknell
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Exploring Sexual Intimacy

God has given you to each other. Your genuine love for each other will help you
physically adjust to each other. Remember though, your physical relationship
grows only as your love deepens. Don’t let small things get in the way of your
oneness(I Cor.7:3-5). Sexual impulses should like all other desires be submitted to
one’s will and God’s purposes, otherwise it will control you and frustrate you.

He Physical Mind She

Emotions Will

Sexual Union
M EN W OM EN
Differences

Physical Relational
Compartmentalized Wholistic
ORIENTATION Physical oneness Emotional oneness
Variety Security
Sex is high priority Other priorities may be higher
Touch
Sight Attitudes
Fragrance Actions
STIM ULATION Body-centered Words
Person-centered

Respect Understanding
Admiration Love
NEED S Physically needed Emotionally needed
Physical Release Time

Acyclical Cyclical
SEXUAL Quick excitement Slow excitement
Initiates (usually) Responder (usually)
RESPONSE Difficult to distract Easily distracted

Propagation of species Propagation of oneness

Shorter, more intense Longer, more in depth
ORGASM Physically-oriented Emotionally-oriented
Orgasm usually needed for Satisfaction possible
satisfaction without orgasm

www.foundationsforfreedom.net Taken from Family Life Conference , p. 86.

 Rev. Paul J. Bucknell
Biblical Foundations for Freedom

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The church has drifted along with

society away from its biblical
moorings. Only God’s Word gives
us hope, strength, love and wisdom
to raise godly children.

* While sex is enjoyable, this feeling is not the main focus of the sexual
relationship. Sex is for expressing and developing intimacy and from this
intimacy children come into the world (cf. Psalm 133; John 15:8). The fami-
ly is designed to continue God’s work rather than for our own pleasures.

* Children are great! They are not a bother, but God’s great blessing. Sure
they tie one down into a responsible relationship where one is to love and
care for others. We must put away all forms of self–centeredness and speed
on our way towards maturity.

* Abortion is the most horrible expression of selfishness. It will always be

illegal in God’s world. Using fetal tissue resulting from an abortion is profi-
teering from murder victims. This is modern cannibalism.

* The parents, not the Sunday School teacher, not Christian schooling nor
the pastors, are overall responsible to train their children in godliness. This
training must include both daily example and instruction (Deut. 6).

* You must correct your children. This requires consistency, gentleness,

firmness as well as clear instructions and punishments. It is our duty to
make sure they feel uncomfortable expressing their evil nature and comfort-
able with a life of self-control. Hebrews 12 boldly says that if we do not dis-
cipline our children, then we just don’t love them.

* Remember that the state of pregnancy is not a disease even though birth
often takes place in a hospital room! This grand process can hardly be
rivaled in its intricate design and beauty. Breast feeding is superior to and
easier than giving a baby a bottle. A working mother is often too stressed out
or tired to provide the attention a little one needs. No agency can make up
for the mother’s presence.

* Don’t spoil your children. It is virtually impossible for them to learn deep
gratitude to God, their parents and others when they receive more than they
can appreciate. They can learn politeness, but it differs from gratitude.

* God is in charge of caring for your needs. Don’t let money get in the way
of your worship of God. Worrying is a sign that you doubt God’s care for
you. He doesn’t guarantee that His care will meet up with your expectations,
but it will be sufficient to complete His will.

* We should think of the family as a mini– church. The father is overall

responsible for declaring God’s truth and leading the others in worship. He is
as a pastor to the family. The family form a body where everyone has a part.
Chores are an expression of their service in that community.
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