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Introduction Before You Begin 1. Creating Your Psycho-Calibration Place 2. Preparing For Your First Psycho-Calibration Session: Making The Decision That Will Change Your Life The Four Steps To Psycho-Calibration 3. Sit 4. Bring Out Your Pain 5. Identify Yourself As The Observer 6. Love 7. Your Daily 7-Minute Restoration Session Summarized, And How To Overcome Common Difficulties In Your Practice Improving All Areas Of Your Life 8. The Rest Of Your Day: Recollection And Reinforcement. 9. Real-World Applications For Psycho-Calibration 10. Failures, Disappointments, And Secrets
Introduction
A Better Life Begins Now
Congratulations! You have purchased the no-nonsense, practical, and powerful Psycho-Calibration technique that has helped many people just like you to start feeling indescribable joy in their lives. Lets get started immediately.
SUMMARY OF INTRODUCTION Unlike other programs, Psycho-Calibration is easy, brief, and specifically removes your suffering at its deepest root by dealing directly with your emotions. Youve chosen well.
The Importance Of Setting How To Create The Personal, Permanent Psycho-Calibration Space That Will Start You On Your New Life
If you enjoy reading, Im guessing you can read a book pretty much anywhere. You can read a book on the subway. You can read exhausted in bed, right before you fall asleep. You can read in a crowded, noisy room. You can even read while doing simple tasks, such as doing the laundry. The same is true with Psycho-Calibration. One of the great things about PsychoCalibration is that you can calibrate ANYWHERE. You dont need to carry anything with you or be in any sort of special position. However, just as some environments make it easier to read, Psycho-Calibration is easier in the right setting. Factors that determine the right setting include: the settings atmosphere, whether you are alone or with others, and what kinds of associations you have with the place. Since you are not an expert on Psycho-Calibration, you need an environment where you can learn, where your skills can develop, and you arent distracted. Later, you will be able to use your Psycho-Calibration skill in all locations even at wild parties. And, once we get to that point, I will guide you through exactly how to do so. But for now
This will be the area where youll escape to, your little private island. Joy and relaxation await you in this place. You shouldnt do everything in this place, such as do your taxes, but you will want to calibrate, and Psycho-Calibration is going to feel wonderful. In choosing your special place for Psycho-Calibration, follow these three rules:
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Reinvent a room you dont use very often, such as a study, into your PsychoCalibration room. Line it with pillows, cover it with peaceful posters. The key is to make this room new so that you can associate this new room ONLY with Psycho-Calibration. If you have a large enough closet, put blankets over the floor and take the clothes hangers down. The closet becomes a small, secluded room perfect for PsychoCalibration. If you would like a space outdoors, try taking a walk for 5 minutes, and see what you find. Walk to somewhere thats not so familiar. Maybe youll find a comfortable, grassy spot next to a tree. If you live in the city, try walking to a public park.
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I hope you are creative and careful choosing your Psycho-Calibration space. It is important to genuinely enjoy the place that you choose. As you calibrate there, you will begin to associate Psycho-Calibration with your place. (So when you think Psycho-Calibration, you will think your place.) As I said before, this is going to be the place where your life transforms, the place where you will be putting the most important minutes of your life into every single day. Im so glad youve decided to make this first step. I know how difficult it is to commit to anything that will drastically improve your life. You did it. Youve taken the first step. Be proud of yourself, and be proud of your new space.
CHAPTER ONE SUMMARY The very first step: Locate or create your own permanent Psycho-Calibration space. Your space should be easy to get to. Your place should seem like an entirely new place, even if it isnt. Your space should have as few distractions as possible, such as uncomfortable temperatures, a hard place to sit, noise, or the presence of other people.
Chapter Two Preparing For Your First Psycho-Calibration Session: Making The Decision That Will Change Your Life
Why? It sounds easy, doesnt it? To succeed in that goal, simply stop purchasing food with sugar. And if you already have sugary foods, all you have to do is prevent yourself from moving your hand into the pantry and reaching for that sugary snack. Its not brain surgery. It doesnt involve luck. Just stop doing it. Why is that so difficult?
Result: Hunger Sugar (Sugar, sugar, sugar, your mind thinks. Oh, I LOVE sugar. A big brownie sounds absolutely wonderful right now. This, especially, is where your decision falls apart. Youre going to think about sugar even more!) Result: Focus on Sugar Again (Oh my God, this means I can never EVER eat sugar AGAIN? you wonder, Is this a prison sentence? How absolute! And because of this your mind reasons, Well, since Ill have a lifetime of not eating sugar, I might as well enjoy this brownie now just this once one last time.) Result: Loss of Control Amazingly, rather than motivating you to stop eating sugar, the decision has the following effect: It makes you feel hurt, hungry, obsessing over sugar, and without a sense of control. NO WONDER DIETS ARE SO DIFFICULT! In summary: When considered as a whole, a decision can seem like a great idea. When considered as separate words (which is how your brain works), each word can evoke something that makes the decision more difficult to follow.
How To Phrase Your Decision To Calibrate Every Day The Right Way, So That You Keep Your Commitment And Start Seeing Results
Psycho-Calibration is not something that you do. For lack of a better description, it is the absence of doing. It is a submission of thought and a submission of action for a better, truer way of understanding yourself and the world. Therefore, it is incorrect to decide to calibrate everyday. Thats right
Chanting a mantra distracts you from some of the mental and personal benefits that you can only get from Psycho-Calibration, such as new insights into your life and incredible creativity. In summation, chanting a mantra, thinking of nothing, and guided meditaiton can be effective relaxations techniques, and they can even lead to the same benefits of PsychoCalibration, but they are often too distracting or too inadequate to provide the transformative power that comes readily with Psycho-Calibration. Im not saying this to boast. Im saying this from experience. In true Psycho-Calibration, you are striving for nothing. Not striving to calibrate. Not striving for an empty mind. Not striving for guiding your focus. Not striving to repeat a silly phrase or syllable.
Every day, for the rest of my life, I will calibrate for 7 minutes.
CHAPTER TWO SUMMARY Your only decision when you enter your Psycho-Calibration space is to sit. If you create any other kind of commitment, most likely it will be counterproductive to your Psycho-Calibration. The way you word your decision is one of the main factors as to whether or not you will follow that decision. Forget other techniques to relax or meditate. They may confuse you and cause you to strive for something that Psycho-Calibration is not.
Remember. Your decision is, I will sit now, and thats it! Now, its time to start following your decision
When you sit, it is very important that you keep your back straight. This is to keep you alert. Just as frowning has been proven to make people less happy, slouching will evoke in you feelings of lethargy. Feeling tired is a distraction from your practice. When youre sitting, I recommend your back remains straight and your head is held up high. If you are unable to sit with your back straight, or the discomfort of the position is too much for you to handle, try your own posture when sitting. The important thing is to not lie down and to stay moderately still when you are in position.
Why Posture And Sitting Are Absolutely Crucial To Quickly Reaping The Benefits Of Psycho-Calibration
It is possible to calibrate in any position. However, lets start by sitting down, in the position I just described. Sitting is easy, right? But when we sit in position, our minds come up with plenty of reasons to stop sitting, and this is why it seems difficult. This difficulty is in your mind.
CHAPTER THREE SUMMARY Go into your Psycho-Calibration space without being concerned with time. (If you have to, set an alarm and then forget about it immediately. Let the alarm surprise you.) Sit back straight, head up if you can, and commit yourself to sitting. Although you can calibrate in almost any position, sitting is best, as you can be distracted and overly-involved doing something else.
The good news is, once we understand our pain by observing it rather than avoiding it, we can get the message, and the pain is gone! This leads us not just to the absence of pain, but to incredible joy. Lets try this right now . . .
Accept your pain, and focus upon it. What is it trying to tell you? If your pain has an image associated with it, make it larger, crisper, and more detailed. If this pain has a sound associated with it, make it louder. Visualize the pain actually growing, inflating, filling the room, or imagine that you are diving into it. Make the feeling tangible and real.
Now, below Ive included a general hierarchy of pain. At the top is pain you are presently aware of. Near the bottom is pain that you are only subconsciously aware of. When you resolve the pain of one level, move down to the next level. First Level: Your Current Pain Weak Pain: The mere discomfort of the sitting itself. Feeling tired or bored. Strong Pain: Overwhelming anguish, overwhelming physical pain, depression, and a strong desperation to rid yourself of this pain. Second Level: Recent Issues You Are Currently Ignoring Weak Pain: Minor insecurities, slip-ups, failures, grumbles and worries about daily life. Strong Pain: Recent personal tragedy, such as the death of a loved one. Strong insecurities, recent emotional issues. Third Level: Memories Buried From Your Past / Worries For Your Future Weak: Issues that you have already dealt with. Issues that are no longer painful. Minor worries for the future, such as worrying about the success of a sports team. Strong: Traumatic past experiences that affect your present condition. Paralyzing fears for the future, such as a fear that you and your loved ones will be hurt. Fourth Level: Your Identity Weak: Typical insecurities, uncertainty in your life, the desire to be better.
Strong: Feelings of inadequacy, feeling unworthy of being loved, feeling like a failure, feeling without purpose or meaning. Fifth Level: Your Fear of Death Weak: You accept the idea of death, are willing to think about it, but do not wish to die because you enjoy life. You are frightened only when in great immediate danger. Strong: You refuse to think about the fact that you are going to die. Because you will not think about death, although you are very frightened of it, your fear manifests in other ways: phobias, overreactions to non-life-threatening health risks, such as common germs, a desperate need for the idea of an afterlife.
Pain is gone once we understand and accept what it is trying to tell us. The reason why we cannot get the message, so to speak, is because we have a natural aversion to pain. Pain is an unpleasant messenger, and therefore, we choose to ignore it. Usually, we do not listen to our pain, but we respond: we respond with action, we respond by pushing our pain aside, we respond by worrying, and we respond with forced positive thinking. Least of all do we wish to sit down with our pain and let it speak out everything that it wants to say. But that is exactly what we are going to do. Because, fortunately, there is a technique that makes listening to pain fun and completely painless! It is entirely crucial to PsychoCalibration. We discuss this technique in the next chapter . . .
CHAPTER FOUR SUMMARY Pain is a messenger. Rather than avoiding pain and letting the messages accumulate, it is best to actually listen to the message. Listening to the message of our pain is uncomfortable for us. That is why we use the technique discussed in Chapter 5. Painful areas of your life can be focused on and recalled from memory. They can also be amplified by visualization exercises and other tricks. This is to get pains full message finally, in its totality, as it has been previously ignored. There is a hierarchy of pain, all the way to the fear of death, which is the most deeply rooted. To be completely and utterly without stress, you can move all the way down through this hierarchy, recalling all of your pain and ridding yourself of it, even the fear of death.
Start thinking of yourself as two selves. There is one self that observes and one self that thinks, feels, and reacts. (Unlike the content of many other programs, Psycho-Calibration does not engage in pseudo-philosophy or any unscientific claim of the mind. This is a general, working metaphor to how your mind actually operates.) You can test this right now by observing your current thoughts. Isnt it possible, right now, to observe your thoughts? Isnt it possible to observe your emotions? If you only had one self, and that self was comprised of your thoughts and emotions, you could not observe that self. The self could not observe itself; it could only add more thoughts and emotions. With only one self, you would have a brain like that of an insect, incapable of introspection, incapable of viewing or understanding its own behavior. We are human beings, and therefore, we have two selves, an impartial observing self and self that includes all of your thoughts and emotions.
The Loving Relationship Of Your Two Selves: Just Like Parent And Child
Now, bear with me as I try another analogy.
The relationship between your two selves, the observer and your thoughts and emotions, is very much like the relationship between a parent and child. And exactly what is true with parenting is true with how you should treat your mind. 1. The child is happier if the parent gives the child attention. Without parental observation, a child can easily become destructive, get into trouble, become selfish, and ultimately hurt himself. Spend time with your kids. The same is true with your thoughts and emotions. If you observe your thoughts and emotions, they will become more pleasant and less destructive. If you leave them alone, they will become unhappy, irresponsible, undeveloped. This is one of the simplest ways to understand why Psycho-Calibration improves your life. 2. Without any discipline, the child will become unhappy and often dysfunctional. An unruly child without any discipline enforced will ignore the parent, no matter how attentive the parent is. This is why I suggest sitting in position for at least 7 minutes every day. The act of sitting instills discipline upon your thoughts and emotions. When a child is unruly, a good parent sits the child down and confronts him, sternly but acceptingly, asking Whats the problem? This is what we do in PsychoCalibration, too. We bring up the problem immediately, the problem of pain, and we continue sitting until that problem is resolved. 3. Too much discipline and the child rebels. A good parent only instills discipline to correct behavior, such as rudeness or violence, that will eventually make their child unhappy. Discipline should never be enforced simply to enforce discipline. We should not get carried away and sit still for 4 days straight. We should not become masochists.
Psycho-Calibration is based only on observing negative emotions, to get rid of them, and increasing positive emotions. Once the pain is gone, once you are happy, go out and live your life. 4. Parents are only needed in the beginning. Then the child grows up. In a good relationship, over time the child becomes happier and healthier and will eventually be able to exist on his own. When you start having a good relationship with your self, your thoughts and emotions will improve, up to the point when you dont need to calibrate anymore. Of course, children do, out of sheer joy and love, want to visit their parents. And you will want to continue to calibrate. Your mind will become more and more disciplined (that means greater productivity, greater effectiveness) and also increasingly calm and joyful. You will enjoy Psycho-Calibration more, and it will be easier. Your life will also be better even when you arent calibrating. 5. The parent is responsible for the child. The child is not responsible for the parent, and not yet responsible for himself. Most people give full responsibility to their thoughts and emotions. They act on a thought, or they act on a feeling. But there is nothing you can think and nothing you can feel that will drastically change your life. This is because trying to change your life with thoughts and emotions is exactly the same as if you were handing all of your responsibility over to a child! If you woke up one morning and decided that you were going to keep a flawlessly healthy diet for the rest of your life, I would guess that you will break your commitment in less than 24 hours. This is because the decision came from thoughts and emotions. You woke up and felt like making a decision. And once those thoughts and emotions are replaced with other thoughts and emotions, the decision is broken. So be easy on your thoughts, easy on your emotions. Put your responsibility on being aware of your thoughts, aware of your emotions. Make it your responsibility to become the observer.
6. When the relationship is healthy, parents and children feel love towards each other. Do you feel the emotion of love with yourself, just like you felt with your high school sweetheart or now with your children? Well, you should. And you can. Such a level of constant happiness is absolutely obtainable. It is simply the healthiest psychological state possible. When you feel a sense of active love, you are succeeding in your Psycho-Calibration practice. (More on love in the next chapter!)
How To Give Authority To The Observer And Start Changing Your Life
Again, your problem is a lack of observation for your thoughts and emotions, which are controlling your life. You must give authority back to the observer by identifying yourself as the observer. Everyday we identify ourselves as our thoughts and emotions, but very rarely do we think of ourselves as the observation of these thoughts and emotions. This is quite the imbalance. This is not something you can just understand intellectually. This must be put into practice as you sit in your position and are focused upon pain. The easiest way to identify yourself as the observer is to focus on your pain, then focus on the distance between yourself and your pain. As you observe pain, think of it in an entirely separate place, as if floating next to your face, or even across the room. You can also ponder upon a question, like: How could this pain be both a part of me and be observed by me? (Of course, the answer is, it cannot. To be able to observe something means that you are separate from it. Without a mirror, my eyes cannot see themselves. My eyes, however, can see a dog walking in the park, as the dog is separate from my eyes. In the same way, it is proved that we are separate from our thoughts and emotions because we can observe them.)
CHAPTER FIVE SUMMARY You have two selves: your thoughts and emotions and that which observes your thoughts and emotions. Because pain is an emotion, the observational self is painless. Identifying yourself as this self is the secret to Psycho-Calibration bringing you joy and pain relief. To identify yourself as the observer of your thoughts and emotions, focus upon the distance between your pain and your actual self. It is not actually affecting you, is it? You are watching pain, listening to pain, all the while without pain. A great analogy for the Psycho-Calibration process is one between a parent and child. The parent is who you truly are (the observer), and the child is your personality, embodied by your name, the product of the parent but not the parent itself. Without discipline and an observer, the child becomes unruly, overindulgent, and hurts himself. The child is happier being observed by the parent, and this is why Psycho-Calibration makes you happier: you are happier when looked after.
You have heard the phrase unconditional love, I assume. You need to unconditionally love yourself. This is the purest form of love and can only be done by identifying yourself as the observer. Your thoughts and emotions create conditions constantly, but the observer is unconditional. Again, think of the relationship between a parent and child. The best parents understand that their children are inherently good, even when they do something that is bad. The best parents always love their children and are aware enough to understand the meaning of their behavior and accept it for what it is. If a child cries, it is because the child is upset, not because the child is bad. Likewise, you are not bad if you do things that make you upset! Love yourself! Observe your failures and inadequacies (and the failures and inadequacies of the world around you) as a parent would view the inadequacies of his or her child.
After you have resolved pain, begin to actively love. This happens by observing and accepting everything inside and out and by turning up that feeling with your emotions, just as you turned up your pain earlier. True love is unconditional and must be produced actively. It is not going to fall on your lap. You must accept your mistakes and character faults, and this can be done by observing them.
Chapter Seven Your Daily 7-Minute Restoration Session Summarized, And How To Overcome Common Difficulties In Your Practice
The four steps need not to be in a rigid placement but should be repeated through your Psycho-Calibration session. Again, here are the steps, including more detail as to when they can be used: 1. Sit Your whole session you should be sitting in posture. (Although please read the tip below for an exception.) 2. Bring Out Your Pain This is to accelerate the process. It is the most powerful technique. 3. Identify Yourself As The Observer This should be done as often as possible. All benefits arise from this step. It should be done especially after youve brought out your pain, since you dont want to suffer needlessly from it. 4. Actively Love This keeps the Psycho-Calibration process going and allows you to build momentum. With love, you are move involved in the worldyour life is larger, so to speakand so you have more to work with.
Along with these steps, lets add a few invaluable tips and tricks that will help your first session to go smoothly.
But when you break posture, only break it enough to become comfortable again. I tend to move my spine around and stretch, sometimes standing up. After youve broken posture, think about why you had to break your posture and the pain or discomfort that you previously felt. It will now be very easy to observe this discomfort rather than participate in it, since it is not currently bothering you. Once youve observed your discomfort, return to your position and continue calibrating. You will now be able to sit for longer.
In fact, it is perfectly common to have negative thoughts towards Psycho-Calibration and the Psycho-Calibration process. Treat these negative thoughts the same way you treat negative emotion. Turn it up and observe it. 4. Tiredness will show itself if you arent getting enough sleep or exercising. Many firsttimers to Psycho-Calibration lie down and fall asleep! The best way to deal with this is to start taking better care of yourself before you calibrate. But while calibrating, evoking pain (Step 2) will often do the trick. When you worry about something, its difficult to fall asleep, isnt it? 5. Social stigma. It sounds silly, but some people might think its weird that you want to calibrate! The way to remedy this is also just a good idea in general: Dont talk about PsychoCalibration and your Psycho-Calibration experiences. This is not a steadfast rule, but a general one that can often be a good idea. Psycho-Calibration is about observing rather than thinking. When we talk about Psycho-Calibration, we think about it, and we get emotional reactions from its inclusion in our social lives. Let people find this new transformation in your life mysterious. Let them guess. Dont tell everyone that youre calibrating now and have become a new person.
Actually, the best anchor is pain itself. Whenever you feel pain, try identifying yourself as the observer of your pain. Have pain be your best reminder to use some of the techniques youve learned.
Whenever you feel any kind of painanxiety, discomfort, boredom, angeractivate another anchor, such as sitting down or focusing on your breathing. The more times you do this, the stronger the anchors become and the less you suffer from pain. You should recall your Psycho-Calibration via anchors ANY TIME you are in pain. Of course, specific instances in the real world deserve to be discussed in more detail . . . Thats why, in the next chapter, Ive included more than 10 different areas of your life in which Psycho-Calibration can specifically improve.
The following is a list of a few areas in your life that Psycho-Calibration can help with. Let this be your secret weapon. If you are having special difficulty with one area in your life, I would suggest deciding to sit in position until you feel good about it, then, as you execute, recall your PsychoCalibration joy so that you dont get stressed and quit. Happiness, and therefore success, is the goal for all of these areas. You can only succeed if you are happy, since suffering is a failure.
Procrastination ultimately comes from pain. We procrastinate because it is painful to do what it is we need to do. Psycho-Calibration is absolutely the best way to deal with procrastination, since PsychoCalibration is the best way to deal with pain. Observe the painful feeling preventing you from doing your work, as you now know how to observe pain. Your attention should be on your emotions, not your decisions. A decision to work means nothing. You will ultimately follow whatever decision your emotional state wants. Another consideration: While you work, you will get ideas of other things to do, and these ideas will at first seem good. Play a game of internet solitaire, you may think, it will get me relaxed and ready to work. These thoughts are coming from pain, but we do not realize it. Turn up these ideas, as in, listen to your mind completely as it is suggesting it. Do not push away distractions: listen to them entirely and observe them. Doing this, they will eventually go away. A final suggestion: While you are working, try to send out your active love, like weve learned in Step 4. Many people love their work. Work is not inherently unpleasant. We simply do not love all work, just as we do not love all peopleand this can be improved. By taking the initiative to love everything, including your work, your life will be much happier. I guarantee, with active love, you can enjoy doing pretty much anything. You need to observe the pain, first, and then, when it no longer hurts, send out your love.
Now, I recommend that as soon as you can, you should sit up, in position, on your bed and calibrate until you are well awake, observing your feeling of being tired as you observe pain. Once you are mentally well-awake, you can sit up and begin your morning.
Psycho-Calibration moves your mind from judging others and looking for a way out of pain to loving others and being painless. Judging and using people is exactly what sex should NOT be about. Both men and women do this, and both in the courtship stage and in the bedroom itself. Before you go on a date, and before you make that move, I suggest getting rid of your pain through Psycho-Calibration. Trust me. If you have to wait a few days because your head isnt right, calibrate. Once a sexual relationship (and this could be anything from just-more-than-friends to marriage) is founded on mutual interest rather than looking for a way out of pain, its time for the magic. Sexual activity of any sort is very exciting and pleasurable, but at the same time, it is full of pain and anxiety. We can become self-conscious of our bodies, self-conscious of our approach, self-conscious of our abilities. This is where love comes in. Many people are scared of the idea of loving someone they arent married to, or at least, heavily committed to. This is wrong thinking. Remember, the ultimate goal is to love everything. A good rule of thumb is to love before engaging in any physical, sexual activity. This is not the same as abstinence until marriage. This is the idea of genuinely caring about the other person before you enter into the emotionally intense territory of sex. Again, otherwise, sex is just to feel good, and there are better ways to do this. If you desperately want a romantic partner, you should not calibrate in order to get one. You should calibrate until you are happy with being single. The bizarre thing is, once you do that, chances are you will be much more attractive.
Being grateful with what you have makes the concept of earning more money more fun. It becomes a bonus rather than something you must do. Some people will say the opposite, that you have to be desperate to succeed, but I disagree. Desperate people often are committed, which is also necessary, but it also has to be fun for you. No one is led to the very top of any field by pain. Pain also prevents us from earning money because it prevents us from taking risks, even ingenious risks, which all the top-earners have done. (Let me take a moment to distinguish a difference here between pain and dissatisfaction. Pain is unproductive to making more money and should be observed through PsychoCalibration. Dissatisfaction is the perfectly healthy feeling that drives creativity and progress.) If you have many deeply rooted issues with money, devotee a Psycho-Calibration session or more to dealing with this. Once you are no longer in pains with your financial state, it can be enjoyable and feasible to make more money. That will be your decision. Like the decision to create art, or the decision to master a game, the decision to make money is a worthy pursuit. Making money should be based on a friendly dissatisfaction, a desire to achieve. To summarize everything: Making money requires creativity, dedication, and risktaking. I will discuss all three.
Improve Creativity
Creativity is not a decision. Many people forget this. Many people think they just need to come up with a million-dollar idea and watch the money roll in. Many people believe that great authors, for instance, simply come up with what they want to write and write it down. Creative people, they believe, come up with good ideas. Creativity is actually less about ideas and more about congruency in execution. There are many good ideas out there. But there are very few people that will congruently execute a good idea so that it becomes real. In other words, creativity is the ability to come up with everything needed to make something new come together.
This is why Psycho-Calibration is very beneficial to creativity. What hurts creativity are ideas that are not congruent to what you are creating. These ideas are usually based on emotional reactions. And Psycho-Calibration gets rid of this. Psycho-Calibration observes the true nature of thoughts and emotions and therefore weeds out inappropriate ideas. For example, if I wish to write a novel about a bitter father/son relationship, if I get the impulse midway to change my mind and write about traveling back in time to see Napoleon, is that because it was my vision all along? Or was it because I was getting frustrated that day with what I was writing? When you deal with your pain in PsychoCalibration, work becomes play again, and you wont come up with desperate ideas and dreams that will distract you. In my case, the novel would be written without hesitation, whatever it turned out to be. It would all be play. I suggest doing a small amount of calibrating to get rid of pain before you even start coming up with ideas. Pain leads to bad ideas and stifles the playful mood creativity needs. Dont try planning what you are going to create, just observe your mind, whatever it is youre thinking. Ideas will come to you. You need to have faith in this! You will not consciously construct the next big idea, but it may very well come to you.
I do not believe that you can simply decide to follow all of your responsibilities and commitments. You can, however, through Psycho-Calibration observe that they exist and observe the pain and burden that they cause, thereby getting rid of the pain, as truly observing pain ends it. And commitments without pain are happily taken. There is a pleasure in fulfilling commitment.
In fact, if you always calibrated when you were bored, your life would transform incredibly! You would even grow to like feeling bored, as it would be a happy reminder to start calibrating. Boredom is another form of pain and should be treated as such. Observe your boredom and all of its aspects. What does it feel like? Can we magnify the feeling? Boredom is observed but not felt. It is inspected, looked over, wondered at, although indifferently. Love is the ultimate boredom killer, and so it is especially this step that does boredom in. When you are in love with someone, you can do absolutely nothing together and be happy. The same is true with being by yourself and loving.
What If Psycho-Calibration Just Doesnt Work For Me? I Try And Try . . . But It Doesnt Work!
Ive been there. Its frustrating. Maybe youve seen little glimmers of it working, but you just cant get the big results. Thats rough. Most likely, however, it is not that Psycho-Calibration doesnt work for you. Its just that you havent figured it out yet. And thats fine. Psycho-Calibration is tricky, and once you do get it, youll have an added appreciation for Psycho-Calibration. Here are common failures that occur and how to resolve them: 1. I just cant sit in the position for very long. As was mentioned in Chapter 7, whenever you have a distracting desire to get out of position that you simply cannot observe passively, you should obey that desire and get out of position. However, when you do this, only break your position enough to appease the thought. What I do is, I stand up for a bit and stretch my spine. Once the pain of sitting in position goes away, you can return in position and continue your session. Do this as many times as you need. Stop calibrating once you feel happy and painless. It will happen. Even if it takes over an hour, it will happen. You need to really commit to it if its your first time. The first time is always the hardest, because you dont have that feeling of joy to recall. 2. My pain is too great. I cant observe it at all. I just become depressed. Your brain chemistry plays a big part in your Psycho-Calibration practice. If you are chemically depressed, Psycho-Calibration is much more difficult. I suggest, if you are having trouble with your practice, to do something that will change your brain chemistry. Eat if you havent done so. Exercise works miracles, too. Exercising before Psycho-Calibration is a great idea. Make sure you get plenty of sleep, too. 3. I have no idea how to observe my thoughts without thinking about them.
This means you are thinking too much. Observation becomes a very real phenomenon that you are immediately aware of once your thoughts are focused enough to observe. In our daily lives, we dont observe our thoughts because we simply have too many! I would suggest focusing on something simple, like your breath, for a while to decrease the amount of thoughts. While this happens, just try imagining that you are outside of your thoughts, that you are actually looking at themwow, look theres a thought, theres an emotion! 4. I have no idea how to love myself. I dont like myself, at least parts of myself. As I said before, true love is unconditional. Just as a parent does not have to like his or her child to love the child, you do not have to like all of the actions that you have done to love yourself. A simple way to love yourself is to believe in the analogy I have been using and to just think of your thoughts, emotions, and actions as coming from a child! We believe children are innocent and inherently good, even if they do evil. Why shouldnt we assume the same for adults? At least, assume the same for yourself. Treat yourself as if you are nave and need attention.