HighSelfEsteemin21DaysWorkbook

TheSecretsofHigh
SelfEsteem:
Your21DayGuidetoSuccess

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ByAdamEason
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Introduction
My30th birthdaywasthesinglehottestdayintheUKthatyear.Imeanitwashot.I
am inMortehoe,asmallvillageinNorthDevon onthewestcoastofEngland.Iamon
acampsitelateevening,theairiswarm,theskyisclearandwithnoreallight
pollution, thestarsarereallytwinkling.Iamsatinachair,myfaceglowingwiththe
heatfromthedayssunshineandtheglowingembersofthebarbequeuesbesideme.
OneofmybestfriendsJosaidtomeWipethemarshmallowoffyourfaceYou
knowhowmuchfunIwashaving!
Iamencircledbyagroupofapproximately35ofmyclosefriendsfromvarious
chaptersofmylife.
Wearehavingaweekendcamping,loadsofmyfriendshadcelebratedtheir30thin
thepastfewyearsandsoIdecidedtogetawayfrompubsandclubstocelebratemy
30th.Iwanted todosomethingdifferentandheadouttothecoast wehadbeen
surfing,playinggamesonthebeach,eating,drinkingandgenerallyhavingaball.
OneofmyveryclosefriendswasnicknamedBuntyBuntywasacartooncharacter
inTheRoyoftheRoversfootballmagazinewhenwewerekids.Buntywasa
characterthatplayedfootballandwhenhefelloverhebouncedupagain,thatwas
him alright,hebouncedwheneverweplayedfootball andalwaysseemedtolandon
hisfeet.Anyway,hehadhadtodrinkalotofwaterandhaveasitdownwhenwehad
lunchtimedrinksduetotheredcolourofhisback.MoresuncreamforBuntynext
time.Whenhetookhisvestoff,itlookedlikehewasstillwearingitonaccountof
himhavingredskineverywherewherethevesthadnotbeencovering.Inlateryears
wewentonholidaytogetherwithsomeotherclosefriendsandwhenhehadstillnot
learnthislessonandwasredskinnedagain,werenicknamedhim Burnty.
Anyway,Idigress.Ihadstrolledlazilybackfromtheshowersandsomeserious
groomingforthenightahead,well,asseriousasyoucandointhesteamyshower
roomsonacampsiteandIwasheadinginthedirectionofwhereallourtentswere
pitched.IhadaveryoldVolkswagenCampervanthatis6monthsolderthanIamand
Ilovedgoingcampinginher beautifulmachinesthose,minewasracinggreen,
originalinteriorandwasimaginativelynamedBertha onaccountofherbeinga4
berthcampervan.
So,asIwalkedback,theviewsweresomethingspecial.Overlookinggreensloping
hillstothebeachesandthesea.Theimmediatecoastlinehadbigrockstalagmites
comingoutoftheseathatwerecastingsilhouettesacrossthecliffsandthesun was
settingonthesurfaceoftheseastunning.Absolutelystunning.
AsIarrivedback,allchangedandsmellingwonderfulagain,Iwasgreetedwith a
cheerbyallmyfriendsthathadcongregated,tiedballoonstoBerthaandinstructed
metositdownforabirthdaysurprise.Now,ifyouhavefriendslikemine,youstart
gettingnervouswhentheysaythingslikethat.IsatdownandRoy,oneofmyfriends
fromBournemouth,announcedthateveryonehadbeenemailingeachotherbehind

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mybackthatweekandtheyhaddecidedthattheywouldallbringsomethingalongto
theeveningthatremindedthemofmeandthattheywouldtellthestorythatwentwith
it.
ItisatthispointthatIamscared,mygirlfriendishereandIamnotsureifsheknows
everythingaboutmejustyetandIamnotsureifIwanthertoknoweverything!
MybestfriendfromuniversityEd,toldeverybodyastoryaboutthetimehimandI
pretendedtobebarownersandconnedourwayintothesetoftheUKsmostpopular
TVsoapopera,CoronationStreet,forafreedrinkspromotionandweregivenfree
drinksforadayandanight.HegavemeaphotoofhimandI,arminarm,intheset
oftheRoversReturnbarfromduringthatday.
Oneofmybestfriendsfrommyhometown, Toby,(wecalledhimSpannerbecausehe
wasintocarsandoncesmackedhimselfintheheadwithaspannerandcameoutto
thepubwithascaronhisforehead)toldastoryaboutthetimehimandIandacouple
ofothershadjumpedintoataxiattheendofanightoutandtoldthedriverwhereto
go, onlytofindouthalfwaythrough thelengthyjourney thathewasnotactuallya
taxidriverandwastooscaredtotellus.
AgreatfriendofmineNick,hadtoldofhowImadealltheguysathisprewedding
stagnightwearleopardskinthongsoutsidetheirtrousersandsohebroughtmeanew
onethatwentcomfortablyovermytrousersandlookedgreatatthecampsite.
My brotherhadmadea30thbirthdaytshirtformewithapictureofmewearinga
wigonitandIhadtowearthetshirtforthenightIactuallyworeitallweekend.
Thenightwentonlikethis,personuponpersontookturnstostandupandtellme
abouthowmuchfuntheyhadhadwithmeandthelaughterfromeveryonemademe
giddyandemotional.
Emotional,becausemymindnowwanderedbacktoseveralyearsearlierinthelate
1980s.Iamlyingonmybedstaringattheceilinganditisblurred.Infact,theartex
ceilingismoving,itissloppingaroundlookingtomelikesomeonestirringpaintina
pot.ThereasonformystrangevisionisthatinthelasthalfhourofthisSeptember
dayin1989,Ihavejustconsumedalotofdrugsandalcohol,andfurtherstuffeddown
mythroat30antidepressanttablets.My stomachisfeelingweirdasyouwould
expect,infactitisgurgling.IamthinkingtomyselfthatIamdying.
IhadnotbecomethesuperstarfootballerthatIwastippedtobe,Ihadnotgotthat
hotshotjobthatmyeducationalexcellencehadanticipatedorbecomeanyofthe
amazingthingsthatallmyschoolteachersthoughtIwould.Infact,inmyeyes,
havingnotmadeanyimpressionontheworldapartfromdoingpoorly,Ihavehad
enoughofbeingnoone,withnovalueofmyself,notlivinguptoexpectationsandam
nowcommittingsuicide.
Theonlythingthatstoppedmefromdying,inmyopinion,wasmyMumfindingme
halfunconsciousandthenhavingtoforcemyselftobedesperatelysickinthehopeof
recovering.

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ThisisnotsomethingthatmanypeoplehaveencounteredIamguessing,butletme
tellyouthisfrommyexperience,thedreamyideaofdriftingoffcomfortablyatyour
ownhandisnotaseasyasyoumaythink.Facedwiththereality ofdying,inavery
surrealexperience,Iamnowimaginingmyownfuneralwhenintherealworldmy
Mumhasarrivedhomeandstartscallingmyname.
Imaginingherthereintearsifshediscoveredmelikethis,Istartrememberingstories
ofhowproudmy MumandDadwerewhenIbecamedeputyheadboyatschool.I
rememberedmygrandmothertellingmeaboutthetime,priortomybirth,howmy
DadhadtoldeveryonethathewasgoingtohavearedhairedsonandonthedayIwas
bornhowproudhewas.IremembermyDaddrivingmealloverthecountryand
watchingmeplayfootballeveryweekendinallkindsofweatherconditionsandhow
involvedhewouldbeandhowhewaswithmewhenIplayedwellandscoredgoals.I
rememberhowmybrotherusedtohappilyfollowmearoundwhenweweretoddlers
andhowinadultlifewemadeapacttobethebestmanateachothersweddingswhile
hugging.
But,onmybed,thelightswentoutforme.IthinkIamdying.
Suddenly,Icanhearcrystalclear,sharpsounds.
Thenextfewdayswereablurtome.Iamlookingatacounsellor.Sheisaskingme
allsortsofquestionsandtellingmethingsanddespiteherverypleasantdemeanour
andagreeablesmile,Iamfindingthediscussionmoribund.Ihavenointerestinwhat
sheissayingandverylittleofwhatsheisdoingortellingmeisofanyvaluetome
rightthereandthen.Shejustwantstodiscussmylife,whichItendtothinkis
obviouslyproblematicrightnow.
Ispentsomeweeksrecoveringphysicallyandthensomemonthsrecoveringmentally
andmustadmitthatIstillexperiencetimesnowwhenIfeelthepainofthattimein
mylife.Astheyearstickedbyfromthenonwards,Ihadnevertrulystoppedand
examinedmylife.Mynaturalcopingmechanismwastoburymyheadandnotspend
toomuchmoretimeanalysingmylife,notkeepregurgitatingpastpain.Instead,to
moveforwardIstudiedandstudiedandlearntmoreaboutlotsofwaystofeelgood
aboutmyself.Iwentoncoursesallovertheworldtotrain tohelpothersthathadbeen
neartheendlikeIhad.Ireadbooksonawidevarietyofselfhelptopicstolearnhow
toexcelanddevelopmyselfforthebetter,Ihadsetupmyownbusinessandwas
pushingonforward.Itwasalongjourney,thatIamstillnotevensurethatIhave
reachedtheendof.
ButthereI was,onmy30thbirthday,onthemostbeautifulcampsite,staringatthe
facesofmyfriendsalllookingatmeandlaughingandsmilingandbesidemeisa
growingpileofpictures,toys,cards,itemsthatwouldmeannothingtomostpeople,
thatallhaveaconnectionbetweensomeoneandme.
AsIlookatthosethings,withtheirassociatedmemories,itisgettingcoolerandsome
peoplearegoingtobed,somegoingintothevillagetothepubandIsaidIwouldjoin
themshortly.Ihadneverrealisedtheimpactthatsomeofthemostinnocuousactions
andthingsthatIhaddonehadbeenimprintedonthemindsofothers.Oneofmy
friendsfromhomeJocameovertomeandsaidIamsosorryfornothavingtolda

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storyAdam,youknowwhatIm likeIdontlikegettingupinfrontofpeople.You
knowthatweallloveyouanyway dontyouInarealmatteroffactwayasshe
walkedovertohertentandbeganzippingitup.
Idonow Ithoughtwithmychinwobblingallovertheplace.Iwentandsatinmy
campervanforacoupleofminutesandcried.InfactIcriedsohard,thatIhadtostuff
mybeachtowelovermymouthtomufflethesounds.
WhenJosaidthat,itremindedmeofmyMumsayingtomebackthenWedolove
you,youdoknowthatdontyou.Thiswasthebeginningof thedevelopmentof
myselfesteem.IknownowwhyIfailedmiserablyinmyattempttoendthings.To
thisday,IdomybesttotellmyfriendsandfamilythatIlovethemandtellthem of
theimpactthingstheydohaveonme,becauseIknowthatkindofstuffspreadsinto
thelivesofothersandmightjusthelpsomeonedeveloptheirownsenseofself
withouthavingtogothroughsuchtraumatictimes.Irecommendyoudothesame.
ThemainpurposeofmetellingyouthisisthatasIwritethesepagestoday,Iam
authorofabestsellingbookonselfhypnosis,IhavestarredinaprimetimeBBC1
documentaryseriesforTV, mypersonaldevelopmentaudioprogrammesand
hypnosisprogrammessell allovertheworld,Ispeakinternationallyandregularly
appearinmagazinesdiscussingmywork.Ihavealongwaitinglistforpeopleto
consultwithmeandindividualsandcompaniesseekmeouttodoso.Iconsider
myselftohavecomeaverylongway.ThatjourneywouldnothavebeenpossibleifI
hadnotbeenabletohelpmyselftogetincontrolofmybrainandmyexperienceof
lifeandbuildmyownsenseofselfesteem.ThelifeIamleadingtodaywouldhave
beenimpossiblewithoutmefirstdevelopingmysenseofselfandnurturingthe
relationshipIhavewithmyself.
Thisbookrepresentsaconcise,stepbystepguideonhowtocreateselfesteem,
examinehowyoufunctionandrespondtolife,howtobehappierandhappier,
enhanceyourselfesteem andhowtouseittoexcelandcreatethelifeyouwantand
arefulfilledby.
ThisbookincludeseverythingthatIusedoveranumberofyearstoestablishand
developmyownselfesteemanditisallyoursinthenext21days.
Ithankyouforallowingmetoshareitallwithyouandhopeyouenjoythejourneyas
muchasIdid.

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WhatisSelfEsteem?
Youcanttouchit,butitaffectshowyoufeel.Youcantseeit,butitistherewhen
youlookatyourselfinthemirror.You canthearit,butitisthereaffectingevery kind
ofcommunicationyouengagein.
Notes:

WhyIsSelfEsteem SoImportant?
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HowDoChildrenDevelopSelfEsteem?
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ProjectForTheDay
Youshallbegettingveryusedtothosewordsinboldtowards theendofeveryday.I
haveaprojectforyoutodobeforewegetonwiththedailyguide.

Projectfortoday:Followthesesteps.
Step1: Writedown aminimumof10specificmemoriesfromyourearlierlifethat
youconsidertohavebeenpivotalinharmingyourselfesteem inanywayatall.
Maybetheyhaveastrongemotional responsetoyouoryourlifeorsomeones
commentsaboutyouthathavecontributedtoyourbeliefs,thoughtsorhabitsabout
youandyourselfesteem.Beasdetailedasyoucan.Theseneedtobememoriesthat
havebeenpivotal,inyouropinion,toyourrecentstateofmindinrelationtoyour
senseofself.
Ensurethatthesethingsarespecificallyrelatedto yoursenseofself.Thismust
includefeelingsaboutthepeopleinvolved,yourexperiences,situations,whatpeople
saidtoyouortoldyou.Theseexperienceswillallhaveemotionalcontentthatis
significantandinsomecasespowerfulandprofound.
Thisprojectfortoday may taketimebutisoneofthemostimportantthingsyouwill
dointhisbook.
Step2: Writeeachmemoryonaseparatepieceofpaperinyourjournal.Ifyouthink
ofmorethanonememoryatatimealwayswriteyourmemoriesdownfirstthenreturn
toeachoneindividuallylater.
Step3: Inasmuchdetailaspossible,writeabouteachmemory.Includehowyoufelt
atthetimeandwhatpeoplesaid. Writedown whatyousaw,whatyouheardand
whatandhowyoufelt.Describeitinasmuchsensorydetailaspossible.
Step4: Asyouwriteaboutthismemorywritedownspecificallyhowyoubelievethis
memoryinfluencedandshapedyourselfesteem andbeliefsaboutyourself inthe
present.Besuretowritedownasmanyotherwaysthatyouthinkthismemory could
haveinfluencedyou.
Step5:Thisisthekeypartofthisproject.Goaheadandassignanewanddifferent
meaningtothismemory.Itneedstobeonethatisproductiveandvaluabletoyour
currentlifeandinbuildingyourselfesteem.Writethisnewmeaningoutingreat
detail.Basically,hereyouarereframingthatmemoryintoitbenefitingyouinsome
way insteadofhinderingyou. Writeouthowyouhavebenefitedfromitbasically
reframetheentirethingsothateverytimeyouthinkofit,ithasanewmeaningthat
benefitsyou.Allowthememorytosomehowallowyoutogrowyourselfesteem.
Forexample,Icouldviewmyownpersonalexperienceofoverdosingasayounger
manassomethingthatwasselfish,harmfultoothers,problematicandcouldallowit
tocontributetolesseningmyselfesteem.InsteadIchoosetoviewitasthecatalyst
thatsparkedmyreinvention anddevelopmentofmyrelationshipwithmyself.Idonot
thinkofitasahappytime,thatwouldbeunrealistic,Ijustchoosetothinkofitasthe

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beginningofanewstoryinmylifethatdrivesmeforwardandspursmeontofeel
goodaboutwhoIam.You seehowIhavereframeditintosomethingprogressive?
Therearegoingtobethingsthatyoumaythinkhavenogoodinthemwhatsoever,
andyouhavetobeverycreativeandthinkabouthowitmadeyoustronger,think
aboutwhatyouwouldliketobelieveaboutitandjustdoyourbesttoallowittomove
youforwardinsomeway.
Step6: Runthrough each andeveryoneofthesememoriesandthenewbeneficial
meaningyouhaveassignedtothismemory everydayforthenext21days(atleast).
Thiswillensureitformspartofyourneurologyandbecomesaninherentpartofwho
youare.Ifwrittendownthoroughly,itcanbereadandrereadtogetitembedded.
Theneachtimeyouentercertaincircumstancesorsituations,ifyouchooseto
rememberthingsfrom thepast,allowyourselftobeencouragedbywhatyouhave
learntandhowyouarebeingdrivenbymemoriesinsteadofframingthemas
problemsthataregoingtorepeatandmakeyoufeellackinginselfesteeminsome
way.
Doyoubesttodateyourmemorieswithyourageandmaybetheyearthey took place.
Thesedonothavetobebadorunhappy memories.Youcanwritedownjoyous
onesaswell.Theyjusthavetobethingsthatyoufeelhaveaffectedthewayyou
relatetoyourself.
Onceyouhavewrittenyourmemoriesanddates,takesometimetobesureyouhave
writtenclearlyaboutwhatyouthinkthatmemory or experiencedidtoshapeyour
lifetimeattitudesandbeliefsaboutyourselfandyourselfesteem.Reviewwhatyou
wrotedownaboutwhatamoreproductivebeliefandresponsewouldhavebeento
thatmemory.Makesureyouwritedownamoreproductivebelief,evenifthecurrent
beliefhasbeenusefulinsomewayinyourlife.
Sogoaheadanddothisprojectandpreparefordayone.Thisisthelongestproject
thatyouwillbegiven,pleasespendthetimeitdeservesonit.Finishingthisprojectis
goingtoillustratetoyouhowyougotyourselfesteem towhereitistodayandthen
theendofthisprojectisthefirstdayinthedevelopmentandenhancementofyour
advancingselfesteem.Excitingeh?

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DayOne

Notes:

Projectfortoday:Designandcreateyourownwheeloflifeandseehowbalanced
yourownlifeisorisnotasofthisveryday.Discoveringwhereyouareatasoftoday
isgoingtohelpyouknowwheretomoveforwardsto.

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DayTwo

YourEnvironment
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YourBehaviour
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YourCapabilities
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YourBeliefsandValues
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YourIdentity
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YourLifepurpose
Notes:

Projectfortoday:Writeatleastaparagraphaboutyourself oneachofthelogical
levels.

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DayThree

Notes:

Projectfortoday:Getrelaxed,breathecomfortably,andtakesometimeouttoreally
imagineseveraloftheoutcomesofyourlifethatwillbeundeniablyconvincingtoyou
thatyouhaveachievedsomesuccessinboostingyourselfesteem.

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DayFour
Notes:

Projectfortoday:Thinkaboutyourdreamsandyourgoalsinrelationtoyourself
esteem.Whatwouldyouliketoachievewhenyouhavemoreselfesteem?Whatother
goalsdoyouhave?Whatisimportantforyoutodoinlife? Foreachgoal,writeout
theanswerstothesequestionsinasmuchdetailasyoucan:

Whatdoyouwant?
Canyoudescribeitmoreprecisely?Ifso,thendoso.
Whatexactlywillyousee,hearandfeelwhenyouachievethis?
Approximatelyhowlongdoyouthinkwillittaketoachieve?
Whendoyouwanttoachievethisgoal?(Now?Nextweek?NextYear?)
Howwillyouknowthatyouhaveachievedyourgoal?(Whatwillproveto
youthatyouhaveachievedit?)
Howwillyoumeasureyourprogressandhowoftenwillyoumeasureyour
progressinworkingtowardsthisgoal?
Whatresourceswillyourequiretoachievethisgoal?
Whatresourcesdoyoualreadypossesstoachievethisgoal?
Wherewillyoufindtheresourcesyouneed?
Howwillyourwheeloflifebalancebeaffectedwhenyouachievethisgoal?

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DayFive
Notes:

Projectfortoday:runthroughtheentiregoalcreation processforyourmost
importantgoaltohavegreaterselfesteem.Aimtousethisprocessforasmanyof
yourgoalsasyoucaninthefuture.

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DaySix

Notes:

Projectfortoday:Takesometimetorelaxandbecomfortablesomewhere.Tuneinto
howyourdayhasbeenandthinkaboutanyaspectsofitthatyoumayhaveconsidered
negativeandmakeastatementaboutit.Then,addandtothatstatementto
neutraliseitasdescribedattheendoftodayslearning.Getintothehabitofdoingthis
everydayandthenasbestasyoucan,doitallthetime.

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DaySeven
Notes:

Projectfortoday:Taketwopiecesofpaper:onone,jotdownasmuchinformation
asyoucanaboutthelasttimeyouwerehappy,andontheother,writedown
information aboutthelasttimeyouwereunhappy.Foreach,considerthefollowing
questions:

Whatwaseachoccasionlike?Explainthesensationsthatyoufeltandwhat
yourexperienceactuallywas.
Howdidyouknowyouwerehappyand/orunhappy?Whatdidyousee,hear,
feel,tasteandsmellwitheachexperience?
Didyouknowstraightaway,orwasitlaterwhenyoulookedbackonit,that
youknewyouwerehappyorunhappy?
Whatmadeyouhappy?Whatwasthecauseofyourunhappiness?
Whatwasoccurringallaroundyouwitheachexperience?
Didyouhaveanyinternaldialogueduringeitherexperience?Whatwereyou
sayingtoyourselfbefore,duringandaftereachoccasion?

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DayEight

Notes:

Projectfortoday:Writedownyouranswerstothesequestions:
Whenyoumakeamistake,howdoyoutendtorespond?
Onaverage,whenyoulookatyourselfinthemirrorwhatdoyoutellyourself
andbelieveyousee?
Howdoyoureactifyourwantsandneedsaredifferentfromthoseofothers
aroundyou?
Ifandwhenyoumakeacommitmenttoyourself,doyousticktoit?
Howdoyouoftenreacttowhatotherpeoplesayaboutyou?
Howeasyisitforyoutomakeeyecontact?
Ifgivenacompliment,doyouacceptitstraightaway,withoutdismissingit,
divertingyourattentionfromitorhavingtogooveritinyourmindto
authenticateit?Expandyouranswerandexplainit.
Canyoumakealistof10thingsthatyoulikeaboutyourselfwithout
hesitation,justdoingitstraightaway?Besuretowritethemalldownof
course.
Whatisyourphysical andpsychologicalresponsewhenyouareaskedtotry
somethingthatyouhavenotdonebefore,somethingnew?Fullyexplainhow
youfeelandexpandonyouranswers.
Whatinternaldialoguedoyouuseandwhatwordsdoyousaytoyourself
insideyourown headwhenyouareabouttodosomethingchallengingor
somethingthatyouconsidertobedifficult?

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DayNine
Notes:

Projectfortoday:Writedownhowyouwouldencouragealovedonetofeelreally
goodaboutthemselves.Thenrepeatthatencouragementinthesamelanguageand
tonetoyourselfusingyourowninternaldialogue.Allowyourselftorelaxanddeliver
thisdialoguetoyourself for1530minutes.

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DayTen
Notes:

Projectfortoday: Todaysprojectisfairly substantialandinvolvesyouheightening

yourawarenessofyoursenseofself.
Wearegoingtotakestockproperly today,thinkandassesswhatyouhavelearntso
far.ThenIwantyoutofollowthesesimplestepstostartusoffonthebrainupdating
process:
Haveagoodthinkaboutasuccessthatyouhaveexperiencedorsomethingthatwent
reallywellormaybeasignificantachievementinyourlifeoraneveryday
achievement(istherereallysuchathing?).Asyouthinkaboutit,thinkaboutwhatit
wasthathasbeensosuccessfulaboutitandalsonoticethatthinkingaboutitmakes
youfeelbetter.Noticewhatyouthought,whatinternaldialogueyouhad,wherein
yourbodythefeelingswere,whatyousawandheardandhowyoubehaved.Witha
full,sensoryrichideaofyoursuccessesyoucanlearnfromthemandreplicatethem.
Runthroughthatentireprocessagainwithanotheroccasion.Repeatitacoupleof
timesforbothtimes.Reallydothis.Investsomeenergyintoyoursuccesshere.
Giveyourselfsomepraise.Goon,goaheadandpraiseyourself.Patyourselfonthe
back!Thisisnourishing,itisnurturingyourrelationshipwithyourself andrewarding
andleadstoyoubuildingyourselfesteem.Havesomelaughsasyoudoit,IknowI
findithardtokeepastraightfacewhenIamdoingthis.
Now,startpilingontheencouragement.Rememberwhenwedidthisbefore?Give
yourselfsomereallygoodencouragement.Encouragingyourselfgivesyoumoreand
moreresourcesforthechallengesanddifficultiesthatmaylieahead.Aswedid
earlier,thinkabouthowyouwouldencouragesomeoneelseandthendeliverthat
encouragementtoyou.

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Nextupiscomfort.NowIamnottalkingaboutthekindofcomfortthatIgetwhenI
sitinmylovelyrecliningchair,althoughitisverynice.Idigress.Comfortyourself
aboutsomethingthatmayhavenotgoneasyouwanted.Healthoseoldwoundsthat
usedtobethere.Takesometimeouttonurtureyourselfandheightenyourown
personalawarenessofself.Acceptingandheighteningyourawarenessofthesethings
ratherthanresistingandfightingpastthingswillallowyoutostarttotakeyourselfto
anewplaceinthefuture.
Remindyourselfofyourpastsuccessesagainrememberthosethingsthatwentwell.
Thiscanbeanythingbytheway.Youarenowcreatingabetterinternalenvironment
foryourselfyouarepaintingtheinternalworkingsofyourmindwithsuccessand
goodthings.Inthepastyoumayhavekeptonsowingseedswithnegativethoughts
andreminders,nowyouchoosetodosomethingdifferent.
Finally,Iwantyoutoonceagainjustremindyourselfofahappymomentoratime
whenyoufeltreallygood aboutyourself.Therearelotsofthem.Ifyouaretrying
yourhardesttoconvinceyourselfthatyoucannotrecallanygoodfeelings,thenemail
me,Iwilltellyouoneofmyfavouriteandirresistiblejokesandyoull thenhavea
momentofhappinesstocherish.Thisprocesshelpstochangeyourstate.Getusedto
doingthis.Wheneveryouimaginesomethingreallyvividly,somethingthatmadeyou
feelreallygood,youcannothelpbutmakechangesinyourneurologyandyour
physiology.Fabulousstuff.

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DayEleven
Notes:

Projectfortoday:Aswedidbefore,askyourselfsomequestions,writetheanswers
downandrunthroughtheexercises:
Whathappenedtoyoutodaythatpleasedyou?
Howdoyouknowthat?Whatwerethedetails,engageyourselfinthosemoments,
rememberthethingsthatyousaw,whatyouheard,whatwordswereused,what
feelingsdidyouhave?Rerunthosemomentsoverandoverinyourmind.
Reflectonthegoodthingsthatweresaidtoyouoraboutyouduringthisday.Rerun
anycomplimentsyouhavereceived,replaythemoverandoveragaininsideyour
mind.
Starttolookforwardtoyourdaytomorrow.Howwouldyoulikeittobe?Createa
filmofitinsideyourmindandimaginesomeofyouroutcomesfortomorrowandthen
runthatfilmoverandoverthiscanbedoneinafairlyshortperiodoftime,itdoes
nothavetotakeanage,makeitenjoyable,funandasbriefasyoulike.

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DayTwelve
Notes:

Projectfortoday:Hereisanexercisetodo.Yourprojecttodayissimplytofollowit
andcompleteit.
Firstly,closeyoureyesandthinkofsomeonewhoreallyandsincerelylovesyouor
someonewhoreallyappreciatesyouinsomeway.Rememberhowtheylookand
imaginethemstandingorsittinginfrontofyou.
Then,imaginesteppingoutofyourbodyandintothebodyofthepersonwholoves
you.Lookthroughtheireyes,hearthroughtheirearsandfeeltheirloveandgood
feelingsastheylookatyou.
Thirdly,noticeinsomefinedetailwhatitisthattheyloveandappreciateaboutyou.
Fullyunderstandthesewonderful andbeautifulqualitiesthatperhapsyouhad
overlookedorhadnotappreciatedinthesamewaybefore.Takesometimetoreally
feelgoodasyoulookatyourselfthroughthoseeyes.
Nextup,noticewhereaboutsinyourbodythatthefeelingisthestrongestandthen
givethatfeelingacolouritcanbethecolourthatyouthinkmostsuitsthefeeling,let
ithappenwithouttoomuchthought.
Now,imaginespreadingthatcolourallthewaythroughyourbodyandmind,
spreadingintoeverycell,fromtop totoe,toetotop,lefttorightandbackagain,fill
yourentirebeingwithit.
Nowdoubleitsintensityandbrightness.Reallyconcentrateondoingthisnow.Then,
openyoureyesanddokeepthatlovely,glowingfeelinginsideofyou.
Ihaveoften keptthatfeelinginsideforhoursonend.Dothisexerciseoverandover
andcontinuetoboostthosefeelingsmoreandmore.Themorethatyoudoit,the
easierandbetteritbecomesandwill soon becomean automaticbeliefaboutyourself.

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Youll feelmorelovedandmoreappreciatedandthiswillboostyourconfidenceand
selfesteem.

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DayThirteen
Notes:

Projectfortoday:Writeaboutyourexistingstates.Thenlookbackthroughyour
entirelifetimeandmapoutageneralideaofthedominantstatesin periodsofyour
life,thenaskyourselfsomereallykeyquestions:
Doesthatstateremindmeofsomething?
WhatagedoIfeellikewhenIaminthisstate?
WhatdoIreallywantwhenIaminthisstate?
WhatisitaboutthisstatethattellsmeIaminit(i.e.Wherearethosefeelingsin
yourbody?)
Howdoothersreacttothatstate?
Whatstatesdoyoufindtobethemostenjoyable?
Whatstatescontributetothemostproblemsinyourlife?
Whatstatesdoyouwantmoreof?
Whatstatesdoyouwanttochange?

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DayFourteen
Notes:

Projectfortoday:Setupyourownanchorforfeelinggoodaboutyourselfand
practiceitatleastfivetimesadayforthenextweek.

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DayFifteen
Notes:

Projectfortoday:Writedownyouranswerstothesequestionsasthoroughlyas
possiblewithasmuchdetailandexplorationasyoucan.
Whatareyoupassionateabout?Whatpushesyourbuttonsorturnsyouon?
Whatisitaboutthisthatgetsyousoinvolved?
Asyouthinkaboutoneofthethingsthatyouarepassionateabout,answerthiswhat
doesitdoforyou? Regardlessofhowunusualtheanswertothismaybe,reallytake
noteofitandaskyourself Whatdoesthatdoforme?Whenyouhaveansweredthat
question,askitagainofyouranswerandwhatdoesthatdoforme?thenwhatever
youanswer,keepaskingthatquestion untilyoucannotaskitanymore.Whatyouare
doingisaskingwhatthepurposeisbehinditandyougetmoreandmoresignificant
answersasyoukeepaskingthequestion.Whenyougettothestagewhereyoucant
askthequestionanyfurther,youhavediscoveredthepurposebehindyourpassion.
Whatdidyouloveasachild?Isitstillimportanttoyou?Again,askyourselfthe
questionsfromthepreviousonetogetyourpurposebehindthatthing.Isthatpurpose
stillvalid?Hasitchanged?Haveyoulosttouchwithitsomehow?

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Daysixteen

Notes:

Projectfortoday:Runthroughthefirstexerciseandspendsometimeactingasif
youweretheconfidentpersonthatyouknowyouwanttobenow.Alsodo thesecond
exerciselookingintoamirror.

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DaySeventeen
Notes:

Projectfortoday:Identifyandexposeanylimitingbeliefsthatrelatetoyourself
esteemorconfidence.Thengoaboutchangingthemintoyourdesiredbeliefsby
runningthroughtheprocessIhaveexplained.

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DayEighteen
Notes:

Projectfortoday:Runyourselfthroughtheprocessandreallyconcentrateon
installingyourownprotectiveshield.

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DayNineteen

Notes:

Projectfortoday:Runthroughthecircleofconfidenceexercisenowandseeifyou
canincorporateitintoyourdailyroutine.

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DayTwenty
Notes:

Projectfortoday:Writealistofcomplaintsthatyouusedtohaveaboutyourselfand
reframethemasprogressively andbeneficiallyasyoupossiblycan.Runthereframes
overandoverinyourminduntilyougetthemfirmlyembeddedinyourmindand
theyhavebecomeyourtrueperceptionofyourself.

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DayTwentyOne

Projectfortoday:Writea6monthdaybydayplanastowhatstrategiesyouare
goingtoemploytoensurethatyoubuildanddevelop yourselfesteem asiftodayisa
newbeginning,becauseitis.

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AdamEason
AdamEasonisaprodigioustalentintheworldofhypnosisandpersonal
development.Oneofthemostqualifiedinhisfield,highlyacademicallyrecognised
asaninternationalbestsellingauthor,motivationalspeaker,therapist,consultantand
trainerinthefieldsofhypnosis,communication,personal developmentandhuman
potential.Adamhasworkedwiththousandsofindividuals,hasfeaturedin
international,nationalandlocalmediaandappearedontelevisiononnumerous
occasionsincludingstarringintheprimetimeBBC1TVprogrammeRunforGlory
usinghistechniquestohelpparticipantsovercomepsychologicalbarriersto
achievement.Hebringsarefreshinglyreadywitandcontagiousenthusiasmthat
permeatesallofhisworkandspreadstoallwhoexperienceit.
Eagertodemonstratethearrayofbenefitsofthevaryingtechniquesheemploys,
Adamhasapassionforleadingbyexampleandpersonalexperience.Hiscompetitive
natureisamplydemonstratedbysuccessfullycompetinginmarathon,halfmarathon
andvariousotherrunningeventsaswellaswiththesuccessfulbusinessesheruns.
Adamhasworkedwithmanyoftheworldsmostfamoustrainersinthefieldofhuman
potential,andcontinuestobeastudentinthesefascinatingfields.Continually
researching,studyingandworkingtowarddiscoveringandunderstandinghuman
happiness,achievementandexcellence.Adamencouragesinnovationbyseekingout
andemployingcuttingedgetechnologiesfromacrosstheworld.
Thosewhohaveseenhimspeak,investedinhisprogrammes,consultedwithhimand
attendedhisseminarscontinuetobemoveddeeplytheylearnprofoundlyandlaugh
loudly.
www.adameason.com

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