My Way Of Thinking: Feb 22nd, 2009 by Matthew Pine NOTE: All of my ideas are stupid, crazy, and are

mainly so because I am not old enough to see some invisible light, to see how they are all flawed somehow, and that they are far too extreme. With that in mind, it couldn't hurt to think about them for a few minutes since you already know that they are wrong...just for humor to see if there's any sense to it all somewhere.

#1 - Marriage is Useless (I advise to never get married, i will never get married...ESPECIALLY if i ever succeed in finding true love.) Question: Concerning Love, what does Marriage do that simply being a boyfriend and girlfriend does not? Thoughts: Boyfriend and girlfriend should be no different than a married couple. I would think that the goal of being in a relationship is to find and be in true love...and if that is the case, wouldn't people who are simply boyfriend and girlfriend never cheat on each other anyway? Wouldn't they have a committment already to hopefully be with each other forever? If the answer is no to either of those...or if there is some other reason to be a boyfriend and girlfriend...maybe people should reflect on if that relationship is really making those people happy. Marriage is a term...a piece of paper... a contract, in a sense. The sad thing is these people need a contract to make sure they do the right thing with each other. ...getting married is done just to be accepted by the public...who have seemingly been brainwashed into spiting anyone who doesn't get married. Especially if a couple has children and doesn't get married. Apparently people have some logic that if you have kids, you simply must get married, or it won't be some official set-in-stone family. "what about the children???? think of them!!! get married for them!!! your happiness no longer matters, make sure they get accepted and are safe and guranteed something, because i am too scared to deal with the difficulty of teaching them why it is good to disagree and question what anyone else thinks if you have reasons." - Uhh...are you serious? If you need the concept of marriage to set anything in stone...to make anything a real commitment...to be accepted...then maybe that relationship won't be going very far when it comes to making each person happy the rest of their lives. It seems people give up too easily on their journey through life to find true love...and eventually rationalize that it's ok to "settle" for some "satisfactory" standard of happiness...rather than ultimate, pure, best-of-the-best, extreme, deep happiness. Thus they get married. It provides them with some imaginary guarantee and safety of something official that "ok now this won't be broken...as boyfriend and girlfriend I mean she could've left at any time if she wanted...but now she's gotta commit to me muahahahah." That obviously was a wording that no one wants to hear. Even if someone agreed with it, they would argue with that because it's hard to admit weakness and the purest of truth. a lot of people simply say "well everyone gets married, it's just how it is." that's a terrible thing to hear. because if it wasn't marriage, maybe killing your 2nd child would be the same logic of "well it's just how it is, that 2nd child can bring the plague they say." you think that killing is different than being brainwashed into marriage...well i guess it's easier to try and be inconsistent and say it's ok to

brainwash one thing and not brainwash another. sounds good anyways. Question: Why is it that whenever I question marriage, or claim that it doesn't really do anything...do some people get extremely offended or defensive? - It seems that if it's the other way around, and someone asks why I believe it doesn't mean anything...or challenges one of my own beliefs...I can easily remain calm and just tell them my point of view. I think that when someone's way of life is challenged...it's a scary thing. It's a scary thing to think "I might have thought wrong about this the whole time...." so they choose to argue it even if they hear reasons that could actually make sense to them. They choose to argue it because they fear that if they were wrong about that...their whole world could be based on a lie or something that's wrong. It's a lot easier and more comforting to just not think. - But I always, as a rule, make sure there is ALWAYS a chance that all my beliefs are wrong. Everything I stand for, no matter what, can be wrong. I simply will assume I am right until someone questions it. Then I must really listen to their reasons, and give them a real chance to convince me otherwise. It may be a very very small chance...but I can't blindly defend what I think...or I am no better than the rest of the cult that sadly the majority of people have fallen into.

-----------------#2 - The ultimate purpose to life is to find true love and ultimate happiness. - Should be pretty self-explanatory, and I am pretty sure that it's the point to life...since all decisions a human being makes seem to be in an attempt to be happy in the long run. ------------------#3 - Not everything needs logic - Love in particular, is the most important concept in the world, since even the cult majority can't deny that the real thing may not have any logical reasons. While I doubt anyone has ever accomplished the ultimate thing (I think many times, one person is under the illusion it is at a point, but then eventually realizes it is not.), it seems that it is the most powerful evidence that certain feelings cannot be logically explained, but the human body brings them out in order to attempt to reach a higher...extremely difficult to comprehend..level of happiness. I will say, that FEELINGS, and not "thoughts", are what do not need logic. It is the best way I can explain how I believe just following things because they are tradition, or "just how it is," is a mindless cult way of thinking...but following a sense or feeling that can't be described...such as love, can lead to great things. ---------------------#4 - No exceptions to a rule (it's gotta be consistent) - Without an exception, there would be no rule. But you have to have faith a human being can automatically understand that exception if they get there. If they cannot, then perhaps the rule is flawed. If you try to list any single exception...like "ok well you can't kill people in the bible but you CAN kill them if it's the crusades, cause that's for God and different...." something is probably flawed about the rule. if that rule is truly existing for a good cause and is ultimately the right thing to do...then something like that would be automatic and requires no listed exception. since it requires

an exception, the rule is meaningless, subjective, and inconsistent...and is probably (at least the way it is interpreted) a rule that might as well not exist. -------------------------#5 - The power of positive framing... (there's two ways to say the same thing...why not say it the positive way?) - Zack lost his wallet. His mom goes "you always lose everything, god you're so irresponsible. you can't do anything right. this always happens. might as well order extra ----". zack did not find his wallet. in fact, he stopped looking altogether and simply got angry and could not focus on anything. meanwhile his mom stood there negatively framing the situation and doing nothing to help. - i told zack not to worry. that it's not a big deal, he can find it if he takes the time to relax and think. that i doubt he just lost his wallet altogether, and it must be somewhere. i told him that he could do anything if he is relaxed and wants it...that he has that potential easily. i also said that i was sure he would find the wallet and it would randomly come up in his mind without him having to worry. i positvely framed the situation. shortly after, zack remembered his wallet got locked up with his gloves at work, because a fellow worker didn't realize that he had put his wallet in the gloves for safe-keeping. everything was fixed, zack was happy, and it was much more pleasant. am i missing something? it seems pretty insane to ever NOT positively frame anything...so it's pretty funny how so many "normal" people do insane things... -----------------------#6 - Power of music & training - techno remix, hellsing, other music as a huge boost to exercise and the "evil grin"

---------------------#7 - Pro's sense their own kind fraternity days - neema highschool days - tim campbell 4th grade days - patrick before the street fight - that irish kid when i was young -------------------#8 - how to teach

--------------------#9 - Zack's Grandfather - Sam Senate - master of speaking in extremes opposite to how he thinks; almost guarantees you fighting against what he says...a form of manipulation in the direction he wants. it is ultimate mastery of

confidence and genius. -----------------#10 ----convo with dan---

Geisteskrank9: all will be revealed in time EMMyPDOGG: lol EMMyPDOGG: fuck you Geisteskrank9: i'm going to go to sleep EMMyPDOGG: fuckin mysterious asshole Geisteskrank9: rofl EMMyPDOGG: alright man EMMyPDOGG: later <3 Geisteskrank9: it was just stupid Geisteskrank9: lol Geisteskrank9: later Geisteskrank9: fuckin heart Geisteskrank9: fuck your heart EMMyPDOGG: :-\ Geisteskrank9: btw Geisteskrank9: you always used to do that Geisteskrank9: but now Geisteskrank9: i feel like its meaning has changed ------------------------#11 - why do i cry (the girl that holds me from behind) at the end of the samurai X OVA's (OVA 4, 5-6 were never invented in my mind) Tomoe grabs kenshin from behind in spirit, during the rain. this is after she is dead, during the kind of montage where kenshin wears the scarf in her memory. in times of misery and trouble, i always refer to that image, wishing that there was a girl holding me from behind to keep me warm. the idea that she holds me from behind and that i don't see her face is very meaningful to me, and is something i deeply wish for. -----------------------#12 - feigning weakness ----------------------#13 - the evil grin