Alhamdullilah!

I am safegaurded by Surah An-Nisa

Yes, the same surah in which Allah says in verse 34:

Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand. Strange! I am proud of this verse and feel protected because of it. Yet there are people who see it in a totally different way. They just pick only one word out of 44 words of this verse that is and start the propagation in the wrong way. My first question to them what truth you can bring/show by hiding 43 words of a sentence and showing only one? The purity of intention can be judged by this single argument. Lets look into the whole verse first and then decide if it is protecting women or giving an invitation of hitting her. Allah says:

Men are in charge of women

I am relieved, I am not the boss, and I will not be the main responsible if things go wrong there.

They (men) spend from their wealth.

Another relief, I am not responsible to provide for the family, if food is not on the table, I am not the one to blame. I do not have to earn for my living, someone else is going to take that pain. Such huge burdens have taken away from me and clear guidance has been given to me:

Be obedient, And guard in [husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard
Instead of going into an office and obeying unknown, unconcern men Allah has given me one man (my own husband that I choose myself) to obey and be saved from this madness of satisfying hundreds. Its quite simple, I have to obey and he has to provide me according to his best abilities. The family will work smoothly and stably if we both work accordingly. And family is the key unit to build the next generation and thus the whole society. If any of us (wife or husband) disturbs the family, by not performing his/her duties, he/she is actually weakens the grounds of next generation and eventually the whole society. In Islam, it is always men who have been given the boundaries first. Same we see in this verse, Allah has given men their boundaries, if they find their better-half shaking the unit (family). As they are physically strong, according to human urge the first step would be hitting and abuse (as is evident in every society). Only in Sweden,

In 2007, the US State Department recorded 6,192 cases of child abuse in Sweden by November of that year. It also reported homophobic crime was on the rise, and tens of thousands of rapes and domestic violence incidents in a population of just nine million. A report from the group Global Monitoring in 2006 on the commercial sexual exploitation of children found systemic faults in Sweden, including allowing child pornography to be viewed, although not downloaded, and failing to care properly for children caught up in sex trafficking.

When you break families by putting no liabilities on the parents you give an open passage for child abuse. Children your future, suffer most. Check yourself and you will find worst. And all in these crime statistics the percentage of Muslim involvement is negligible. But the media does not show that!!! To protect us from all this and worst Allah has secured the key unit with strong boundaries. Even in case of disagreement Allah has stopped man, placed a brake on his emotional act and turned it into a wise plan of action. Even having power over woman, he is not allowed to start by hitting. He should first warn and advise her with love. If that doesnt work, then he should withhold conjugal relations and not speak to her, until she comes to the boundaries given to her by Allah. If that doesnt work, then he is allowed to hit her, but not in a painful fashion. Islam does not allow him to hit her in a way that leaves a mark, neither is he allowed to hit her on the face. The hitting that is allowed is within certain limits and is for the purpose of discipline, not for revenge or to vent ones anger. If his wife responds and returns to obedience, he has no right to seek means of annoyance against her. The last step allowed to hit is used as tool to keep discipline and stabilize the key unit of the society. If you look with a clear mind (although it is very difficult with the media propaganda against Islam), you will find the same rule, allowed to hit is applied in every society. Every society gives controlling tools to their protectors and responsible (generally policemen) to maintain discipline. They are allowed to hit to keep order, even kill. But at that point, it does not seem to us oppression!!! I can claim this without any doubt that Islam is the only religion that provokes women to throw away any effect of oppression on them and take their rights with dignity and Allah will support them. The same Surah further says:

And if a woman fears from her husband contempt or evasion, there is no sin upon them if they make terms of settlement between them - and settlement is best. And present in [human] souls is stinginess. But if you do good and fear Allah - then indeed Allah is ever, with what you do, Acquainted.

But if they separate [by divorce], Allah will enrich each [of them] from His abundance. And ever is Allah Encompassing and Wise. Just if you have fear of oppression (oppression has not actually happened), go ahead offer a settlement that suits you, if he does not agree and continues, leave him Allah will enrich you. And be confident Allah never does against His promise. Islam not just provides women the true equality but treat her best.

And give the women [upon marriage] their [bridal] gifts graciously. As a matter of fact, Islam does not allow men to misbehave even if they do not like their wife. In this very surah Allah further says:


O you who have believed, it is not lawful for you to take control over women by compulsion. And do not make difficulties for them in order to take [back] part of what you gave them unless they commit a clear immorality. And live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them - perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good. Without any research, just by media talk we start put words on Islam, the aim of this pamphlet is to make you realize that you have brain, eyes and ears, use them correctly and do little unbiased research before put words on any serious matter. Islam neither allows oppression for their women nor for any other, again in this very same surah Allah provokes Muslims to fight even if others are oppressed.

And what is [the matter] with you that you fight not in the cause of Allah and [for] the oppressed among men, women, and children who say, "Our Lord, take us out of this city of oppressive people and appoint for us from Yourself a protector and appoint for us from Yourself a helper?" I know in this media oriented world it is very hard to take off the biased glasses and see the clear picture and thats why Allah says near the end of the surah:

Allah - there is no deity except Him. He will surely assemble you for [account on] the Day of Resurrection, about which there is no doubt. And who is more truthful than Allah in statement.

Here you are - those who argue on their behalf in [this] worldly life - but who will argue with Allah for them on the Day of Resurrection, or who will [then] be their representative?

And whoever does righteous deeds, whether male or female, while being a believer - those will enter Paradise and will not be wronged, [even as much as] the speck on a date seed. This is the true equality. May Allah guide us all to the right path (Ameen)

A Reflection of Proud Muslim Women