Confusing cases

1.0 Introduction Ability to overcome all problems is greatly influenced by own self-confidence. Selfconfidence is the belief and perception of self that itself can handle all the challenges or to control their lives successfully. But in daily life, there is always the problem and confusing. The problem will educate and teach individual the character development. Problems that exist are a challenge to him and not the burden that can not be described. 1.1 Client Background Client name is mohd azlan. He age is 22 years old and studying at university tun abdul razak. He lives in kelantan at tanah merah. He had three siblings. The first is a girl and the middle her brother and he is the last. He lived with his family while her sister living separately from family because she married. His fathers worked as a contractor while his mother as a fulltime housewife. Her mother manages the entire housewife worked. However, her father was busy with his work and so that he no time to be with his children. 1.2 Personal profile Client was a good student he always get pointer at university 3.00 and above. However, since the end of this semester break, his mother said that she'll be betrothed to her cousin. He was distressed caused his mother insisted her without discussing it first. He had to follow the decision of his mother and that he was not able to focus on his studies. He wants out of the crisis on her self. 2.0 The main theme of client problems Results from the sessions had conducted. Lan is actually face a conflict in decisions that need to be resolved quickly because the time factor and the pressures from the family and his girlfriend. Beginning from semester break her mother had told him that he should engage her cousin. Her mother wanted her son to marry someone rich only. He had no choice whether to follow her mother's decision or their own choice. 2.1 Characteristics of client problems Lan became depressed when his mother urged her to engage with her cousin learn from London. He really did not want to become engaged to his cousin because he already has a girlfriend. He did not want to offend his mother because he already has his own choice. He also became depressed when her father would not give any reaction to what happened to him. Because of that he could not focus on study.

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3.1 Establishing relationship stages The client in depressed state, no congruent, not friendly and afraid, counselor explained that the current client situation. Counselor explained the client situation; client need help and need someone to share something that is borne by the client. Counselor explained that the confidentiality concern for the client. Protected and guaranteed a personal matter manners and ethics. Specific limits of confidentiality issues clarified especially on the issue of safety procedures and related with that procedure. Other that, the question of "informed consent 'emphasized and client will be explained the principle. Counselor asks a few question about client self for establish relationships and client feel want to explain the issue. 3.0 The restructuring stages Client will be explained about the problem and the client share a special bond as the counselor works towards helping the client to become better in terms of his emotional and social well- being. It is designed to help client to understand and clarify their views of their life/space, and to learn to reach their self determined goals through resolutions of problems of an emotional or interpersonal nature. 3.1 Exploration stages Client began telling the story of family life. Such as, his father was busy with work and her mother also busy woman with the family. He was depressed because his mother made the decision for engaged; her mother wanted the children to marry someone rich. He already has his own choice and because of that, he was in a dilemma whether to follow the requirements of his mother or his own choice. He did not want to reject the directive mother because he doesnt want to be a rude son. He respects her mother. 3.2 The identify problem stages Problems faced by the client, the client was afraid to bring his girlfriend to meet her family because of his mother will did not agree with his choices. 3.3 The solution alternative stages Result of the reflection of feeling, reflecting of experience, and reflection of the content, client look more cheerful and client no longer afraid and confidence in the discretion.

the relationship counselor with the client is Cohesiveness. Counselor brings a client looking for an alternative way. Such as:1. Bring the girlfriends at home to meet her mother 2. Focus on study even though it already has a girlfriend 3. He'll show that his mother could be successful even in love while studying

3.4 Termination stages Counsellor appreciation the client with the praised for daring to make a decision and willing to take risk on decisions he made it. Counselor gives strengthening that the ability to overcome the problem is affected by selfconfidence someone. 4.0 Problem analysis Carl Rogers (1902-1987) his professional experience taught him that if one is able to get to the core of an individual, one finds a trustworthy, positive center. Rogers firmly maintains that people are trustworthy, resourceful, capable of self understanding and selfdirection, able to make constructive changes, and able to live effective and productive live. When therapists are able to experience and communicate their realness, caring, and nonjudgmental understanding, significant changes in the client are most likely to occur. He maintains that three therapist attributes create a growth-promoting climate in which individuals can move forward and become what they are capable of becoming: (1) congruence (genuineness, or realness), (2) unconditional positive regard (acceptance and caring) and (3) accurate empathic understanding (an ability to deeply grasp the subjective world of another person). According to Carl Rogers, if therapists communicate these attitudes, those being helped will become less defensive and more open to themselves and their world, and they will behave in prosocial and constructive ways. The basic drive to fulfillment implies that people will move toward health if the way seems open for them to do so. Thus, the goals of counseling are to set clients free and to create those conditions that will enable them to engage in meaningful self-exploration. When people are free, they will be able to find their own way. 4.1 Domain analysis

he loves.

Real self
Ideal self

Lan felt that he would marry the girlfriend

Self image

He must marry the woman he loves. He could not marry his girlfriend because his mother.

5.0 Conclusion In daily life, the main problem is to build relationships. Build self-confidence is not a simple matter; success comes to those who can handle life with confidence. People in trouble do not need false reassurances thateverything will be all right. Yet the presence of and psychological contact with a caring person can do much to bring about healing, communicating a deep sense of understanding should always precede other more problem-solving interventions. People without advanced psychological education are able to benefit by translating the therapeutic condition of genuineness, empathic understanding lives. The basic concepts are straightforward and easy to comprehend, and they encourage locating power in the person rather than fostering an authoritarian structure in which control and power are denied to the person. If counselors are lacking in these relationship and communication skills, they will not be effective in carrying out a treatment program for their clients.

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