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Understanding how to listen effectively is an essential skill that benefits everything from family life to business.
Hearing: Sounds waves strike the ear drum and cause vibrations that are transmitted to the brain. Automatic and effortless Listening: The brain gives the sounds meaning. Unnatural, requires effort
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Pseudo listening: imitation, or fake listening. Pretending to listen. Selective listening: responding only to the parts of a speakers remarks that interest the receiver and rejecting everything else. Defensive listening: taking innocent comments as personal attacks.
Effort: listening is hard; it is not natural Message overload Rapid thought Psychological noise Physical noise Hearing problems Faulty assumptions
Listening: Occurs when the brain gives the sound transmitted meaning.
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Attending: paying attention to a signal Understanding: making sense of a message Responding: giving observable feedback to the speaker Remembering
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Content-Oriented: interested in the quality of the message. This style is useful when looking at a wide range of perspectives and options. People-oriented: concerned with creating and maintaining positive relationships
Action-Oriented: concerned with the task at hand. Useful when business needs to be attended to. Time-oriented: most concerned with efficiency.
Situational Listening
Informational listening:
Used when one wants to understand another. The goal is to receive the same thoughts the other person is trying to convey.
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Listen first Don t kill the messenger : separate the message from the speaker Look for big ideas and main points Paraphrase: restate what the speaker is saying in one s own words Take notes
Critical Listening
Judging the quality of a message and deciding to accept or reject it. 1. Listen for information first 2. Evaluate the speakers credibility - check the source 3. Examine evidence and reasoning 4. Remove emotion
Empathetic Listening
Ignoring Pretend listening Selective listening Attentive listening Empathic listening: the first step in beginning to understand someone
Empathetic Listening
The goal is to build a relationship or help solve a problem. This style of listening has the most respect for the other s point of view.
Empathetic Listening
Ways to practice empathetic listening: 1. Advising: offering suggestions 2. Judging: look for constructive judgments 3. Analyzing: offers and interpretations of the speakers message