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Assertiveness Skills
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Training Module
Course Level: Basic through advanced Duration: 1 day Training Presented in: English Trainers: Supriya, Sucheta & Deepali Number of Trainees: 8 Venue: Vidyalankar Institute of Technology Time: 1 p.m
Icebreaker : Congratulations
Course Objectives
Understand the philosophy of being assertive.
Sounds Familiar?
If any of these things sound like you, it means you are probably exhibiting non-assertive behavior.
Realize that you are not alone. Nonassertive behavior is very common in people.
honest, direct, and appropriate expression of one's feelings, thoughts, and beliefs response that seeks to maintain an appropriate balance between passivity and aggression. for yourself and others influencing, listening, and negotiating with
Respect
Effectively
others.
Quiz
Chocolate Game
AGGRESSIVE
Meaning opinions, feelings, and wants are honestly stated, but at the expense of others
PASSIVE
opinions, feelings, and wants are withheld altogether or expressed indirectly minimizes responsibility for making decisions
ASSERTIVE
opinions, feelings, and wants are clearly stated without violating the rights of others active participation in making decisions, getting what you want without alienating others etc
Advantages
Disadvantage s
by being assertive.
You are not important
ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATION
Situation # 1 Your friend, who habitually arrives late for your plans, has shown up twenty minutes late for a lunch date. Youre so rude! Youre always late. "We were supposed to meet at 11:30, but now its 11:50."
Verbal Communication
Avoid fillers like uh and um and diminutives like little, only and just. Dont use Im sorry if youre not sincere or if the situation doesnt call for it. Always keep in mind your tone and volume, and how think about how they may be perceived by others.
Non-Verbal Communication
Be aware of gestures and body language. Always maintain good posture. Make sure to allow for comfortable personal space between you and the person youre communicating with.
Written Communication
Be concise and clear.
Use specific and simple language.
Use the active voice when writing, and remember to be inclusive and aware of your audience.
Assertive Listening
Let the other person know that you want to understand his/her point of view. Understand accurately what the other is
saying.
Let the other know that s/he has been
understood.
*This doesnt mean that you have to agree!
Examples:
Id like to hear your views on
Nonverbal Assertiveness
Eye contact.
Posture
Facial expression
Gestures
Personal Appearance
Tone of Voice
1. Breathe, relax, and remain calm. 2. Realize demonstrations of anger, shouting, and threats are never appropriate. 3. Use neutral, non-judgmental statements.
Contd..
4. Consider the other partys viewpoint and emotions. 5. Dont make accusatory statements-- blame is usually a
dead-end road.
6. Check yourself before you say
2. Say no immediately
3. 4. Give a reason for your refusal Offer to find an alternative
Assertiveness Tips
Actually use the word "no" when declining. Pay attention to what others are saying and let them know that you are listening. Anger may seem like a quick fix, but it will get you nowhere fast. Yelling until you are blue in the face will only come back to haunt you later. Be aware of your gestures and how you hold and present yourself.
Always ask questions when clarification is needed to avoid misunderstanding. Look for ways to solve the problem so all parties are satisfied. Make sure your body reflects confidence Try to think win-win Dont assume you know what the other persons motives are Avoid feeling guilty
THANK YOU