Friending Stress

Introduction to Research
ID 6020
18th April, 2013

How heavy is this?

Demystifying this Fellow!

Stress

Demystifying this Fellow!

Definitions of stress ..
The adverse reaction people have to excessive pressure or other types of demands placed on them. (Health and Safety Executive) Stress is not necessarily something bad it all depends on how you take it. The stress of exhilarating, creative successful work is beneficial, while that of failure, humiliation or infection is detrimental. (Selye, 1956) Stress is a condition or feeling experienced when a person perceives that demands exceed the personal and social resources the individual is able to mobilize. (Lazarus, )

Just to stress you

So what is???

The greatest obstacle between you and happiness is stress. Comes from the way we relate/react to events or situations.

Need to befriend this Fellow!

Fatigue / Burnout Alcochol/ Smoking Computer Games / Internet Obesity / Weight Loss Lack of Appetite / Binging

Sleeplessness Suicidal Tendencies Memory Loss Reduced Productivity Indigestion / Diarrhea

Anger/Frustration/ Depression / Boredom

Personality Disorders (diffidence, anxiety, worry, loneliness, moodiness, indecisiveness)

BP , Ulcer, Migraine

Here I come.. Does my perception affect me?

The Window

A young couple moves into a new neighborhood.

The next morning, while they are eating breakfast, the young woman sees her neighbor hang the wash outside.

That laundry is not very clean. She doesnt know how to wash correctly. Perhaps she needs better laundry soap, she said
Her husband looked on, but remained silent. .

Every time her neighbor would hang her wash to dry, the young woman would make the same comments.

About one month later, the woman was surprised to see a nice clean wash on the line and said to her husband: Look! She has learned how to wash correctly. I wonder who taught her this.

The husband said:

I got up early this morning and cleaned our windows!

And so it is with life: What we see when watching others, depends on the purity of the window through which we look. Before we give any criticism, it might be a good idea to check our state of mind and ask ourselves if we are ready to see the good rather than to be looking for something in the person we are about to judge.
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 we dont see things as they

are, we see things as we are.

The true man sees what the eye sees, and does not add to it something that is not there. He hears what the ears hear, and does not detect undertones or overtones. He is not busy with hidden meanings

Here I come.. The stimuli

Ticket waiting list, traffic jam, queues, ATM, tatkal Exam results, Job Family: Household chores, Illness to near/dear ones

Academics: Time pressure, deadlines, show results

syndrome

Understanding the Root Cause

Readiness to change? Realistic vs. Unrealistic change

What are your beliefs? Helpful or limiting?

What reality do you create? Shoulds, Musts..

Stress AuditRoutine or Specific?

Arrival Patterns in IIT Life.

Selection of Guide Comprehensive Viva First DC / GTC Identifying Research Problem Data Collection Thesis Writing (IIT Format) Delays in Thesis Correction Hostel and Food Data Analysis, Results Expectations of Guide Grades in Course Work Family and Financial Issues Post-IIT Stress Job!! (No job, Joining date) Scholarship stopped Synopsis Journal / Conference Papers and deadlines

Zeroth DC / GTC

Welcoming Stress with RED CARPET..

Adhyatmika Adhibauthika Adhideivika

Procrastination

Staying away from work until last minute

Multi-tasking

Swallowing more than you can chew

Improper Communication No Personal Hygiene

Not openly communicating with people who are stressors

Lack of order and planning in life

Neglecting Health

No proper diet and exercise regime

Stress and My IIT Friends

Took to alcohol/smok ing 8 years PhD Running around for data collection No Journal / Conf Paper

Fear to communicat e or discuss

Workload given by Guide

Family Issues (Separation, Marriage)

Differences in Expectation setting

Striking a chord with this fellow

Knowledge is Power

Well Organized is Well Done!

Relationships are KEY

Increase Inner Strength

Benchmark

Use Humor

TIPS n TRICKS!
Be Realistic

know your limits and thresholds of pain and knowledge I Know that I Know Nothing The Buddha

Use TO-DO Lists, POST-IT Notes, Outlook Calendar

Lean to SAY NO!

See STRESS as a Challenge / Opportunity

Take ONE STEP at a time

Discuss with Friends

Forgive and Forget

Have a Personal Health Plan Diet, Nutrition, Exercise, Yoga, Meditation, Sleep

Feed Your Mind Hobbies, Interests, Sports, Relaxation, Start something New

Pearls of Wisdom
Meditation

Detached witness
When we are angry, step back from the wave of anger and try to see and feel, anger is happening in me, but I am not in it; I am untouched by it. I watch it raise, fall and pass away like waves at the surface of my being.

Visualize and invoke peace

Surrender

To find perfect composure in the midst of change is to experience nirvana, bliss.

Equanimity
I treat both success and failure as one and the same

Your Sun Diagram

Feeling engaged

To relieve tension, minutes of real calm, inner and outer, are more effective than all the remedies of the world.

Way forward.

SHAKE hands with STRESS