Objectives

Enlighten parents on the need to fill the emotional tank Equip parents to communicate love effectively and appropriately

Introduction
Parenting: a tough and serious task No formal/organized training Parents tense about the future of children Sincere attempts to discipline children backfire

Parenting Tasks
Equip them to realize the purpose of life Lead them to gratification Dont use them as proxies Make them confident, competent and independent

Parenting Styles
Authoritarian Permissive Authoritative

Major Factors
Unconditional Love the panacea or the magic word Role model Early childhood experience

The Role of Love

Fills the emotional tank Openness and communication Self esteem and self confidence Intellectual stimulation Learning ability

The Role of Love

Discipline Builds sense of security Emotional attachment Emotional maturity

Love and Emotional Maturity

Ability to handle situations Decision-making Positive and mature relationship Avoid passive-aggressive behavior Avoid negative thinking and suicidal tendencies

Communicating Love
Quality time Physical touch Undivided attention Gifts Words of affirmation Acts of service

Quality Time
Doing something together Dining table discussion and casual conversation Story time Family prayer Shopping

Physical Touch
Hugging and kissing Holding hands Sitting on the lap Appropriate for the age

Love and Performance in School

Satisfied with achievement in proportion to ability No comparison No compulsion for 1st rank Guide according to aptitude and interest Successful motivation only when emotional tank is full

Love and Discipline

The more loved, easier to discipline Avoiding undesirable behavior not out of fear, but out of the feeling that it would hurt parents Consistency in disciplining Both the parents together Trust and confidentiality Disciplining with love versus disciplining selfishly

Punishment and Discipline

Not out of emotion No corporal punishment Be clear about the purpose and make it clear to the child also Distinguish between childish behavior and willful defiance Reassure love

Role Model
Values can never be taught - they are imbibed Early childhood experiences Keen observation by kids

DONTS
No Comparison No Branding No Projection No Unrealistic Expectations