MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIP

By Vinnarasi B Greta Dsouza Gaana

Imagine trying to build wealth without others. Imagine trying to be happy without others. Imagine trying to learn without others.

If your wealth, education, love, and even happiness is contingent on others, imagine what would happen if you upgraded the way you built and engaged your relationships? Your life would change right in front of your eyes.

The way in which two or more people or things are connected with or involve each other.

People we can trust to tell us the truth, even when it is difficult to hear it. Healthy, caring relationships with family, friends, colleagues and significant others can give our lives immeasurable joy and meaning.

honesty strong two-way communication reciprocity ( give and take) empathy commitment ability to laugh at selves and the world respectful confrontation of trouble spots patience thoughtfulness mutual respect willingness to compromise

Involves managing differences Recognizing problems Arriving at pragmatic solutions Building better relationships

Emotional needs
Social satisfactions Basic needs like shelter and food

Friendship Parent-child; family Boss-worker Sibling Acquaintance

Home Social Circle Personal-professional

Dreams video Discuss the video in the light of building a meaningful parent-child relationship

Parents-the first set of people a child learns to trust. relationship between parent and child is one of the most important among many relationships in life.

The parent-child relationship consists of a combination of behaviors, feelings, and expectations that are unique to a particular parent and a particular child. The relationship involves the full extent of a child's development.

Flexible/Adaptable Connected Appropriate boundaries Open Communication Discipline

Family structure Social and community support Relationship History Emotional support system Temperament Parenting Experiences Intellectual Capacity Education Cultural context and experiences

Teacher-Student Relationship at Univ.

Who plays a guiding role in the teaching-learning process -teachers or students?

This is always a two-way learning process.

Teaching video Discuss the significant aspects of the relationship in groups What was taught? The subject or something more?

Not only impart knowledge to students, but also become leaders. Creating socially responsible individuals who can make significant contributions to our society. Good mentors and friends

Build trust Provide positive impact on your relationship with teachers and friends Reinforce actions privately. Develop a caring attitude Create a culture of willingness to help others

Step I
The Greeting
Warm Confident NOT Irritable Grumpy

Establishing the Relationship

Be open to criticism
Be humble, not arrogant

 Getting down to Task

Be organized Be flexible

Pay attention to the teacher

Keep yourself active

Be more positive than negative

Accept the remarks made by the teacher Avoid argument with the teacher

 Reflect and Plan

Briefly reflect on the personal and academic

interactions
Prepare for future lessons with these thoughts

in mind

Friendship

Fun Ways To Share Feelings Learn New Skills Find Understanding and Support Ways To Feel Needed And Useful You Can Be Yourself

 Shared

Interests Shared Values Trust Honesty Respect Cooperation

Reliability Support Understanding Sensitivity Forgiveness Tolerance

Go where people are- who have the same interests you do. Be a friend to yourself- dont put yourself down. Be cheerful. Be yourself- no one is perfect. Dont expect perfection in your friends. Friendship is give and take

Disagreements dont have to mean the end of a relationship. Give your friend space. Dont just talk about yourself; ask questions about them.

Effective communication Rapport with team members Coordinating activities and developing a spirit of oneness that can contribute to the growth of the Institution Example: Gratitude Day at Christ University.

Develop Your Self-Esteem Learn to Communicate Well Choose Carefully Places to Go and Activities to Do Have a Positive Attitude Towards Others Learn to cope with common Interpersonal Pitfalls

Having unrealistic expectations of yourself, the other person or the relationship in general Being negative about ones self, the relationship or life Idea of a "perfect" person Trying to change the other person to suit your needs

Being too self- centered, judgmental, or always "right" Stockpiling strong feelings - anger, pain, sadness, neediness - and then pouring them all out at once Expecting the other person to be a mind reader, a fixer or always a rock of stability for you Crowding and smothering the other person, expecting him/her to meet all your needs and spend all his/her time with you

Ask yourself: What thoughts and behaviors will attract the kind of relationships I desire? What is one action I could take today that would empower my current relationships?

Write down all the qualities or behaviors that you desire from your relationships. Select the power skills that will attract those qualities. Evaluate them as objectively as possible. Keep a journal of the actions you take and the progress you make. By turning these skills into lifelong habits, you will build relationships that are healthy, strong and mutually rewarding

How does your relationship affect your life? In the College At work Your health Your emotional health Family and friends Ability to function independently

Be yourself! Knowing who you are and what you believe in, is important but being able to express that person is knowledge in action and will be rewarded in reciprocal,

Meaningful Relationships.