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What is LOVE?
This is an abstract concept.
Is this a feeling? Is this an action?
Others would say love is not a feeling
but an action.
NATURE OF LOVE
How do we know when we
are in love, how do we know
when we are loved?
Love itself brings about the
continuous emergence of
ever-higher value in the
object.
NATURE OF LOVE
How do we know when we are in
love, how do we know when we are
loved?
Love itself brings about the
continuous emergence of ever-higher
value in the objectjust as if it were
streaming out from the object of its
own accord, without any exertion
(even of wishing) on the part of the
lover.
Nature of Love
According to Steinberg (1998), love is a
subjective experience.
Some people choose to love to be loved,
while others choose to love without asking in
return.
Love is what the lover defines it to be.
Is love lasting? (Some good things never last,
will you still love me tomorrow, insert video)
Motherly Love
Sex Love
Brotherly/Sisterly Love
Married Love
Religious Love
Romantic Love
Simple Infatuation
Crush or puppy love
Commonly strikes in early teens or
younger.
Object of infatuation: Older, highly
idealized person (teacher, friend, etc.),
actors, players
This does not last long.
This is not enough to end up in marriage.
Romantic Infatuation
This is the same as being in love of falling in
love.
Strange mix of sex and emotion but not genuine
love.
This does not necessarily result in marriage.
The feeling may be stronger but it will not last
long. This may develop into love, but it takes time.
Real Love
This involves strong tender feelings for the
other balanced by reason and deep respect.
You care for the other and there is a sense of
fulfillment.
Judgment of the other person is objective and
rationale.
Sharing of values, ideas, goals, and ideals.
Real Love
Perfect Combination: You are matched
and mated.
Emotion must warm reason, but reason
must rule emotion.
In real love, your reason is the throne,
ruling your emotions.
Sex Interest
This should not be mistaken for love.
Biological drive that seeks erotic
expression.
Some people may enjoy sex but may
not have interest in the person other
than sensual satisfaction.
Men can enjoy sex with no tender
feelings.
Sexual Health
Sexual Health
Sexual Problems
Lack of interest in sex
Reaching climax to early
Unable to reach orgasm
Sex not pleasurable
Anxiety about performance
Pain during sex
Unable to keep an erection
Sexual Health
Ways to solve sexual dysfunction
Pills (e.g., Robust, Potensan)
Therapy (e.g., lingam)
Behavioral Exercises---You teach your
partner to teach your partner to control
orgasm or ejaculation (sensate focus,
stop and go technique, squeeze
technique)
Sexual Health
Sexual practices among American
Men and Women (1994) in 12
months prior to the conduct of the
survey
90% of women surveyed had sex; 86%
among men
63% of men masturbated, 42% among
women
27% of men had oral sex, 19% among
women
23% of men bought X-Rated videos,
11% among women
Sexual Health
Marriage sex is very important for
long term happiness.
Married couples have higher levels of
sexual activity than divorced people
and single people.
Sexual Health
For some people, sex is not the most
important thing in life.
A nationwide survey in the US found
out that 75% of 815 men survey
believed that marriage is more
important than sex, career, fame, or
fortune. About 90% of these
husbands treat their wives as best
friends.
Sexual Health
Sex is not clearly everything but it is
important to an intimate relationship.
Different people have different sexual
intimacy needs.
Sexual Health
Elements of sexual health
1. When couple are able to decide
freely and consensually when to have
sex and how often to do it.
2. Sticking to one marital partner and
no extra marital affairs.
Sexual Health
This also pertains to the absence of
disease or infirmity relating to your
reproductive health system and its
processes and functions.
Risky sexual practices may lead to
sexual health problems---STDs, HIV,
AIDS
Sexual Health
Risky Practices
Sharing drug needles and syringe
Anal sex with or without a condom
Vaginal or anal sex with someone who
shoots drugs or engages in anal sex
Sex with someone you do not know well
Multiple sexual partnership
Unprotected sex
Sexual Health
STDs
Syphilis
Gonorrhea
HIV/AIDS
Sexual Health
Gonorrhea is most common in young adults.
The bacteria can infect the genital tract, mouth, or
anus.
This can be transmitted through vaginal, oral, or
anal sex with an infected partner.
In men, gonorrhea can cause pain when urinating
and discharge from the penis. If untreated, it can
cause problems with the prostate and testicles.
In women, the early symptoms of gonorrhea often
are mild. Later, it can cause bleeding between
periods, pain when urinating, and increased
discharge from the vagina.
Source: National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases
Sexual Health
Syphilis infects the genital area, lips, mouth, or
anus both for men and women.
Symptoms: sore developing in the genitals, body
rash, sore throat
The sore caused by the bacteria make it easier to
get or give someone HIV during sex.
Source: National Institute of Allergy and Infectious
Diseases
Sexual Health
HIV, Human Immunodeficiency Virus
This kills your immune system cells.
Spreads through unprotected sex
First signs of infection may be swollen glands and
flu like symptoms. These may come and go a
month or two after infection.
Source: National Institute of Allergy and Infectious
Diseases
Summary
There is a nexus between love and sex.
We talk about love and sex in FAMIPOP
because these two are
foundations/elements of building family
relationships.
Love and Sex= Fertility---- change in
demographics