The Filipino

Family
and
Responsible
Parenthood

COURTSHIP
Process by which one seeks
to win the consent of
another for marriage
through all forms of
behavior.

Courtship normally follows these steps:

1.Getting

acquainted,
2.Going through courtship rituals or
practices,
3.Dating, and
4.Going steady.

Length of Courtship
According

to marriage counsellors, it
should not be too brief or short that
there is not much time to know one
another better. It should not be too
long either, because the glamour may
wear away and lead the romance to
the rocks. Expert suggest a six
months to one year period.

Traditional and Modern-day

Courtship Practices

The Dowry
A gift turned over by the male to the brides parents in
exchange for the girl.

Mate selection
The parent usually choose the women to be courted by
their sons and the to men court their daughters.

Dating

Part of human making process where two people meet

socially for companionship

Benefits of Dating
It

widens ones circle of friends.

It

provides opportunities for personality

improvement and socialization.

It

allows one to practice the social graces.

It

provides enjoyment especially when

ones date is fun to be with.

It

provides one with the best opportunity to

know more about the suitable made for
marriage.

Dangers of dating
It

creates money problem especially for the

unemployed.

It

brings about tension between parents

and children.

It

can cause student to neglect their

studies.

It

provides occasions for intimacy, which

may lead to unwanted pregnancy and early
marriages.

Philippine Customs and Traditions

Olog
The Betrothal House
Ifugao, Mountain Province

Tapat
Courtship through Poetry and Songs
Ilocos Province

Bisperas
The Eve of the Wedding
Province of Batangas

Pamalaye
The Formal Proposal
Province of Cebu

Pangadngad
Bride Service
Province of Leyte

Pangalay
The Wedding
Tausug

MARRIAGE
It

serves as the foundation

where the family has to be
built upon.

Why people marry?

1.To

have a permanent
relationship with the person
you love.
2.To have children and happy
family.
3.For economic and social
upliftment or insurance.

Forms Of Marriage
1.Monogamy-

one union marriage

2.Polygamy- many union marriage
a. polygyny
b. polyandry

Marriage Ability Traits

1.

Adaptability and flexibility

2.

Ability to communicate

3.

Ability to control ones emotin

Conflicts in marriage are due to several

factors
1.

Personality differences

2.

Money

3.

Relatively and In-laws

4.

Unsatisfactory sex relations

Conflicts are resolved by the following

patterns of adjustments:
1.

Dominance and submission

2.

Accomodation

3.

Cooperation

Requisites of marriage
Chapter 1, Art II and III of the Family Code give two kinds of requisites of
marriage.

1. Essential

requisites

a. legal capacity
2. Formal
a.

requisites

Authority of the solemnizing officers

b. A valid
c.

marriage license

A marriage ceremony family

Family
A

family is the basic unit of our

society and can be likened to a
human body consisting of
different parts

Responsible Parenthood
Challenges and Responsibilities of Parenthood
1.

Parental role

2.

Emotional adjustments

3.

Child rearing

4.

Family relations

Classification of Family
A. Based

on the internal organization

1.

Conjugal family

2.

Nuclear family

3.

Extended family

B. Based

on decent

1. Patrilineal

family

2. Matrilineal

family

3. Bilateral

family

C. Based on Residence
1.

Patrilocal residence

2. Matrilocal
3. Bilocal

residence

residence

4. Neolocal

residence

5. Avunculocal

residence

D. Based on Authority
6. Patriarchal

family

7. Matriarchal

family

8. Egalitarian

family

9. Matricentric

family

Types of family set-ups

Patrifocal

families

Matrifocal

families

Consanguineal
Conjugal

families

families

THE FILIPINO FAMILY

The Filipino family in general is still monogamous.

The Filipino family plays a unique role for the child as it

gives him affection, care, attention, protection, and
engenders in him a sense of belongingness and security.

The Filipino family is an institute of security which

protects its members from exigencies of living.

The Filipino family founded on love and affection,

sanctified by the virtue of Christian marriage is cohesive
in nature.

In general, in the home of Filipino family, there is a love,

cooperation, respect, justice, democracy and above all
there is God whom they respect and believed as the
greatest source of human consolation.

Position, rights and duties of the

members of the Filipino family
The

Husband and Father leader or head,

and his authority is respected.

The

Wife and Mother is the heart. She

holds the family together.

The

Children acknowledge and respect

the authority of the home.

Primary needs of the

children
1. Physical

needs

2. Emotional

needs

3. Moral

needs

4. Social

needs

5. Intellectual
6. Spirotual

needs

needs

Functions of the Filipino family

1. Functions

of reproduction

2. Biological

maintenance

3. Socialization
4. Status

placement

5. Social

control

6. Economic
7. Educational

function

8. Recreational
9. Religious
10.Political

function

function

functions

11.Protection

Social and culture changes in

the family
1. Changes

in the family roles and

relationships

2. Economic

changes

3. Changes

in the familys authority pattern

4. Changes

in family size and composition

5. More

democratic relationship

Importance of the Filipino

family
1.

The strong or weak mental and physical aspects of

the organism inherited from the parents can be
developed in the family.

2.

In the family, the child learns the meaning of

social responsibility and necessity for
cooperation. It plays a significant role in
socializing persons.

3.

The family is transmitter of culture.

4.

The family serves as the model for the

establishment of another family.

PROBLEMS CONFRONTING THE

FILIPINO FAMILY
1.

Gambling

2.

The movies

3.

Lack of adequate preparation for married life.

4.

Imprudent choice in marriage

5.

The effects of city life

6.

The practice of the birth control and abortion

7.

The practice of divorce

8.

Unemployment

9.

Disgrace of the family members

10.Prolonged
11.Death

illness

Healthy Family
1. Healthy

families maintain a spiritual

foundation.

2. Healthy

families make the family a top

priority.
3. Healthy

families ask and give respect.

4. Healthy

families communicate and listen.

5. Heathy
6. Healthy

families value service to others

families expect and offer

acceptance

HOW TO HAVE A HAPPY FAMILY

1.

GIVE YOURSELF TO YOUR FAMILY

2.

PRIVATE FAMILY ACTIVITIES: A MUST

3.

COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR FAMILY

4.

BE LOYAL TO ONES FAMILY

5.

ASSUME A FAIR SHARE OR RESPONSIBILITIES IN THE

FAMILY

6.

PRACTICE SELF CONTROL

7.

MAKE CONCESSIONS AND REASONABLE SACRIFICES

FOR THE GOOD OF ALL

8.

CULTIVATE DESIRABLE CHARACTERISTIC TRAITS