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History of Arranged Marriage Joseph Campbell in his book ‘The Power of Myth’ the concept of marriage of romantic love did not exist in Europe before 12th century. During that time.  Elizabethan period (1558–1603) The religious life or married life was the only options Regardless of their social status and position women and men were expected to marry. . single women are thought to be witches by their neighbors.

goods.Past: Elizabethan period Elizabethan women were expected to bring a dowry (mahr) to the marriage an amount of money. Effectually became his property In the Elizabethan era. or even property as her marriage portion. After marriage. they were expected to run the households and bring birth. it was common for parents in high society to arrange marriages among their children to ensure that they continued the economic status and descents Parents of the bride would ordinarily offer their daughter to the son of a family of the same economic status. .

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. Approximately 30 percent of marriages in Japan are the arranged marriages called “omiai” (Japanese: お見合い ) by the end of 20th century. arranged marriage was initially practiced by the Samurai in the 16th century as a means to secure influence and position.Past: India and Japan In India. they rely on arranged marriages traditional caste system prohibits them from mixing. In Japan.

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the poorer family would be married into the family of richer through the daughter. Shim-pua marriage fell out of practice in the 1970s due to economic flourishment. .Past: Taiwan They would sell a young daughter to a richer family for labor is called “Shim-pua” marriage (Taiwanese: sim-pū-á).

Modern Arranged Marriage .

In modern 20th century India: it is possible to marry outside of the sub-caste. one’s own language. or province as long as they are still within the same caste . Although parents may employ pressure on their child to chose a certain candidate they favored The child must say their decision after meeting Educational and economic backgrounds are taken into attention by the parents.Modern: India Parents will choose several possible candidates for their child.

. or even before they are born. The actual marriage takes place when at their late teens or adults.Modern: Pakistan In certain tribal regions and rural areas there is a custom known as “Pait Likkhi” Urdu: ‫پیٹ لکھی‬. literally ‘written on stomach’ Agreed to marry their children while they are still infants.

Modern: Pakistan The second type is “Watta satta” Urdu:‫ٹٹٹہٹ‬ ‫ٹٹٹٹہ س‬. a distant relative is acceptable.‫ و‬literally ‘give and take’ Exchange brides between two groups of different clans. In order for a family to arrange a marriage for their son. If there is no sister to exchange in return for a son’s spouse. . they must also have a daughter to be married in return.

LOVE MARRIAGE .

 Onus of choosing rests with the bride and groom  Typically love marriages occur between college friends/office colleagues. . Two individuals care and love each other  norm in western countries = individual freedom and aspirations are more important than what the parents expect from a person.

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problems and decisions. Know the needs of each other .ADVANTAGES Is build when the couple is dating UNDERSTANDIN G Easier for them share their opinions.

M. they will be able to handle it Prevent themselves from making their partner angry.Positive and negative points of your partner Known each other As “mental preparation” When dispute arise. Each will try their best to give comfort and happiness with each other-mutual love . All the family member will feel comfort and will be able to enjoy their love happiness Compared to A. happiness will come later.

To choose your partner/not marrying a total stranger Nor coercion and pressure (parental pressure) freedom Become responsible – running household You know each other’s family Build a nice relationship with them Helps in bonding well with in-laws before marriage Family ties .

DISADVANTA GES LOVE Pure love V Fake love 1. Love with a lot of expectation Ex: marry a rich guy and believe that you will life happily . Love by desiring any other factors Ex: beauty 2.

you might go against what your family want At the end. .Is not a result of careful deliberation Had not chosen wisely Do not think about the future/the possibility challenge in their matrimonial Ex: economic problem They do not like your partner Lack of support from family member Parents usually very particular in choosing their son-in law but since love is blind. no one will help went problem arise.

Tired of each other Lose interest Try to seek the company of another person Why ? .

ADVANTAGES AND DISADVANTAGES OF ARRANGED MARRIAGE .

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Marriage is built on a set of moral values and beliefs. . a certain level of equality is achieved in these unions.

EXTENDED FAMILY SUPPORT DISCOVERY AND DEVELOPMENT OF LOVE EVERY DAY .

DISADVANTAGES OF ARRANGED MARRIAGE .

where to live and most other aspects of one’s life. For some this is fine. It is often said that if the in laws helped one to find a husband or wife. For others. and hence the entire family/ families might get involved even if they don’t tend to.HIGH –RISK OF ABUSIVE PARTNERS   The couple might experience lack of privacy in their relationship due to the family closeness and interference by other relatives. It calls for an awkward situation if the couple is in an argument. ·      Another big disadvantage is that the in-laws will most likely play a pretty huge role in one’ life. it is highly possible that they’ll have a say in how the children should be raised. Statistics show that meddling in-laws are a huge issue of contention in many marriages! . it’s a nightmare.

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usually in a group setting. Men and women who are ready to get married may meet their future spouse through family or friends.Arrange married is not force in Islam  Arranged marriages are the cultural norm for many Muslims across the world. Some families encourage the potential couple to go out in public. Muslims do not date in the popular Western cultural sense. some families grant the prospective groom and bride a chance to meet in private. under supervision. via text or email.  The traditional period of courtship is relative from culture to culture and family to family. others allow them to get to know each other on the telephone. After the initial introduction. . Generally. since.  In addition.

like living in zinā.The between force marriage and arrange married in Islam  Forced marriage occurs when a man or woman is coerced by the family to marry. emotional blackmail. Forcing a woman to marry a man means that there was no qubul. fraud. this is the right of a woman. regardless of her age. That is not a marriage in Islam. and even bribes. Without it the marriage is a sham. . Arranged against the person will be without consent or consent under duress. using threats.  Marriage is Islam requires ijab and a qubul (proposal and acceptance).

and marriage is like that and more so. because no one has the right to force him to eat food he finds off-putting when there is food that he wants to eat. If she gives her consent then it is valid. 9/194 If the son or daughter likes someone else Ibn Muflih al-Ḥanbali (may Allāh have mercy on him) said: The parents have no right to force their son to marry someone he does not want. According to the Ḥanafi school of thought. Shaykh Ibn Tayymiyyah said: Neither of the parents has the right to force their son to marry someone whom he does not want. he is not sinning by disobeying them. then the marriage contract is invalid. because it is a forbidden contract which cannot be validated. and if he refuses. and it harms a person and he cannot leave it.the majority of scholars are of the view that if a woman is married off without her consent.Islamic ruling on marriage Marriage without consent In the Shāfi'i and Ḥanbali school of thought. See al-Mughni. but a forced marriage lasts for a long time. Al-Adāb al-Shar'iyyah (1/447) . Fath al-Bāri. 7/364. the contract is dependent upon the woman's acceptance. otherwise she may annul it. Food that one is forced to eat is unpleasant for a short while.

since Islām does not allow a minor to conduct business or make financial decisions for himself or herself. and a never married woman may not be married without her permission. specially when she disagrees.Concerning a minor According to Mufti E. Desai. how her body (which is more important than her wealth) is to be used.” (Al-Bukhāri. a marital contract of a minor falls under the same premise. and permission for her is to remain silent. so how can he be allowed to decide. However Islām does not give a father the right to use his children's wealth without their permission. and others) The exegis of this Prophetic tradition is that if she does not speak up that means that she is giving consent.  Concerning a young woman or a widow or divorcee Abu Hurayrah reported that the Prophet said: “A previously married woman may not be married without her command. Muslim. without the daughter's permission. and is permissionseeker in the case of a never-married woman. A wali (close male relative) is a command-executor in the case of the previously married woman. .

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Choose correctly ! Thanks for the attention .