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Going Steady
Dating
Dating is the process of meeting people socially for
possible mate selection.
Dating emerged in the U.S. in the 20th century and
became well established in the 1950s.
The term dating refers to a couple setting a
specific date, time, and place to meet.
Dating is part of the marriage market, in which
prospective spouses compare the assets and
liabilities of eligible partners and choose the best
available mate.
Dating
Latent functions
Socialization - learning about gender roles, family structures
Gaining social status - dating can enhance prestige
Fulfilling ego needs by being asked out or accepted
Opportunities for sexual experimentation and intimacy
Big business - economic market for products and services
The Dating Spectrum
Traditional Dating
Males and females follow culturally defined and clear
gender role scripts.
Cultural variations include
coming out balls, bar and bat mitzvahs
Going steady and getting pinned were common patterns
of courtship after WWII.
Physical appearance
Looks matter. Men and women choose partners
whose physical attractiveness is similar to their
own.
Culture matters in perception of beauty.
Mutual
Preference or
Affection
Social security
Social Pressure
Practical Reasons
DISADVANTAGES OF GOING
STEADY
1. Limit friendship
2. Limit choices
3. Personality
Development is
one- sided
4. Too involved
Case Analysis: Going on a
Date
Elaine, 16, has been going steady with
Bobby, 18, for four months now. On
their dates, they often go to quiet,
poorly lit places, where they can be
alone with each other. They have
began to express their affection
physically, and now Bobby is beginning
to say that they should show their love
for each other by going all the way.
Cooperative Discussion of 6:
1.What does Bobby want? By asking this
from Elaine, does it mean that he loves
her very much?
2.If Elaine says yes to him, will it mean
she also loves him very much?
3.How might involvement in premarital sex
spoil Elaines future and prevent her from
realizing her goal?
4. Consider this scenario:
Elaine is happily
married to Bobby.
Would their relationship
be stronger if she had
said yes to sex before
they married?
5. Another scenario: Elaine
yielded to the pressure from
Bobby and she had premarital
sex with him. Then, Bobby after
the affair decided to break up
with her because they were not
compatible. What could be the
feelings of Elaine in this
situation.