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A six-session video and
discussion program for parents

of teens and tweens
by Michael H. Popkin, PhD
2009 Active Parenting Publishers. All rights reserved.

Welcome to Active Parenting of Teens!
Who am I?
What is my role?
Who are you?
What is Active Parenting of Teens?
What are the procedures for this group?
Leaders Guide: page 18 SLIDE 1

Welcome to Active Parenting of
Teens

Ground Rules
Ground Rules
Be open to learning from other families, even if
they dont look or sound like yours.
Be forgiving of yourself.
Encourage each other.
Be patient.
Speak as often as you like, but keep your
comments brief.
What is shared in this group stays in this group.

Whats with you?

Your Teens Brain (on Hormones!)
Rapidly changing
From age 11 to 14, most growth of gray

matter since infancy
Followed by pruning (age 11-24+)
Unused areas get cut back.
Use it or lose it!

Teen Brain Development
Brain growth and development

occurs from back to front:
3
2 Amygdala
Nucleus emotion
Accumbens impulse
motivation
4
Prefrontal
1 Cortex
judgment
Cerebellum executive center
physical coordination
sensory processing

What does the prefrontal cortex

(the Executive Center) control?
Sound decision making
Empathy
Considering consequences
Regulating emotions
Self-awareness
Morality

How Parents Can Help:

Support and
encouragement:
Build the relationship.
Discipline:
Set limits on behavior.
Problem solving:
Cope and grow.

The Purpose of Parenting
To protect and prepare children and teens

to survive and thrive
in the kind of society in which theyll live.
Our Society:
Democratic
High tech
Multi-cultural, Diverse
Free market economy
_________________
Leaders Guide: page 26 SLIDES 7a-b
What ItWhat It Takes
Takes to Survive
to Survive in a in a
AND THRIVE
Democratic Lawless
Dictatorship
Society Society
fear courage a strong will
blind obedience responsibility violence
no belief in free will cooperation self-centeredness
insensitivity to others respect low self-esteem
high self-esteem
a desire to learn
problem-solving skills
decision-making skills

Workplace Skills (Sails) for the 21 st Century
Leadership
Negotiation and teamwork
Goal setting and motivation
Creative thinking and problem solving
Communication, both listening and speaking
Reading, writing, math, and an ability to learn

Drugs, Sexuality, and Violence:
Storms at Sea

Reducing the Risks
Build a strong relationship
Develop your teens character
Communicate persuasively
Act as filters

Styles of Parenting
Dictator Doormat Active Parent
Reactive Reactive Proactive
Leaders Guide: pages 30-31 SLIDES 11a-d

Styles of Parenting, Part 1



Control vs. Influence
Control Power = 100%
Influence 1% < Power < 100%

Where to Get Help
First level of help:

School counselor, psychologist, social worker,
clergy, or local community mental health center
Therapists specializing in adolescents and families
Second level of help:

Residential treatment programs

Keys to Parenting in a Democratic Society
1. Mutual Respect:
Respect is something you have to give in order to get.

- Bernard Malamud
2. Participation:
Democracy doesnt mean you always get your way;

it means you always get your say.
- Michael Popkin
Leaders Guide: pages 37-38 SLIDES 14a-b

Mutual Respect

Keys to Parenting in a Democratic Society
1. Mutual Respect:
Respect is something you have to give in order to get.

- Bernard Malamud
2. Participation:
Democracy doesnt mean you always get your way;

it means you always get your say.
- Michael Popkin

The Method of Choice

Styles of Parenting
Dictator Doormat Active Parent
Freedom within E X P A N D I N G Limits

Family Enrichment Activity: Taking
Time for Fun

Family Meetings
Family Meetings build

Support
Discipline
Participation
Problem-solving skills
Courage, cooperation, responsibility, and respect
Unity: Were all in this together!

REVIEW Session 1. The Active Parent
REVIEW

Problems
SUCCESSFUL Handle their problems

FAMILIES and learn from them
Make problems worse

UNSUCCESSFUL and dont learn how to
FAMILIES improve

The Problem-Handling Model
Who Owns the Problem?

ADULT TEEN
Provide Provide
Discipline Support


Who is the problem behavior directly affecting?
Whose goals are being blocked?
Does the problem involve health, safety, or

family values?
Is the problem one that you can reasonably

expect your teen to solve?

Cooperation
Two or more people working together

in a mutually supportive manner
for a common goal
Dictators DEMAND cooperation.

Doormats HOPE for cooperation.
Active parents WIN cooperation.
Mutual
Participation
Respect
Leaders Guide: pages 52-53 SLIDE 21a-c


ADULT TEEN
Provide Provide
Discipline Support
Avoid communication
blocks
Let teen handle, but

offer support using
Active Communication

Channels of Communication
The road to cooperation

is paved with good communication.
The Three Channels:

Words
Tone of voice
Nonverbal cues: body language
and facial expression
Communication: The Road to
Cooperation

Channels of Communication
The road to cooperation

is paved with good communication.
The Three Channels:

Words
Tone of voice
Nonverbal cues: body language
and facial expression
Communication Blocks and
Discouragement

Communication Blocks
Any words, tone of voice, or body language

that influences a person sharing a problem
to end the communication
DING Placating Sarcasm

MMA N
CO
Being a know-it-all v i s i ng
Interrogating Ad
Psy CRITICIZING
cho
i o ns logi
pe ctat zing
ti ve E x
tak es
Nega o n M is
Distracting usi ng
Moraliz Foc
in g Perfectionism
Courage
Courage =
The confidence to take a known risk
for a known purpose.
Courage positive action success
Discouragement negative action failure
En-couragement positive action success
Avoid dis-couraging!
Encouragement Circle
One thing I like about you is _________.
Be direct.
Be specific.
Be sincere.
Say, Thank you.

1. Listen actively.
2. Listen for feelings.
3. Look for alternatives/evaluate

consequences.
4. Offer encouragement.
5. Follow up later.

Active Listening
1. Attention
2. Acknowledgement
3. Empathy
People dont care how much you knowuntil they

know how much you care.
John C. Maxwell

Palms-Up Activity
Teen: Im still not sure what to do

about school.
Parent: Heres what you need to do
Parent: I dont know what you will

decide to do, but lets look
at your options

Offering Encouragement
Four ways to offer encouragement to teens:
1. Focus on strengths.
2. Show confidence.
3. Stimulate independence.
4. Value who they are.


1. Listen actively.
2. Listen for feelings.
3. Look for alternatives/evaluate

consequences.
4. Offer encouragement.
5. Follow up later.

Responding to Feelings Video
Practice

Communication Between Adults,
Take 1

Communication Between Adults,
Take 2

Family Enrichment Activity: Letter of
Encouragement

REVIEW Session 2. Winning Cooperation
REVIEW

ADULT TEEN
Provide Provide
Discipline Support
Determine teens goal Avoid communication
and negative approach. blocks.
Avoid paying it off.
Let teen solve, but

Polite Requests
offer support using
I Messages, and Firm Reminders Active Communication
Logical Consequences
Active problem-solving

Responsibility
1. Accepting our obligations
2. Doing the right thing as the situation

calls for it
3. Accepting accountability for our actions
R=C+C
Responsibility = Choice + Consequences

Responsibility: A Powerful
Concept

Punishmentvs. Consequences
Punishment: To teach by hurting
Why is it popular?
It often works in the short run.
Its what we learned to do.
Why does it backfire?

It leads to resentment and retaliation.
It leads to sneaking, blaming, and excuse making.
It undermines the relationship.
Leaders Guide: pages 84-85 SLIDE 35a-b

Remember the Titanic

Discipline
Discipline should:
Be respectful.
Allow for teen participation.
Fit the situation.
Be firm but not harsh.

Basic Discipline Methods
Polite requests:
Please clean up this mess .
I Messages:
I have a problem with the mess in the family room .
I feel taken advantage of
Because I have to clean up the mess you made .
I would like you to take your dishes to the kitchen .
Will you do that? When?
Firm reminders:
Clean up. Now.
Polite Requests, I Messages, and
Firm Reminders

Advanced Discipline Methods
Consequences:
Natural Consequences
The FLAC Method

Consequences
R=C+C
Responsibility = Choice + Consequences
Natural Consequences:
Results that naturally occur from an action
without the parent doing anything.

Natural Consequences
You cant use natural consequences

when
1.the situation is too dangerous.
2.the consequences are too far in

the future.
3.the natural consequences do not

affect the teen.

Consequences
Natural Consequences:
Results that naturally occur from an action
without the parent doing anything.
Logical Consequences:
Discipline that is logically connected to a
misbehavior and is applied by an authority to influence
someone to behave within the limits of a situation

Logical Consequences (Either/Or
Choices)

Either/Or Choice:
Either________________,
or __________________.
When/Then Choice:
When________________,
then __________________.

Logical Consequences (When/Then
Choices)

Either/Or Choice:
Either________________,
or __________________.
When/Then Choice:
When________________,
then __________________.

Logical Consequences Guidelines
1. Ask the teen to help decide the consequence.

2. Put the consequence in the form of a choice:
Either/Or Choice When/Then Choice
3. Make sure the consequence is logically connected to
the misbehavior.
4. Give choices that you can live with.
5. Keep your tone of voice firm and calm.
6. Give the choice one time, then enforce the consequence.
7. Expect testing from your teen (it may get worse
before it gets better).
8. Allow your teen to try again later.

Logical Consequences Video
Practice

The FLAC Method
Identify your teens feelings

and show empathy.
F eelings
Remind your teen of
the limits (guidelines)
of the situation. L imits
Talk to your teen about how
he can meet his goals within
limits that you can live with. A lternatives
If necessary, enforce a logical
consequence to stress the
importance of the matter. C onsequences
Leaders Guide: page 97 SLIDE 44a-b
Problem Solving Using the FLAC
Method

Handling Anger
Using Your Anger Positively
Act early, before the anger escalates.
Keep your anger under your own control.
Act to solve the problem that is frustrating you.
Reduce the importance of your goal
Or change your goal.
Helping Your Teen Use Anger Positively
Give them a good model.
Give acceptable ways to express.
Remove yourself from power struggle.
Use the FLAC method.
Leaders Guide: pages 98-99 SLIDE 45a-b
Family Enrichment Activity: Positive
I Messages

REVIEW Session 3. Responsibility and Discipline
REVIEW

5 Key Qualities of Character
Respect
Responsibility
Cooperation
Courage
Self-Esteem

Courage
Courage: The confidence to take a

known risk for a known purpose.
Courage is the first of human qualities because

it is the one upon which all others depend.
Winston Churchill
Coeur
Leaders Guide: pages 107-108 SLIDES 48a-c

Courage and Self-Esteem: The Think-
Feel-Do Cycle

The Think-Feel-Do Cycle
Event
Do Think
Feel

Failure Cycle Success Cycle
Event Event
Negative Positive
feedback feedback
and failure and success
Do Think Do Think
Negative Lower self-esteem Positive High self-esteem
behavior Weak values behavior Strong values
Feel Feel
Discouraged Encouraged

Where Parents Can Encourage
Event Help limit negative influences and

encourage positive ones.
Encourage positive values and rational

Think
beliefs.
Encourage them to identify and accept

Feel their feelings. Teach them to listen to the
message behind their feelings.
Do Encourage positive behavior.

How Discouraging: Matt and Mom
re: Julie

Turn Discouragement into Encouragement
Discouraging Encouraging
Influences Influences
Focusing on Mistakes Building on Strengths
Expecting Too Little Showing Confidence
Expecting Too Much Valuing the teen
Overprotecting and Stimulating Independence

pampering
Leaders Guide: page 112-113 SLIDE 52a-b

How Encouraging: Matt and Mom
re: Julie

Turn Discouragement into Encouragement
Discouraging Encouraging
Influences Influences
Focusing on Mistakes Building on Strengths
Expecting Too Little Showing Confidence
Expecting Too Much Valuing the teen
Overprotecting and Stimulating Independence

pampering
Leaders Guide: page 112-113 SLIDE 52a-b

How Discouraging: The Report
Card

How Encouraging: The Report
Card

How Discouraging: The Broken
Necklace

How Encouraging: The Broken
Necklace

What Makes Teens Tick?
Event
Our Influence
Do Think
Teens Behavior Teens Attitude
Feel
Teens Feelings
What Makes Teens Tick?
Goals
Ask two questions:

What is the goal of this behavior?
What does the teen think will happen as a
result of this behavior?

The Five Goals of Teen Behavior
Negative
Approach
Goal Positive
Approach
Contact /Belonging
Power
Protection
Withdrawal
Challenge


How do you redirect teens from
Negative Positive
Approach
to Approach
?
1. Encourage.
2. Avoid paying off negative behavior.

How Parents Pay Off a Negative Approach
How Parents Pay Off

Goal Negative Approach
the Negative Approach
Giving attention by nagging,
Contact/Belonging Undue attention seeking scolding, lecturing and
reminding
Power Rebellion Fighting or giving in
Hurting the teen

Protection Revenge
through punishment
Giving up on the teen

Withdrawal Avoidance
or the problem
Ignoring the problem or

Challenge Thrill seeking over-reacting

Anatomy of a Power Struggle
How can you avoid a power struggle?

Dont fight.
Dont give in.
Build the relationship through support skills.
Use respectful forms of discipline
Use the FLAC Method:
F Feelings
L Limits
AAlternatives
CConsequences

How can you avoid a power struggle?

Dont fight.
Dont give in.
Build the relationship through support skills.
Use respectful forms of discipline
Use the FLAC Method:
F Feelings
L Limits
AAlternatives
CConsequences
Problem-Prevention Talks

1. Identify potential problems and risks.
2. Share your thoughts and feelings about these

problems and acknowledge your teens thoughts and
feelings.
3. Generate guidelines through brainstorming and

negotiation (within limits that you as the parent can live
with).
4. Decide on logical consequences for violating the

guidelines (if necessary).
5. Follow up later to make sure guidelines were followed

and to enforce consequences (if necessary).

Family Enrichment Activity:
Teaching Skills

Session 4. Building Courage,
REVIEW
REVIEW Redirecting Misbehavior

Appreciating the Problem
What are the most serious risks?
Reckless
Drug Use Violence
Sexuality

What does the prefrontal cortex

(the Executive Center) control?
Sound decision making
Empathy
Considering consequences
Regulating emotions
Self-awareness
Morality

What Risks Do We Want to Prevent?
Reckless
Drug Use Violence
Sexuality
Tobacco Inappropriate Fighting
behavior*
Alcohol Being a bully
STDs
Hard drugs Being a victim
Pregnancy
Prescription Gang
drugs * In short: Any illegal, membership
immoral, unsafe, or
Inhalants unhealthy activity Dating violence
Over-the-counter
drugs

The Purpose of Parenting
To protect and prepare children and teens

to survive and thrive
in the kind of society in which they live.

Teen Depression
The bad news:

One in eight teens in US is depressed.
Depression leads to drug/alcohol use, eating disorders,
self abuse (such as cutting), suicidal thoughts.
Each year, half a million teens attempt suicide
and 5,000 succeed.
The good news:

Depression is treatable! 80% success rate
Treatments: Talk therapy, medication, or both
But teens usually cant snap out of it on their own.
They need support from caring adults.
Statistics are from The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.
The Think-Feel-Do Cycle Revisited
Event
Parents and other
influences
Do Think
Drugs, Sexuality, Values, Attitudes,
Violence Beliefs
Feel
Teens Feelings

10 Strategies for Reducing Risky Behavior
1. Be a positive role model and a teacher of values.

Modeling and Teaching Positive
Values and Choices

Control vs. Influence
Control Power = 100%
Influence 1% < Power < 100%

Teen Developmental Goals: Sexuality
To accept oneself as a sexual being.
To develop a value system and

philosophy of life as a foundation from
which to make decisions about sexuality.

To Be or Not to BeSexually
Active


2. Educate teens about the risks.

Influential Sex Educators
Kinsey Indiana University researcher who conducted

the first large-scale study of American sexual
behavior (1950s)
Masters and St. Louis therapists who developed innovative

Johnson treatments for sexual problems (1970s)
The kid in the neighborhood where Dr. Popkin

Ramsey grew up who taught all the other kids about sex!
The schools sex education program
YOU and/or other loving adults

Educating Teens about the Risks,
part 1

Talking with Teens about
Drugs, Sexuality, and Violence
1. Become informed yourself.

2. Keep the talks brief, but talk often.
3. Ask questions and listen; dont lecture.
4. Give accurate information and gently correct
mistaken ideas.
5. Share your values as well as the facts.
6. Dont try to force agreement; Keep the dialogue open.
7. Provide support material: web sites, articles, videos.
8. Follow up later.

Educating Teens about the Risks,
part 2

The Think-Feel-Do Cycle Revisited
Event
Parents and other
influences
Do Think
Violence Beliefs
Feel
Teens Feelings


3. Filter out negative influences and in positive ones.

Parents as Filters
Challenges
PARENTS as
FILTERS
Event
Parents and other
influences
Do Think
Violence Beliefs
Feel
Teens Feelings
Social Networking Sites: The Risks
Age limits cant be enforced. Teens have access to adult
sites and topics.
Teens often give out too much personal information and
communicate with strangers.
Teens may post inappropriate content that can have serious
consequences.
Anonymity can lead teens to act disrespectfully or with fewer
inhibitions.
Online relationships may be based on false information.
Misinformation is rampant, especially about drugs and
sexuality.

Monitoring Your Teens Online Behavior
Check out your teens site or home page.

Watch video clips; look at photos; see what is listed as favorites.
Check online friends sites, too.
Look for evidence of additional online identities or home pages.
Look for red flags:
References to drugs, casual sex, or violence
Group photos in which everyone is drinking (clue: everyone has a cup)
Secretive behavior (closing browser window when you pass by)
Control computer use:

Limit Internet use to reasonable times
Put computers in public areas of the home
Use software to limit teens Internet access
and/or monitor online activity


4. Establish clear guidelines for behavior.

Establishing Clear Guidelines for
Behavior, take 1

Establishing Clear Guidelines for
Behavior, take 2

2. Share thoughts and feelings.
3. Generate guidelines for behavior through

brainstorming and negotiation.

guidelines and incentives for following them (if
necessary) .
5. Follow up later to ensure that guidelines were

followed and to enforce consequences (if necessary).

Family Enrichment Activity:
Expressing Love

Session 5. Drugs, Sexuality, and Violence:
REVIEW
REVIEW Reducing the Risks, Part 1

Stages of Drug Use

Gateway Drugs
Alcohol
By age 18, 90% of teenagers in the U.S. have experimented with alcohol.[1]
Alcohol-related accidents are the leading cause of death among 15- to 24-
year-olds.[1]
People who begin drinking before age 15 are four times more likely to develop alcoholism than
those who begin drinking at 21.[2]
Tobacco
The younger a person starts smoking, the higher the likelihood of adult addiction.[1]
Among cigarette smokers, marijuana use is 20 times higher and other illegal drug use is 13
times higher than among non-smokers.[3]
Each year 450,000 people in the U.S. and 1 million worldwide die from preventable tobacco-
related illnesses.[1]
Marijuana
About 20% of high school students use marijuana.
Teenagers who smoke marijuana are up to 6 times more likely to abuse other illegal drugs or
alcohol.[4]
Effects of marijuana use include problems with memory, problem-solving, and learning;
distorted perception; poor motor coordination; increased heart rate.
[1] Centers for Disease Control, Atlanta, GA [3] D.A.R.E.

[2] National Institute on Drug Abuse. [4] Journal of the American Medical Association

Just Drinking? A True Story

Alcohol
Alcohol lowers inhibitions, leading to more reckless behavior.

It impairs judgment so that more mistakes are made. Half of all
teen auto accidents are alcohol-related.
Because teen brains are still developing, alcohol can hinder
healthy development.
Its illegal for minors and can lead to a criminal record.
It can intensify teenage depression. Many teen suicides involve
alcohol use.
Binge drinking can cause alcohol poisoning and death.
Alcohol is addictive for many people, causing health, relationship,
financial and other problems.

3. Filter out negative influences and in positive
ones.

Talking with Teens about Tobacco,
Alcohol, and Other Drugs

2. Share thoughts and feelings.
3. Generate guidelines for behavior through

brainstorming and negotiation.

guidelines and incentives for following them (if
necessary) .
5. Follow up later to ensure that guidelines were

followed and to enforce consequences (if necessary).


5. Monitor and supervise teen behavior.

Active Prevention
You dont get what you expect.

You get what you inspect.
Dictator Doormat
Leaders Guide: pages 165-166 SLIDES 86a-c

Reasonable Limits for Monitoring Teens
Require adult supervision at parties, overnights,

and other potentially risky situations
Know where your teens are and who theyre with
Establishing a clear curfew
Monitor and restricting the use of the Internet

and other media


6. Work with other parents.


7. Provide healthy opportunities for challenge.

The Goal of Challenge
Negative
Approach
Goal Positive
Approach
Thrill Safe
Seeking Challenge Adventures


8. Consult about how to resist peer pressure.

Keys to Resisting Peer Pressure
1.
Courage
2. Assertiveness
Saying No to Peer Pressure:

1. Know your rights.
2. Do whats right.
3. Develop your comeback lines.

Saying No to Peer Pressure

Preventing Bullying
Prevent Your Teen from Being a Bully:

Use an Active style of parenting.
Have a family meeting about bullying.
Find out and enforce the schools policy on bullying.
Make it clear that bullying behavior will have
consequences.
If Your Teen Is Being Bullied:

Offer supportnot criticism or pity.
Use your Active Communication skills.
For severe cases: Get help!


9. Identify and confront high-risk behavior.

Detecting Alcohol or Drug Use
Four Signs of Use:

1. Heavy identification with the drug culture
2. Signs of physical deterioration
3. Dramatic changes in school performance
4. Negative changes in behavior
Hard Evidence of Use:

Possession of drug-related paraphernalia
Possession of drugs themselves
The odor of alcohol or drugs

Detecting and Confronting High-
Risk Behavior

Preparing to Confront
Stay calm.
Remember that this doesnt mean youre a
failure as a parent.
If you are married or have a partner in parenting,
decide together how to handle it.
Do not confront a teen while he or she is under the
influence of alcohol or drugs.
Think about your goals and logical consequences
for the meeting.

Youth Gangs
Signs of Gang Involvement

Graffiti on belongings
Use of drugs/alcohol
Tattoos, scars, or burns
Anti-authority attitude
Fights at school
Expensive items or
unexplained money
Staying out late
Friends wearing same
Secretive behavior
colors or symbols
Change of friends

Youth Gangs
Why Teens Join Gangs Goal
To belong Contact/Belonging
Desire for prestige Power
Protection from bullies Protection
Thrill seeking Challenge


9. Identify and confront high-risk behavior.
10. Calmly manage a crisis, should one occur.

Crisis Management
1. Stay calm:
Dont blow up and dont give up.
2. Get help:
Family doctor
Therapist
Community mental health center
Resources in your Parents Guide and at
www.ActiveParenting.com/ParentingTeens
(also a good place to find general resources for parenting teens)

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A six-session video and

discussion program for parents

by Michael H. Popkin, PhD

2009 Active Parenting Publishers. All rights reserved.

2009 Active Parenting Publishers. All rights reserved.

Who are you?

What is Active Parenting of Teens?

What are the procedures for this group?

Leaders Guide: page 18 SLIDE 1

2009 Active Parenting Publishers. All rights reserved.

Leaders Guide: page 20 SLIDE 2

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From age 11 to 14, most growth of gray

Followed by pruning (age 11-24+)

Unused areas get cut back.

Use it or lose it!

Leaders Guide: page 24 SLIDE 3

Brain growth and development

Leaders Guide: page 24 SLIDE 4

What does the prefrontal cortex

Leaders Guide: page 25 SLIDE 5

How Parents Can Help:

Leaders Guide: page 25 SLIDE 6

To protect and prepare children and teens

blind obedience responsibility violence

no belief in free will cooperation self-centeredness

insensitivity to others respect low self-esteem

Leaders Guide: page 27 SLIDES 8a-b

Negotiation and teamwork

Goal setting and motivation

Creative thinking and problem solving

Communication, both listening and speaking

Reading, writing, math, and an ability to learn

Leaders Guide: page 28 SLIDE 9

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Build a strong relationship

Develop your teens character

Leaders Guide: page 29 SLIDE 10

Dictator Doormat Active Parent

Reactive Reactive Proactive

Leaders Guide: pages 30-31 SLIDES 11a-d

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2009 Active Parenting Publishers. All rights reserved.

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Control Power = 100%

Influence 1% < Power < 100%

Leaders Guide: page 34 SLIDES 12a-b

First level of help:

Therapists specializing in adolescents and families

Second level of help:

Leaders Guide: page 36 SLIDE 13

Respect is something you have to give in order to get.

Democracy doesnt mean you always get your way;

Leaders Guide: pages 37-38 SLIDES 14a-b

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Respect is something you have to give in order to get.

Democracy doesnt mean you always get your way;

Leaders Guide: pages 37-38 SLIDES 14a-b

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Dictator Doormat Active Parent

Freedom within E X P A N D I N G Limits

Leaders Guide: page 40 SLIDE 15

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Family Meetings build