Birds and bees

Introduction:
The birds and the bees is a metaphorical story sometimes told to children in an attempt to explain the mechanics and good
consequences of sexual intercourse through reference to easily observed natural events.
For instance, bees carry and deposit pollen into flowers, a visible and easy-to-explain parallel to male fertilization. Another
example, birds lay eggs, a similarly visible

and easy-to-explain parallel to female ovulation.

The phrase "the birds and the bees" is hazy by designit's used to tell children about the mechanics of human sex without
actually mentioning sex or humans. It's prudish poetry that has somehow endured throughout the years, but its originslike its
definitionaren't entirely clear.
Kathleen Kelleher writes in the Los Angeles Times that the term is thought to have two possible origins. Samuel Taylor Coleridge
is credited with referring to the two species in the context of love in his 1825 collection "Work Without Hope":
All nature seems at work . . . The bees are stirring--birds are on the wing . . . and I the while, the sole unbusy thing, not honey
make, nor pair, nor build, nor sing.
Unfortunately for Coleridge, this fleeting passage had a lasting legacy, and his jealousy at local birds and bees for getting more
action than him has been etched into eternity.
USC professor Ed Finegan found an earlier use of the phrase in the diary of John Evelyn, published in 1644 (but written a century
prior):
That stupendous canopy of Corinthian brasse; it consists of 4 wreath'd columns--incircl'd with vines, on which hang little putti
[cherubs], birds and bees.
Finegan theorizes that Romantic era poets were inspired by this passage's placement of "birds and bees" so close to Cherubs,
which represent the sexuality of humans.
 Origin:
This phrase is the name of parents' traditional responses to their children's question 'where do babies come from?
References to eggs or the mysterious 'pollination', is of course just confusing to children, who are well able to cope with
the real 'facts of life'.
Its one step further on from 'the stork brings them'.
Another source that is sometimes claimed as the origin of the phrase is the work of the American naturalist John
Burroughs. In 1875, he published a set of essays titled 'Birds and Bees, Sharp Eyes and other Papers'. Burrough's aimed to
present nature to children in a way that they could easily understand and appreciate. As Mary Burt said in her
introduction to the essays:
"Burroughs's way of investing beasts, birds, insects, and inanimate things with human motives is very pleasing to
children."
 Lack of knowledge
There has been significant opposition to sex education, specifically for adolescents.
In 2007, when sex education curriculum was promoted by India's Ministry of Human Resource Development, a huge
controversy developed. Many opponents believed that sex education would corrupt youth and be anathema to traditional
Indian values.
Additionally, they believed it would lead to promiscuity and irresponsible behavior.
Finally, they argued that sex education was a western construct that was being forced upon India.
These arguments cause states like Gujarat, Madhya Pradesh, Maharashtra, Karnataka, Kerala, Rajasthan, Chhattisgarh and
Goa to ban sex education programming
 Lack of communication
Parents are often reluctant to teach accurate and relevant information about sex to adolescents because of the stigma associated
with the topic.
More than taboo, mothers especially feel like talking about sex is embarrassing, and dirty.
This same attitude is held by teachers. First, when the National Council of Educational Research and Training initiated sex education,
they structured it as a part of existing studies, rather than a separate subject. However, teachers tried to avoid teaching the topic.
Second, a school in Gujarat implemented a system where students could anonymously drop letters into a box for trained counselors
to read. The nature of these questions tended to split by sex. Girls' questions tended to focus on menstruation, physical appearance,
and 'normal' sexual behavior while boys' questions tended to focus on nocturnal emission, masturbation and body size. Though these
programs exist, they are unable to reach girls who are not school, a significant section of the population.
Ages 8-12:
Approach
Continue to follow your child's lead and readily answer his questions about sex.
Talk about the normalcy of sexual feelings, "wet dreams," and masturbation (in private), and allow your child some more privacy in his tween
and teen years.
Prepare your child for puberty. Don't leave it up to school health/sex education teachers their information may be too little, too late. Puberty
usually begins between ages 8 and 13 in girls and ages 9 and 15 in boys. Early puberty is becoming more common, so it's wise to let your older
elementary schoolage child know about the physical and hormonal/emotional changes on the horizon before he (or some of his friends) begin
to experience it.
If your child is too shy to talk, provide him with an age-appropriate book like It's Perfectly Normal by Robie H. Harris and Michael Emberley
(recommended for ages 10 and up) for him to explore on his own.
Ages 13 & Up:
By now, kids know what sex is (and that it has nothing to do with birds" and "bees"). But there's still a lot you can teach them about protecting
themselves against STDs, teen pregnancy, date rape, and other risks.
Say whatever comes to mind just be honest. Here are some key points that can help. Talk with your child about mutual consent,
and protecting herself against STDs and pregnancy by using condoms or other contraceptives. Girls should first see a gynecologist when they
become sexually active or by age 18.
Talk with kids about avoiding Internet porn,sexting, and meeting new people online. Legal consequences for sexting seem to vary by state, but
it's best to advise your child to avoid it altogether. Don't spy on your child's every move online, but talk about rules for mobile texting and using
 Conclusion
Sex education is the most important topic for a teen life especially when she/he goes through her/his puberty age.
Every teen must be aware of the border line that she/he should not cross it, and so to make them aware, they must be
guided properly and also they should be explained with an environment friendly manner, which makes them
comfortable with the topic.