This book is dedicated to all women

His intention is to allow women to look at

relationship from a mans point of view with
eyes wide open
The book is a fool proof guide for women to
read what men are really thinking
Steve has come to our rescue and has written
this book to touch on all of the subjects that
are important on how to find a man and
keep him
(Harvey, 2009)
 He answers questions referring to:
mamas boys
the ninety day rule
when to introduce the kids
and the questions we should be asking
He claims you must read this book if you
want to understand how men think when
it comes to relationships.

(Harvey, 2009)
 Men are simple, and no matter how
different, all have the same mindsets
and simple attitudes of only trying to
figuring out three aspects of their lives:
who they are, what they do, and how
much he makes.

According to Gorbunova, this is not the

thinking of men, but both sexes search
for who they truly are (2010).
 Page 280- Will men go to counseling?
SH: Were only interested in it if it is going to
save our ass. If we think were going to lose
you and counseling will keep us together,
then well go. But if it wont save our ass,
we cant see any good reason why we
should sit on a couch and talk to a person
with a tablet, getting judged for every
move weve ever made.
 Researched reasons why men do not go to
counseling?
Dont like to admit there is a problem that needs
changing
Dont like to admit they cant fix something on their
own
Like to fix things on their own
Even if it does save their asses many men refuse
to go to counseling.

Smith, K. (2010, March 5).

 Some of Steve Harveys thinking can be
supported with research!
Example:
Women want a mature man
Darroch, Landry, and Oslak write that
sexually active women from 15-44 years 52%
had men that were at least two years older.
 Talked to some of his male friends
His female co-workers and associates
Put together a few informal focus
groups.
Then, considered the impact that
relationships have on each of us, and
their impact on us
The successful marriage of his parents
 No data
No new or edgy way of thinking
Men and women are different
Women do not understand men
Not sufficient enough research to be
considered an adequate self-help book
Not particularly funny for a comedian
NO!
 More research then his friends and family
Less limited methodology on the man/
stereotypes
Providing research to his logical beliefs
Connecting it to a younger age group
 What is Steve Harveys method of research:
a. interviews
b. surveys
c. friends and families
d. a & b
Steve Harvey claims that he did comprehensive research:
True
False
What does Steve Harvey believe is the main difference
between men and women:
a. The complexity of their thinking
b. Their looks
c. Their careers
d. Their upbringing
 Darroch, J., Landry D.j., & Oslak, S. (1999). Age difference
between sexal partners in the United States. Family Planning
Perspective, 31, 161-167.
Gorbonova, I.M. (2010). Man in the twenty-first century: The
need for self-understanding. Anthropology & Archeology of
Eurasia, 49, 41-45.
Harvey, Steve. (2009). Act like a lady, think like a man: What
men really think about love, relationships, intimacy, and
commitment. NY: Harper Collins.
Smith, K. (2010, March 5). Mr. marriage counselor - "my
husband wont go to marriage counseling" [Web log
message]. Retrieved from
http://www.guystuffcounseling.com/counseling-men-
blog/bid/24518/Mr-Marriage-Counselor-My-Husband-Won-t-
Go-to-Marriage-Counseling