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Interpersonal Relationships vary in
differing levels of intimacy and
sharing, implying the discovery or
establishment of common ground,
and may be centered around
something(s) shared in common.
We define types of interpersonal
relationships in terms of relational
contexts of interaction and the
types of expectations that
communicators have of one
another to participate in positive,
caring, and respectful
relationships.
Six success elements in
Relationships
It takes a combination of
2. Self-awareness,
3. Self confidence,
4. Positive personal impact,
5. Outstanding performance,
6. Communication skills and
7. Interpersonal competence
to succeed in your career and life.
Self-awareness
Becoming self-aware is the first step to
improving our interpersonal effectiveness.
Most of our behaviours are natural for us.
We aren't aware of the impact these
behaviours have on others. That leaves us with
"blind spots" that others don't want to
mention to us because they don't want to hurt
our feelings, they are afraid of a reaction from
us, or they just don't care.
Through self-awareness we learn what impact
our behaviours - both positive and negative -
have on others. That knowledge helps us
become more effective in our interactions with
others.
Once we become self-aware we can
examine and change behaviours that
need changing. The option is our own.
So are the consequences. When we
choose to seek ways to modify our
undesirable behaviours we begin the
process of self-regulation. This is a
conscious process through which we
may ask for input from our family,
trusted coworkers or friends, or a
professional therapist.
Self-Confidence
SELF-
CONFIDENCE:
Sureness about
one’s self-worth
and capabilities
Positive Personal Impact
Do you know how other peoples see you?
When you leave a meeting or end a
conversation, what impression do you leave
behind? What picture do other people have of
you? How do you think they perceive you?
We impact on others through our opinions, the
amount we contribute, the sound of our voice,
the effect of our silence, the expressions we
use.
Personal impact is about other things apart
from your looks of course. Improving your
posture, knowing how to shake hands
properly, having good manners, not fidgeting
and controlling your nerves in meetings,
Outstanding performance
What ever
you do it to
the best of
your ability.
“DO it with
thy MIGHT!”
(MICO’s
Motto)
Communication skills
Interpersonal communication can mean
the ability to relate to people in written
as well as verbal communication. This
type of communication can occur in
both a one-on-one and a group setting.
This also means being able to handle
different people in different situations,
and making people feel at ease.
Communication skills
active listening,
giving and receiving criticism,
dealing with different personality
types, and
nonverbal communication.
3-Factor Model of
interpersonal competence
Interpersonally competent people:
2. are self aware. They use this
awareness to better understand others
and to adapt their behaviour
accordingly.
3. build and nurture strong, lasting,
mutually beneficial relationships.
4. resolve conflict in a positive manner.
(Bilanich)
What are Interpersonal
Skills?
A set of behaviours which allow you to
communicate effectively &
unambiguously in a face-to- face setting
Interpersonal competence
Five dimensions of
interpersonal competence
1. Initiating relationships.
2. Self-disclosure.
3. Providing emotional support.
4. Asserting displeasure with others'
actions.*
5. Managing interpersonal conflicts.*
Barriers to Communication
Language barrier
Co-operating
Resolving conflict is an art
of communication
Use interpersonal
communication skills
Interpersonal Communication
skills
I-statements help you express the way you
feel and what you want with great clarity.
Sometimes people use "you" statements, such
as "You never collect the registers on time and
then we have to leave school late in the
evenings waiting on you!" This type of
statement can make others feel angry and
defensive immediately. When you use I-
statements, such as, "I really need to get the
registers before 1:00pm so that I can complete
the attendance sheet so that I can leave
school at dismissal time." you express your the
concern in terms of you.
Interpersonal Communication
skills
A respectful tone of voice conveys that you
are taking others seriously and that you also
expect to be taken seriously. In addition,
people with good communication skills are
assertive without being aggressive or
manipulative.
Interpersonal Communication
skills
Eye contact is vital for good communication.
For example, how would you feel if the person
you were talking to kept looking around the
corridor or out the window?
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