By GUNAPATHY ARUMUGAM

B.Sc Psychology
Trainer’s Profile
Dr.John Gottman and his wife
International Smart Marriage Confrence 2009
Dr. John Gray
At RTM Angkasapuri
Dr.Michael Popkin-Active Parenting
Scientist have now found
evidence to support the
old adage that love is blind

Through brain-imaging
studies, researchers at
University College London
found that “feeling of love
lead to a suppression of
activity in the brain
controlling critical thought.
It seems that once we get closed to a person,
the brain decides the need to assess their
character and personality is reduced.

In a dating relationship, the stronger your

feelings of affinity and loyalty, the more likely
you will overlook the shortcomings and failures
in a potential partner.
In addition, massive releases of oxytocin,
dopamine and other hormones and
neuropeptides in the brain create
euphoric feelings that further cloud
analytic judgments, masking those
repeating offenses that should be obvious
warnings signals of problems to come.
 Personality
Mental Disorder
Expectations
Health
Extra Communications/
Marital Conflict
Management
Affairs

Divorce/ Sexual
Separation Marriage Intimacy

Parenting
style Financial

Superstitious
belief Career
In-Laws
The spouses feel no
strong attachment to
each other.

Outside pressure keep

the marriage together.
 Investment reasons
 Husband & Wife may have a
luxurious home and other
property that they do not
want to loose by parting.
 Business reasons
 An elected official wanting
to convey a stable family
image.
 A couple living in a small
community may remain
together to avoid the reaction
of relatives and friend to a
divorce.

 A couple may believe that

ending the marriage would
harm the children or may
believe that getting a divorce
would be morally wrong.
Year Indian (%) Chinese Others Total

2002 1,701 (71) 394 299 2,394

2003 1,844 (70) 421 360 2,625

2004 2,406 (71) 519 457 3,382

2005 2,627 (71) 589 476 3,692

2006 2,396 (70) 497 (14.6) 503 (14.8) 3,396

Until April 2007 154 (70) 29 (13) 36 (16) 219

Happy and
healthy Family

Family with weak

relationship

Unhealthy Family

Dysfunctional
Family
 Loving couple

 Healthy parent-child relationship

 Parents being good role model

 Priority for education, personality development and

family finance.

 Able to manage conflict through positive approach.

 Parents are too busy with their work and other
personal priorities.

 Poor emotional bonding with their children.

 Leading to empty-shell marriage.

 Marriage in conflict

 Parents with antisocial behaviors.

 Early symptoms of domestic violence

 Living together but mentally divorce

 Lack of love and care for children

 Symptoms of mental health problems

 Father’s role is absent

 Parents constantly argue and fight

 Alcoholism / drug abuse

 Criminal activities and serious antisocial behaviours.

 Physically and emotionally abusing the children

 Separation / divorce

 Serious symptoms of mental problem.

Gunapathy Arumugam

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