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Seven Habits Paradigm
Interdependence
Independence
Dependence
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Seven Habits Paradigm
4 Think Win/Win – The Habit of
Mutual Benefit
Interdependence
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Independence
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Seven Habits Paradigm
4 Think Win/Win
5 Seek First to Understand...
Then to Be Understood – The
Habit of Interdependence
Empathetic 5
Communication 4
Independence
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Seven Habits Paradigm
4 Think Win/Win
5 Seek First to Understand...
Then to Be Understood
Interdependence
6 Synergize
5 6
Public Victory
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Independence
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Seven Habits Paradigm
4 Think Win/Win
5 Seek First to Understand...
Then to Be Understood
Interdependence
6 Synergize
5 6
Public Victory
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7 Sharpening Independence
the saw
Renewal of Energy 6
4. THINK WIN-WIN
WITHDRAWALS DEPOSITS
Angry words Understanding
Unforgiving Apology
Cruel joke Attention to little things
Ignoring Keeping commitments
Excluding Consideration
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PARADIGM
Ineffective: There is only so much, and the more you get,
the less there is for me.
Effective: There is plenty out there for every-one, and more
to spare.
RESULT
Faster solutions to problems
More team involvement
Generosity of spirit
Rich relationships
BEHAVIOUR
Balance courage and consideration.
Seek mutual benefit.
Create Win-Win Agreements.
Build win-win systems. 9
Courage and Consideration
High I II
YOU LOSE YOU WIN
THEY WIN THEY WIN
CONSIDERATION III IV
YOU LOSE YOU WIN
THEY LOSE THEY LOSE
Low COURAGE High
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Habit 4: Think win-win.
lose-win win-win or no deal
lose-lose win-lose
courage
Are there times when paradigms others than “win-win” are appropriate?
How do you develop “courage”? “Consideration”? Emotional bank account?
What causes conflict? Tools for conflict resolution? Your “boundaries”? 11
WIN - WIN: “Let’s find a solution that works for both of us.”
Characteristics
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WIN-LOSE: “I am going to beat you no matter what.”
Characteristics
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LOSE_WIN: “I always get stepped on.”
Characteristics
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LOSE-LOSE: “If I’m going down, you are going down with me.”
Characteristics
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WIN: “As long as I win, I win, I don’t care if you win or lose.”
Characteristics
• Is self-centered.
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WIN-WIN OR NO DEAL: “Let’s find a solution that
works for both of us, or let’s not play.
Characteristics
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CREATE WIN-WIN AGREEMENTS
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5. SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND,
THEN BE UNDERSTOOD
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Listening
Ignoring
Pretend listening Your own frame of
reference
Selective listening
Attentive listening
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Listening
Don’t
jump to conclusions!
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PARADIGM
• Ineffective: I listen with the intent to reply.
• Effective: I listen with the intent to understand.
RESULT
• Greater influence with others
• Solutions to complex problems
• Clarity on real issues
• Faster problem solving
BEHAVIOR
• Diagnose Before You Prescribe.
• Listen empathically.
• Seek to be understood from the other’s
perspective. 22
READING THE SIGNS
Words we use
7%
How we say words,
Tone of voice, style
38%
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Watch the Signals
You feel
About
Content, topic, or meaning of what is being said.
25 End of Habit 5
6. SYNERGIZE
PARADIGM
• Ineffective: It’s either your way or my way, or a compromise.
• Effective: Together we can create a better way, a higher way.
RESULT
• Innovation and invention
• New and better solutions
• Transformed relationships
• Appreciation of diverse perspectives
BEHAVIOR
• Value and celebrate the differences.
• Practice creative cooperation
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WHAT IS SYNERGIZING?
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PRACTICE CREATIVE COOPERATION
As you continue the process of Getting to Synergy, ask the other party, “Would
you agree to a simple ground rule: I can’t make my point until I restate yours to
your satisfaction; you can’t make your point until you restate mine to my
satisfaction?”
Once you feel you have achieved a solid level of mutual understanding,
propose and refine alternatives: a new insight, a model, a plan of action, or a
prototype. Keep refining, creating, and going back for further understanding
until you have arrived at a Third Alternative
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7. SHARPEN THE SAW
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Habit 7: Sharpen the saw.
Physical Social
Mental Spiritual
Emotional – Social
Relationships, service, empathy, security
Consistent deposits to be made in the EBAs of
key relationships
Mental
Reading, planning, visualizing, writing
Spiritual
Values, commitment, study, meditation,
inspiring literature, admiring nature
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SHARPEN THE SAW
PARADIGM
RESULT
• Improved capacity
• Stronger relationships
• Greater reserves
• Continuous improvement
BEHAVIOR
Interdependence
Understand Synergize
5 PUBLIC 6
VICTORY
Think win-win
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Independence
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1st things 1st
PRIVATE
1 VICTORY 2
Be Proactive End in mind
habit = Dependence
knowledge
+ skill
+ desire 34
“Excellence is an art won by
training and habituation.
We are what we repeatedly do.
Excellence, then, is not an act,
but a habit”
Aristotle
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