PART ONE YOUR PERSONALITY The Person You Are Your Self-Ideal The Positive You The Core:

Your Self-Esteem

YOUR PERSONALITY

1. The Person You Are

 Who do you think you are? What shapes and influence your personality? How do you view yourself? What do you like to become?

Do you like yourself? Can you reshape your personality? Do you value yourself and have self-worth? What virtues, values and qualities you most admire? Are you performing well, happy and successful?

Things To Ponder: 1. What quality do you admire most in other people? How could you develop this quality in yourself? 2. Imagine that you could write your own eulogy; how would you like to be remembered and described by others when you are gone?

Perhaps the greatest breakthrough thought was the discovery that each of us is where we are, and what we are, because of ourselves. We are where we are and what we are because of our habitual thoughts and actions.

Men and women of great character, competence and leadership abilities are those who have worked on themselves, usually for many years, to become the kind of people that others look up to, respect and admire. They are, in every respect of the word, selfmade people.

William James of Harvard once wrote, The greatest revolution of my generation is the discovery that Individuals, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives.

When we go to work on ourselves, and we practice the behaviors that we wish to incorporate into our personality and character, we change the inner attitudes of our minds. As a result, we change the outer aspects of our lives. We take complete control of our future. We become the very best person that we can imagine becoming. There are no limits.

The Foundation of Your Personality

Where does your self-concept come from? How does it begin? How does it develop? What are the major influences that shape your selfconcept and how can you change your self-concept once it has developed?

These are vital questions, and there are definite answers for them. The fact is that each child is born with no selfconcept at all. Every thought, feeling, idea, opinion, belief or conviction that you have as an adult has been learned, starting in early infancy. You have been taught to believe the things you believe by the people and influences around you over the course of your lifetime, especially when you were a child.

It is true that each child is born with certain personality characteristics, propensities, talents, leanings, and other unique attributes and qualities. Some psychologists say that fully 60% of personality characteristics, such as courage, extroversion, musical interest, sensitivity, athletic ability and so on, are inborn and innate.

This is why children born into the same family, with the same parents and similar upbringing, often turn out totally different from each other. But in terms of selfconcept, how a person thinks and feels about themselves relative to their ability and potential, this is learned from early infancy.

Our Two Natural Qualities When we are born, we come into the world with two natural qualities. First, we are completely unafraid. We are totally fearless. We have no reason to be afraid because we have had no experiences to make us afraid.

The second natural quality that we are born with is that we are completely spontaneous. We laugh, cry, pee, poop, sleep and express ourselves with no thought or concern about whether anybody approves or disapproves. These are our natural qualities in a state of nature.

As an adult, when we feel completely relaxed and safe, surrounded by people whom we like and trust, our natural tendency is to revert to being completely open and unafraid, spontaneous and expressive. This is the ideal condition of the completely happy, fully functioning adult.

Starting early in childhood, as the result of the things your parents do and say, you begin to learn the two basic negative habit patterns that then become the most destructive influences in your life as an adult.

The first negative habit pattern that you learn is called the inhibitive negative habit pattern. This is what soon becomes the fear of failure, risk and loss. As a child your natural urge is to explore your environment. You eagerly reach out to touch, taste, feel and experiment with everything around you. But often your parents react and even over react to this behavior by discouraging you as much as possible.

They say, No! Get away from that! Dont touch that! Leave that alone! Many parents reinforce their words and threats with spankings and punishment.

Children need love like roses need rain. Love is as important to the developing child as is food. Any interruption of the flow of unconditional love to the child causes the child to feel nervous and frightened. Psychologists say that virtually all adult problems are rooted in the phenomena of love withheld in early childhood.

When your parents become angry with you as the result of your natural desire and drive to explore your world and your environment, you have no way of understanding that this is because of their fear for your safety.

Instead, as a child, you merely react and respond with the idea that, Every time I try or touch or taste something new or different, my mother or father gets angry at me. It must be because I am incapable and incompetent. It must be because I am no good. It must be because I cant do it.

The Core of Your Personality The core part of your self-concept is your self-esteem. This is the feeling or emotional component of your personality, the reactor core of your subconscious mind. Your level of self-esteem determines the vitality and energy of your personality and is the control valve on your performance.

Most psychologists today agree that your level of self-esteem is the most important part of your personality, and largely predicts your success or failure, happiness or unhappiness, in every area of your life. In fact, your self-esteem is so important that you tend to organize your whole life around it. Almost everything you do is either to gain self-esteem, or to protect against the loss of self-esteem.

The rule with regard to your self-esteem is that Everything Counts! Everything that happens to you and around you affects your self-esteem in some way. Everything either increases your selfesteem or lowers it.

Everything that happens to you either supports your self-esteem or threatens it. You are like the proverbial long tailed cat in a room full of rocking chairs. Every word or gesture of other people toward you affects your self-esteem in some way. The preservation and development of your self-esteem thus becomes the key to high performance, happiness and great success.

Turbo-charge Your Personality The higher your self-esteem, the faster and easier it is for you to develop the Values and Habits that enable you to accomplish extraordinary things with your life. Since everything you do on the outside is controlled by your subconscious mind, by your current programming, as you change your self-concept, you change your reality.

Your self-concept is the seat of the Laws of Belief, Expectation, Attraction and Correspondence. Your self-concept determines what you think about, most of the time. Your self-concept contains the roots of learned helplessness. Your self concept represents your comfort zone.

Your main goal is to take complete control over the evolution and development of your self-concept, and shape your personality and your character into becoming an extraordinary person who can accomplish remarkable things.

Take time to become absolutely clear about the virtues, values, qualities and attributes that you most admire, and which you most aspire to make a part of your personality. Prior to every event of importance, create a clear mental picture of yourself performing at your very best, consistent with the highest values and qualities that you have, or desire to have.

Especially, continually repeat the magic words I like myself! over and over again, until they are accepted by your subconscious mind and become a permanent part of your personality. The more you like and respect yourself, and consider yourself to be a valuable and important person, the faster you will develop every other habit, quality and attribute that you need to fulfill your full potential.

Our Values Shapes Our Personality

Our Values Shapes Our Personality The values we choose to live by, and the way we define those values, shape and influence our personality and our achievements as much or more than any other single factor. When we take the time to think through and develop absolute clarity about the key values and qualities that we admire the most, and wish the most to incorporate into ourselves, we begin to shape and direct our whole personality and determine the results we achieve in the future.

As we think about our values, and reflect upon how we could incorporate them into our life and behaviors, we become a different person. As a result, we attract different people and opportunities into our life. Our outer world soon begins to mirror our inner world. We start to move more rapidly toward the achievement of our most important goals, and our goals begin to move rapidly toward us.

It all begins with us taking complete control of the formation and development of our personal self-ideal.

Discussion/Reflection and Action Steps 1. What quality do you admire most in other people? How could you develop this quality in yourself? 2. Imagine that you could write your own eulogy; how would you like to be remembered and described by others when you are gone?

YOUR PERSONALITY

2. Your Self-Ideal

Things to Ponder 1. Do You have a vision for your ideal future; if you could wave a magic wand and make your life ideal in every way, what would it look like? 2. What would you do differently, how would you change your life, if you had no fears at all?

Your self-ideal is the ideal image or picture you have of yourself, as if you were already the very best person you could possibly be. Your self-ideal is made up of your wishes, hopes, dreams, goals, and fantasies about your perfect future life, combined with the qualities and virtues that you admire most in yourself and in other people.

Your self-ideal is a composite of the very best person you could imagine yourself being, living the very best life you could possibly live.

High performing, successful, happy people have very clear self-ideals. They have clear ideas of what they like, respect and admire. They have clear ideals about the virtues, values and attributes of the superior men and women that they want to emulate.

The most successful people have an uplifting, inspiring vision of what a truly excellent person looks like and how he or she behaves. Because of the Law of Attraction, you inevitably move in the direction of becoming that which you most admire.

The greater clarity you have with regard to the ideal future life you want to live, and the ideal person you want to be, the faster you will move toward becoming that person, and the more opportunities that will open up for you to make your ideal future vision for yourself a reality.

Develop Positive Role Models In one study conducted some years ago, the researchers found that many men and women who accomplished great things later in life had been avid readers of the biographies and autobiographies of successful people when they were younger. It seems that you have a natural tendency to identify with the hero or heroine in any story that you read, watch or hear about.

When you continually immerse your mind in the stories of men and women who have accomplished wonderful things with their lives, you unconsciously identify with those characters and actually absorb their values, virtues and qualities into your own personality.

Dr. David McClelland of Harvard, in his book The Achieving Society explains how role models have an inordinate effect on shaping the character and personality of the young. One of his conclusions was that the men and women who are the most admired, and held up as models in society during the formative years of the young person, have an inordinate influence on the character and the aspirations of that person when he or she grows to adulthood.

By the same token, people who have positive role models around them when they are growing up are much more likely to become men and women of quality and character as adults than young people who have no role models, or even worse, negative role models, as often occurs today.

With regard to the self-ideal, unhappy, unsuccessful men and women tend to be very fuzzy or unclear about their ideals. If you ask them what they consider to be the most valuable and important qualities in human character and personality, they have either unclear or contradictory answers.

This lack of clarity or certainty about what constitutes an ideal person often causes an individual to go around in circles in life, to associate with negative influences and spent time with people who are equally unclear and unfocused about the person they want to be when they grow up.

Imagine Your Ideal Self When we speak about self-concept, we talked about the role of the self-ideal in shaping and forming personal character. The greater clarity you have about the qualities that you most admire, and desire to incorporate into your personality, the easier it is for you to engage in the behaviors that are consistent with those virtues and values. The more repeatedly you engage in those behaviors, the more you internalize those qualities, until they become a permanent part of you.

The starting point of character development is for you to develop the habit of long-term thinking in your work and in your personal life. There is no area where this is more relevant than for you to project to the end of your life, and to write your own eulogy, to be read at your funeral where your friends and family are gathered.

If you could fulfill your potential, and become the very best person that it is possible for you to become, how would people think about you, talk about you and you to others? What words would they use? What virtues, values and qualities would they ascribe to you? How would you be remembered, and for what reasons?

Acting As If You Were Already That Person As you develop greater clarity about how you want to be remembered in the hearts and minds of other people, you will become more clear about those values and qualities that are most important to you. You can then set those qualities as goals for yourself, and make plans for their accomplishment. From that point forward, you act as if you already had those qualities whenever they are called for.

Acting As If You Were Already That Person If you wish to develop the quality of patience, for example, practice being patient even when you feel pressured or in a hurry. If you wish to develop the quality of compassion, practice putting yourself in the situation of the other person and thinking, There but for the grace of God, go I.

This habit of projecting yourself forward into the distant future, and then looking back to the present for guidance on the steps that you should be taking each day can have a profound impact on your life. Many years ago, the brother of Alfred Nobel died in Stockholm.

But the newspapers got the name wrong and instead concluded that it was Alfred Nobel himself who had died. They then wrote his obituary, which he read the next day. In his obituary, the primary accomplishment for which he was remembered was for the invention of gunpowder, which had been responsible for the death of countless human beings in wars and conflicts around the world.

Change Your Destiny

This obituary had such a shocking effect on Nobel that he immediately began rearranging his entire life to change his legacy and to assure that his obituary, when it was written, would be completely different. To this end, he established the Nobel Prizes, based on his great fortune, which are today the highest awards that can be attained in the worlds of literature, medicine, science, economics, peace and chemistry. By thinking clearly about the legacy he wanted to leave, he transformed both his present actions, and his ultimate memory. He rewrote his own obituary.

To become a person of great quality and value, you should develop the habit of reading about and studying about other men and women who have started with little or nothing and who have gone on to accomplish wonderful things with their lives.

It seems that many men and women who achieve greatness as adults spend many hours as children reading the biographies and autobiographies of successful people. Because young people are so susceptible to the suggestive influences of others, as they read, they began to envision and imagine themselves having the same qualities when they grew up as the people that they were reading about. And that is exactly what happened in many cases.

Comparing Your Behavior With Your Ideal

Your self-esteem is affected by many factors. One of the most important is the distance between your self-image, the way you see yourself in the moment, and your self-ideal, the way you would ideally like to be sometime in the future.

Whenever you feel that your current performance and behavior is consistent with the best person that you can possibly be, your self-esteem goes up. You feel happier and more exhilarated. You have more energy and enthusiasm. You are more positive and personable with others.

On the other hand, whenever your current performance or behavior seems to be inconsistent or distant from the person that you would most like to be, your self-esteem goes down. You feel anxious and unhappy. You feel self conscious and embarrassed. You feel frustrated and angry.

The good news is that, the greater clarity you have with regard to your self-ideal, the person you would most like to be, the easier it is for you to tailor your performance and behavior so that it is consistent with being the kind of person you most admire.

And every time you do or say anything that you feel is more consistent with the best person you can possibly be, your self-esteem goes up. You feel happier and more confident. You feel more positive and powerful. You feel capable of doing more and better things in that area, and in other areas of your life.

Discussion/Reflection Steps

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Action

1. Do You have a vision for your ideal future; if you could wave a magic wand and make your life ideal in every way, what would it look like? 2. What would you do differently, how would you change your life, if you had no fears at all?

YOUR PERSONALITY

3. The Positive You

Things To Ponder: 1. What do You think you do best? Do you take pride in it? 2. How do you react on adverse circumstances? 3. Are there instances that you compare yourself with others? Is It healthy to compare? 4. Do you allow others to give feedbacks? How do you view criticism from others?

HAVING POSITIVE PERSPECTIVE.

Example: When Goliath came up against the Israelites, the soldiers all thought, Hes so big we can never kill him. David looked at the same giant and thought, Hes so big I cant miss.

Example: When you go to a shopping mall or any public place that contains a lot of cars and people, do you start at the farthest point of the parking lot and work your way toward the building, or drive to the front, assuming someone will be pulling out so you can pull in?

The individual whose attitude causes him to approach life from an entirely positive perspective is not always understood. He is what some would call a no-limit person. in other words, he doesnt accept the normal limitations of life like most people. He is unwilling to accept the accepted just because it is accepted.

His response to self-limiting conditions will probably be a Why? instead of an Okay. he has no limitation in his life. His gifts are not so plentiful that he cannot fail. But he is determined to walk to the very edge of his potential or the potential of a project before he accepts a defeat.

He is like the bumblebee. According to a theory of aerodynamics, as demonstrated through the wind tunnel tests, the bumblebee should be unable to fly. Because of the size, weight and shape of his body in relationship to the total wing spread, flying is scientifically impossible. The bumblebee, being ignorant of scientific theory, goes ahead and flies anyway and makes honey every day.

This mindset allows a person to start each day with a positive disposition, like the elevator operator on monday morning. The elevator was full and the man began humming a tune. One passenger seemed particularly irritated by the mans mood and snapped, What are you so happy about? Well, sir, replied the man happily, I aint never lived this day before!

Asked which of his works he would select as his masterpiece, architect Frank Lloyd Wright, at the age of 83, replied, My next one.

The future not only looks bright when the attitude is right, but also the present is much more enjoyable. The positive person understands that the journey is as enjoyable as the destination.

Again that guy in ohio who drove for an interstate trucking company. Knowing the hundreds of miles he logged weekly, was once asked how he kept from getting extremely tired. Its all in your attitude, he replied. Some drivers go to work in the morning but I go for a ride in the country, That kind of positive perspective gives him the edge on life.

Positive Self-Talk Shapes Your Personality

One of the most important habits you can develop is the habit of talking to yourself positively most of the time. And the most positive words that you can use throughout the day, especially prior to any event of importance or significance, are the words I like myself! You cannot say these words to yourself without feeling happier, especially if you repeat them emotionally and emphatically.

Every time you say, I like myself! your selfesteem goes up. As your self-esteem increases, you feel more positive and optimistic. You become eager to set bigger goals and face greater challenges. The more you like yourself, the greater courage and confidence you have. The more you like yourself, the less your fears and doubts get in your way or interfere with your success.

A positive mental attitude is an absolutely indispensable prerequisite for success. The only factors that determine how well a person does or how far he goes are attitudinal. Attitudes come from our expectations about outcome. If we expect things to turn out well, we have positive attitudes.

Winners make a habit of manufacturing their own positive expectations well in advance of the event. If we make a habit of always expecting the best out of everything we do, we have one of the keys to a successful life.

One of the most powerful way to becoming a positive person is to have Positive Role Models.

In one study conducted some years ago, the researchers found that many men and women who accomplished great things later in life had been avid readers of the biographies and autobiographies of successful people when they were younger.

When you continually immerse your mind in the stories of men and women who have accomplished wonderful things with their lives, you unconsciously identify with those characters and actually absorb their values, virtues and qualities into your own personality.

Dr. David McClelland of Harvard, in his book The Achieving Society explains how role models have an inordinate effect on shaping the character and personality of the young. One of his conclusions was that the men and women who are the most admired, and held up as models in society during the formative years of the young person, have an inordinate influence on the character and the aspirations of that person when he or she grows to adulthood.

By the same token, young people who have positive role models around them when they are growing up are much more likely to become men and women of quality and character as adults than young people who have no role models, or even worse, negative role models, as often occurs today.

Hints for having a positive outlook

Positive Visualization. See yourself as the very best in your field. Remember, all improvement in your life begins with an improvement in your mental pictures. Visualize yourself, see yourself as the best continually. You are the best. Isn't that right? So therefore, see yourself as the best.

Positive Self-Talk. Talk to yourself positively all the time. Control your inner dialogue. And what do you say to yourself? Say, "I'm the best." Say it. Say I'm the best. I like myself. I can do it. I love my work. Yes, that's how you talk to yourself. And the more you say it to yourself...someone may say, "Well, what if you say those things to yourself and you don't believe them. Isn't that lying to yourself?" No, that's not lying to yourself. It's telling the truth in advance.

Talk to yourself the way you want to be, not the way you just happen to be at this moment. Remember, you may have gotten where you are today largely by accident. But where you're going in the future is purely by design.

Positive Action. Get going. Move fast. Develop a sense of urgency. A sense of urgency is the one thing that you can develop that will separate you from everyone else in your field. Develop a bias for action. When you get a good idea, do it now.

And the faster you move, the better you get. And the better you get, the more you like yourself. And the more you like yourself, the higher your self-esteem is. And the higher your self-esteem is, the greater your selfdiscipline. And the more you persist, then you ultimately become unstoppable.

Only 2% of people in our society have a bias for action. And if you're already in the top 10%, you can move yourself in the top 2% by resolving that whenever you have an idea or something, do it now.

Discussion/Reflection and Action Steps 1. What do You think you do best? Do you take pride in it? 2. How do you react on adverse circumstances? 3. What area in your life or skills you want to improve to boost your confidence? 4. Do you allow others to give feedbacks? How do you view criticism from others?

YOUR PERSONALITY

4.Your Self-Esteem

Things To Ponder 1. Do You Like Yourself? 2. Do You accept yourself unconditionally? 3. How do you feel about Yourself? 4. How does your self esteem contribute to your performance?

The Best Definition of Self-Esteem The very best definition of self-esteem is, How much you like yourself. What we have found is that, the more you like yourself, the better you do. And the better you do, the more you like yourself. Each time you perform well in any area, your self-esteem goes up. You like yourself more, and you perform even better in that area, and in other areas as well.

The most powerful words you can use to take control of your personality, and to build your self-esteem, are the words, I like myself! The more you repeat the words, I like myself! to yourself, the happier and more confident you feel, and the better and more effectively you perform in whatever you are doing..

Perhaps the most powerful words in your vocabulary are the words that you say to yourself and believe. Fully 95% of your emotions are determined by the words that are running through your mind at any given time. And your mind is very much like a vacuum. It does not remain empty for very long. If you do not deliberately fill your mind with positive, constructive words, it will fill up by itself with your fears, worries and concerns.

To put it another way, if you do not deliberately plant flowers in the garden of your mind, weeds will grow automatically, with no encouragement or support.

Brian Tracy, Author of Many books and One of the most admired motivational speaker in America outlines some ways of Cultivating Our Self-Esteem

He says that your self-esteem is probably the most important part of your personality. It precedes and predicts your performance in almost everything you do. It is the energy source or the reactor core of your personality, and how much self-esteem you have determines your levels of vitality, enthusiasm and personal magnetism. People with high self-esteem are more positive, more likable and more effective in every part of their lives.

Everything that you do or say or think will affect your self-esteem. Your job, therefore, is to keep your self-esteem high and positive on a continuing basis.

Probably the best definition of self-esteem he says is this: the level to which you respect and value yourself as an important, worthwhile person. People with high selfesteem feel terrific about themselves and their lives. When you feel really good about yourself, you tend to be the very best person you can possibly be.

Your level of self-esteem is really your level of mental fitness. Its a measure of how healthy, hardy, and resilient you are in dealing with the inevitable ups and downs of daily life. Your self-esteem determines how much peace of mind and inner contentment you experience.

It is also closely linked to your health and levels of energy. People with high selfesteem are seldom sick and seem to have an inexhaustible flow of energy and enthusiasm that progressively moves them toward their goals.

How much you like and respect yourself also determines the quality of your relationships with people. The more you like and enjoy yourself, the more you will like and enjoy others, and the more they will like you. In fact, when your self-esteem is hurt in any way, the very first thing that is affected is the way you get along with people.

To perform at your best and to feel terrific about yourself, you should be in a perpetual state of self-esteem building and maintenance. Just as you take responsibility for your level of physical fitness, you need to take complete responsibility for the content and quality of your mind.

A simple formula have been developed that contains all the critical elements of selfesteem building, and you can use it on a regular basis to assure maximum performance. This formula is comprised of six basic elements. They are: goals, standards, success experiences, comparison with others, recognition, and rewards. Lets take them one at a time.

1. How much you like and respect yourself is directly affected by your goals. The very act of setting big, challenging goals for yourself and making written plans of action to achieve them actually raises your self-esteem, which causes you to feel much better about yourself.

Self-esteem is a condition you experience when you are moving step-by-step toward the accomplishment of something that is important to you. For that reason, its really important to have clear goals for each part of your life and to continually work toward achieving those goals. Each progressive step causes your self-esteem to go up and makes you feel more positive and effective in everything else you do.

2. The second element in self-esteem building is having clear standards and values to which you are committed. Men and women with high self-esteem are very clear about what they believe in. The higher your values and ideals are, and the more committed you are to living your life consistent with those values and ideals, the more you will like and respect yourself, and the higher your self-esteem will be.

Lasting self-esteem comes only when your goals and your values are congruentthat is, when they fit into each other like a hand into a glove. Much of the stress that people experience comes from believing one thing and trying to do another. But when your goals and values are in harmony with each other, you feel a wonderful surge of energy and well-being, and thats when you start to make real progress.

Many people he says , that they are unhappy with their job because they cant seem to achieve success no matter how hard they try. Mr. Tracy always ask them if they are doing what they really care about and believe in. In many cases, people realize that they are not happy with their job because it is the wrong kind of work for them.

Once they change jobs and start doing something that they really enjoy, something that is more consistent with their innermost convictions, they start to make real progress and get a lot of satisfaction out of their work. .

3. The third element in selfesteem building involves having success experiences.

Once you have set your goals and standards, it is important that you make them measurable so that you can keep score of your small and large successes along the way. The very act of setting up a goal, breaking it down into smaller parts, and then completing those parts makes you feel like a winner and causes your selfesteem to go up..

But remember that you cant hit a target you cant see. You cant feel like a winner unless you clearly lay out the standards by which you are going to measure your success and then achieve those standards.

Lets say that you set a goal to sell a certain amount or earn a certain amount of income in a given year. If you break that down into monthly and weekly goals, and then you achieve the first of those goals, you will feel great about yourself. Each time you reach another milestone, your self-esteem and ability to perform will increase, and you will feel encouraged and enthusiastic about the next challenge.

4. The fourth element of selfesteem is comparison with others

Leon Festinger of Harvard University concluded that in determining how well we are doing, we do not compare ourselves with abstract standards, but, rather, we compare ourselves with people we know. To feel like a winner, you must know for sure that you are doing as well as or better than someone else..

The more you know about how well the others in your field are doing, and the more favorably you compare with them, the more you will feel like a winner, and the higher your self-esteem will be.

Successful people continually compare themselves with other successful people. They think about them and read about them and study their performances, and then they work to surpass them one step at a time..

Eventually, successful people reach the point where they compete only with themselves and with their past accomplishments. But this comes after they have moved to the top and left many of their competitors behind.

5. The next element for selfesteem is recognition of your accomplishments by people whom you respect.

To feel really great about yourself, you need the recognition of people you look up to and admire, such as your boss, your coworkers, your spouse and people in your social circle.

Whenever you are recognized and praised for any accomplishment by someone whose opinion you hold in high regard, your selfesteem goes up, along with your eagerness and enthusiasm to do even better on the job.

6. The final element of selfesteem involves rewards that are consistent with your accomplishments.
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You may work in a field where you receive financial bonuses, status symbolslarger offices, bigger carsor even plaques and trophies for superior achievement. All of those symbols can have an incredible impact on raising your self-esteem and causing you to feel terrific about yourself. .

Whether or not your current environment provides the six elements of self-esteem buildinggoals, standards, success experiences, comparison with others, recognition, and rewardsyou need to establish your own structure and take full responsibility for building yourself up on a regular basis.

National Council for Self-Esteem People with high self-esteem tend to significantly to be less involved in negative behavior such as drug and alcohol abuse, crime, child abuse and educational failure.

Thats how imperative it is in building our personality, our self-esteem and having a clear self ideal with a positive outlook in life to be a happy and successful person. Who do you think are You (self-image-now) and what do we/you want to have, do and become (self-ideal-future) ? Lets rewrite our destiny Writeshop in 30 minutes..