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If we were supposed to talk more than listen, we would have been given two
God gave us, one mouth to do two jobs: eat and speak, but he also gave us two ears to do just ONE job : to LISTEN
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What is listening?
Listening is the accurate perception of what is being communicated. it involves the following four major operations, i.e.: (1) Hearing (2) Understanding (3) Retaining (4) Recalling
Listening
Hearing as well as interpreting including other signal (Physical as well mental process) Active, learned process A skill
Why listen?
Seek first to understand, then to be understood. Stephen Covey
The need to listen to the other person before we can expect them to listen to us.
Grandstanding
Talking all the time or listening only for the next pause
Getting over-stimulated
Listening only for facts Tolerating or creating distraction Letting emotional words block message Turn off mind if delivery is poor Tunes out dry subjects (personal interest areas) Resistance to difficult content
Types of Listening
Active / Attentive
Selective
Pretending
Ignoring
Step 1 - Listen
To feelings as well as words
Words Emotions Implications
Focus on Speaker
Dont plan, speak, or get distracted
Look at Speaker
Use verbal & non-verbal encouragers
Open-ended
A question that helps speaker explore feelings (rather than forcing a yes no'' or other certain answer)
Tell me more? How did you feel? Then what happened?
Step 4 - Agree
Get Speakers consent to your reframing Speaker has been heard and Knows it!
Dont overtalk
Active Listening
Paraphrase
Ask questions
Be alert for what is left unsaid Don't talk too much Listen with empathy See the situation from speakers point of view-Try to put yourself in speakers shoes (Empathize) Do not prepare what you are going to say in response while the other person is speaking
The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn't being said. ~ Peter F. Drucker