Professional Documents
Culture Documents
By Stephanie Demiris, MA
Member Relations & Services Specialist, AACN
Objectives:
• Gain a mutual understanding of the definition of conflict
resolution.
• Avoiding them
• Facing them and handling them poorly
• Facing them and handling them well
Two Responses to Crucial
Conversations:
Fight or Flight
or
Silence to Violence
If we go to silence:
• Blame the group, hoping the message will hit the right target
• Looks of disgust
DIALOGUE
What’s your style under stress?
• Seeking understanding
• Reflect – what story are you telling yourself about the situation?
Is it either/or thinking (look for the “and”)?
• recognize how you are positioned (your personal bias’; your
beliefs, attitudes, values, etc.).
• Keep in mind . . . .
• Storytelling is automatic and happens quickly
• A set of facts can be used to tell a number of stories
• Once a story is told, it controls us
Understand Impact and Intentions:
We
interpret
the impact
on us
We judge
and
Event interpret
other’s
intent
We
Interpret
what we
see/hear
Our values
and
identities
Identify Needs and Common
Interests:
• If others leave something out, then agree where you can and build
from there
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