LEARNING TO SAY NO !

TO ABUSE

Types of Child Abuse

1. Physical Abuse/Maltreatment any act which results in non-accidental physical injury and/or unreasonable infliction of physical injury to a child. Example: < severe beatings slap with full hands, hitting or kicking, beating with objects like cane, stick, belt, clothes hanger, ruler, etc. < inflicting burns, scalding

< suffocating, drowning < stabbing with knife, ice pick or tines of a fork < tying/hanging <shaking/grabbing, punching, pinching 2. Psychological Abuse infliction of unreasonable punishment other than physical through excessive verbal assault or non-verbal harassment.

>The behavior or attitude of any person that negligently or purposely endangers or impairs the behavioral, intellectual, emotional or physical functioning or a child Cursing, belittling, swearing Threat to kill (by gesture) Ignoring, calling names, using degrading words

3. Sexual Abuse the involvement of a child in a sexual activity with an adult or any person older or bigger, in which the child is used as a sexual object for gratification of the older persons needs or desires. + rape/attempted rape + incest + acts of lasciviousness

4. Sexual Exploitation act involving children whether male or female, who for money, profit or any other consideration or due to coercion or influence by an adult, syndicate or group, to indulge in sexual intercourse or lascivious conduct. = Prostitution/Commercial Sexual Exploitation = Pedophilia = Pornography

5. Child Labor Exploitation Example: x minors employed in hazardous occupations like divers, charcoal, burners, stone splitter, operators of farm machines and equipment, dispatchers work in slaughtering or killing of hogs, large cattle construction, fire-fighters, guards, bartenders, janitors in bawdy houses, hostesses, receptionists, GROs, masseuses, taxi dancers , stevedoring/dock work, lifting, carrying, handling and moving heavy loads.

x minors employed as artists, actors, actresses, entertainers, newscasters, etc and are made to work without permit, works beyond 7 hrs daily; child is not enrolled in school, child does not have recreational activities, etc. 6. Child Trafficking ^ when child travels alone to a foreign country w/o valid reason ^ recruitment of children for illegal employment

7. Child Neglect the act of deliberately depriving the basic needs of the child (non-provision of food, clothing, accommodation, medical attention, proper education) and when they are forced to assume duties that are not appropriate to their age or physique

@ MGA PATAKARAN SA PAGHAWAK ( Rules of Touching ) Tingnan ang Poster @ Nakakalitong Paghawak 1. Hindi maintindihan ang pakay ng humahawak 2. Hindi siya sanay sa ganoong uri ng paghawak 3. Nagbibigay ng hindi maunawaang mensahe ang humawak at ang hinahawakan

KUWENTO NI SHERRI

Si Sherrie ay labing-apat na taon. Ang kanyang ama ay nakikipag-sexs sa kaniya Linggo-linggo dalawang taon na ngayon. Noong unang-unang pagkakataon ay ayaw Niya ngunit hindi niya alam kung papaano tatanggi sa ama. Sinasabi lang nito na nakikiipag_sexs siya kay Sherri sapagkat mahal na mahal niya si Sherri higit kaninuman sa mundo.

Sa palagay ni Sherri hindi tama na makipag-sexs ang tatay niya sa kaniya pero hindi naman niya ito pinagsasabihan na tumigil. Hindi niya alam kung paano ang gagawing pagsabi. Kinasanayan na niya ang sitwasyon, kayat belewala na sa kanya ang pakikipag-sexs sa ama. Natatakot siya na hindi siya mahalin nang husto ng kanyang tatay kung hindi na siya makikipag sexs dito. Natitiyak din ni Sherrie na alam ng Nanay niya ang nangyayari ngunit hindi

nila ito napag-uusapan. Minsan nang ang tatay niya ay nasa loob ng kwarto ni Sherri at ang pinto ay nakasara, kumatok ang nanay niya ngunit umalis lang ng walang sumagot. At madalas pang pinapaalalahanan ng nanay niya na kailangang tumulong si Sherri na pagandahin palagi ang pakiramdam ng tatay niya upang di ito masyadong mag-lalasing.

Isang araw may inimbitahang tagapagsalita sa klase ni Sherri at tinalakay nito ang tungkol sa pagtalik ng anak at ama. Hindi napigilan ni Sherri ang umiyak. Pagkatapos ng klase, nilapitan siya ng kanyang guro at tinanong kung may problema ba siya sa bahay. Sinabi ni Sherrie na maroon nga siyang problema ngunit hindi niya ito pwedeng sabihin. Hindi na ito ulit binaggit ng guro.

Nang mag 15 taon si Sherri, bumaling ang tatay niya kay Sandy, ang kapatid niyang 11 taong gulang at hindi na nito muling ginalaw si Sherri. Natuwa si Sherrie dahil hindi na nakikipag sexs ang tatay niya sa kaniya. Iniisip na lang ni Sherrie na sanay hindi magsalita si Sandy sapagkat baka mag iinom na naman ang tatay niya o bumalik sa pakipag-sexs na naman sa kaniya.

Why Children Dont Tell Us They have Been Abused

1. They are afraid that they wont be believed. 2. They are afraid of getting into trouble themselves. They feel it is their fault and/or they caused the abuse to occur. 3. They might try to protect offender, may love the offender, but dont like the touch.

4. They might fear threats made by the offender (ex. Break up of the family, dad might have to go to jail, fear of rejection by offender and/or family, fear of retaliation? 5. Children may not know how to tell. They may not know the sexual activity is wrong or even that it is something anyone would want to know about. 6. Some children fear peer reaction being singled out, laughed at or losing popularity. 7. Some children dont know whom to tell.

8. It was sexual abuse involving on adult and child of the same sex, they might fear being labeled as a homosexual. 9. Some older children are embarrassed to discuss sexual issues and intimate details especially with people at authority (ex. Teachers, police) 10. Children may not feel there was an appropriate time or opportunity to tell. 11.They dont want to be labeled a tattletale. 12. They have been told that nice girls/boys use those words that refer to body parts or sexual behavior.

What to do to Protect self to develop Protective Behaviors, if one feels that s/he is not safe : 1. Resist 2. Say NO ! 3. Threaten to tell another adult 4. Physically fight and scream 5. Go to authorities to report 6. Create a network at least 5 persons who are accessible, willing to listen, to believe and willing to take action

aNO aNg IYonG gAGawiN?

The potential offender will choose a victim a child or an adult whose Body Languages, Manner, Voice, Eye Contact and General Demeanour suggest that s/he is not assertive, not strong or not capable of defending her/him self or resisting the offender or least likely to disclose he abuse to others.

The idea of an individuals demeanors is sometimes confused to the idea of personality, creating the mistaken belief that shy, introverted people are more likely to be victimized. This is not necessarily the case, for it is not an individuals personality which creates the impression of vulnerability (or otherwise).

Such impression are created by body language, eye contact, verbal assertiveness, physical confidence and a range of other behaviours. Children and adults can indirectly resist a potential offender by creating for themselves an aura of invulnerability.

THaNK YoU ! !