What To Do When You Dont Know What To Do With Anger and Joy

2003 Summer Youth Series Schertz church of Christ

5/7/2012

Anger and Joy

Anger and joy are emotional

responses to what happens around us. The emotions of anger and joy are not wrong, but are very powerful. (Eph 4:26 NKJV) Be angry, and do not sin:
5/7/2012 2

Anger and Joy

Anger and joy are the energythe

thrustthat moves us through life.

We had better be sure that they are

moving us in the right direction.

5/7/2012

Anger and Joy

So, what do you do when you dont

know what to do with anger and joy?

Understand

those powerful

emotions.
Think
Think

about why you are angry.

about what gives you true joy.

5/7/2012

What to DO with anger?

So What do you do when you dont know what to do with anger?

5/7/2012

What to DO with anger?

Understand what makes you angry.

<Expect $20 bonus> <Receive $20>

<Receive $1>

5/7/2012

What to DO with anger?

Understand what makes you angry.

<Expect B> <Receive B>

<Receive D>

5/7/2012

What to DO with anger?

Understand what makes you angry.

<Our expectation>

<Less = ANGER>

5/7/2012

What to DO with anger?

What should you do when

something happens that

Disappoints Frustrates

you

you

Makes

you angry

5/7/2012

What to DO with anger?

Take some time before you respond.
Pause You

a few seconds (count to ten).

can control yourself.

(Prov 12:16 NKJV) A fool's wrath is known at once, (Prov 29:11 NKJV) A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back.
5/7/2012 10

What to DO with anger?

You may choose not to respond.
We

do not need to respond to everything that happens. We may be wise to just pass. (Prov 19:11 NKJV) The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger, And his glory is to overlook a transgression.
5/7/2012 11

What to DO with anger?

Be careful what you say or do
Sometimes

we do need to respond. We must be careful not to say or do something that would hurt others or our own souls. (Prov 15:1 NKJV) A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger. (Prov 21:23 NKJV) Whoever guards his mouth and tongue Keeps his soul from troubles.
5/7/2012 12

What to DO with anger?

Be honest about why you are angry.
You

may be letting your anger at one person be showing toward another.

You

may be holding on to past anger.

(Mat 6:34 NKJV) Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.
5/7/2012 13

What to DO with anger?

Be honest about why you are angry.
You

may have an unreasonable expectation of someone else.

You

may have an unreasonable expectation of yourself.

5/7/2012

14

What to DO with anger?

Have you set your

expectations so high that:

EVERYONE

<Your expectation>

disappoints you?
YOU

disappoint youself?

<Less = ANGER>

5/7/2012

15

What to DO with anger?

BEFORE you respond in anger:
Think

carefully about why you are angry. Who are you letting set the standard for what makes you angry?
You may be having the wrong

emotionbased on the wrong standard.

5/7/2012 16

What to DO with joy?

Now What do you do when you dont know what to do with joy?

5/7/2012

17

What to DO with joy?

Firstbe sure you are looking for joy

in the right place!

Joy
Joy

is not found in what is around you.

is found in what is inside you.

5/7/2012

18

What to DO with joy?

Most people look for joy in what is

around them.
That Jay

is not the right place.

Gould (millionaire): I suppose I am the most miserable man on earth.

(Eccl 5:10 NKJV) He who loves silver will not be satisfied with silver; Nor he who loves abundance, with increase.
5/7/2012 19

What to DO with joy?

Joy is based on what is inside you.
It

is based on what you can do. George Bernard Shaw: This is the true joy in life: being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one. (Illustrations Unlimited, p. 284)

(Gal 6:4 NKJV) But let each one examine his own work, and then he will have rejoicing in himself alone,
5/7/2012 20

What to DO with joy?

A greater purpose means greater joy.
Our
It

purpose is given by the Creator.

is serving God and saving souls.

(Eccl 12:13 KJV) Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man. (Prov 11:30 KJV) and he that winneth souls is wise.
5/7/2012 21

What to DO with joy?

Greater service means greater joy.
We

have reason to give the best service. The more we serve, the more we enjoy serving.

(2 Cor 12:15 NKJV) And I will very gladly spend and be spent for your souls; (Phil 2:17 ASV) if I am offered upon the sacrifice and service of your faith, I joy, and rejoice with you all:
5/7/2012 22

What to DO with joy?

That is why there is so much in the

Bible about joy and rejoicing. (3 John 1:4 NKJV) I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth. (Acts 15:3 NKJV) [Conversions] caused great joy to all the brethren. (1 Th 2:20 NKJV) For you are our joy. (Phil 4:4 NKJV) Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I will say, rejoice!
5/7/2012 23

What to DO with joy?

Joseph Addison: The grand

essentials to happiness in this life are:

something

to do, someone to love and something to hope for.

(Illustrations Unlimited, p. 278)

5/7/2012

24

What to DO with joy?

Christians have the most important:
THINGS ONE

TO DO: serving God; saving souls

TO LOVE: God and His Son

THING

TO HOPE FOR: eternity in heaven

Faithful Christians have the greatest joy!

5/7/2012 25

CONCLUSION
So, what do you do when you dont

know what to do with anger and joy?

Understand

those powerful emotions. Think about what makes you angrythose who make you angry control you!!! Think about what gives you joyis it true joy?
5/7/2012 26